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im too shy.
im fourteen and going into the 9th grade. i dont think im ugly, not georgeous or anything, but not ugly. im not fat, but i could tone up a little. for some reason im always feeling insecure though. in school, i dont talk much in class && everyone says im really shy. now once i get to know people they'll tell you im the loudest person they know. i love to talk && gossip. but it takes me awhile to get to know people, i want to know how people act and what they like before i start talking about random things to avoid making them mad if they dont agree with me on something. well anyway, i just moved almost two years ago and i havent quite adjusted yet. ive made new friends but it seems people still see me as the new girl, and me being shy doesnt help at all. once in our developemental guidance class they asked my friend amy who she usually hangs out with, and she said me. than this kid matt says something about how we both never talk, than our friend kristen starts laughing and says we never shut up. i wish i could be more social with people i dont normally hang out with, and that way i could also make more friends. also, everyone thinks im a goody-good. which theres not anything wrong with, but im far from it and i dont want people to look at me like that. how can i learn to be comfortable around everyone?
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you just need to be yourself.dont try to be like the people your trying to hang out with. most people dont want someone following them around trying to be just like them. so just be yourself and dont worry about saying something rong. just act like youve known them forever and there youre best friends.hope i helped XoXo
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The most obvious answer of course: be yourself. Say what you want without being worried what people will think, but make sure you wouldn't hurt anyones feelings - thats crucial. People will accept you for who you are if you let them. Have some confidence too, just don't be too cocky. If someone shuts you down, don't worry about it, don't let it get to you. But if it gets too much, then tone things down a bit. Good luck.
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This sounds almost Identical to a friend of mine. My friend moved here a couple of years ago and if you didn't know her you would think she is the most quiet person ever! But she really talks ALOT! lol anyways theres nothing wrong with being a little shy. You just have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Making friends isn't always easy to do especially if your looking for really good friends. Just learn to not be afraid to stand up for yourself. Maybe even though its hard start talking a little more in class ( I mean by answering questions not diosrupting a lesson) people will be glad to see you coming out of your shell. Join a sports team aand this way you can talk and relate to the girls on the team. You are a great person and you just need to know that. Once you feel confident in yourself making friends will be a lot easier. Like the sound of your own voice and use it! I hope this helps
Kelli
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Wow!! This is amazing... I mean... you're just like me!!! We are sooooo much alike!!! I used to be shy around people, then when I tried to open myself, I became the loudest person in the room. Just like you!!! See?? Well, it depends on you of you wanna be comfortable being around people. Maybe... just be yourself... be something that you wanna be. Like me... I'm like the weirdest person in my family, but I still can get along people even though sometime they look at me in disgust.
I think that your problem is that you listen to what people say about you... (I used to listen to what people said about me too when I was in 7th grade... and it really brought me down)Just ignore what people say about you. You are you!!! They are they!!! The more you think about it, the more you will get more depressed in yourself... Just do what you wanna do, there's nothing wrong with that... Feel confident!! (like me, who sleeps and sits in different direction that other people use to be, read from right to left, say 'happy easter' when it was christmas, etc)
Don't ever think that you are ugly!! You are beautiful in your own way, and I know that. And don't even listen to what people say, because they don't even know what they are talking about.
fcelcia
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I wish I could help but I have the same problem. I don't really want to be more social though so it isn't a problem for me. I have found the following site that may be of some help to you. Let me know if you find it of intrest. :)
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The best thing you can do is to first be comfortable with yourself, your body is the BEST thing you own, and you have to love it to have other people love it. Your mind is your own and it's okay if people don't agree with everything you say, that's why we're all different. I'm sure all the people in your class would love to hear from you, you dont have to be the loudest person in the class, just voice your oppinion. At first it might be weird for you, but youll get used to it and so will everybody else! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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just dont care what people say and try gettin to no people
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Omg, you sound extactly like they way i used to be. This just wont happen in one day. It just takes time to come out of your shell, i am 20 and i am still kind of shy but i have grown alot less shy since i was younger, once i got a job i found it a lot easier to talk to people i dont know and stuff. Beacuse being around alot of people like in a work place really does help. Now if you dont have a job maybe you should just start going places, being more social, you know, i know its not easy, it was hard for me, but it will get better i promise you.
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