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OK, i don't like do stuff with guys. i mean i don't try to be prude but i just get scared or nervous sometimes to stuff like that. i don't wanna go all the way but i don't people to be calling me prude. i also don't wanna just do stuff with any guy but then again people say i'm prude. i haven't like found a guy that i would trust or wouldn't mind doing stuff with. but what should i do?
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Well, you should hook up with a random guy, so they quit saying things!
Completely kidding, obviously. You sound like you already know the answer to this, just more that you need reassurance. You say you haven't found the guy that you'd trust with that kind of thing; So wait for the person you do trust!
People can talk all they want, but that's not making their lives any better, only bring your self confidence down. At the end of the day, does what they're saying really matter? Waiting for the right one to do things with admirable, not something you should be made fun of. You'll have so much more respect, as well as self-respect if you actually wait.
If you just start doing things with people you're not even emotionally attached to, those actions are going to lose their meaning. They're meant to be very special, trust me, it'll be so worth it if you take your time and wait for someone who deserves you physically.
Don't pay attention to the people calling you "prude". It's better than acting slutty, honestly. And If you think "everyone's doing it", they're not. It's just the people who like to brag about their "sexual conquests", and don't really consider the feeling that go along with those things.
I hope this has helped at all. If it counts for anything, I'd like to say good job for not giving into immature peer pressure crap, and being your own person.
XOXO
KAT.
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So let them call you prude. If you start doing stuff then they will just call you a slut. Only do what you are okay with. Don't try to please others because then you lose yourself.
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You sound like a smart young woman. Never, never, never do something because other people think you should. I realize that this is difficult sometimes, but strength is going against the crowd, not going with.
If you are scared or nervous, that is probably your inner warning bells telling you that it is not right. Eventually, you will find the right person, but don't force it.
Also, it is none of other people's business what you do or don't do with a guy. If it is the guys spreading this information around, you certainly need to find different guys to date. Always expect a man to treat you with respect!! Any guy that spread rumors because he is upset is a little insecure boy. If it is your friends spreading the information, perhaps you should not discuss your love life with those that you do not trust, or you should explain that what you tell them is private. If it is your friends calling you a prude, let them know that it upsets you.
There are guys out there that will wait, and don't let anyone tell you differently. Your pride and self-confidence should be from you, not your status. You sound smarter than the crowd--stay that way!
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