Hey, well im not really gonna use this to talk about me because this advice thing is only for advice and not to get to know me. The only thing you should know is my name is Lindsey. I want to be a phycologist when i get older and this is a great way for me to start practicing. I use Christianity in all the ways possible when i answer my questions. If you not a christian please become one because all your issues will be alot better because you have God on your side. But yeah.. I love helping people and giving advice and i have been through just about everything thats on here, how weird.. drama goes a long ways. And a bunch of yall i bet you think that nobody knows how you feel. Been there done that. But im here to help so if you feel the need to ask me a question then do so cause this is what im here for. I have a bible verse that i think yall should read and think about. MUCHO LOVE
--> "The godly give good advice to their friends, the wicked lead them astray."
Member Since: August 10, 2005
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I like this guy he's 19, I'm 16 but we both like each other a lot. you see when my parents got married his father had married them. And i didnt no that the pastor had a son. so since the wedding our family and theirs has been spending time together, i just got out of a bad relationship and was moving on. so when i met him after so many times we spend every night together and have grown close. Although dispite the age difference we both are falling for each other, and hes a Christian "good boy" so he'll keep me out of trouble, so i wanna be with him, but im scared about what people will say if they find out. I mean what do you think should we make "it" official or will it create problems? Thanks in advance! (link)
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haha well im 13 and i like this 17 year old. Same situation, hes dads not a preacher though. We're both really strong christians. But in the bible it says honor thy father and mother and i know its frustraiting but just listen to them right now you dont got but 3 more years. Think about me i got 6 lol. But look if your parents dont mind then think about what God would want for you. Actually do that first. Would God want you with him? If you think so thats when you ask your parents about it. Dont get mad when they give you their opinion just respect them. And maybe if they see that your maturer enough then they'll reconsider. If not just be the best christian you can be and God will provide for you.
JESUS LOVES YOU!
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Christians...
- I just wanted to know that if you read the bible can you really find all the answers to your questions. I've heard that you can...and I just wanted to know if it was worth your time...
- And idk, I want to become a better person. Always have wanted too. And I have a bf and we just started dating and like the more I think about it, its not the kind of relationship I want right now b/c something is going to happen b/c theres that attraction there...and we're young and stupid, what do I do? (link)
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Yes its true! But you have to know where to look. And if your not a christian then you need to become one. God loves you no matter what you do but even though thats the case you sitll needa try to do what he wants you to do. And having sex before marriage i can tell you isnt what he wants. If you want i know exactly where that is in the bible.. its Proverbs 7. Its using a woman as an example but just switch it around. I can see you want to be a christian and its hard for me to help you over the computer but you just need to find a good church that you feel comfortable in and learn. And this is how it works going to church and being a good person arent what gets you to heaven. What gets you to heaven is excepting that Jesus Christ died for you! But along with becomming a christian is wanting to do all these things for God. But thats not what makes you a christian. And God doesnt look at the things you do until you except him as your Lord and Savior! Please just pray and let God speak to you..
JESUS LOVES YOU!
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why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians! (link)
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Okay im not tryin to be mean at all im a very strong christian and i wonder the same thing you do. But you cant worry about that all you can do is be as nice as you can and pray for them. Some people arent open people - its just how God made them. And maybe theyre not at that step yet but whatever it is they'll have to take that up with the Lord, not you. So just pray for them and tell God your worries
Your Sister in Christ,
Lindsey
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ok im really sorry if this is really long and i understand if you dont want to read it but i would really appreciate if you would take the time to and give me your opinion/advice. ok i all started when my mom's sister and my dad's brother got married, in doing this they concived a child, and then they got divorced. now for the child's baptisim (he is now eight) the father (my dad's brother) was not invited to this, and he is really upset. and the reasons she dint invite him was because she had invited him to many things and he never showed and she had to lie to her son and just say that something important came up and your dad was not able to make it, instead of saying "your dad blew us off" so she always would leave messages and call him and he purposely would not get a hold of her back (he is now remarried and has 2 other boys)
so she wanted to save the dissapointment and she never bothered to invite him (plus she said it would be eaiser on her not to see him)and i can understand why my uncle would be upset, but now my parents are against each other (there defending each sides) and they are talking about a split, my dad was cusing to my mom and i never heard it so bad before, and im really upset right now and im accually crying right now. my dad was talking about that i would probally want to go with my mom cause i would not want to be with him, and then he started saying how bad of a dad he is and all this stuff. and im a christian and my dad dint know i was right there and i heard him say under his breath "christians my ass" and i got really upset, well i really REALLY do appreciate that you took the time to read this, i will rate really high, thanks again! (link)
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My parents got a divorce back whenever they did, not for the same reason but they got a divorce. They didnt get along and they faught and my dad cheated on my mom. But see what you have to do now is tell your parents how you feel. And defiently say something to your dad about the christians thing. But before you do ANY OF THAT OR ANYTHIGN ELSE -- pray. Ask God to show you what he wants you to do in this situation. Im not sure what you should do. Because i know its hard. You just have got to let God guide you through this and DO NOT DOUBT HIM. Believe that he can do anything. And i know from my parents divorce good came from it. Good always comes from bad. Maybe not right then but just you have to be as positive as possible. I think a good thing to read in the bible is Job. Just read 1 chapter a day. No more. If you cant read one , one day its okay. But Job if you dont know -- is about a man who is pretty much like Jesus. Then a lot of bad things happen to Job and yeah you just gotta read it. Because its helping me now. So ill pray for you ... and Jesus Loves you!
Your Sister in Christ,
Lindsey
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i was just wondering what a christians view was on cousins going out. is it a sin? and no, i'm not going out, or in love with my cousin! (link)
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From what i know theres nothing in the bible about it. Just what you or whoever it is needs to think about is.. is it the best thing for them? Wehter or not its a sin the person needs to ask thereselves "Would God want me doing this?" Hope i helped!
Jesus Loves You!
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Okay, you probably already know this, but my best friend in the whole world is Mormon. She believes she's a Christian, but I know that Mormons are not. I also know a lot of her friends too. I am worried about them. I want to be able to tell them what is wrong with it, but I don't want to be like "I have been your friend for a whole year and I love you and by the way, you are going to hell." Cuz that would really suck. I recently made a comment on someone's site saying that I believed Mormonism to be non-Christian, as did the owner of the site. My friend has seen it, and now she wants to know what I am talking about. I really want to save my friend, but she is a strong mormon with a strong mormon background, and I don't know what to do... I hate thinking that someday I may never see her again if she were to get in a car accident or something.
Sites if you want to know more:
http://www.icubed.com/~rpoe/mormons.htm
http://www.concernedchristians.org/
http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/mormon1.html
http://mormonconspiracy.com/
http://www.mormon.org/
http://lds.org/
http://www.gracevestal.org/truth.htm
All of those sites may not be legit, or even helpful, but I really want to be able to do something about this. It is entirely possible that she doesn't know that she does not believe what other Christians believe. I have read so many books and such and it just kills me to know that she is involved with this and doesnt even know how bad it is.
I am not saying that Latter-day saints are bad, because most of them are really nice....I just know that their interpretation of Jesus is different and I wish there was a nice way to show them what I believe and help them.
Some of the main differences between mormons and christians:
belief that the trinity is 3 separate gods vs. the trinity is 3 persons in one god.
belief in salvation through works vs. salvation in believing in jesus christ
reguarding the book of mormon as more important than the bible vs. reguarding the bible as the only true book from god.
this has been bugging me for the last year and i really want to do something without jepordizing my friendship with her. she is curious now because of the comment on that other person's xanga.
also, if you know who i am talking about, please do not tell her i am going behind her back, because i am afraid she will be mad. i am simply trying to help her and her family and friends because i care so much about her that i never want to be uncertain of what will happen if she were to pass.... and i have a feeling that the person whose xanga i commented on will feel the same way, if not more of you....
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Hello my dear! Im so glad i read this - i know God wanted me to read this in fact because ive gone through this. Just please read my entire thing and take my advice okay because i promise you this will help. Well i have two example but since yours is about your friend ill tell you about my friend. My bestfriend since i was in 5th grade has never been a church going person. Well im a very very strong christian and so i tried to get her into church. To shorten this up she told everybody i was weird and i made her feel uncomfortable so we stopped being friends after soo long. Well see i dont sit here and beat myself up about it because God says for you to do your job. Its kinda like the saying " you can lead a horse to water but cant make them drink it." As long as you've done your part is what matters. And yes it tears me up that she may possibly not be with me in heaven. But its not my fault or anybody elses. You need to tell your friend how you feel. And its goin to be so hard! I know, ive been there. But you have to tell her somehow. Bring your bible. Because its proof there. Now to my other example... my dad! He used to be soo involved with a church when he was growing up. ( by the way my parents are divorced ) but now he never goes to church. And he cheated on my mom. And hes not a bad person hes just not a very good dad. But thats not important right now. But in church we've been watching the movies Left Behind, you so have to watch them if you havent already. And our sunday school lessons would be on Jesus returning and so on... And it freaked me out about my dad. Because even if he does tick me off and barely pay attention to me, hes my father and i love him. And i want him with me! Ya know? And so i talked to my youth counselor and she says the only thing you can do is be a witness to him. Show him the word and tell him whats goin to happen if he doesnt ask for, forgiveness. But its like now i dont beat myself up about it because i talked to my dad. Until you talk to your friend about the problem will you be able to let it go. See this is how i look at it... when your judgement day comes God will go through your life every littl ebit of it and you dont want him to come to this and ask you why you didnt speak the truth. But instead you want him to come to this and say Thank you for doing what you could, im very sorry shes not here!
Also really believing about God is like studying for a test. Some people have to hear / read more then some people. And this is hard to explain over the computer but like you may have to tell your friend more then once about God! Because i mean it took me a few years to really get it into my head that i needed God. Testify to her. And dont get upset if she turns you down. I lost my bestfriends friendship.. but theres nothing i can do about it because i know i did what God wanted - thats what matters.
JESUS LOVES YOU!
Love Your Sister in Christ,
Lindsey
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hi. i read another question on here about heaven and for the Christians out there..what does it take to be in heaven? i go to church, i try to be nice to people, and i pray daily but how do i know if im doing enough? =( (link)
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First off the only 100% way you will not make it to heaven is if you deny that Jesus did not die for you and all that jazz. But getting into heaven isnt about how much you do. Its about how you do what you do. If you get me. Like say your out shopping - just one small example the clothes you buy. The way you present yourself. If you dont know if your going to heaven then you needa talk to your preacher. Because like you could die any day now and would you be ready? I dont konw if you've ever watched "Left Behind" but theres 2 and a 3 is about to come out but its about Jesus coming back. I think it might help you a little bit. Its good to watch with like a group or something. But you cant be perfect so dont beat yourself up about just ask God for forgiveness. Pray to God to show you what else you need to be doing. Are you abiding by the 10 commandments?
Ive got a verse for you to read out of the bible ill put a little bit of it here..
"Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God."
- Colossians 3
if you ever need like help finding something in the bible go to ..
www.biblegateway.com
ill pray for you ! and jesus loves you
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I guess the subject line says it all. I constantly flip-flop between Christianity, Atheism and Buddhism. I like a little of all, and I can't seem to choose one faith. I always change my mind. Is there something wrong with me? Am I flaky? It's just that a faith is an important choice, and I'm afraid to make the wrong one.
I like all three, but I know I have to pick one.
What should I do? (link)
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Okay im a very strong christian and i cant make your choice for you but ( oh yeah im 13 people sometimes like to know that ) Jesus Christ died for your sins on the cross and im sure you know that. And i dont exactly know about your other two choices but... theyre is a heaven and a hell and if you choose the wrong religion you could possibly go to hell. One of the 10 commandments is..
You Shall worship no other God but me.
so i just hope you make the right choice.. and as your sister in christ i lvoe you and Jesus does too
ill pray for you
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Ok my family is very strong believers in Christianity but I believe in Kabbalah (which is very very different). I've never said anything about it b4..I just went along with them and went to church and stuff. Well I guess that because it's never caused a problem before. Now they know that my boyfriend isn't a Christian and they're all like you can't be with him..and see I've been with him as long as I can remember and I love him to death. If I tell them I'm not a Christian I'm really afraid that they'll either ground me forever and treat me like crap or send me to bording school. What should I do? Because I can't go the next two years without my man. (link)
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Okay, im a christian, a strong christian. And i dont see why people put christians down. Im a very down to earth person, i like to have fun and party - but i just know where i need to stop! But its like everybody puts us down because we believe that jesus made us. But yet you dont see other people putting other religions down, and why is that? I think its because people dont know nething about the other religions but everybody knows a little something something about Jesus! And im not trying to be rude but why do you think your parents want you to be a christian? BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU. Why do you think they dont want you dating a non-christian? Because they LOVE YOU! And if they love you that much, how much do you think Jesus loved you? He died for you and everybody else. But not everybody sees it and i know thats the case. But my job as a christian is to witness and your on here so you should listen to my advice just like you listen to everybody elses. God listens to everything you say wether your pissed at him or very happy with him. He will take care of all your problems if you jsut give it to him. I mean your living here temporarily so you can go to heaven soon. So i mean not everything is gonna be perfect but why do you wanna live a life that is all in your hands and you have to worry about all the time? Give it to God and he'll take care of it, ya know what i mean? Well heres a verse from the bible that i think kinda goes with this.. and not trying to scare you but this is what it says and just think about it..
"But I assure you of this: If you ever forget the LORD your God and follow other gods, worshiping and bowing down to them, you will certainly be destroyed." -Deuteronomy 8:19
I'll be praying for you
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Hello everyone. I am, currently, a strong agnostic. However, I am always interested in improving what I know, do and believe in order that I might adopt the most reasonable philosophy possible. Therefore, I ask you if you have a really good reason why I might reconsider what I believe. I would love to hear reasons for changing my mind - it is something that, perversely, I take much pleasure in doing!
To help you along, here are my current beliefs summarised (but badly!):
1. I am a materialist. That is, I do not believe that there is anything other than the material world. I do not believe in the supernatural or the spiritual, nor in gods, magic or souls.
2. My ethics are broadly utilitarian. That is, I judge my actions according to the level of harm and benefit derived from performing them. I also use (and I think the idea was first put forward formally by Kant) the principle that I call "if everyone did it". When we perform some actions, the harm done is so minor that it does not really matter if one person does it (so utilitarianism fails to stop you doing it), but "if everyone did it" then the world would be harmed very greatly. So I do not perform such actions as littering, shoplifting, wasting water etc. My ethics are also partly informed by the sense of morality hammered into me by parents, teachers, and (IMO) the rigours and necessities of survival (ie evolution).
3. Because I am a materialist (see #1), I accept the latest scientific theories as the best possible explanations for the way the world works and its origins. Questions unanswered (or unanswerable) by science I either answer with pure reason or mark as "unknowable". Note that I do not "believe" scientific theories, but am merely *convinced* by them.
4. My general philosophy as regards other people's behaviour is, "live and let live"; ie I am a libertarian. So long as no-one is harmed by your actions and you are capable of making rational decisions, you should be free to do as you wish. It would be nice if everyone were as morally upright as me (see #2), but human nature seems to dictate that most people will not think so hard about their ethics as I do.
And those are all the salient points as regard my belief system. I now make a request of you when you proselytise for your various beliefs:
If you are an evangelical, Protestant, fundamentalist Christian, please think your answers through VERY carefully. I have been arguing with fundamentalists for a very long time on the Internet and am well versed in (and indifferent to) most of the standard arguments from that group. I am quite tired of people trashing evolution because "it is just a theory", or telling me that Christianity is ONLY about having a personal relationship with Jesus, and everything else that is promulgated by poorly-educated and immature Christian fundamentalist debaters. Everyone should think their answers through carefully, of course, and be sure that they are well-structured and properly written, but this group IN PARTICULAR should take care.
Thankyou for your time. Please respond! (link)
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Hi, Im a christian! oh by the way i didnt read all your little doo-dads, doesnt really matter. Okay i dont know if you like movies or not but i'd like for you to go rent/buy it if you please the movies called "Left Behind" theres 1 and 2. It talks about Jesus coming back and families being left behind, hense the name. But i cant force you to believe that being a christian is the best thing. But my opinion is , it is. And i mean Jesus died for you! Read the Bible its there. Most people who dont believe it, dont hardly know that much about it. Theres proof - you just have to know where too look and what to look for. But if you dont realize it sooner or later that God is real. And Heaven and Hell is real then -- when you die you'll certainly see it. Your life on Earth is to prepare you for Heaven. If you dont except being a christian then you dont have really anything to live for, except for the fires of Hell. Being a christian your here to figure out what part you have in the Christian Body. Every Christian is a certain part of Jesus Christ. For Example, somebody whos good at speaking is maybe the mouth. Ya know what i mean? And also your life on Earth is a test to see you have the faith to believe in God. "Believing isnt always seeing" I mean like for example say somebody says your boyfriend is cheating on you. Do you believe your friend or do you not believe them just because you didnt see? Would your friend lie to you? If they would they're not a true friend. But Jesus Died for you, Just because you werent around when it happened is just God's plan for you. Me leaving you this advice is part of God's plan for you. Now wether you consider his plan or not is on you. But i think you know that there is more to life then whatever you believe in. Oh and maybe you might wanna read this book.. its called "the purpose driven life" it explains alot about why your here. But im gonna give you a verse from the bible think about it and i hope you'll just pray and maybe ask God to give you a sign... and ill do the same for you right after i finish typing all this to you...
this something Jesus directly said to his people..
" I am Jesus, the one you are persecuting. Now get to your feet! For I have appeared to you to appoint you as my servant and witness. You are to tell the world what you have seen and what I will show you in the future. And I will rescue you from both your own people and the Gentiles. Yes, I am sending you to the Gentiles to open their eyes, so they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God. Then they will recieve forgiveness for their sins and be given a place among God's people, who are set apart by faith in me." - Acts 27: 15-18
just think about that and what it means to you
ill pray for you!! JESUS LOVES YOU!
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what do you do when your parentswant to do something you dont want to do for example church? (link)
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Well your parents want whats best for you. And when you die God is going to judge you by your entire life and he's going to ask you ( if you dont go to church ) why didnt you go to glorify me? In the end your parents are doing the right thing by trying to make you get into church. Having God in your life is the best thing ever. You always have somebody to talk to and "Jesus Died for you, cant you live for him?" And what is the reason you dont want to go to church? Honestly think about your reason for not going to church. Is it because you dont feel comfortable? Or are you busy? And im not trying to make you mad but im telling you that if you know that when you die your going to heaven its the best feeling ever!!!! Write Back if you have a question or comment! GOD LOVES YOU!
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Your advise would be perfect had it not been that I already am a religeous christian, and am already in a church group... So, what now? I'm still stuck. I still don't think there's any way except for my success... (link)
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Okay i feel really dumb right now because i cant figure out what you FIRST QUESTION WAS. So when you get this write back in my inbox your first question and the new question you have. lol Thank you and ill get ya some advice when you write back.
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ok, I'm caught between 3 girls I really like all 3... but I don't know who to choose or what to do, so please help (I'm just using there 1st inishal)
A (14/F)- a really good friend of mine, shes very sweet & she really likes me, but she lives pretty far away & her & I always have diffrent scheduals, shes liked me for a while, & shes sort of weird at times, but I stayed up untill 4 A.M. talking to her 1 night... so I really like to talk to her...
S (14/F)- my ex., shes really pretty & really sweet, but her & I broke up after her dad died cos she sort of went crazy for a while, & I hadn't exactly been a good boyfriend cos I had alot going on in my life at the moment... & so I understood, but I like her alot, & I think she might like me to cos I heard from her best friend (S & A are best friends, but they both a another best friend Steph. so there just all 3 best friends) that she & A were arguing over who would go out with me (afew days ago, me & S broke up afew months ago) & S was on the phone & kept saying "shut up!" & so yeah... but she lives far away too, & shes bi, but it really dosen't bother me that much
B (13/F)- ok... this is where it gets weird... shes a friend of mine's cosin, but they live in Florida (I live in Texas) & I just started talking to her afew days ago & she said she really liked me & felt like she could talk to me about anything & that she just about loved me, & said she wish I was there with her, & then she asked them if she could come to Texas next month with them & they said yes, so I'll be meeting her next month (they might even stay at my house cos thats what they did last time they were here), & I really like her, but she lives SO far away, & my friend sort of seemed protective of her the other day, cos he was saying "yeah, I love 'her name'" & so it just sort of made me think... maby I should back off... but I don't know
& I just don't know what to do or who to choose or what ever...
thank you SO much for your help! (link)
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Ha well where should i begin, by the way this might get pretty long. But i promise i give good advice on this stuff.. cause ive been through just about everything people are asking about. But okay too your question. First of all i answer all my questions in a christian way because since ive became a TRUE CHRISTIAN my life flipped upside down and nothen is as bad as it used to be. Okay sorry thats just my little introlude now to the real deal... First of all obviously your "confused" and me being a 13 yr. old girl i want to give you a point of view from a girl. Girls dont like to be messed with, around or whatever. Girls play games , they dont let somebody play them. But see now you have 3 girls that YOUR being pulled between. And these three girls could possibly have a friendship broken ( the two a and s or whatever ) but see when Girls like somebody they want them and they dont care what happens on the way of recieving what they want. But see now from what you said it was saying "they're all far away" and from "experience" on that too long distance relationships dont last. And im sorry if i busted your bubble but they just dont. And say you went out with that Florida Girl,.. you would in some way hurt her behind her back. And who would be there to tell you? Or who would be there to tell you if she did something? And see if i were you i would tell them ALL that you just want to be friends because right now your really confused about things. Yes they might possibly get mad at you. But isnt it better to do the good thing then the bad. And the bad would be hurting two and possibly ruining a good friendship. And if they're truely your FRIENDS they will continue to be your friend. And i know they wont just be all happy go lucky with you. But thats the bad thing about going from friends to a relationship because you could possibly ruin your friendship that you had. But if you figure out what i saying is if they're YOUR FRIENDS then just because it didnt wokr out to become something else they should still be YOUR FRIEND. But if not then i wouldnt worry about it because they obviously didnt really want to be your friend, they only wanted to date you. And see if you dont go out with any of them your FREE to flirt with any of them that you wish. But all i say to that is dont over do it and dont like make out with them unless its like the moment and you know they're the one you want to date. But if you mess up then your screwed. So i just hope you pick the right choice and if your a christian i'd like you to read "Proverbs 31" its about picking the right woman... it gives the qaulities a real woman should have. And in it, it talks about marriage but i have a guy friend that used it for his gurlfriend cause he realized that she wasnt anything that God would want for her!! So ill pray for you and good luck. I love you in a brotherly way, even though i dont know you lol. GOD LOVES YOU TOO!! (he told me ;) )
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OK, my problem is a bit weird. I'm 16, and that's normal, at least I hope. Anyways, I relised on my vacation last week that I never want to get married. And this isn't one of those "Oh, you're still too young to decide" things. It is one of those impulses that I know I'll have for the rest of my life.
Yet, I still want a child when I'm older. A few years back, I had another one of these impulses which told me that I do not want a child of my own, but I want to adopt.
I really don't know. Is this normal? Or is something wrong with me? (link)
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Well i answer my questions in a christian way. So God's plan for everybody is different. You could possibly be somebody that he wants to not get married. And thats perfectly FINE! But since you want a child the "christian way" is not going and having sex with somebody to get a baby. Adoption is one of the best thing you could do. Its helping out the needy and i dont see anywhere in the bible where it says somebody who is not married cant adopt. Oh and i dont know if your white/black/hispanic/ect. but like there are adoption things in foreign countries where kids are in really bad conditions. A guy from my church went to Kambodia ( i have no clue how to spell it or if thats the right place ) but he is in the process right now of adopting a little boy named "Artem" ( pronouced - ARe-TIm ) Just incase you wanted to know lol. Well im not sure what your looking for and right now your only 16 and you still got college or whatever your doing and then like theres a site called.... www.worldvision.com
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This may be the first question of its kind here. See, a lot of things have built up behind and with me, and it has caused me to attempt to injure my knee for about a year now. But, I'm really addicted to it now, and I try at least 3 times a day usually. I almost enjoy it, even. But, I want to stop. Ever had soemthing like that where you feel a need to stop something you enjoy? Anyways, I went through my mind the steps I usually advise to stop SIing, and none of them seemed to work. There is nobody I can tell, as any will cause more problems than it will solve. I'm very anti-social-phobic, where I am afraid of become a loner for the 3rd time in my life. My parents do not know any of the causes, so when they hear the effect, they want to know the causes. If I ever explained it to them, they'd ruin my life. They're out. So are responsible adults, as there is nobody I am confortable enough to speak to.
So, I believe that the only way to stop is if I get too far. If I actual do injure something badly, I will no longer have to try, thus saving me. I have no self will, if that's what you're going to suggest.
So my question is, how? How can I possibly do it? (link)
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HEY! Well i have a friend who does weed and drinks heavily. She's gotten into church alot lately ( thank God ) and so NOW she has a will to quit but its hard for her. Her parents dont care what she does and in your situation i think your parents will blow it up into a big deal, which it is a huge deal but like they wont help you in the way they should. And i dont know you and what you need to do is get involved in a church. GO TO CHURCH!! And if you cant get to a church by a bible and pray and read it. Because God created you and he wants YOU to take care of YOUR BODY! And i dont really understand what your doing to your knees because my knees are awful, like ive got torn cartilages and they are very painful most of the time. Sooo it kinda made my knees hurt reading this story, lol. But you seem to be a good person. And i wanted to commit suicide last year like i came close to it like 5 times. But something always stopped me. But then somebody took me too church and somehow i knew thats what i needed. I was having stress at school and in middle school kids act immature and they try to ruin peoples lives. And so i felt kinda like i was alone - but when i got to church ( i had always been in church but it was NO BIG DEAL ) i became aware that when this life is over youve got two places you live in for eternity and thats Heaven or Hell. Which do you want? But see i dont really know the reason your hurting yourself. But you need to get help because thats really not good. And i dont know you but i care for you and i really hope you dont go to far with it. But like if you get involved with a church group you more then likely wont be thinking about hurting yourself. And dont get me wrong your gonna have ruff times, im going through a rough time right now. But you just have to think at it in the best way possible.. God's trying to show you something! But i really fear for your life right now because i know how bad i was with suicide and i know how hard it is to stop something my friend KNOWS its not right and thats the first step to improvement,.. and she wants to stop but like she doesnt know how. Because when you can get a hold of something then uhm.. YEAH your gonna do it. Its just human nature. But you need to seriously pray and ill pray for you right after i finish typing this to you. But just know that i love you as my brother in Christ even if your not a christian ,.. and if you are then you realy need to get into church and be 100% dedicated to it. I HOPE I HELPED IN SOME WAY.. IM PRAYING NOW.. I LOVE YA..
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Is there anyway possible that I can lose three pounds to fit in my dress in 10 days. Please help asap (link)
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I got the best thing for you.. DO PALATES ( i dont know if i spelled it right ) but my mom gave me her videos and i did the ab workout ONCE and its like 20 minutes long and my stomach was looking thinner.. i dont weigh myself cause i dont see a purpose but like you get smaller doing it and i think if you try to do it like twice a day you'll loose 3 pounds im sure!! Good luck and let me konw if they worked out. But make sure you get the AB WORKOUT and not the rest of em since your working towards your abs. Oh by the way it hurts and its kinda hard but i promise DONT GIVE UP
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Sorry it's so long, I just desparately need help. I e-mailed my crush at the start of June about how I felt about her (yes, its me again) and she said she liked me as a friend. It was actually kind of funny, every other word was "sorry." So, anyways, I've been thinking about her ever since. If you don't know what I mean, look up the lyrics to "The Longest Time" by Billy Joel, it perfectly describes me. Well, I recently e-mailed her again saying that I just can't stop thinking about her, and how right she feels to me. A week later, after a lot of stress that I'd been through, she replied that she had been away for a while with no internet access, and that she had been thinking about me the whole time, and she didn't know if what she had previously said was true. However, she had to clear up her current relationship, as it's already pretty much over, and then once she's done with it, she'll update me again. And so I'm really happy, because why shouldn't I be? I've been thinking about her non-stop for months! But then I find my eyes tearing, and I'm still practically crying right now, fifteen minutes later! Why is this? Because I just found out she's in another relationship? Couldn't be that, because she said that relationship is practically done for! Is it tears of joy? Doesn't feel like it.
Then there's my parents. I told my dad about it last night, and he acted like it was no big deal. Ya know why? You see, I'm a really late developer, so my voice hasn't changed yet, and because of that, he doesn't think it's very serious, but I know it is!
Ah crap, I'm seriously crying now, and I don't even know why! Please, Advicenators, help me fast! (Also tips on first dates are welcomed and encouraged!) (link)
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Well first of all i wish the guys around here were like you,.. you seem to have a heart. But look i answer all my questions using God in it some how.. so first off i'd like to say that you need somebody who will like you for you,.. and if she doesnt like you for you then - is it worth it? Ive been through relationships and i tried to be somebody else that i wasnt and my boyfriend and plenty of other guys only liked me for my looks, but theres much more to me. So first off do you really truely like her for her? And i dont know if your a christian but if you are you need to go read Proverbs 31 and see if this girl has these qualities. And also i know you like her because ive been in the same boat ( except for with a guy lol ) but like i waited 3 years to try to get him to like me and we went out but for all the wrong reasons and i tried to use sex to get him to like me, we never did it THANK GOD! But i told him all these things i would do because i thought it would make him want me more then the rest of them chics he was messing with. And so now 3 1/2 years later we're like best friends and the other day he confessed to me that he stopped liking me because we had dated for soo long,.. and i was kinda hurt but i dont really have feelings for him anymore, i mean i love him but i know dating him will be a waiste of my time. Because i know that they'res somebody else out there for me. And see i went to church camp like a month ago and the speaker talked about when you date or in marriage or whatever.. the relationship should be equal like you shouldnt say you love them more then they love you and they shouldnt say they lvoe you more then you love them. I mean yes its cute on the computer when at the end of the conversations its like "i love you " i love you more "no i love you more" and blah blah but honestly i want my boyfriend to love me just the same. And if we're just starting out i want to take things slow. Because when you rush things it normally doesnt work out. So another piece of advice from what my pastor said in his sermon a couple weeks ago.. "Instead of worrying about everything, pray about everything" So just i know this is long but think about it and i hope i helped oh yeah if you ever wanna talk more tell me and you can give me your screen name and ill IM you sometime!! Good Luck and ill be praying for YOU!
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There's this guy I really want to get to know. He's new to out school, he's cute, he's shy, and sits alone at lunch. He barely ever talks.
The bad thing is, that I'm shy, too. I'd love to get to know him, but my shyness is holding me back. How can I get over this? (link)
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Hey, well i answer all my questions in a way that has God in it some how. But see you need to pray about it! And if he sits alone then you defiently need to talk to him. Because think if you were him, your new and your shy. Kinda SUCKS! But like God made you to be shy and its not neccasarily something you can GET OVER. Its not like a disease or anything that goes away. Maybe as you mature it will go away eventually. But just BE YOUR SELF PLEASE!!! If its a GOD THING ( or in other words a "GOOD THING" ) you will be yourself around him. And like dont rush things into a relationship. Get to know him and i can see you have a crush but just be friends for a bit because its the best like that. TRUST ME I KNOW!! Whenever i rush relationships.. usually they end up being garbage ( bad ). So just dont rush and be yourself and pray!! GOD LOVES YA , hope i helped
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i'm starting highschool this year, and our highschool is so old and sucky that it doesnt have AC anywhere in the building so its SUPER hott inside, anyways.. i was wondering if anyone knew of a really really good deoderant that would stop the sweat. i know i should use one with antiperspirant. right now i am using ADIDAS ACTIVE ANTI-PERSPIRANT for women, in the gel form. i used to use DOVE INVISIBLE SOLID, but that didnt work too well. not only do i want a deoderant for school, but that will work when i play sports too. (i play soccer & run varsity track) 14/f thanks, i rate 5's (link)
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No deoderant will stop you from sweating, its just what goes on. But i do know that you wanna look good and smell good, expecially in high school. So what i would do is go to the Doctor about it because they have something for people who sweat alot and even if it is because its hott, it could possibly help. But like i know that the only time my sweat really shows in school is when i wear long sleeve t-shirts that are thin.. or when im doing things in gym or during a sport.. but during school thats not good! So you might have to change your wardrobe if you wear things like that. Or you could start like a fundraiser and raise money to buy your school a AC!!! That's what we would do. And NO we're not rich but you could just get everybody to bring some change to school and get the AIR in the school. Well i hope this helped. GOD BLESS YA!
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i am 5'3" and weigh 104 lbs( i am a girl)
i just got back form camp and now my mom is telling me that i look too skinny, but i think i need to loose 5 pounds. how can i make her see things my way so she doesnt get mad at me when i diet. (link)
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Okay what is the reason you think you need to loose 5 pounds for? If its to impress somebody else then sweety the only person you need to impress is God. Im 5'4" and i weigh probably 107 or around there ( im 13 ) But see sometimes i gain wait because i dont work out. I only work out so i can get muscle, and muscle - incase you didnt know, makes you heavier but you look better. So what i tell you to do is work out, and not 24/7 but once or twice a week. It'll help your health and if your mom thinks your too skinnky then you might possibly loose a little bit of weight but you'll be in shape before you know it. But also how old are you? Because Teen's dont need to be on a diet if they're skinny. And plus i dont know how old you are but see i was exacly 5'4" and i weighed 110 in 7th grade, which was last year.. i wasnt fat i just didnt have a smooth/straight down stomach, i said i was fat and this and that but it was dumb because they're bigger people then i was and obviously im bigger then you are, in which im not big at all. But you need to work out because your gonna loose a little bit of weight,.. but only weight that needs to be turned into muscle - so dont freak when the numbers go up. Its because your building body strength. Oh and "dont worry about anything, instead pray about everything!" do that and you'll be fine with yourself. OH YEAH,.. GET INTO CHURCH. Because i was like you last year and then i got soo involved in church my life flipped around. And i was always wanting to loose weight to fit other peoples needs, but then i realized, i only needed to fit mine and God's. So think about that~
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