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Am i right to be angry?
hey i asked u a similar question a while ago and id love to hear ur opinion on his situation,thanks in advance:
I invited my boyfriend(20years old) to come with me and my family on vacation to my grandparents house in the U.S for thanksgiving shopping. Now hes saying that he wont be able to come because he doesn't have enough money and if he leaves for 4 days his job will fire him before Christmas. Am i wrong to be upset about this? cause i really wanted him to come
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Just wondering, but is this similiar to the baseball question..? Anyway, I'm glad that you thought to come back to me for any advice at all! (:
First of all, you're completely right to be upset. I'm sure you're very disappointed, because you're not getting the ideal holiday you were origionally looking for. I'd be upset too, if my boyfriend couldn't make it to hang out during the holidays. (He actually can't, to be honest..).
Just try to understand that he's in a tough situation at the moment. I'm sure he's not happy about having to stay at home and work, instead of seeing you. I'm sure he'd rather be with you, it's just that it's a very critical situation. It's not like he's avoiding you or your family on purpose. It's just.. Work sucks!
I mean, would you want him to lose his job just to hang out? Of course not. I'm sure you wouldn't want to put him in that situation. Like I was saying, it's alright if you're a little disappointed, though.
Just remember there's a line between being disappointed and completely throwing a tantram, hah. Try not to get too too angry with him. The situation is kind of beyond his control, and there will be other times to hang out, if you think about it. Let him know you're going to miss him, and maybe he'll (or you could) bring up anothing time to hang out. I understand, hanging out around Christmas/Thanksgiving would be really fun, but remember it could also be pretty hectic! Maybe hanging out afterwards could turn out to be even better. Perhaps New Years, or something along those lines, instead..? Just get some compensation for him not being able to see you just yet!
I'm sorry about your situation, but it'll all work out. If you're feeling upset, talk to him. Let him know that you understand, but that you're still bummed out. It's okay for him to know how you're feeling about a situation (much better than you being all.. genyah and him not knowing why!). Good luck with hanging out some other time, and don't be afraid of those bad emotions sometimes. You're not a horrible person for being a little ticked over this, I promise. (:
XOXO
KAT.
(That was an extremely long answer for such a short question! O.o)
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