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There's hope with my crush!
Sorry it's so long, I just desparately need help. I e-mailed my crush at the start of June about how I felt about her (yes, its me again) and she said she liked me as a friend. It was actually kind of funny, every other word was "sorry." So, anyways, I've been thinking about her ever since. If you don't know what I mean, look up the lyrics to "The Longest Time" by Billy Joel, it perfectly describes me. Well, I recently e-mailed her again saying that I just can't stop thinking about her, and how right she feels to me. A week later, after a lot of stress that I'd been through, she replied that she had been away for a while with no internet access, and that she had been thinking about me the whole time, and she didn't know if what she had previously said was true. However, she had to clear up her current relationship, as it's already pretty much over, and then once she's done with it, she'll update me again. And so I'm really happy, because why shouldn't I be? I've been thinking about her non-stop for months! But then I find my eyes tearing, and I'm still practically crying right now, fifteen minutes later! Why is this? Because I just found out she's in another relationship? Couldn't be that, because she said that relationship is practically done for! Is it tears of joy? Doesn't feel like it.
Then there's my parents. I told my dad about it last night, and he acted like it was no big deal. Ya know why? You see, I'm a really late developer, so my voice hasn't changed yet, and because of that, he doesn't think it's very serious, but I know it is!
Ah crap, I'm seriously crying now, and I don't even know why! Please, Advicenators, help me fast! (Also tips on first dates are welcomed and encouraged!)
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oh my god... it was the same here. i found myself crying over absolutely NOTHIN.. it was tears of joy, it was the voice in the back of my head saying "wait, what if something goes wrong" and then the other voice says "BUT GUESS WHAT! I THINK I HAVE HER dRAWN 2 ME!" its a kind of confusion/happyness thing. i have to say i hated it. it will go away as soon as she makes up her mind. for now, just whenever you email her, be VERY nice. to make you feel better for now, look @ funny emailed pictures and listen to a happy song that u enjoy. And if your parents dont understand how serious this all is, then once you 2 are 2gether you can rub it in their faces (:
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well girls have mood swings get to know her go to the movies as friends as she starts to she you more she will start to like you more
hope i helped
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awww you poor thing well this late developer thign gave me even more support on my theory of you...guys are constantly saying they have to put up with girls pms well if its one thing i learned in health is that not only do girls get pms that time of the month guys get manly pms randomly and they get it really bad when they hit puberty so dont worry about it, its just man pms hahaha sorry you probably think im crazy but im serious just calm down and go to funnyjunk.com or a funny site and watch funny videos you'lll stop crying about it soon i promise...hope i helped!
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Well first of all i wish the guys around here were like you,.. you seem to have a heart. But look i answer all my questions using God in it some how.. so first off i'd like to say that you need somebody who will like you for you,.. and if she doesnt like you for you then - is it worth it? Ive been through relationships and i tried to be somebody else that i wasnt and my boyfriend and plenty of other guys only liked me for my looks, but theres much more to me. So first off do you really truely like her for her? And i dont know if your a christian but if you are you need to go read Proverbs 31 and see if this girl has these qualities. And also i know you like her because ive been in the same boat ( except for with a guy lol ) but like i waited 3 years to try to get him to like me and we went out but for all the wrong reasons and i tried to use sex to get him to like me, we never did it THANK GOD! But i told him all these things i would do because i thought it would make him want me more then the rest of them chics he was messing with. And so now 3 1/2 years later we're like best friends and the other day he confessed to me that he stopped liking me because we had dated for soo long,.. and i was kinda hurt but i dont really have feelings for him anymore, i mean i love him but i know dating him will be a waiste of my time. Because i know that they'res somebody else out there for me. And see i went to church camp like a month ago and the speaker talked about when you date or in marriage or whatever.. the relationship should be equal like you shouldnt say you love them more then they love you and they shouldnt say they lvoe you more then you love them. I mean yes its cute on the computer when at the end of the conversations its like "i love you " i love you more "no i love you more" and blah blah but honestly i want my boyfriend to love me just the same. And if we're just starting out i want to take things slow. Because when you rush things it normally doesnt work out. So another piece of advice from what my pastor said in his sermon a couple weeks ago.. "Instead of worrying about everything, pray about everything" So just i know this is long but think about it and i hope i helped oh yeah if you ever wanna talk more tell me and you can give me your screen name and ill IM you sometime!! Good Luck and ill be praying for YOU!
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hmm..you're probably feeling mixed feelings. maybe you're happy that she was thinking about you, but not too happy that she had a relationship before? maybe you're afraid something will go wrong between her current relationship and the one you guys might have? i don't know, but it seems to me like things will work out. juss give her a bit of time and everything will be good. for a first date, try something simple and comfortable. dinner, movies, bowling, minature golfing, etc.
-hope that helped!
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Want to win her back....do the opposite you are doing now, seriously my young friend woman/girls are not attracted to wussies.
You have to be strong for yourself, woman/girls can smell neediness from a mile away and they will run away.
Take a look in the mirror, its time to step up to the plate.
Change the way you think about her, imagine what could be not the painful stuff.....now set a plan in motion.
Talk her as a friend, treat her like a bratty sister, joke with her, flirt. She will see you in a diffrent light, whatever you do, don't go all wussie. let her talk about feelings first.
If you are out with her, treat her well and with respect.
You can do this, she needs to feel you are a challenge to her!
Be patient!
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