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split?
ok im really sorry if this is really long and i understand if you dont want to read it but i would really appreciate if you would take the time to and give me your opinion/advice. ok i all started when my mom's sister and my dad's brother got married, in doing this they concived a child, and then they got divorced. now for the child's baptisim (he is now eight) the father (my dad's brother) was not invited to this, and he is really upset. and the reasons she dint invite him was because she had invited him to many things and he never showed and she had to lie to her son and just say that something important came up and your dad was not able to make it, instead of saying "your dad blew us off" so she always would leave messages and call him and he purposely would not get a hold of her back (he is now remarried and has 2 other boys)
so she wanted to save the dissapointment and she never bothered to invite him (plus she said it would be eaiser on her not to see him)and i can understand why my uncle would be upset, but now my parents are against each other (there defending each sides) and they are talking about a split, my dad was cusing to my mom and i never heard it so bad before, and im really upset right now and im accually crying right now. my dad was talking about that i would probally want to go with my mom cause i would not want to be with him, and then he started saying how bad of a dad he is and all this stuff. and im a christian and my dad dint know i was right there and i heard him say under his breath "christians my ass" and i got really upset, well i really REALLY do appreciate that you took the time to read this, i will rate really high, thanks again!
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My parents got a divorce back whenever they did, not for the same reason but they got a divorce. They didnt get along and they faught and my dad cheated on my mom. But see what you have to do now is tell your parents how you feel. And defiently say something to your dad about the christians thing. But before you do ANY OF THAT OR ANYTHIGN ELSE -- pray. Ask God to show you what he wants you to do in this situation. Im not sure what you should do. Because i know its hard. You just have got to let God guide you through this and DO NOT DOUBT HIM. Believe that he can do anything. And i know from my parents divorce good came from it. Good always comes from bad. Maybe not right then but just you have to be as positive as possible. I think a good thing to read in the bible is Job. Just read 1 chapter a day. No more. If you cant read one , one day its okay. But Job if you dont know -- is about a man who is pretty much like Jesus. Then a lot of bad things happen to Job and yeah you just gotta read it. Because its helping me now. So ill pray for you ... and Jesus Loves you!
Your Sister in Christ,
Lindsey
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Talk to your mother and father about your feelings together in the same room. Get those feelings out there and don't suppress them. Tell them that they're making you really angry. Tell them that the problems your uncle and the other woman are having are there own problems to solve. This is your time to shine. Make them listen and make them see how important this is to you. But if they don't listen and they do split, you'll have to respect that but you don't have to like it. Talk to them . Trust me, it may just help you.
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well first things first. in my opinion there no reason to get upset about somthing untill it actually happens. dont bother crying untill there really seperated. parents love to threatin eachother. breaking up being one thing that really works. itll take alot to actually spilt up on thier part since they havee a child and everything. 2nd. your dad saying christians my ass, is just him saying stupid things since hes so upset, along with the hes such a bad dad, unless he is? but im thinking hes not.. so basically hes just upset. when you get really sad or really pissed.. you tend to say things that if you really thought about.. you wouldnt belive. so dont worry about that any more then them splitting up. if you want to do something maybe you could talk to your mom about it. explain how you feel, you feel its stupid to break up over somthing like this, that and you dont want to have a broken family. if shes not one to understand go to your father. explain this to him, or simply suggest that he send an invitation himself instead of fighting over it. ask him if hes honestly ready to lose your mother over something this small.
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