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so theres this guy
So I lived at apartments. And I would always hang out with this kid and I liked him but I was scared to ask him out, so i never did. We both moved out of the apartments. And I havent talk to him in like two years. I found his myspace like a week ago and we have been talking a lot. and I found out that he liked me. And I'm starting to like him all over again.
but there is this girl. She is a year younger than me. I use to be friends with her. But i got into the BIGGEST fight with her so now we hate eachother. And she does anything to find drama with anybody, especially me.
And she is friends with this kid i like. And she has been making up stuff about me and telling it to him. And when she told him this stuff he kinda stopped talking to me.
I dont know if he doesnt like me or what.
I need help cause I'm so confused!!
PLEASEEEEE help me!!!
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Don't let anyone get in your way of what you want! I'm really sorry someone's found a way to complicate things for you, especially in this immature sense.
I'm assuming she said something especially bad about you if this guy who liked you has stopped talking to you. I can't be sure as to whether or not he still likes you, that's something you'd have to talk to him about. However, I DO know that you NEED to talk to him anyway.
Ask him straight out what the girl said about you. Make sure you're mature and calm about it, so that you don't seem hostile or aggressive or anything, which would probably discourage him from talking to you. If you're too nervous to do it in person, go for it over MySpace. Let him know that it's bothering you that you're not talking, and make sure you say everything you need to say. It would really suck having a big confrontation and then just leaving something out.
Once you find out what this girl said about you, explain yourself if it was true, and explain why she's acting this way if it's not. Let him know you really care about him, and that you hope this girl dosen't get in the way of anything, because you really value his friendship and everything. Also, make sure to let him know he should let YOU know if anything else is said about you.
If you're really rational, and he's well.. rational at all, he'll listen to you and everything should be fine. Assuming he's mature, this gossip will mean nothing, and everything will be fine.
If you're too angry to confront this girl maturely, just ignore him for now. What she's doing is very petty, and any kind of retaliation would just bring you down to her level and make you look bad. If you think you can handle actually talking, just let her know that you don't want to fight, and that both of you should just be mature and stay out of each other's way. Try to work things out with her if you're really interested in this guy, because it will make things a TON easier on you. If you can't, like I said just ignore her for now.
XOXO
KAT.
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If you ask me, this is what I would do:
Ignore this girl (if you aren't already) and don't stoop down to her level. Talk to this guy, ask him what's up because you miss talking to him. Ask him directly if it has anything to do with this girl. If he doesn't open up then, go ahead and tell him in a calm, mature way the history between you and this girl. Tell him that you're sorry if she's been bugging him or something like that. Do NOT however put him in the position where you're asking what she's been saying about you. Ask him that if he's having any doubts about you and your innocence, just ask and you'll be more than happy to answer or settle his questions/doubts because you don't want a friendship that you really like going down the drain because of some words a girl said.
If he still doesn't respond to that, I would just walk away. He's not worth the trouble of playing "stay on my side" over and over. If he won't believe a long term friend and back out of the friendship because of a few petty words he can't support to be true, he's not too great of a friend nor will he be that great of a "my significant other!" guy. In the future, he'll realize that he lost a long time great friend that he liked because of a few stupid words. That's his loss, no point in your stressing over something that he ultimately will decide himself.
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