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parents and therapy
how do i tell my Dad i need therapy?
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This is a question I would have liked to have had a little more information . The question itself says you may have some problems speaking with your dad.
So on the assumption that talking with dad is part of your problem: Then one suggestion would be to talk with a trusted teacher or school guidance counselor. In talking to either be sure to tell them what is bothering you. If you are felling depressed or stressed out tell them and why you feel this way. If you are having a hard time telling your dad that you need help. Tell this to them as well and ask for their help in asking your dad to get you some therapy help.
I'm also assuming that mom is not in the picture and you live just with your dad. Is there not a favorite Aunt, Uncle or grandparent you might talk to as well who might speak with you dad for you.
One thing you should know about us parents. No matter how old we get; no matter how many children of our own we have. When it comes to our own parents we still listen to what they tell us and most generally do as they tell us to do. It is ingrained in all of us to do so. If dads parents are still with you, even if they are not close to you in distance, but close to you as grandparents. Speak to them and ask them to talk to your dad.
If none of the above is an option then what I suggest you do is is ask dad if he will sit down with you as you need to talk with him. Ask him to hear you out completely before he responds as this is very important to you.
Before you ask dad to talk to you sit down and rehearse what you want to speak to him about. Write it down if you think that will help. Make sure you get everything you need to tell him out as calmly as you can in the briefest possible way. Rehearse this several times so you are calm when talking to him. Make a bullet point list have this with you as this will help you make sure you cover everything. Then ask dad to talk with you.
Try to remain calm. I know this is important to you. If you start to cry or yell at your dad you will defeat your purpose in talking to him; especially if he is hard for you to talk to.
Write back, in a private message, and let me know how you made out. If you give me more information on what is bothering you I may be able to give you other ways to get the help you want.
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Im sure this is going to be very hard for you but you cant keep your feelings bottled up. If you feel like your not comfortable enough with your dad to talk about something that's on your mind and you want a therapist then you can most deffinately get one, but you need to talk to your dad first and let him know whats going on because it may be a problem your dad can solve,weather you believe it or not. A couple months ago I was going through the toughest time in my life, I was always crying and I wanted a theripist, i bottled my feelings up and my parents were left clueless and i wouldnt talk to them. But as soon as I did it was like weight lifted off my shoulders. If its not a problem your dad can help you with, then he can help you find someone that can. Be honest about everything though, cry if you need to, just pour your emotions out.
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