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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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So I lived at apartments. And I would always hang out with this kid and I liked him but I was scared to ask him out, so i never did. We both moved out of the apartments. And I havent talk to him in like two years. I found his myspace like a week ago and we have been talking a lot. and I found out that he liked me. And I'm starting to like him all over again.
but there is this girl. She is a year younger than me. I use to be friends with her. But i got into the BIGGEST fight with her so now we hate eachother. And she does anything to find drama with anybody, especially me.
And she is friends with this kid i like. And she has been making up stuff about me and telling it to him. And when she told him this stuff he kinda stopped talking to me.
I dont know if he doesnt like me or what.
I need help cause I'm so confused!!
PLEASEEEEE help me!!!
If you ask me, this is what I would do:
Ignore this girl (if you aren't already) and don't stoop down to her level. Talk to this guy, ask him what's up because you miss talking to him. Ask him directly if it has anything to do with this girl. If he doesn't open up then, go ahead and tell him in a calm, mature way the history between you and this girl. Tell him that you're sorry if she's been bugging him or something like that. Do NOT however put him in the position where you're asking what she's been saying about you. Ask him that if he's having any doubts about you and your innocence, just ask and you'll be more than happy to answer or settle his questions/doubts because you don't want a friendship that you really like going down the drain because of some words a girl said.
If he still doesn't respond to that, I would just walk away. He's not worth the trouble of playing "stay on my side" over and over. If he won't believe a long term friend and back out of the friendship because of a few petty words he can't support to be true, he's not too great of a friend nor will he be that great of a "my significant other!" guy. In the future, he'll realize that he lost a long time great friend that he liked because of a few stupid words. That's his loss, no point in your stressing over something that he ultimately will decide himself.
So, when I was younger, I wasn't really attractive. I had glasses and what not. When I was in 5th - 7th grade I never went a week with out a boyfriend.It is sad. I lived at apartments. I got asked to have sex a lott. But i never did. I am going into freshmen year now and I am still a virgin. I have to say I am good looking now. I get comments from guys more than like 20 times a day on how hot I am. I get asked to have sex at a minimum of 3 times a day. I am still a virgin but don't want to be. But I don't really want to have a like 1 night stand with a friend.
I was dating somebody last year, but it was a secretive relationship. He wanted to have sex and I said no. I really regret it. Cause all the people that I like are experienced and I'm not. So I don't want to be having sex or getting fingered or anything with my friends when I'm still a virgin.
But I really want to have sex and stuff with them, but it is embarrassing.
I really need advice!!
Pleaseeee help me!!
You know, this is a delicate subject that has only one answer yet everyone decides they must ask: only you can decide whether or not you want to have sex. I bet you that you already knew that was coming and I bet you that if you think a little bit more, you'll find an answer to your question.
In my personal opinion, I would say no to sex at such a young age. I know you probably don't want to be treated as a young person but truth be told, I believe in chastity and even if I didn't, I wouldn't want to have sex just because I was "embarrassed" at being a virgin. If I were you, I would hold off until you truly find that special someone, and when I say "truly find that special someone," I mean someone that means some importance to you. This doesn't mean pick a guy out there, make yourself believe he's a special someone, and have sex with him just so you can say, "Well, it was a special someone!" Get a boyfriend (not one of those guys asking for sex because in the end that's all they're going to want: sex and you're going to get hurt in the end) and see how it goes. If you two BOTH become comfortable and feel your have a trusting and loving relationship going on, then you can decide.
For now, however, I wouldn't have sex with any of those guys because it will end up as either a one night stand or a sex based relationship in which you're ultimately going to get hurt. Your reputation may be damaged and you may be more embarrassed than you are now. Besides, you're probably going to regret having sex with someone you don't love at such a young age later on in life.
It doesn't matter if you don't have sex right now and your virginity is nothing to be embarrassed of.
i recently got this peiercing on my cartalge on my left side. i was so excited it to get it i had original planned to get it on my right but changed my mind last minute because they lady said it was gonna hurt and to get it on the side you dont use the most so i was like ok ill get it on my left well i forgot that my bangs are parted to the left so when i wear my hair down or even in a pony tail my bangs fall in front of it and i want it to be seen and i dont know wat to do about it any suggestions??
If you want to keep the piercing:
Keep your bangs and/or hair up at all times
OR
Change the parting of your hair
If you want to keep your hair/bangs down or keep it the way it is, get a new piercing on the other side.
okay well i need some ideas for something to do for my boyfriend. i've done letters, dinner, photo album, picnic, coupon book, and movies. i cant think of anything else. so if you got some ideas that would be awesome. thanks very much.
Bake him cookies =)
Give him a teddy bear
Make something cute and special and give it to him
Couple ring?
Plan a guys night for him
Buy him tickets to go see something (movie, sports, etc) that he really likes.
I don't know how old you are soooo...
What is 'IN' right now?
pictures, stores, anything is helpful.
No abercrombie, hollister.
Real Big desighners that have stuff thats really in. Actually, i don't need desighners i really just need pictures.
Um, I believe the following:
(fake)fur coats/jackets
gloves with (fake) fur lining/edges
knitted beanie looking hats
anything knitted actually.
ugg (sp?) boots
skinny jeans or flare jeans
tunic tops/baby doll tees
I don't really know what's "in" for shoes.
i cut my own sidebangs a couple weeks ago and they were short enough to be regular bangs. so i just clipped them back.
and now, my sidebangs are a little above my eyes but on the bottom they're sidewept..like this but a little more sideswept..
how can i fix this and make it look like regular sidebangs that look like this?
or when it grows out, will it just end up like that?
Well, one thing is that you need to grow out your bangs a lot more. Then you can actually do stuff with it to make it look like the second picture bangs.
Once they grow out to the length you want, experiment with parting your hair. You'll be surprised at where you need to cut more. Then after you take a shower, comb your bangs in the way you want them to be and hold it in that place with a hair clip. It doesn't matter if it gets crumpled in that spot where the clip is. What matters is that your bangs are held in the way that you want it to stay in. Do this for the majority of the day for 3 days and your bangs should comply to what you want them to look like.
this is a stupid yet important question. my friend says that it's bad to do arm vibrato cuz it doesnt come naturally and is forced. i personally do hand vibrato but i wanna try arm. so tell me: is what my friend said true?
thank you!! and ask me for advice sometime!!
advisorprincess (lori) 16/f
The only reason as to why an arm vibrato may be bad is because it becomes tiring quite quickly and starts to hurt after a while. However, it is one of the easiest for of vibrato to learn. I do a wrist vibrato most of the time. It's harder to learn but it's (in my opinion) the best type.
Everyone has different opinions on vibratos and feel different with every single type of vibrato. Venture into all types of vibratos and find one that you feel is the best and comes most naturally to you. If it's uncomfortable for you, don't waste your time in trying to make it comfortable because truth be told, it's not going to be as comfortable as the vibrato you felt comfortable trying.
What do guys find attractive in a female not only in the way she looks but also the way we act what kind of personality and what kind of personalities do lots of men dislike?
I'm not a guy, and I hate to tell you but not a lot of guys on here will answer this question simply because there is no one answer to this question.
I conducted a survey not long ago to guys of all age groups and they all had different answers. Some said they preferred looks vs intelligence, some said they preferred intelligence. Some said they like shy and quiet girls while others like loud and bold girls. Some like introverts, some like extroverts. Some want hot/sexy girls while some wanted cute/innocent looking girls.
As you can see, all guys have different preferences in females. Or what kind of a world would this be? All the guys would want one type of girl and all the girls would be one type and vice versa.
We can't say that most guys like this and don't like this because 1)it can be seen as sexist, 2)we can't clump guys into one interest, and 3)it'll be unfair to say this and that.
So what I'm saying is that if you're eyeing a guy, get to know him. If he likes you, he likes you and that's great. If he doesn't, well too bad. You're not going to form yourself into a girl that the guy you like (that doesn't like you) then the guy will only be liking you for the mask you've created yourself, not your true self, and I can tell you right now that relationships like that won't go on a remotely long ride.
So uh what the hell is the best straightener around? (preferably one that can curl)
1. CHI?
2. Sedu?
3. GVP??
4. HAI?
5. FHI?
questions
1)did i miss anything?
2) which one out of the five would you most recommend from experience or "you've heard"?
Thanks. im sorry im just reeeaaally confused on what to buy everyone says chi chi chi! but i heard sedu was really good and celebrities use it.
also they say that 3. GVP was a knock off of CHI and i think cheaper? BUT WORKS HELLA GREAT.
i think my top three would be chi, sedu (but does this one even curl hair??), and GVP.
what do you think?
should i change my order of the best? or recommend something else?
but dont forget to answer the questions! thaanksss :)
1) We would appreciate it if you don't use profanities on here, especially in cases where there are no major emotional distress problems going on. Deciding over a straightener, in my opinion, does not count as a major emotional distress problem.
2) I've hear of CHI but that's about it. I have a straightener that heats up in a minute (no joke), has a heat dial from 1-25, it's slim, the cord attached to the straightener itself turns 360 degrees so when you curl your hair, it won't get tangled up, and it curls really well and I have thick hair so it usually takes me 1hr and 30min to 2hr to curl my hair with a curler but with this straighter put at 25, I can get my hair done in 30 to 60min. It's cheap and you can get it at Target, Bed Bath and Beyond, CVS, etc. It's from Revlon and it's a 1" Ceramic Straightener. I bought it for $20-$25 and it's working pretty darn nifty.
13/m sorry for the question being so long
lately one or two of my friends have been real dicks to me at first i thought i was just a joke but now they just wont stop teasing me, if its not one person its the other and they tease me about little things like i need to get a hair cut or i dont have the latest brand clothes
at first it didnt bother me but now its really getting to me because my grades have been lowering and last week i spent the whole week of because i didnt want to listen to his constant comments on my behaviour or how i have a really crap car and i cant afford to get a new one
and ive talked to my parents and theyve talked to my teacher and principal about it and the principal talked to the guy and said if he keeps teasing people and stuff like that(because my teacher told me hes been doing it to other people, but i havent noticed that) and still he wont stop doing it its like he doesnt care about anyones feeling except his best friend (btw his best friend does it to me but only sometimes)
so thats about it
btw please dont be saying stuff like just go confront him cause i know what hes like hell just laugh at me
and also please dont say just go away from him because he hangs around with my friends and i want to stay with my friends
thanks in advance
"please dont be saying stuff like just go confront him cause i know what hes like hell just laugh at me"
1. I won't tell you to confront him because people like that are too drenched in their own stupidity to realize that what other people have to say to them means something.
"please dont say just go away from him because he hangs around with my friends and i want to stay with my friends "
2. I'm going to point out that if your friends are really your friends and good friends, they should know about this situation and should not be hanging out with this jerk.
3. Friends are everywhere you go. I'm sure you can find new friends in no time. Personally, if these "friends" of yours are too "wowed" by this jerk-esque to notice what he's doing to you, they're not worth keeping for the cost of being bullied everyday.
4. Stay away from this guy as much as possible because he'll never get it that what he's doing is selfish, immature, stupid, and rude. People like that are probably never going to grow up, never have real friends, and will encounter lots of problems in the future. No use in trying to keep friends that want to hang out with a guy like him.
5. Don't insult him. In fact, don't do anything to him or show any signs of him impacting you. The more you show stress or the more you do something that shows this guy has a grip on you/can play around with your emotions, the more kick he's going to get out of what he's doing and he's going to continue doing what he's doing. So just ignore him and act "friendly" to him if you pass by him in the hallway. This will most likely to cause him to rethink about what he's doing and if he's getting as much fun out of it as he is wasting his time. So if you don't react, he's not going to bother as much in the future to watch someone ignore him and live a separate happy life.
6. Live a separate happy life. Pretend that he never existed and walk away if he starts to act like a jerk again. Get new friends, pick up on your school work, get yourself involved in activities/clubs/sports, etc. and move on in life. No use in trying to keep friends that are his friends, no use in stressing out over a jerk, and no way should you let this guy hinder you from getting the best you can out of life.
Good luck!
Emily
16/f
the thing is, i need to write a story but i don't know how to really start it. anybody got any ideas? please and thank you!
First things first:
What are you writing about?
Is it a fiction, non-fiction,historical, fantasy, horror, mystery, action, manga, etc.
What do YOU want to write about? Do you want to write a dramatic story, humorous, random, fighting, etc.
Get a notebook or just a simple piece of paper and write down whatever topic appeals to you. Do you want a love story? If so, who are your characters going to be? How are they going to meet? Is it going to be a happy ending or a sad ending or an ending that wants to make the readers scream "WHY DID YOU DO THAT!"??? How are you going to write the story so that it ends in the manner you want it to end? What are the problems that characters may face? How are they going to solve them?
For me, it really helps if I write down a bunch of ideas. From there, I'll look through and pick out one that appeals to me the most or something I can really write about. Then I do sort of a beginning and end brainstorming (don't worry, this can all change as you write!). I think, "Well, this is how it's going to start off...then this is how it's going to end." Then I do a general "outline" of what's going to happen, how it's going to get to the end sort of thinking. Then I do research on topics I may have questions about while writing whether it's a historical context or something about adoption or pregnancy, etc. THEN depending on the "outline" you made for your story, you pick which PoV is going to be the easiest/best way to write it in: first person, third person limited, or third person omniscient. Then I decide...is it going to be chapterless, filled with chapters, diary format, telling the past through flashbacks or dreams, starting from that past point as like a memory/story telling by a character, or start at that "past" as the present, going back and forth between characters who tell the story, etc.
This is overwhelming so here's the basics of story writing:
1.Brainstorm ideas you want to write about.
2.Pick an idea that appeals to you the most from the list you made.
3.Think of a general beginning and ending.
4.Make an outline of how you're going to get from the beginning to the ending (it really helps if you have in mind certain events you want the story to have/write about).
5.Make a story outline:
a. Character (describe all your characters as much or as little as you want)
b. Plot
c. Events (in the order you want them to appear)
d. Setting (time, place, etc.)
e. Notes (anything relating to the story you have/researched).
6. Research anything that might be useful/will be useful for you to write the story to fill in the "notes" section of your story outline.
7. From what you have so far, decide how your story will be told (1st person, 3rd person, diary, narration, past/present dream, thinking back, having more than one character telling the story, an outside observer telling the story, etc. Be creative!)
We cannot give you ideas. It's your story, you should write about something you thought of that you like =)
If you want other people to read your stories/poems and give you constructive criticism so you can improve, visit storywrite.com It's the best site ever.
Good luck!
Emily
16/f
Hi i have babysat these 2 kids and recently i have been asked to help out at a small party to celebrate their grandparents anniversary..... There will be 6 or 7 kids there between the ages of 1 and 6.... I have like pin the tail on the donkey and a big balloon they can play with but what else can i do to entertain them.....
You're going to have a *fun* time.
Kids that are such different in age are hard to keep up with because while a 6 year old wants to bounce off the walls the one year old isn't going to be able to keep up with the 6 year old running around yet you're going to have to keep a close eye on them.
Try finding a suitable movie for them to watch or a board game. Or ask a friend to help you and she can take the like age group and you the other. Try and keep them in one room so you're not running all over the place trying to keep a head count. You can get puzzles, action figures, dolls, horse (just stick a horse head you print from online onto a broom and they'll play with it for hours). Freeze tag is fun sometimes or playing with chalk. Give them paper and crayons/color pencils but have them stay away from the walls...
Most likely the kids will stay with their parents and their parents will look after them a majority of the time so don't get overly nervous =)
im redoing my room. there is not much of summer left and i need my bedding before i can do the painting and picking of carpet color. i have looked litterally EVERYWHERE but i was wondering if you might know of any good places to find cute bedding. i want something cute and kind of bright but not overdone, not boring by any means though. and not too young looking, im seventeen. so yeah anyways please give me some suggestions, store names and even examples of what you like. thanks.
http://www.pbteen.com/shop/grl/index.cfm?cm_type=gnav
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/nodePage.asp?order_num=-1&RN=14
Good luck =)
15/f
alright so i'm bulimic. well i don't really binge that often but i throw up like everything i eat. when school was in i told my friend because i wanted help, she went to the school counselor with me and i told him. he called my mom and told her. all i could do was cry i HATE talking about it because literlly all i do is cry because i feel so stupid for having this. so my mom took me to a psychologist and i didn't like so she didnt make me go back to that one. after that everyone just kinda ignored it. sometimes i wish i would have never told anyone because i hate when people worry about me. i didn't so it as much but then things got bad with my stepdad and recently it got a lot worse. i'm back to my old habits really bad gosh i hate it. i don't want to throw up but i my mind tells me i have to.
i don't know what to do anymore. i feel like crap all the time because i either don't eat or i throw up. i feel fat all the time and i was feeling better about myself. i know i'm not overweight by standards i'm 5'6" or 7" like between 120 and 127 because it fluctuates a lot. so what should i do?
any advice?
i wish i could just go somewhere and get rid of this like a program. i don't think my case is that bad though but who knows.
thanks for reading and thanks for the advice!
I can really relate to you but I'm not about sit here and pour out my sob story.
You're off to a great start because you let somebody know. You may not like the unwanted "attention" (shall I say for a lack of a better word) but sometimes it really is great to know that at least there is someone out there that cares about you even to the slightest degree.
A therapy session may not be fun (but then I can't say much because I've never had one) but just give it a try like Razhie said. You can always find new therapists or what's even better is just finding someone you know (or don't know if that makes you feel more comfortable) and just talk about anything and everything.
An eating disorder is never any fun and you can feel at a loss with the situation. You can feel happy that you're in control yet sad at how pathetic you can feel. You can feel glad that you're in the "average standard" weight range for your height yet sad that you can't go lower. We as girls have a lot of pressure put on us by society nowadays and it can become extremely hard to be happy with our bodies or rather who we are in general. No eating disorder is a petty case that isn't "bad enough" or serious. You may feel like that right now, but trust me it will escalate and it will get worse if you don't get help in some way shape or form.
I'm not pulling this information/advice out from my .ss or information I pulled off sites. I can't help you get better but I can promise you that you're not alone.
If you ever need help, feel more than free to contact me at cancel.life@gmail.com.
Again, I may not be of much help with your eating disorder itself but it's very therapeutic to talk to someone who can closely relate.
Good luck,
Emily
16/f
Okay. Ive had my ears pierced for probably a good two months, or at least the six weeks needed to heal. So I can change my earrings as long as theyre straightpost. When can I start wearing the nice big hoops, and cute dangling earrings?
Anyway. Ive kept cleaning the holes. When I take out my earrings to clean/ change them, sometimes I notice something stuck to the post. It looks like a teeny bit of flesh, though! Just a sandgrain big.
Around my holes, you can feel something hard under the skin. It feels like a bit of cartilage even though I only have my lobes pierced. My mom said it could be scar tissue. Like, when you press the back of my ear with the thumb, you can see it come front.
Also, it hurts to put my earrings in! Sometimes I can barely get them in at all.
Im assuming theyre not healing properly.
Sorry, this is a bit long! But it was sort of hard to explain, and I had a few questions :/
There are possible reasons as to why this might be happening. Your best and most accurate answer will come from the piercer but for now, to settle your nervousness about it, here goes:
They say that the average healing time for an ear piercing is 6-8 weeks. However, all of us heal at different rates and yours can be healing a tad bit more slowly. So I suggest that you go back to your original earrings and keep them in for another week and keep checking to see if you're having issues with it. After a month, if the pain doesn't go away, I suggest you go to the piercer or a doctor to make sure it's not infected and insure that you're not getting a keloid (scar tissue).
You should be cleaning your holes twice a day at the most, no more than that because you can irritate it and cause the healing process to slow down. Also, you shouldn't be messing around with them too much. The only time you should move them (twist them once) is when you clean them, again to avoid irritating them and hindering the process of healing. If you don't have a cleaning solution, you can always use 8oz of warm water with 1/8 to 1/4tsp of sea salt. Again, more salt does not equal faster healing so keep it at 1/8 to 1/4 teaspoon at the most. Also when you clean, be gentle and always wash your hands first.
The tiny bit of flesh looking thing is most likely pus, and as gross as that sounds, it just means your ears are getting rid of dead tissue which means that it's likely to be healing (still).
The hardness is where your ears are pierced...the hole part of it so don't worry too much about it. You should only start to worry about a scar tissue when it becomes visible even though you're not pushing it or touching your lobes. In the meantime, do NOT push your lobes around except to put earrings in because this can encourage you to develop a scar tissue.
As for the earring putting in business, again, just keep your regular ones in to heal and check every week to see the progress. It could be because you're not putting it in the way the piercing made. What I found easy was to put your thumb in the back of your lobe where the exit hole is and push in with your index finger from the front and "guide" your way using where your thumb is. You'll understand what I'm saying when you try it. Or sometimes if you pull your lobe down and look in the mirror to see the opening and put in the edge of your earring in then turn around and try to feel your earring and make sure it's going straight. When you look away from the mirror you become more careful and aware of what you're doing.
As for the hoops and curved earrings, you should do them only when your piercing is healed and you can put in straight earrings in and out easily.
umm ok this is a very specific question so...
i play the violin and i need this certain book: wohlfahrt foundation studies for the violin, book 2, editor carl fischer.
yea i know it's long but i need this book.
i live in plano, texas so if you know a store that has this book, tell me.
thank you sooo much.
and ask me for advice sometime!!! :]
advisorprincess (lori) 16/f
http://swstrings.com/catalog/showMusicGroup.jsp?groupId=SH-2465&subcategory=Violin
I'm pretty sure this is what you're looking for.
I'm sorry I can't help you find a store, but a lot of times swstrings.com has everything you need. That's where I get 95% of all the things I need for my violin related stuff (minus my violin and bow...)
hey i'm 15/f
i weight about 126 and i was hoping to lose like...11 pounds in 18 days
is that possible?
and how do i get rid of fat on the sides of my hips
thanks[=
You can lose 11 pounds in like 11 days. It's called fasting. However, as soon as you go off that fast you'll gain all that weight back and probably more because your metabolism has slowed down.
In 18 days, that's roughly about 3 weeks, you might lose from 3-6 pounds depending on how hard you work to do so. Here is the run down of losing weight 101.
1. 3500 calories is 1 pound of fat. So get your BMR (how much your body burns off in a regular day) by using a BMR calculator (you can find one if you google one) and subtract 500 calories from your BMR. Now you can only put in the number of calories that results from your BMR-500. So say your BMR is 2000 and when you subtract 500, you get 1500. You can eat only 1500 calories or you can eat like 2000 calories and burn off 500 calories through exercise, or you can eat 1700 calories and burn 200 calories through exercise--whatever you do, it's your choice. Just be smart about it. Then guess what, 500 calories burned everyday for a week = 3500 calories burned per week which means 1 pound lost every week.
2. Eat healthy. Avoid high calorie, high fat foods. Avoid junk foods including sodas (regular or diet), pizzas, fries, burgers, etc. Stick with veggies, fruits, lean meat, and whole grains that are cooked with little to no oil (boiling, steaming, broiling, baking, roasting, grilling, etc.) Remember that 250 calories of soup is better than 250 calories of chips. Avoid empty calories, which basically again means no junk food.
3. Exercise 3-7 times a week, all lasting 30min or longer. Run at your own pace and keep moving for 30min or longer because it takes 30min to make your body start using stored fat. Add in weight lifting and toning exercises to help build muscle because more muscles equal more calorie burning. But do not, under any circumstances, push your limit or do more than you can handle because you'll regret it the day after while you're laying in bed too sore to move. Gradually build up to what you can do.
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^ Target exercises.
Good luck
Iam 19 years old and iam 1 foot 1 and i weigh about 149 pounds and i want to be about 120 pounds so i want to lose about 29 pounds. Is that to much weight for me to lose for my height and if not what are some healthy ways for me to lose the weight fast?
Uh, I am guessing you mean you're 5' 1"?
Anyways, here's the basic rule for height & weight:
5' 0" 100
For every inch you need to subtract, take off 5lbs.
For every inch you need to add, add on 5lbs.
But this is really inaccurate since there is the problem with body build and muscle/fat weight.
BMI is a better took. Go find out your BMI (Google BMI calculator) and you should aim for a healthy BMI which is around 18.5 and 24.3 I think.
As for the losing weight, it's not too much weight for you to lose unless you're like 5' 10". But lose it healthily and slowly to keep it off. The faster you lose it, the faster you'll gain it back.
To lose weight, here is the deal:
1) 3500 calories = 1 pound of fat.
2) BMR--how much calories your body burns in a regular day. Google BMR calculator and find one that is accurate (asks how many hours you put into sedentary, light, average, moderate, and heavy activities).
3) Take your BMR and subtract 500 calories from it. That is how much calories you should eat in a day because 500 * 7 (# of days in a week) = 3500 calories...which means you'll lose about a pound per week. However, if you're BMR - 500 is 1200 calories or less, don't be a fool and eat 1200 or less calories per day. Those 500 calories that you cannot consume can be burned off by exercise. So, for instance if your BMR is 1700, then you can eat 1700 calories and exercise to burn off the 500 calories. The best thing to get rid of those calories is by exercise and limiting eating! You choose how you want to get rid of the 500 calories form your BMR.
4) DO NOT EAT MORE THAN YOUR BMR-500 CALORIES!
That is the basic.
Eating:
Try and aim for 5 small, healthy meals 3 hours apart every day. Staple your diet mainly on veggies, fruits, whole grains, and lean meat sources (unless you're a vegetarian or a vegan).
Avoid all types of junk food: chips, brownies, ice cream, sodas, DIET SODAS, juices high in sugar, pizza, burgers, Chinese food, etc. Avoid eating foods that are fried, deep fried, stir fried, or slathered in so much sauce/cheese that you don't know what you're eating.
Try and aim for water, unsweetened tea made from a tea bay and water, black coffee, low fat/fat free milk, and all natural juice (no sugar added). Try and stick to the first two. Try and aim for foods that are steamed, boiled, broiled, grilled, baked, etc.
The rules on soups and sauces:
*Soups: try and have only broth-based soups. Which means no broccoli and cheddar, cream of (food name), etc.
*Sauces: red is good (low cals like marinara, ketchup, hot sauce) and white sauces are bad (ranch, alfredo--high cals).
When you go out to eat, fill up first with salad and a broth based soup. Then either order from the kid's menu or an appetizer or order a regular meal and eat only a normal proportion and box the rest and save it for another meal.
Don't eat from 7PM to until after 7AM. Don't gobble your food--take your time at least 20min. Don't eat while using the computer, watching TV, etc. Focus on what you're eating!
EXERCISING!!!!
You must get exercise at least 3 times a week up to 7 times a week. Everytime you exercise, you should do carido/aerobics for 30-60min (your body only starts to use stored fat after 30min of continuous movement). You should also do weight lifting and toning exercises to build muscles because more muscle = more calories your body needs to use to keep up with those muscles which means more calories burned everyday.
HOWEVER...ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS stretch before and after exercises adequately so that you don't have bad muscle cramps the next day or in the following hours. ALSO never do more than your body can do. The key is to gradual build up your strength/speed/time/etc. because if you push yourself too hard, you'll burn muscle, not fat, and you'll be regretting it when you're lying in bed for the next week or two thinking, "Man, I should've taken it easier because now my body is stiff and hurts like crap and I can't do any exercises!"
FINAL TIPS:
Remember, you do NOT have to finish everything on your plate. Feel free to box it or save it for another time.
If you have the munchies, munch on veggies or fruits.
AVOID high fat foods and high sugar foods. READ all nutrition facts. Those "granola bars" will deceive you because most of them have so much sugar in them. Cereals as well!
SET small, realistic goals. Don't say, "50 pounds in a year" or "50 pounds in a month"--Instead, do "5-6 pounds per month" and build up to 50 or "1-2lbs per week" -- this way, they're more achievable and you meet the goals more quickly = more motivation.
DO NOT look at this as a diet. Instead, look at it as a healthy chance in your lifestyle that you'll carry on until you're crippled and dead.
WHAT THE SCALE SAYS can be deceiving. Muscle weighs more than fat so measure yourself with the scale AND a tape measure. Muscles weigh more but they're more compact than fat!
DO NOT give up!
Good luck!
i am going to the beach by the 21st and i NEED to have a good body by then! i've been trying to get my body to be perfect for 2 years and it hasn't worked so it seems impossible to do it in like less than 2 weeks, but i never give up. i am not fat, i am short girl 14 years old and i have a lot of extra fat on my stomach. it's been there my whole life but it's been getting worse becasue i eat really badly and i say everyday that i'm going to run but i never have time or i'm too lazy. please help me it's so important what should i do? everytime i try to eat healthier i can't because unhealthy food is my escape when i'm sad, bored, angry, happy anything. just what can i do to get the fat off my stomach by then? any suggestions for keeping to eating healthy when everyone else in your house eats unhealthy?
It's near impossible to get a flat & toned stomach in less than a week but at least you can start now so that in the long run, it'll be beneficial to you.
Start out by doing cardio (of any sort you want) 3-5 times a week for 30-60min CONTINUOUSLY. No breaking it up into 3 segments of 10min spread throughout the day. Also, do weight training 3-5 times a week along with your cardio. Do 2 sets of 8 reps for each body part. I suggest you only focus on 1-2 parts of your body for th weights per day so that you can rotate around with different parts so that you don't hurt yourself. Remember, do it slowly. (Why am I telling you to weight lift when you need to lose fat? Because weight lifting = muscles = higher metabolism = more calories burned). Also, if you want, you can do target exercises but it won't help much with the fat (& when I say target exercises, I mean these: http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=366&userboard_id=35415)
As for the eating, get your BMR (how much your body burns daily)--just google BMR Calculator to find your BMR. Eat 500 calories less (or burn off 500 calories everyday through exercise...or combine food and exercises to cut off 500 calories) per day and you'll lose roughly a pound every week.
Calorie-count.com and thedailyplate.com are great tools to get how much you've eaten, burned, etc. I use calorie-count to get my food caloric intake as well as caloric outtake through exercise. And I go to daily plate and record it on there.
Try and eat 4-5 smaller meals everyday, sleep enough, eat fiber and protein rich foods (http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=372&userboard_id=35415), drink water and you'll be gold =)
You can go to my forum, which has a lot of stuff about losing weight, and click on topics that relate to food, eating, and exercise to get more information =)
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
Good luck!
so i dont know if this the right subject but w/e!
im a 14 year old girl that loves anime and manga i hope 2 become a mangaka how can i start i super good at drawing but thinkin what 2 write bout is hard and i also wanna write novels and love stories and drama and mistery....so how do i start i know school is 1 part duh! but what else can i do....any 1 knows stuff bout writing please help because i wanna do this real bad so please!
thnx call me xuya...:]
Not trying to be rude or anything, but you may want to learn proper grammar and English in general. It doesn't matter if you're using slang because it's online. What you do now will greatly impact how you write, and right now, your writing doesn't look so hot.
As for the writing, there is no "pathway" set to get people going. Writing for me is like my life (I know, corny but true). I can't have people tell me how to write and what to write. Writing is something that is unique to each individual. If you learn how to write from someone else, you're taking away your individuality. Sure, maybe you can get feed backs for constructive criticism to see how you can improve, but learning to write is a long process.
As for getting your own story, I recommend that you get a notebook to write down story ideas or poem ideas or anything. Write down characters you may want to use, names you like & their meanings, etc. Anything that will help you with what you want to write.
You need to learn by yourself what you want to write and how you want to write it and you choose how you want it to play out and how you'll convey what you want to write. If there is someone by your side saying "Write this," "Have him do that," "Have that happen," etc., it's not your work but your buddy's work.
Writing is a way to express one's beliefs and thoughts and feelings. Another can't tell you what to write or how to write. It's a love for words and how the words can mean that usually are insignificant in life. If you want to write only because it's the "cool" thing or because you want to impress someone, walk away right now.
As for the manga thing, why don't you team up with someone who likes to write & has a lot of ideas and you can aid with the drawing?
There is a site called storywrite.com
I suggest you visit and join the site because it's where writers of every genre, age, location, etc. come together an put their works online. Other users will read your stories and give you good comments that will help with improving your writings. Also, there are contests on there that you can definitely use to get an idea of what you want to write especially if you have a writer's block.
You can find me on there so if you decide to join, give me your username or something so I can add you and read your works =)
Good luck
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Emily