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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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I am 15/f and ive been thinking about gynecologist. No i am not sexually active,and dont plan on being for at least another two years. Yes, i have my period for a little over two years now. I havent really had any reason to go but i was wondering when you are suppose to be going to get checked for...whatever it is they check for? As well as what exactly happens in the gynecologists appointment?
Once a women starts her period she should start seeing a gynecologist as part of her yearly physical. Your reproductive health is just as important as your physical health and if you have an issue with your reproductive health it can cause problems with your physical health.
While your with your GYN is the time to ask any questions you may have. We receive many questions on things like; tampons vs Pads, how to insert a Tampon, regulating periods, heavy menstrual flows, cramping and a variety of other questions we are truly not qualified to answer. The GYN is is qualified to answer and you will not embarrass the doctor with any of your questions or concerns. Just remember the only foolish or dumb question is the one you don't ask.
Now that you are over 14 your visits with the doctor are totally confidential. Nothing said and nothing about the examination or treatment can be told to your parents without your expressed written permission. This is by a Federal Law called HIPPA.
So ask your doctor any and all questions you may have and get the answers you need to properly care for yourself. While there make sure to have the doctor teach you to do a proper self breast exam. Early detection and treatment for any lump found can save your life. I know this personally as my wife is in her third year cancer free because of self breast examinations done each week to herself. Breast cancer can strike at any age.
Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
You tell your parents what happened. Yes they will be upset but they will be more upset at the boy for what he did to you. He knows what he did is wrong and he knows what he did can get him in serious trouble. Trouble that very well could include a visit to a judge.
You were sexually assaulted. This is RAPE by the very definition of the word. In police terms they will call it Rape in the second or third degree depending on the laws in your state.
I am old enough to be your grandfather so please listen to me. You should not live in fear of him as this is what he is counting on. He expects you will be afraid to tell your parents. Don't BE.
You start by saying "Mom, Dad I have been sexually assaulted by". Then you tell them what happened. Yes they will be upset. Dad will probably yell and scream. Mom may even cry a bit. They will be upset that you have been hurt, that you disobeyed them. Most of all the will be angry that this boy violated you. They will call the police.
Tell the police exactly what happened. You need to do this not only for yourself but for other girls he may assault. He assaulted you, he could do worse to the next girl if he gets away with what he has done to you. It is going to be your word against his. In today's world your word is going to carry more weight.
The police will visit his home and talk to him and his parents. If he tries to make good on his threat to you it only validates what he did to you so don't worry he will only get himself in more trouble.
After you talk to the police I would like you to call this organization. The are called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. You can if you want call them first and they will help you find people to help you tell your parents and the police.
RAINN operates a 24/7 hotline to help people like you find people to help them with what has happened to them. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
Call them for help or support in telling you parents and call them for help in dealing with what has happened to you.
Hey. Im jasmine and im 15 im a sophomore in highschool i lost my virginity last year as a freshman and ill be honest i didnt use protection. as a result i didnt get pregnant at all as many times as me and my bf dont use them the last time i had sex was roughly 8 months ago ive been tested and im clean. one question am i lucky ??or what?? answer??
You could be very luck, but frankly I don't think you or anyone else could be that lucky.
Most likely one of you is infertile. Now that you are over 14 you can visit a gynecologist, which you should have been doing on a yearly basis since your period started, without parental permission or a parent being with you. This is your right specifically afford women under a law called HIPPA which is a federal law.
This law affords you total medical confidentiality. Meaning anything you say to your doctor stays with your doctor. Any exam and treatment rendered is confidential and cannot be discussed with anyone including your parents. Your doctor needs your written permission to discuss you medical condition with your parents when it comes to your reproductive health and much of the rest of your health issues as well.
The same is true for your boyfriend in visiting a urologist to check on his reproductive heath which is what I am advising both of you do. Most likely factor for a male is low sperm count. For a female there are a number of different factors most all of of them not life-threatening that can make conception difficult.
Only a GYN for you and a Urologist for him is the only way to find out who is the problem, if there is a problem. Now while your young is the time to find out so if there is a problem for either of you. If correction is possible it is easier on you while you are young.
Still using condoms during intercourse is always the best course for avoiding accidental pregnancy.
Both you and your boyfriend need to see doctors to find out for sure.
I got measured at the mall and they gave me a bra size too big. They told me I was a 36 DD and then someone else said I was a 34 C. MY bra's never feel right. Where can I get a good bra that fits?
Any good department store like Macy's or Lord and Taylor will have a fitter schedule in the lady's intimate apparel department. Call one of them and find out when the fitter will be there and if an appointment is needed.
Im 17 years old and i got arrested yesterday at walmart for stealing $280 worth of merchandise. This is my second time getting arrested (the first was for fighting at school) i was wondering what my punishment might be. I have to go to court on the 13th of febuary and i want to know what i should be expecting. I live in florida btw. Thanks !
It varies depending on several factors. Are you being charged as a juvenile or as an adult. At 17 it could go either way. You should have a lawyer. If you don't ask the court to appoint one as that is your right.
As a juvenile the most likely punishment would be restitution to the store and probation. Possibly some community service hours as well. Expect that WalMart will ask that you be banned from their stores.
As an adult restitution would also be sought by Walmart. You would also be banned from their stores. You would have this arrest on a permanent record that you would have to list on any job application as Larceny.
Jail time is possible but not likely. You fight in school is most likely a juvenile offense and if you are in adult court then probably not seen by the judge. So this would be a first not second offence. Probation or possibly probation before judgment if you get a good judge and lawyer. If you get PBJ and you have no further arrest during the PBJ period then you will not have this arrest help against you and not have to list this as a conviction or arrest on a job application as it is expunged at the end of the time period. Supervision during probation is possible as well as community service.
The laws vary from state to stat. Everything depends on your lawyer the judge and the court you appear in. Good luck and I hope this teaches you something.
I'm a sixteen year old girl, and, for the past three years, I have been dealing with unexplained memory loss and difficulty with facial recognition. This problem of mine began in 2009 when I started having difficulty visualizing events that I should be able to remember (like birthday parties and family trips). My parents didn't take me seriously, so I tried to ignore it. By mid-2010, however, all of my memories of everything prior to 2008 had vanished. At this point, I've learned to cope with it.. I just figured that, if I'm happy and successful today, my past isn't a big deal. It bothers me, though, because not only do I have to live in the constant fear of losing my memory again, but it also takes me anywhere from days to months to create a mental ties between faces and their corresponding names. I've tried to find an explanation for this for a while now, but everything I read said that my memory loss could be the result of a head injury or substance abuse, which doesn't make sense yet again because I've never taken drugs or alcohol in my life and I don't think I've ever had a head injury. Since I didn't seek medical help when I first noted these memory problems, I know that it's probably too late to try and retrieve my memories, but if anyone knows anything about this, I'd really like to be able to understand... :/
I am not a doctor and I can't make a diagnoses. What you have written concerns me as the cause could be life threatening and you need to see a doctor. If you don't have insurance that is not a problem. Go to the nearest hospital emergency room and explain to them just what you have told us.
There are three things that come to my mind that could be the cause of your problem.
1. You may have suffered a small stroke sometime in 2009.
2. You may have suffered some type of internal concussion, meaning your brain sloshed around in your head from a force like a car accident and may have caused a small undiagnosed bleed. (this happened to me in an auto accident causing memory loss)
3. This is the big one. You could have a small tumor.
Any of the 3 things I am thinking of are easily diagnosed with an MRI or CT scan. Because as I feel what your suffering could be life threatening a hospital must treat you regardless of whether you have insurance.
If you are unable to pay or your parents are unable to pay for your treatment there are programs to cover you hospital and medical bills. Children are especially covered by these programs.
By law at 16 years of age you do not need parental permission to seek medical treatment.
I do not mean to scare you with my uneducated guesses of what could be causing you memory problems. I could be very wrong with my guesses or very right. It doesn't matter. What matters is that I motivate you to see a doctor and get a definitive diagnoses.
Well hey everyone!(:
This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!
Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude!
I can tell from the ratings you have given others that you don't want to hear that you should not have sex with this guy.
Most of us don't care about ratings, we care more with telling the truth and the fact is this guy and most teenage boys all want the same thing; SEX
Teenage boys are hard wired from puberty to find sexual relief. Because of that they confuse lust and love. They will tell any girl anything she needs to hear if they think they can get her to sleep with him. The sex itself for you will be horrible. Why? Simple 14 year old boys have no idea about anything except getting relief.
Worse, teenage boys can't keep a secret. Once you have sex with a boy you may as well take an ad in the local paper. For he is going to tell his best friend who will tell someone else. Before you know it you will have a reputation around school as being easy. You'll be popular but for all the wrong reasons. If you don't give the others sex then you'll get another reputation as a tease. Both of these reputations are hard to live down and harder to to live with.
This is the truth. How do I know this. Well as hard as it is for kids to understand. We parents were once kids ourselves and nothing has changed since we were your age. Why do you think you dad is as strict as he may be with you about dating? Mainly because he remembers what he was like and he doesn't want any teenage boy being like that with his daughter.
At 14 you are way to young for full sexual intercourse. Try petting and maybe a handjob. Even handjobs are something that should be waited a few years for.
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I have pretty bad acne because I have an oily face. I know most of it is because of hormones and stuff but what are some tips that could help control acne? Thanks!
From what little you have written I am going to say that It is my feeling that over the counter ointments and creams will not give you the results you are want.
Your acne is most likely the result of your body's reaction to the hormones produced by puberty. This is a somewhat over simplification but it will do for know. Over the counter medications or home remedies will most likely not help and could do more harm.
The best thing you can do for acne problems such as you describe is to see a dermatologist. The cause for acne may be more than just oily skin. As I said it could be more a reaction, or triggered by hormones. With proper testing a doctor can find the cause and give you a proper treatment that hopefully results in clearing of the acne without leaving pock marks behind.
Dermatology treatments for acne is generally covered by Insurance which your parents may have through work. Your mom or dad can confirm this and find a doctor who accepts their insurance by calling the insurance companies customer service number on the back of their insurance card.
If you follow the doctors orders and do not get frustrated, as this takes time. In the end the results will be you will have great skin and hopefully no tell tale reminders of the acne left behind.
One of my teachers has cancer. She missed a lot of school and was struggling to get grades for our class. She took one worksheet and took it for 3 different grades, 2 daily and 1 test. I know I got 100 on it, but when I checked my grade, it showed a 95, 100, & 80. I was really mad because I know she just made up the grades to get them entered in time. I tried emailing her about it a few times because she gets pissed when I try to talk to her during class. She never changed my grade and it messed up my 6 weeks and my semester grade because of this and it screwed up my GPA. Is it wrong that I'm mad about this?
If you are ABSOLUTLY POSITIVE that your grades are wrong; then you have the right to appeal them. If your teacher does not want to listen to you there is a formal way for you to follow to further your quest.
Unless your teacher is the chairperson of that department then you you go to the department chairperson to appeal. The chairperson is her supervisor. If the teacher has done something you feel is wrong this is the proper person to appeal to. If you cannot see the chairperson or if you do not get satisfaction then.
The next person in this chain would be the School Principal or Vice-Principal. As Principal he or she is responsible for all of the teachers as well as all of the students. At this level it is a good idea to enlist the help of your parents. It is not the Principal won't listen to your problem. It is just at this level there are so many responsibilities and so many student problems to deal with. A problem such as your does not have the priority that it should have unless a parent is there to make the complaint.
It is wrong of any principal to prioritize in this manner. Unfortunately it is the squeaky wheels that get the attention and parents are squeaky wheels.
It is unfortunate that you teacher is ill with such a nasty illness. Please make sure you are correct in that your tests are not properly graded before you make any appeals. This is a nasty illness she is fighting and any more problems in her life right now can only compromise her recovery.
I'm female and 16, 5ft 10, 128kg. I'm vegetarian (if that changes anything.)
I never eat breakfast, an average lunch during school days would be a pita bread with cheese and a cup of tea or a yogurt, flapjack and bottle of water. Dinner varies, some things I tend to have are - always vegetables, potatoes, baked beans, egg, wheat free pasta, vegetable soups etc.
I exercise - Zumba classes ever Monday and swimming on Thursdays and Sundays.
My friend always tells me I'm far too skinny and don't eat enough. I use to be practically anorexic about two years back.
I said I couldn't finish the pasta dish I had at hers one time (it was wheat pasta which I'm not use to eating; I don't eat it at home as my mom is allergic to wheat.) and she had a massive go at me saying it's because my stomach has shrunk because I don't eat enough.
Should I eat more, or was she just over reacting?
Thanks for your quick response. I was concerned. to better answer your question you are a good weight for your height and weight. Just eat properly and like I said nothing wrong with being a vegetarian just make sure you have a balanced diet.
Have you put your weight down correctly? Being from the USA I had to convert kg into pounds. When I converted 128kg the result is 281.6 pounds. This would make you grossly over weight?
As for being a vegetarian. There is nothing wrong with being a vegetarian it is a very healthy way of life as long as you make sure to get the proper nutrition. This would include the proper amount of protein. Protein can be gotten from most cheeses, eggs, milk, soy and Tofu.
The best way to make sure you are getting the proper amount of nutrition is to visit with a nutritionist. Many heath foods store will have a nutritionist on staff who will help you with a proper diet.
I am a 13 year old guy and have a addiction to watching sex and I want to stop but can't how can I stop watching it
Your actually quite normal. You might be on the young side but the blame is all part of puberty. Try not to let be all you do.
i first felt i am different when i was about 7 years old. it was after watching a play in which transgender actors played the female parts.few years later i started using my sister's nail polish but i never crossdressed at that time. and when i was 12 i used to admire female breasts and always wanted to have breasts like them. by thetime i was 17 i discovered a lot about transgenderism through internet and i started crossdressing in secret. those days i always entertained the thought of running away from home and joining some transgender group. i still crossdress in secret and now i'm 23 years old. my penis is very small and i always want to have breasts. i always masturbate thinking of myself as female and i get really turn on wearing female clothes. i feel more comfortable in female clothes and make-up.i'm attracted to other transexuals. i want to express my feminine side fully. tell me what to do. do you think i should transiton from male to female. do you think i should take female hormones and come out in public as a transexual.
I don't have the answer as to whether you should or should not transgender. What I can say is if this is the direction you feel you wish to go; you can start the process which includes living as a women. This includes cross-dress in public, using the women's bathrooms and everything womanly. You can start estrogen therapy to grow breasts and stop beard growth.
You also need to start at least two years of psychiatric counseling. There is not a doctor in any country that I am aware of that will do transgender surgery without a psychiatrist signing off on the surgery.
There are many transgender people who for reasons of cost and others never have the surgery. If it is your desire to one day fully transgender then the process to follow is very much like the one I have outlined. The process is this way to make sure this is what you want and not a whim as once it is done you can't go back.
Im a pastor and I have been married 19years but I started an emotional relationship as well as a sexual relationship with a young lady that I have been knowing quite somtime shes younger shes a member of my church and she has bee so supportive of my ministry and I feel as if I need 2 make a decision because I would 2 be with this younglady I ask my wife was she happy and she didnt answer me me and my wife dont even have sex Im still in the marriage for my kids but the affair has been going on for a year next month I just really see this younglady not being apart of my life I depend on her so much.help me! Im a 42 yr.old male
I find it a little odd that you did not include the younger lady's age or at least how much younger she is than you.
Be that as it may. You have a lot more at stake here then just your marriage. I would say your life's work is also at risk as a Pastor. How would the Ministry look upon you if you were to divorce your wife. Will this effect your standing within the Ministry?
I do agree with what Zane said which is no one should be forced to stay in a loveless marriage just for the sake of the children or anyone else for that matter. As far as the children are concerned I'm sure you are well aware children are far more aware of their parents marital situation then we give them credit for.
I don't think it is mine or anyone else's place to tell you what to do. In fact I believe you know what to do. My advice to you is to step back for a moment and ask yourself what advice would you give a parishioner who came to you with just such a problem? Then follow your own advise.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about six months. He and I have a very stable relationship, full of happiness and trust and good chemistry. He is my best friend and I couldn't ask for anything more.
We have sex about every week.
Today, we were babysitting, and we were just chilling, watching movies and taking naps. We babysat from 12 until 8, and then the baby went to sleep. My mother came home and said, "You and Josh (my boyfriend) better not be doing anything bad when you're home all alone." I just stared at my computer. "I'm going to set up an appointment for the gynecologist." I could feel my face turn red with embarrassment and shame. I was about to cry but I bit my lip and turned up my music. She said that she wanted to check my health and such, but I know it is for more reasons than that. The first time I had sex two years ago, she found out, and she blew her top. She took me to therapy and labeled me as a slut, took my phone and internet away for four months. She took a long time to trust me again.
I am so upset right now. I feel so ashamed. But at the same time, I am old enough to be responsible about sex. I stay protected and I never take chances. I'm never forced to do anything I don't want to do by my boyfriend, I always do these things by choice. Do you agree with me? I am very mature and I think it's wrong to punish me for doing a natural, human thing. As long as I'm responsible, it doesn't matter. I've only had sex once before my boyfriend, but it was only a decision I regret. My boyfriend and I have sex often, but we don't do much besides foreplay, but it's never pressured.
I am scared as hell. She's going to beat the living shit out of me if she finds out. I've never been to a gynecologist before, and I am terrified that somehow the doctor will have a way to know if I have had sex or not. I am so upset right now, I am crying as I am typing this. She'll try to take me away from my boyfriend and she will never have trust in me ever again. I'm torn apart, but I think it is unfair. I need help. Please answer respectfully, I don't want any lectures about my activities, this is my life.
I just want to be informed about gynecologist appointments, what they do, if they could tell if I've had sex or not, and what I should do about my mother and my predicament. Many thanks.
First: For all the wrong reasons your mother is doing the right thing by taking you to a gynecologist. Once a women starts getting her period she needs to see a gynecologist on a yearly basis as part of her yearly physical.
Second: Mom is really going to hate this but; if you're over 14 mom cannot be told anything about you sexual health without your written consent to the doctor. Do not allow her to bully you into signing anything that forces you to give her knowledge of anything that happens between you and the doctor. Mom is also barred from being in the exam room with you and the doctor.
This is your right under a Federal Law called HIPPA; which stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. It specifically states in the law that children over 14, specifically females, have medical confidentiality when it comes to examination and treatment of their reproductive organs. The law was written so that you can speak to your doctor openly about anything that is bothering you and answer the doctors questions truthfully and fully. This allows for proper treatment of anything that may be bothering you.
When you check in for your visit tell the receptionist that you want to see the doctor in private. The nurses will handle your mother. When your mom inquires of the doctor, the doctor will inform your mother that your visit and any treatment is confidential and it is up to you to tell her what went on. You can simply tell her that the doctor examined you and if you like treated you for a problem you've been having with your periods. This would explain any birth control medication.
If you want birth control pills this would be the time to ask for them. The doctor will discuss with you different options you have then write you a prescription.
The HIPPA Law covers you at your family doctor as well up to the point of any life threatening illness that by law your parents would have to make a decision about. Actually HIPPA effects any medical practitioner including Firefighters, Paramedics and EMTs.
If you were in an accident by law Hospital personnel could not tell anyone you were there without your permission. It would be a good idea to keep a note in your purse to the effect that in the event of an accident notify these people.
As to whether the doctor can tell if you have had sex or not. Under the law I have explained it becomes immaterial. But unless there is seminal fluid in your vagina. It would be hard for the doctor to know anything other than you might not be a virgin because of a missing Hymen.
So let mom take you to the doctor. You need to see this specialist anyway. All she will learn is that you are a young lady who's reproductive health is by law her own business and mom should keep her nose out of your pants so to speak.
Now as a parent I have to add. This does not give you licence to go out and have indiscriminate sex. A responsible sex life is just as important as anything else you do in life. So be mature as you say you are and wait until the time is right to have a complete sex life.
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Theres this guy in my class whos been bullying me and harrassing me and I just can't take it anymore. Today he just went to far, he slapped my books out of my hands,kicked me twice, and told me i'm a b****. I hate what he puts me thruogh and i'm scared. What should I do. Please help me.
Of the three other answers before me Zanes is the most correct. You tell a teacher or the school principal and your parents.
Bulling is a zero tolerance offence in schools today. You DO NOT HAVE TO FEAR TELLING ANY TEACHER OR THE PRINCIPAL. Once you or after you inform your parents inform the principal what is happening to you; the principal must take positive action to see to it that this stops. If the boy was to retaliate out of school it becomes a police matter as well. Something the principal will inform his parents of as well. If his parent are good people they will take him in hand.
Your parents also have the option of calling the police and making this a police matter as well as a school matter. This is entirely up to them. By slapping at you and kicking you he has assaulted you. He may be a juvenile but he has broken the law, in so doing and if your parents want, can have him face a juvenile master or judge.
You have a right to be in school and to be safe in school. He has no right to harass or assault you. Tell your parent tonight. Let them decide if this is a matter they will trust the school to handle or if they want to make this a police matter as well.
Trust me when I say as a parent your safety is of our upper most concern. Telling your parents is the right thing to do.
One last thing. Where I live many of the middle and High Schools have a Police Liaison Officer assigned to the School. One of this officers jobs is to protect children from bully's. There is no reason you can't go up to this officer and tell him/or her what is happening to you and how this boy is.
Had a c- section, how long will the staples be in?
That question is in general one that is left up to your doctor. In general the norm is 7 to 10 days.
Your doctor will examine you incision on your next visit and decide what if any of the staples would be removed. Any remaining stables would be removed at the your next visit which the doctor would plan for before you leave the office.
Hope this helps ease you mind. Staples and stitches can be uncomfortable but hang in their. Just keep looking at and enjoying the bundle of joy they came into your world because of them.
are there any sex pills that i can drink? I really dont have any energy for sex and I hardly feel anything when i have sex with my boyfriend. I get bored by it. I need pill that could give me the right energy and could turn me on. can you please tell me of any sex pills out there that I could get in the pharmacy.I would highly appreciate it. thanks in advance :)
Unfortunately there are no little pills on the market that actually increase you sex drive or sexual feelings.
There are a number of reasons why you could feel as you do. One could be your boyfriend is not aware of what he needs to do to turn you on better. This is quite common. While all males are built the same and all women are built the same; we are not all the same in our enjoyment of things and this very much includes sex.
You must first know what turns you on. Many women are more clitoral than vaginal. So in foreplay a guy who constantly stimulates your vagina and ignores your clit will not turn you on very much. The same goes for your breasts and nipples. Maybe just sucking on them is not enough stimulation for you. This goes for other parts of your body as well.
The same goes for a guy. Just because he comes does not mean he got a lot of enjoyment from the sex. If you give him a handjob most boys will eventually cum. Stick your finger upon his butt hole and massage his prostrate gland and he will cum without any stimulation to his penis.
What is the answer to this; communication. If you are having any type of long term relations you need to communicate to one another what you like and what you don't like. Otherwise sex just become a mechanical act as you described in your question.
If this is not the problem and you two are communicating and educating each other on your sexual needs and desires. Then I suggest you discuss this with your GYN. If you are on birth control the medication in the birth control may be the culprit or it could be something else. Talking to and being open with your doctor is the only way you will know.
In the event you are under 18 but over 14. Anything you tell your doctor by law remains with the doctor. For questions regarding your sexual health Federal Law gives you total Medical Confidentiality under a Law known as HIPPA. Without your written permission your parents or anyone else cannot know what you tell your doctor or what you are being treated for. Neither can your mother insist on being in the exam room with you during you visit to the doctor. All you need do is ask the doctor fir privacy and they will ask your mom to wait in the waiting room.
how do i tell my Dad i need therapy?
This is a question I would have liked to have had a little more information . The question itself says you may have some problems speaking with your dad.
So on the assumption that talking with dad is part of your problem: Then one suggestion would be to talk with a trusted teacher or school guidance counselor. In talking to either be sure to tell them what is bothering you. If you are felling depressed or stressed out tell them and why you feel this way. If you are having a hard time telling your dad that you need help. Tell this to them as well and ask for their help in asking your dad to get you some therapy help.
I'm also assuming that mom is not in the picture and you live just with your dad. Is there not a favorite Aunt, Uncle or grandparent you might talk to as well who might speak with you dad for you.
One thing you should know about us parents. No matter how old we get; no matter how many children of our own we have. When it comes to our own parents we still listen to what they tell us and most generally do as they tell us to do. It is ingrained in all of us to do so. If dads parents are still with you, even if they are not close to you in distance, but close to you as grandparents. Speak to them and ask them to talk to your dad.
If none of the above is an option then what I suggest you do is is ask dad if he will sit down with you as you need to talk with him. Ask him to hear you out completely before he responds as this is very important to you.
Before you ask dad to talk to you sit down and rehearse what you want to speak to him about. Write it down if you think that will help. Make sure you get everything you need to tell him out as calmly as you can in the briefest possible way. Rehearse this several times so you are calm when talking to him. Make a bullet point list have this with you as this will help you make sure you cover everything. Then ask dad to talk with you.
Try to remain calm. I know this is important to you. If you start to cry or yell at your dad you will defeat your purpose in talking to him; especially if he is hard for you to talk to.
Write back, in a private message, and let me know how you made out. If you give me more information on what is bothering you I may be able to give you other ways to get the help you want.
I5/f. I'm a virgin and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i have no idea.
I'm going to make it 3 out of 3. Your to young to be having sex. Yes your physical appearance makes you appear ready for see. You are capable of getting pregnant if you have sex. What is not truly ready is your sexual organs or your maturity.
Your boyfriend wants ex because as a boy going through puberty two things are at play with him. First and foremost is the need to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty. Second because of this need a teenage boy very and most often confuses lust and love. In fact to him they are synonymous.
Physically if he can get an erection and ejaculate he can have sex and get a female pregnant. Though he to is not mature enough for sex. For the female she can have sex at your age but it will be more pain full as she is till maturing physically.
At 15 neither of you have the mental maturity to fully understand the reality of adult sex. That is evident in your question. So tell him you not ready for sexual intercourse. If he says no sex no me let him go. He was just using you and lot really a boyfriend.
i'm a teenage girl and i'm looking for an someone besides a therapist that can help me with my emotional problems that are caused by my family. ive only trusted my best friend with this but when i ask her how i can get help or make a change she has no idea or just wait till u move out(thats years away!!!!!!). my family has a lot of secrets, they don't treat me very well, and they don't consider my feelings or how their actions affect me. i have no trust left for anyone, but if theres no other way i will try a therapist; ive gone before and they only made things worse. at school, while playing my instrument, and in general i have stress blocks that limit me a lot, increasing my frustration; i feel like attacking people but i never do.(i don't have anger issues). is there another way to ease the pain? i'm at my breaking point!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with Zane though I will add the following.
Having been in therapy myself I have been in your situation. Not all therapists are alike. There are different methods of psychology and different treatments. Sometimes patients and their therapists just don't work well together. This was my problem and may be your problem.
I went through 3 therapist before I found my 4th therapist. She and I hit it of right away and she was and still is a great help to me. The most important thing about therapy is trust.
You have to trust your therapist. If your are over 14 whatever is said in therapy stays in therapy. Nothing you say can be told to anyone, not even your parents without your written permission. This is the law under a federal law known as HIPPA.
It is this confidentiality and trust between you and your therapist that makes therapy work. If you cannot be totally open and tell your therapist what is hurting you. Then therapy is not going to help. If you do not trust your therapist if you are not comfortable talking to your therapist ask your therapist to find you someone else.
Any good therapist will do this for you as it is the most important thing about therapy, to have trust in your therapist. It matters not that you are young. Just say I believe I need someone else to talk to, maybe some one older or younger. If your female maybe you want a female therapist if your seeing a male therapist. If so, say that.
Remember therapy is all about you; making you feel better and more comfortable. If you are not open and honest with the doctors and therapists then this won't happen. So stand up for yourself and tell them what you need to make this work for you. You will not get in any trouble for doing so.