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I don't judge. I've seen a lot, and the things I haven't, I'm always open to listening to. I want to make a difference. advice
ok this is what happening
my parents are out with family friends, and they'll be back any minute so I need your help
heres some background
i volunteer on my cousins softball team (im 17, the girls are 15)
and whatever yea i met this girl, her name is Allison, and we're going out for a while. We have a lot in common, sometimes i help her with her homework. I helped her on an english essay and she still got a C. This is because her teacher is a prick... anywayz
So she came over like an hour ago, and i really want to lose my virginity, so I ask her to have sex
"no i cant its not right" she said but i told her "dont worry i know what im doing, ill be done in like 10 seconds, plus ill give you 2 n64 games if you say yes"
So I gave her diddy kong racing and ken griffey jr baseball, and then she goes to my room. shes a bit confused and scared.
Then i think to myself - yo I need lube right? Cuz I hear you guys on TW saying you need to lube up her clit otherwise it wont fit in properly.
Ok so I have no lube, but i really want to lose my virginity - so i grab some butter from the fridge, but its cold, it wont melt - so i microwaved it for 8 minutes, and then i put it in a glass and poured it on her cooter, now shes saying i burned it.
I don't know what to do, my parents are going to be back any minute and shes crying in the bathroom plz help you guys are really smrat and please help me.
Any idea how to shut her up? Should i give her another n64 game?
o.o
I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend has a 18 month old son that lives with us. I am now very pregnant with twins.
Today, after I had picked up the kids from pre-school and daycare, I went into the store to pick up some things for dinner. While I was picking up the baby and putting him in the cart, my little girl was playing by the quarter machines. A woman (probably about 30 years old) saw me and said, "Aren't you a little young to have a baby with another one on the way?" I didn't get a chance to say anything when my daughter came running over, screaming, "Mommy!!!" The woman just looked at me glared, shook her head, and left. I just wonder what people must think of me. Yes, I made some really poor choices in my life but I would like the chance to talk about it so maybe some other girls wouldn't go the same route I did. It's not uncommon for me to get crazy looks or stares when I'm out with the kids--or even just one of the kids! At least I'm taking full responsibility for my actions by raising my children the right way. It's just A LOT harder with me being so young. What would you think if you saw me in the supermarket? What would you say to me?
Thanks
I don't think that how that woman reacted is uncommon, it's just more blunt and obvious than most people are. Even so, I think it is ridiculous that people respond like this.
My family has custody of a 2 year old boy (I'm 16), and whenever I have to take him to the store or anything, everyone thinks he is my son. I get weird looks and I get very uncomfortable, even though he isn't my child.
I think it's really rude that people react like this. It's really none of their business, for one thing. Also, you're completely right. You're taking responsibility. You made some bad decisions, but you're living up to them and making the best of your situation. If you were letting your children run around and completely ignoring them and not providing them with the things they needed, that would be one thing. However, no one has the right to judge you.
I think our society is becoming used to teenage pregnancy, so the negative reactions are probably an attempt to reattach a negative connotation. Maybe with teen preganancy becoming more socially acceptable, older generations don't know how to respond with anything other than hostility? I"m not really sure.
If I saw you in the supermarket, I wouldn't really look down on you or anything like that. I probably wouldn't notice you, especially because you're 19 now. That's at least out of high school, so it's not that young, in my opinion. Assuming your kids weren't running wild, I wouldn't even really take notice, and if at all, definitely not negative. I'd probably look up to you for taking care of your children and making a "bad" situation into a good one.
I wouldn't say a thing, especially not something rude like that woman said. Really, if that happens often, you should say something calmly. It's no one else's place to say anything judgmental to you; they have no idea what your life has been like, even if they have experienced teenage pregancny -- no one has the exact same experiences throughout life.
You're obviously going to have a difficult life, but regardless of age, it will be rewarding and memorable. You're doing a good thing.
I say kudos to you for raising your kids, and congrats for the ones on the way. :]
"How many licks DOES it take to get to the center of the tootsie pop??"
Seems like all my friends are saying that lately, and I started wondering: Has anyone figured it out? Wish I was kidding, but I really want to know How many licks DOES it take to get to the center of the tootsie pop?!
I have tried doing it, but I never ever make it. Has anyone? Ever?
Driving me friggin insane!
Well, obviously it's different for everyone. Different saliva amounts, tongue size, pressure, temperature, area of tongue used, etc. But I did a project like this in 8th grade, I think, and it took about 1400 licks to get to the center!
If you want to try, just lick in the same place the entire time, and keep a tally chart. Make a dash for every five or ten licks so you can keep track if you feel like you need to stop :].
Also, make sure you pick a flavor you really like! You should try it some time, it's fun and interesting to be able to answer. [;
XOXO
KAT.
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 weeks almost 5. And I want to makeout with him, I know he does too but he wont do anything that Im not comfortable doing. So, we haven't even kissed, I don't want to make out/kiss him because I dont know how? I know this sounds cheesy but I don't want to mess it up, or make it really akward.. Because this is my first kiss too and I really like him. So can anyone give me advice on how to kiss/make out? Thank-you soo much if you reply to this!
14/F.
This answer is going to seem obnoxious and predictable, but seriously take it into consideration..
Don't worry at all! I'm not sure if he's experienced, but either way, I'm sure he won't make fun of you even if you do "mess up" your first kiss (there aren't many ways to do that, by the way. Just so long as you don't miss his mouth, or something). If he's been patient enough to wait for almost five weeks, I'm sure he'll be willing to accept any form of kissing, even if it's a bit bad, at first. (And I'm not saying that to make you nervous, just reassure yourself that he won't break up with you or something if your first kiss isn't perfect).
Usually, a couple's first kiss isn't that great, anyway. Most people have an embarassing first kiss, actually. Everyone survives though. :] It's no big deal if it's a little awkward or one of you messes up a little. I know you're really nervous, but just go for it! If something goes wrong, it's always a funny story to tell later and something to work on. ;]
What I'd do is flat out tell him that you're nervous, but you'd like to just try a kiss. You don't even have to be like "I WANT TO KISS YOU NOW." Just maybe act shy. Something like .. "I feel really bad that I haven't kissed you yet. I really want to, I'm just scared I'll mess up." Just empathize that you want to try :P.
It's like jumping in a pool. The more you draw it out, the worse it seems. Just go for it, and you'll surprise yourself!
For tips.. well, everyone's different, but some general ones, I guess..
-Have chapstick handy, especially if you're going to make out (that's for later down the road, though). Only put one or two coats on, though.
-Mints and gum are your friends. Share them with your boyfriend.
-Take it slow, both moving in as well as kissing.
-Don't worry about closing your eyes the first few times, because you usually forget or are too nervous. You get used to it as you get more comfortable with the person, there's nothing much else that you can do.
-If you say you're nervous, it usually makes it feel better. Guys usually find it cute, actually.
-Pucker a bit so you don't bite or have any teeth bumping going on. XD
I'd say ask later about making out, though. Don't overwhelm yourself too much right now. You're already nervous about the first kiss. I'm not doing this to be annoying, it's just that if you try to follow making out tips for just a plain first kiss, you'll be SUPER nervous and feel like you're under a ton more pressure.
Good luck, it'll be great! :]
XOXO
KAT.
13/m
so as i said in the title what are some creative and fun things to do on dates with my girlfriend, and sometimes a few other people that come with us?
btw i only get about 15 dollars a week(aus)
also what are the like... dos and donts of dating? like what i should and shouldn't do
thanks
This, partially, would depend on how long you guys have been dating, but most of what I say should apply to anyone.
I personally think that there's beauty in simplicity. Also, make sure you always have an open mind! You never know what you'd have fun doing until you try it once, or maybe even a few times! Go for a walk with her somewhere. If you guys live near a river or anything, walk along there, alone or with some friends. Amusement parks are good, but you'd need to save up. Check your city/town's website for local shows and events that are coming up -- they're usually really cheap, and it's something different to do. Going to the movies is cute, but sort of cliche and difficult to do with a lot of people. Go to thrift stores (it's surprisingly fun, and you never know what kind of funny stuff you'll fine). A friend's house is always a good choice, especially if you want to hang out for a while (just sit around and talk, or watch movies). Maybe try baking with her, or something along those lines. :]
Then there are the obvious ones like bowling, golfing, going to the beach (if that's available), etc.
Do's/Donts.. they all depend on the girl, but what usually works for people I know..
Do:
-Be polite. Do things like opening doors and insist on paying if you're in public and it's early in the relationship.
-Be completely yourself, no matter who's there. Treat her like you would when you're alone (just minus lots of kissing, because that could make other people uncomfortable). If you're usually very sweet, do so in front of others. If they make fun of you, play along and continue being sweet. :P
-Do kiss her on the cheek/forehead/hand. If she seems to be uncomfortable with it, don't do it again, or flat out ask her. However, most girls find this ADORABLE.
-Do let her fall asleep with you if you're alone. Girls also love that. Hold her hand and stroke her hair. Stuff like that. :]
-Have conversations with her. Really meaningful ones. She'll love it that you listen and want to talk.
-Talk things out if you ever get mad at her, or you feel she's mad at you. Don't hover on bad feelings, just immediately and calmly bring them to the surface and talk them out. It'll only make you closer, and a more mature couple.
Don't:
-Don't be OVERLY polite to the point where it's creepy. For some reason, girls don't like guys who are overly nice now. Don't baby her, play with her. Challenge her and maybe playfully tease, and things along those lines. Also, let her pay sometimes, if she insists on it. :]
-Don't change who you are because of who else is around. This bugs girls A LOT.
-Don't constantly try to make out with her. It will make a girl feel like that's all you want, even if that's not your intention at all. If she initiates it, go for it. Otherwise, only do stuff like that occasionally throughout the date.
-Don't lie to her at all. Even if the truth hurts, it's better than it coming back to bite you. Besides, the more honest, the more it proves that you guys are meant to be together. She'll want you for YOU, not someone you're supposed to be.
-Do feel free to TALK to other girls, but don't let it get to the point where you're constantly texting or calling each other. It makes girls uneasy, even if you have no intention on cheating or anything like that.
I hope some of this has helped! You guys will be great. :]
XOXO
KAT.
My boyfriend and I have an age differences, I really didn't worry about it because I didn't think it was that big until my brother said something.
I was born:
March 20th 1994
He was born:
Oct 31st 1992
No, it's not really a big age difference at all. I'd guess that he's only a grade above you? Maybe two? Don't worry, really. Once you get to college and beyond that point, people date with very different age spans. A lot of adult couples, in fact, are many years apart. Not all couples meet in school, so their ages are not always exactly the same, anyway. :P
The only thing you'd have to worry about is that he would be more "advanced" in a relationship, but that all depends on both of your personalities. In fact, you could be even more mature than him. The maturity difference could occur with people of the same age, anyway. :D
Don't worry at all! If you guys are happy, you're good. [:
XOXO
KAT.
i know this might sound a little weird but do the shorts that cheerleaders wear under their skirts ride up?
From experience, they I never had a problem with my bloomers riding up. :P
I guess it's different with everyone, but with the way they're shaped, it's not really a problem at all, as long as you're wearing the right size, even if you are moving around a lot.
XOXO
KAT.
Is it possible to love someone in highschool, get pregnant, and stay with that person?
And i don't just mean puppy love.
I mean REAL REAL love. We're you go through bad times and hard times and fun times and sexual times and aren't ever embarassed in front of eachother and tell the 100 percent truth.
Absolutely! My best friend's parents got pregnant with her when they were sixteen years old, and are still happily together with four children today. Obviously things are very difficult, but if a couple is willing to be mature and work hard, a highschool pregnancy can almost turn out to be a good thing (not that I'm suggesting kids go out and get knocked up, just that someone can turn a negative experience into a positive one).
It obviously all depends on the circumstances, but I've seen couples stick it out through some of the absolute worst situations. Anything is possible with a little, or in some cases, a lot of hard work!
XOXO
KAT.
i was boiling water in the microwave when i opened the door to the microwave and the water exploted all over my habnd and face...i tryed to get the pain to stop but i have han no luck. how do i get the pain to stop or just even to ease the pain?
Well first, it all depends on how bad the burns are. If there are blisters forming or anything, get someone to take you to the doctor, because once they pop, it'll be really painful.
If it's just more of a red situation: Try to get some Neosporin. Coating that on your burns, and wearing either band-aids or gauze or something like that will protect it from extreme temperate/moisture, and help it heal. Any kind of Vaseline or Aloe lotion could also work.
If you don't have any for the time being, run water (not too hot, or cold) over your burns, and for your face, use a wash rag and gently dab. Afterwards, use lotion so you don't get all dried out and uncomfortable. Also, for the water: Anything too cold will contrast a lot with the warmth of your skin and feel uncomfortable, so keep that in mind.
If you're interested in going to the store, there are also creams that help numb pain. I know they make stuff like that for your mouth (I'm not 100% what it's called, sorry), but I used it on my hands and it worked, too. I'm sure they have things like that for your skin. I used to get blood work a lot, and used stuff that made my skin less sensitive. It was something with a "C". I'm really sorry I don't know the name, but I'm sure it's readily available in any medical section of a store, or convenience store.
Hope you feel better, and I hope this has helped at all! For tonight, just try to do the water and lotion thing.
XOXO
KAT
this isn't really and advice question. well it kind of is...
basically if you've ever been in love, id like to hear about how you met the right person, y you fell in love, and basically a quick summary of what happened and how/if it ended...i need a few stories, and please they have to be true! if you leave your story it'll be worth your time =) thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
Edit. Sorry, had to remove the answer!
OK, i don't like do stuff with guys. i mean i don't try to be prude but i just get scared or nervous sometimes to stuff like that. i don't wanna go all the way but i don't people to be calling me prude. i also don't wanna just do stuff with any guy but then again people say i'm prude. i haven't like found a guy that i would trust or wouldn't mind doing stuff with. but what should i do?
Well, you should hook up with a random guy, so they quit saying things!
Completely kidding, obviously. You sound like you already know the answer to this, just more that you need reassurance. You say you haven't found the guy that you'd trust with that kind of thing; So wait for the person you do trust!
People can talk all they want, but that's not making their lives any better, only bring your self confidence down. At the end of the day, does what they're saying really matter? Waiting for the right one to do things with admirable, not something you should be made fun of. You'll have so much more respect, as well as self-respect if you actually wait.
If you just start doing things with people you're not even emotionally attached to, those actions are going to lose their meaning. They're meant to be very special, trust me, it'll be so worth it if you take your time and wait for someone who deserves you physically.
Don't pay attention to the people calling you "prude". It's better than acting slutty, honestly. And If you think "everyone's doing it", they're not. It's just the people who like to brag about their "sexual conquests", and don't really consider the feeling that go along with those things.
I hope this has helped at all. If it counts for anything, I'd like to say good job for not giving into immature peer pressure crap, and being your own person.
XOXO
KAT.
Thanks so much...i kinda thought that but hearing it from someone else is always great:) your awesome for your age...i hope u know that your in my favorite columnist group:) and ya i was the one about the baseball question :D
No problem. Really, any time you ever need anything just send a message! I'm completely glad to help, even if I don't get on here much (my email tells me when I've got inbox stuff, though. Lol).
Thanks so much for the compliment! I'm glad I could help at all. (:
XOXO
KAT.
hey i asked u a similar question a while ago and id love to hear ur opinion on his situation,thanks in advance:
I invited my boyfriend(20years old) to come with me and my family on vacation to my grandparents house in the U.S for thanksgiving shopping. Now hes saying that he wont be able to come because he doesn't have enough money and if he leaves for 4 days his job will fire him before Christmas. Am i wrong to be upset about this? cause i really wanted him to come
Just wondering, but is this similiar to the baseball question..? Anyway, I'm glad that you thought to come back to me for any advice at all! (:
First of all, you're completely right to be upset. I'm sure you're very disappointed, because you're not getting the ideal holiday you were origionally looking for. I'd be upset too, if my boyfriend couldn't make it to hang out during the holidays. (He actually can't, to be honest..).
Just try to understand that he's in a tough situation at the moment. I'm sure he's not happy about having to stay at home and work, instead of seeing you. I'm sure he'd rather be with you, it's just that it's a very critical situation. It's not like he's avoiding you or your family on purpose. It's just.. Work sucks!
I mean, would you want him to lose his job just to hang out? Of course not. I'm sure you wouldn't want to put him in that situation. Like I was saying, it's alright if you're a little disappointed, though.
Just remember there's a line between being disappointed and completely throwing a tantram, hah. Try not to get too too angry with him. The situation is kind of beyond his control, and there will be other times to hang out, if you think about it. Let him know you're going to miss him, and maybe he'll (or you could) bring up anothing time to hang out. I understand, hanging out around Christmas/Thanksgiving would be really fun, but remember it could also be pretty hectic! Maybe hanging out afterwards could turn out to be even better. Perhaps New Years, or something along those lines, instead..? Just get some compensation for him not being able to see you just yet!
I'm sorry about your situation, but it'll all work out. If you're feeling upset, talk to him. Let him know that you understand, but that you're still bummed out. It's okay for him to know how you're feeling about a situation (much better than you being all.. genyah and him not knowing why!). Good luck with hanging out some other time, and don't be afraid of those bad emotions sometimes. You're not a horrible person for being a little ticked over this, I promise. (:
XOXO
KAT.
(That was an extremely long answer for such a short question! O.o)
thanks for the kind word it was nice of you , these thoughts come and go i was just havin a bad day the day i wrote ,i just wanted to say thanks for for being so nice and to take care much love
rob
Any time! I really hope things are improving for you and everything.
You can make it through anything! Just message me if you ever need anything. (:
XOXO
KAT.
i love this song but ive never heard the name of it or who sings it and i really wanna know who it is, so if you know who sings it and the name of it could you please tell me? thank you!!
the song goes something like this:
she was the prom queen
and im in the marching band
she is a cheerleader
im sitting in the stands
She gets the top bunk
I'm sleepin on the floor
Shes Miss America and I'm
just the girl next door...
"Girl Next Door" by Saving Jane. (:
Small town homecoming queen
She's the star in this scene
There's no way to deny she's lovely
Perfect skin, perfect hair
Perfumed hearts everywhere
Tell myself that inside she's ugly
Maybe I'm just jealous
I can't help but hate her
Secretly I wonder if my boyfriend wants to date her
She is the prom queen I'm in the marching band
She is a cheerleader I'm sitting in the stands
She gets the top bunk I'm sleeping on the floor
She's Miss America and I'm just the girl next door
Senior class president
She must be heaven sent
She was never the last one standing
A backseat debutaunt
Everything that you want
Never to harsh or too demanding
Maybe I'll admit it
I'm a little bitter
Everybody loves her but I just wanna hit her
She is the prom queen I'm in the marching band
She is a cheerleader I'm sitting in the stands
She gets the top bunk I'm sleeping on the floor
She's Miss America and I'm just the girl next door
Oh and I'm just the girl next door
I don't know why I'm feeling sorry for myself
I spend all my time wishing that I was someone else
She is the prom queen I'm in the marching band
She is a cheerleader I'm sitting in the stands
I get a little bit, she gets a little more
She's Miss America and... she's Miss America
I'm just the girl next door...
XOXO
KAT.
I'm 13 and i cut myself,drink, suffer from depression, and have suicidal thoughts. i need help but i don't want to speak to anyone because no one knows. and i want to stop without some one even knowing i had this. how do i do this?? i'm a mess.
First: Keep fighting! You can get through this, with a little effort. I promise you that much.
I'd really highly recommend that you tell someone close to you. At the top of the list I'd say to tell your parents or a school guidance counselor or psychologist if you have any means of getting to one. You may think no on would understand, or you'd get in trouble, but they'd be more concerned with helping you and listening to you than anything else. You're in a very bad situation and need someone who can take care of, and nurture you.
If you feel you can't do that, AT LEAST tell a close friend. What would it hurt if someone knew..? It'd help, just in case something ever happened. Overall, whoever you tell, you need someone close to you to watch your back. You need someone to be able to talk your feelings over, because the situation is a ton harder when you're in it alone -- Especially at such a young age.
Have you considered telling an aunt or uncle, maybe? Cousin? Sibling? Anyone, please. You may not want anyone to know anything was even wrong, but it'll come up in the future anyway. You'll get better so much faster if you let someone help you. I strongly encourage you to tell someone who can take charge and help you snap out of this.
And if something ever gets so bad that you need to, call one of the numbers provided in the last answer. It's scary, but you won't regret it if you do. The help will never hurt you; What you're doing now WILL.
Please fight these issues. It will only get worse if you give up and feel sorry for yourself. It's good that you want to get better, just know that it's going to be very difficult, but you can do it!
XOXO
KAT.
*EDIT: If you feel like there's no one at home or school, in a friend sense.. Try to see a counselor. They're not as bad as their reputations have made them seem, and they have to be completely confidential.
okayyyy so when me and my boyfriend make out its really wet. (as in spit) the actual kiss is good but it always seems like its abnormally wet compared to like movies and stuff. is this normal? or do we need to change how we kiss?
It's a really common issue. Just make sure you swallow a lot. Even if it's your boyfriend, you being a lot more dry will help balance it out.
If that's not enough, just joke around with him and be like, "Whoa! Wet! Haha." Make it like you're just having fun with him, but he'll get the hint and know to swallow more.
XOXO
KAT.
what does ftw mean? i know it could mean fuck the what or fuck the world, but what else and why do so many people use it? o-0
It means "for the win." It basically means "best" or "awesome."
Most people use it now just as much as they'd use something like "beastly" or other common phrases. Just something new that's come up. (:
I've noticed a lot of gamers and people who go on internet forums use it a lot. Basically because it's a short net-speak kind of thing.
XOXO
KAT.
ok. just wondering, but is it dangerous if you take like 10 advil in a day? i didnt take them at the same time, but all within 24 hours, like 4 hours between. Is it still dangerous to do that? Or is it only dangerous if you take them all at once?
And if you dont do anything to help overdosing the day you took all the advil can it still affect you for awhile??
thnx.
Well I highly doubt it'd kill you, but I'd also say I doubt it's very healthy. Pills like advil can eat at the lining of your stomach, and cause dependance and addiction if you take too much. Just don't take ten a day if you don't really NEED to. I'm pretty sure the bottle says not to exceed ten, so depending on your weight, you should be okay thus far.
It's good that you're waiting four hours between. Taking them all at once wouldn't actually make you overdose, depending on how many you'd take, though. You'd actually just throw up in this case. It's something people don't generally know, but taking pills a few minutes apart is more likely to cause an overdose, because the body dosen't reject the pills if it's not in a REALLY large amount.
I'm not sure what you're asking in your last question. Since everyone's different, I can't say what would be the long-term effects of not doing anything about the overdosing. It could range from stomach issues, to death if you don't get your stomach pumped or anything.
If you ever even THINK you've taken too many pills, call a poison control center, or 911.
XOXO
KAT.
15/f
Its my boyfriends borthday in about two weeks
im not a fantastic singer but to show him i love him i thought maybe i could sing for him
do you know an acocustic, easy songs that i could try
not too easy though because i want to impress him
this isnt the whole gift its only part of it :)
"I'm Yours" -Jason Mraz
XOXO
KAT.
*Sorry, didn't realize someone had alrady answered with this answer. I'd also recommend
"Wonderwall" -Oasis
"All The Same" -The Sick Puppies
Good luck, by the way! I'm sure he'll really love your gift idea! :D