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3 girls...
ok, I'm caught between 3 girls I really like all 3... but I don't know who to choose or what to do, so please help (I'm just using there 1st inishal)
A (14/F)- a really good friend of mine, shes very sweet & she really likes me, but she lives pretty far away & her & I always have diffrent scheduals, shes liked me for a while, & shes sort of weird at times, but I stayed up untill 4 A.M. talking to her 1 night... so I really like to talk to her...
S (14/F)- my ex., shes really pretty & really sweet, but her & I broke up after her dad died cos she sort of went crazy for a while, & I hadn't exactly been a good boyfriend cos I had alot going on in my life at the moment... & so I understood, but I like her alot, & I think she might like me to cos I heard from her best friend (S & A are best friends, but they both a another best friend Steph. so there just all 3 best friends) that she & A were arguing over who would go out with me (afew days ago, me & S broke up afew months ago) & S was on the phone & kept saying "shut up!" & so yeah... but she lives far away too, & shes bi, but it really dosen't bother me that much
B (13/F)- ok... this is where it gets weird... shes a friend of mine's cosin, but they live in Florida (I live in Texas) & I just started talking to her afew days ago & she said she really liked me & felt like she could talk to me about anything & that she just about loved me, & said she wish I was there with her, & then she asked them if she could come to Texas next month with them & they said yes, so I'll be meeting her next month (they might even stay at my house cos thats what they did last time they were here), & I really like her, but she lives SO far away, & my friend sort of seemed protective of her the other day, cos he was saying "yeah, I love 'her name'" & so it just sort of made me think... maby I should back off... but I don't know
& I just don't know what to do or who to choose or what ever...
thank you SO much for your help!
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Ha well where should i begin, by the way this might get pretty long. But i promise i give good advice on this stuff.. cause ive been through just about everything people are asking about. But okay too your question. First of all i answer all my questions in a christian way because since ive became a TRUE CHRISTIAN my life flipped upside down and nothen is as bad as it used to be. Okay sorry thats just my little introlude now to the real deal... First of all obviously your "confused" and me being a 13 yr. old girl i want to give you a point of view from a girl. Girls dont like to be messed with, around or whatever. Girls play games , they dont let somebody play them. But see now you have 3 girls that YOUR being pulled between. And these three girls could possibly have a friendship broken ( the two a and s or whatever ) but see when Girls like somebody they want them and they dont care what happens on the way of recieving what they want. But see now from what you said it was saying "they're all far away" and from "experience" on that too long distance relationships dont last. And im sorry if i busted your bubble but they just dont. And say you went out with that Florida Girl,.. you would in some way hurt her behind her back. And who would be there to tell you? Or who would be there to tell you if she did something? And see if i were you i would tell them ALL that you just want to be friends because right now your really confused about things. Yes they might possibly get mad at you. But isnt it better to do the good thing then the bad. And the bad would be hurting two and possibly ruining a good friendship. And if they're truely your FRIENDS they will continue to be your friend. And i know they wont just be all happy go lucky with you. But thats the bad thing about going from friends to a relationship because you could possibly ruin your friendship that you had. But if you figure out what i saying is if they're YOUR FRIENDS then just because it didnt wokr out to become something else they should still be YOUR FRIEND. But if not then i wouldnt worry about it because they obviously didnt really want to be your friend, they only wanted to date you. And see if you dont go out with any of them your FREE to flirt with any of them that you wish. But all i say to that is dont over do it and dont like make out with them unless its like the moment and you know they're the one you want to date. But if you mess up then your screwed. So i just hope you pick the right choice and if your a christian i'd like you to read "Proverbs 31" its about picking the right woman... it gives the qaulities a real woman should have. And in it, it talks about marriage but i have a guy friend that used it for his gurlfriend cause he realized that she wasnt anything that God would want for her!! So ill pray for you and good luck. I love you in a brotherly way, even though i dont know you lol. GOD LOVES YOU TOO!! (he told me ;) )
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I think you should choose who you love the most, who means the most to you! For A it kinda sounds like you guys are good friends like a good friend you ask for advice not really your girlfriend type!
S Well I think you still like her and you only broke up with her because her dad died but I think you should get back together.
For B Its long distance hun and they never work so that might not be a good choice either. Just follow you heart ask yourself how see you eachother in the future! Hope I Helped!
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Well the person below me did a great job at advising you, so I don't know how I'm going to top that! But, I'm just going to give you my perspective.
A: I think it seems cool that you like talking to her just because you two can be open about things, and it just goes to show that she likes you well enough to stay up until 4am talking to you.
S: I think it's cool how she's bisexual and it doesn't bother you, so I give you props for that, because, most guys can't handle that much on their plate. It also seems as if she didn't start the whole fight with A, and she just wanted everything to be over with, and tried to be friends with A again.
B: With her I think it's weird, because you've never actually MET her. But, if your going to, I think you should wait just to see what she's like in person, and see if she's what you bargained for. It also really depends, if you knew B, before, your friend even talked to her then it doesn't matter, you shouldn't back off because you talked to her first. But, if he talked to her first then he's the one that needs to back off. I don't think there's anything wrong with you living in TX and her living in FL either.
Personally, if I had to choose between the three of them, I would pick either A or B.
A; just because you feel open with her, and it seems you two could talk about anything, and I love couples who stay up forever just to talk to each other, I think it's adorable.
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B; just because you say you like her a lot & maybe after you meet her you'll like her even more.
You should definitely see how things work out with B coming to visit you, because you could fall in love with her, and you might even like her more then A.
I hope I helped.
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Ok, well I can't tell you WHO to choose because you should always follow your heart & not do what other people tell you, but I can try my best to help.
A: You're really good friends & you like talking to her, but you said she acts weird sometimes. If you had a relationship, you might get annoyed by her being weird.
S: She sounds like the one you're more interested out of A & S & she doesn't seem to do anything that annoys you.
B: You really like her but she DOES live far away. Yes, you would be able to see her every once in a while through your cousins - but long distance relationships are VERY difficult to maintain & a lot of the times, you end up fighting with them a lot more.
If I were you, I would go with S & you could still stay very good friends with the other 2. However, that is just my opinion. You should always follow your heart. It's just a matter of asking yourself: who means the most to me?
Hope I helped! If you need anything else - leave it in my inbox & if you need more help with this just leave your s/n or e-mail in my feedback message. Good luck sweetie!
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