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the guy i am somewhat dating lyed
this guy i have been hanging out with said that he wanted us to be friends nothing more, but maybe in time we could be bf and gf. I was fine with that. i heard later (from a girl that i trust) that he had a girlfriend. I asked him and he denied it. i dont care that he has a gf...its just we have made out and done stuff together...now i feel like a slut. What should i do with this guy? forget about him or still be his "friend."
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First off. Your not a slut. A slut is someone who sleeps around with guys that they dont even know without a care in the world. You do care about it because its effecting you. Dont let yourself get down about it. Also 2nd hand information isnt the best, because most of it could be mistrued into something that totally isnt true. Id wait and not do anything with him if its making you feel bad. Just be his friend and stop doing anything that you dont feel comfortable doing. Be his friend and just keep it that way for a while until you feel comfortable and know for sure whats going on with him.
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well i would still be his friend because you have no proof that he has a girlfriend.so if you end the friendship then you could just be ending it for no reason at all which i dont think would be a good thing.hope i helped XoXo
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A true friend wouldn't use you for sex when he had a girlfriend, especially after saying there might be a chance of a relationship in time. I'm sorry to say but I think this guy is playing you. Don't feel like a slut because it's not your fault. You have no way of knowing that he was like this.
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screw him if he has a girlfriend now...man-skank. he was using you. drop him like a new born calf.
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Ask your friend who told you that he had a girlfriend how she knows that he does and ask her to point his girlfriend out. Then ask the girl that is supposibly his gf if they are going out. If they aren't then.....continue being his friend. If they are then you could still be the guy's friend (unless your mad enough at him for lieing). Just don't do "sexual" things with him anymore. And don't feel like a slut....you didn't know. <3Beth
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Tell him that you know he has a girlfriend and that you don't feel comfortable doing stuff with him. Also, that you don't think it was right that he didn't tell you.
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Apologizing for the fact that you may percieve harshness in this answer:
Do you mean friend with benefits? Because I've never heard of "friends and nothing more" that make out.
He has a girlfriend. You made out with him. But the good thing is, that you didn't know! I don't think you should've done anything with him since you're not technically dating... but, you didn't know. That means that he is the one at fault, so don't feel like a slut just because he decided to be one.
A tip for the future: Don't do something with a guy that says he doesn't want to be your boyfriend right NOW, but will probably want to be later. The thing is, later might not come.
You can still be his "friend and nothing more" if you mean it LITERALLY. Seriously, promise me if you become his friend, you will do nothing with him! NOTHING!
(You don't seriously have to promise me. That's just me trying to trick you into leaving feedback. Mwahahahhahahha...)
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i would still be his friend just dont try to flirt i kno its hard i've been through that before so ur just gonna hav to acted friendly and if he makes the first move to try to kiss or anything like that just say no and leave or say we're just friends ok and you hav a girlfriend so thax all we're gonna be right now...hope i helped if u wanna talk my sn is shearox42
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I think you should forget him and get on with your own life. If a guy can't even be straight up with you about having a girlfriend, then he's not worth the effort. You shouldn't feel like a slut for doing stuff with this guy, especaily if you didn't know he had a girlfriend. I seriously doubt you would have done those things if you had known about his significant other at the time.
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well whatever you do DONT feel like a slut, i've been in your shoes! i would ask around... ask more than just your friends, and if other people say he has a girlfriend i would say they're right. and of course you could still be his friend, but be sure to talk to him... let him know how you feel! and let him know you will not be lied to... make sure your the boss! lol it always scares guys, and they will not DARE lie to you again!
xoxo-hope i was useful
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Hey, well i give all my advice from my knowing on what God would say to me. So first of all, you really shouldnt do anything with somebody that your NOT even dating, and im not saying YOU have to wait until your married but its best. Because when you get married you know for a fact that that guy will love you for the rest of your life, and he wont just use you to get some. He will want your entire life to be perfect and see sex is something valuable in a marriage because most of us have kissed a guy or have held hands,.. and some have just slept with them but no sex. So whats left for marriage? Well sex should be whats left and unconditional love. And guys that are immature only want ONE thing from you. And if they dont want that they only want to use you for show. And dont get me wrong NOT all guys are like that but most "immature" guys are like this. And so what i have done is for now until they "grow up" is say im not gonna date for a while. And yes its hard but "all things are possible through Christ Jesus"
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you shouldnt feel like a slut, you had no idea he had a girlfriend. also he could be telling the truth...your friend couldve been mistake or told wrong or something, so id stay friends with him, but try not to do "stuff" with him until you knw for sure good luck
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You shouldn't feel like a slut because you had no idea. i think you should tell him how horrible what he did to you was. i don't think that you should continue being his friend because he is using you and obviously doesn't care about you.
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No don't feel like a slut. You didn't make him do anything, and he didn't make you do anything. You both made out and stuff because you both liked each other. Don't leave him and still be his friend, because he might need a friend to talk to if he has a girlfriend problems or if they break up. Be his friend, and continue to talk to him. Good luck.
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Well, if you feel used, I could totally see that and understand why. Guys can be really decietful with you just to get what they want from you. So you have to learn to be careful. From his prespective, he was probably trying to get the most out of you to his benefit without anyone getting hurt. I think it was a pretty slimy thing to do to you. Don't feel like a slut, you didn't know any better (this time). Just keep an eye out of these kinds of things in the future and never do anything you aren't 150% ready and willing to do. As far as your relationship with the guy, that choice is yours. But, if I were in your shoes, I would kind of be a lot more distant and cold to the guy to show him that you know what he was up to. I would also NOT do anything else physical with him. He obviously doesn't want a committed relationship with you, and he can't stay loyal to his current girlfriend so you really don't want or need a guy like that. Instead, be with a guy that will like you call the shots and that won't use you. Just take this all as a big learning lesson. You can still be friendly to the guy (if that's what you feel like you should do) but don't let it escalate more than that. :)
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try to be friends with him. having a jabillion friends never hurt any1, but i wouldnt try getting to close because of the rumor that he did have a gf and denied it. if hes not being honest with you, dont do anything more.
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You can still be his friend but knock off the making out part of the relationship. Never give a guy benefits until you have been in a committed relationship with him for awhile. It just leads to those bad feelings you've been having...and that's not good. If he has a girlfriend he is a cheater so maybe not the best boyfriend material anyway. :)
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