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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
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:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I am 13, female. I have a female art teacher who I have a crush on. No one but me knows yet. Since it is almost at the end of the school year (week and a half untill last day), I wanted to send an email or note or something similar to her after school was out and tell what I feel about her. My question is this: Should I send her the email or not?
Ignore the first columnist that replied to this. She is apparently very rude and provicial.
I have nothing agaisnt LBGT and I'm not saying that you are. You're at an age where people are going through emotional confusion and this happens to be one. You probably don't want to do this because it's going to create awkward tension and this phase most of the time will pass soon.
I think you should just wait it out and write it out and keep it to yourself and just really, really close friends you can rely on. If you do e-mail her, you're going to create very awkward tension between you and her and I'm sure you don't want that. I'm sorry if I sound like I'm against your feelings but--trust me, I'm not.
If you want to talk about it, my contact info is on my page =)
14/f well just yesterday my bf dumped me..this is how it went. We were online and lately he hasnt been talking to me and seemed really quiet.i asked him if he still loved me. hes like ive cheated on you since last saturday.i was like but do u love me and hes like of course not i cheated on you, you stupid little ass bitch and just left..but there is more to the story.a while back him and his friend raped me while we were going out..sucks i know..) :
heartbroken girl...
ps i have AIM if some one wants to help me get through the break up and help me out.cuz man im still messed up from being raped.thanks bunchies
He and his friend raped you and he cheated on you. Obviuosly this guy doesn't care/love you or respect you. You need to report to the counselor that this guy and his friend raped you. You can't let this just pass by. Put aside your feelings and report him.
I'm almost always online so IM me
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My other contact info are on my page.
So last night me and my boyfriend were messing around, he fingered me then I gave him a handjob, the normal stuff. but then he wanted to try somthing different and asked if i trusted him. i told him yes and he started rubbing his dick on my vagina. He didnt cum yet so I really hope I cant get pregnant from this. He didnt even go inside of me. I asked him about it and he told me that precum cant get you pregnant. That is true isnt it?
To tell you the truth, dearest, precum has more sperms on there than the actual "cum" There's a chance that a sperm could've made its way into your vagina so just make sure and get a pregnancy test done --once every week for a month.
There is this guy named Evan, and he has a gf. But im head over heels over him. Evan promised me that when he brakes up with is gf he'll go out with me. But that makes me feel like im 2nd place,like im less important. I dont know wht to do, i really like him. Please give me some advice.
Um, you sound like you're expecting to be 1st place in his life---he has a girlfriend. Get the point? You can't be 1st place--he has a girlfriend and that means he's off limits. Cool off from him and go meet new guys
Also, if he says he's going to go out with you after he dumps his gf, he's not that good of a guy. Plus, he's going to be on rebound and it's not going to work out. Don't let this guy hurt you and move on because there are great guys out there.
14/f. Sorry if this is a bit long. I have a group of 5 friends; we sit together at lunch, hang out on weekends, blah blah. Now, theres this girl, 'Jill', who thinks she is the 6th member of our group. We'd be happy to be friends with her, but shes so freaking annoying. She's immature, always copies us, invites herself places.. One time she just showed up at the mall when she heard about it, even though we didn't invite her at all.
The 5 of us try to ignore her, hoping she'll get the message, yet she still sits with us, walks with us, etc. The only problem is, I feel really bad. I think she knows that she is always being excluded in our plans, and she's obviously really upset. She has no other friends besides us.
The question is, should we keep being friends with her? I don't think it's fair to let Jill think her friends are us, when really all we do is talk about her meanly behind her back with eachother. Or should we just be nice and let her sit with us and stuff? She's SO annoying.
Hmmm, well I suggest you introduce her to a new group of friends and dump her on them...
I'm just really scared right now. My dad has
just got finished with hitting me over and
over again and he took a plastic hanger and
just keep whacking me with it on my toes. And
that kills! I kept trying to run away but I
was too in shock to move out of his reach and
my sister doesn't think anything of it because
he does it a lot so she thinks that's what your
supposed to do. After watching my dad hit me,
my sister frequently elbows me or punches me in
the stomach if we play hide and seek and she loses.
My parents buy my sister everything and play games
with her and treat her well but they treat me
like I'm a piece of crap. They call me "a piece
of shit" and "a waste of space." And they threatened
to send me to a shrink and never let me see my
family again. My relatives gossip to everyone if
I tell them my dad hit me and they don't believe
me so I can't tell them. I will NEVER tell my
friends because even though I love them dearly,
I couldn't trust them with that. Also, I hate my
guidance counselor and I just can't tell him. After
my dad hit me I had my hand on the phone and I
was just about to dial 911 but I got scared and
stopped. I did it once before but my parents
denied everything. Once I was on vacation and
my parents were verbally abusing me and this
lady heard and called the police but my parents
denied everything. Sometimes I give my parents
a reason to hit me like if we are in a fight
but I don't know I'm really scared to come out
of my room right now. I need all the advice I
can get and if you believe I should call a number
and tell them what's going on who do I call?
I want a professional. But if they take me away
from the parents, where will I live? I really
don't want to live with strangers in an
orphanage! Would they put me at a friend's
or relatives house? I'm just really scared and
I don't really want to leave my parents. But they
can be abusive and I don't know how much longer
I can put up with it! Help!!!!!
Sorry this is soo long.
www.safeyouth.org
Go there--you should be able contact them for free or send them an e-mail. If they take you out of the house, they'll most likely place you in a relative's house. You should definitely get out of there as soon as possible and none of this is your fault, okay? Hope everything works out =)
My friend got her belly button peirced and she's been sending out messages on myspace asking if it's infected. You tell me, is it?
I am scared that my belly ring is going to get infected. OMFG, I hope its normal when it gets puffy and red and crusts...I accidentally bumped it...so IDK, I am still scared, I want to keep it looking good, any tips?
~Sara~
okay my belly is still red around the top of the bulb..last night when I was cleaning it out. A little ooze came out. I am scared. I clean it constantly, and I have to use bactine for now, which is the cleaning solution. IDK what to do, I don’t want it to be infected...
and advice??
~Sara~
Belly button piercings have high chances of getting infected. Especially if it wasn't done professionally under sterile conditions. Even then, there is a high chance of it getting infected.
It's going to have puss [ooze in this instance. It's a combination of dead skin and dead skin cells] come out of it for a long while. It should be swollen and a little red for a while but it should definitely disappear after a week or two.
Should she experience excessive swelling, prolonged redness, throbbing pain or sensations of heat in the pierced area, she should seek immediate medical attention. She should wear loose clothing and stay inactive for a while.
She should clean it at the most twice a day with a salt water solution. She needs to put in just the right amoutn b/c putting in too much salt will actually stop the healing process. Anyways, she should mix water and salt in a cup and flip it upside down on her belly so it's soaked in salt water. DO NOT GO TO THE BEACH -- IT WILL GET INFECTED.
what foods make you poop more and what foods help you lose weight? also does running make you lose weight?
Eat vegetables
No foods make you lose weight but certain fatty foods will make you gain weight
Running will help you lose fat--then it will start to help you gain muscle and get toned.
Im 16/f. And I weigh 47 kg. (103 pounds if I've converted that right.) Is this normal for my age??
It would help to know your height.
If you're 5'0"--100 and add five for each inch.
Like if you're 5'5", you should be 125 pounds.
You sound a little underweight, though. Unless you're short and are involved in many sports.
Go to google, type in BMI online calculator, click a link and do your bmi.
friday morning when i was getting ready for school i put on blush and my dad saw me and was like r u wearing blush? and i said yes, and he told me he didn't wanna see me wear it anymore because i'm too young, (and i'm 13!) and he said that it gives you cancer! i was thinking wtf, but is this true?
It's not true but I see why he doesn't want you wearing make up. Right now is the time where your natural skin is perfectly beautiful and it's still growning and etc. But it you start wearing make up now, you're going to break out, enlargen your pores, and cause nasty wrinkles. And by the time when you're 20, when you're out on the look out for cute guys, you're going to be forced to wear make up to cover up those wrinkles. That doesn't soundl ike much fun, now does it?
maybe about a month ago, my stupid hair cutter cut my hair two inches off more then i wanted. I suppose i wasn't clear enough on what i wanted or something. Anyways, so now my hair is just above my shoulders. Is there any type of food that will make my hair grow faster? && I heard bread crust will make it grow, is that true? Thanks :]
Haha, I don't know if that's true or if this is true: onions and scallions. Haha, I don't know. just take good care of your hair and you should be fine...
can a girl get pregnant from dry humping?
if he is naked and shes only wearing underwear? :/
Perhaps if his sperms somehow make it through your underwear and to your vagina without dying.
But I'd say not to take any chacnes and wear a concom.
i do 70 crunches every night since february and i havent seen any change? what am i doing wrong or what can i do better and whats wrong with me? im not over-eating either. thanks
You can't expect to be flat out thin by doing only crunches. You need to eat healthy and also do other exercises.
You need to run, do crunches/curl ups, push ups, etc. Doing only that won't give you much results. Crunches aren't usually to lose fat--it's mostly to tone your abs.
just wondering is it possible to get an std if you have never been sexually active? and if so how
btw im 13/f
thanks
If you have never been sexually active, not that possible. You can get it from kissing or from being in physical contact but it's pretty unlikely.
13. my bestfriend was abused im many ways. her mom was a drug addict. her mom gave her drugs through shots and made her smoke and used many different drugs on her. her and her 2 sisters. my friend stopped growing but got on so many medicines and started again this year. she has 2 skin diseases and extremely deep smokers cough. her mom left her alone in a different state when she was in kindergarten. later her mom went to jail. her and her sisters went to her aunts. all this happened when she was 4 till 10. shes now in depression and hides everything and all she does is screams yells and stares. she still cant get over it she had no idea it was bad. now shes paranoid of drugs or even smoking or alcohaul anything like that she was abused with. now were doing d.a.r.e to resist drugs its a daily year round thing. and she has to do it and she doesnt say a word the whole time or just actually cries she never crys. i feel so bad for her. she got a restraining order on her mom and her mom is in jail till the end. her mom also had mental problems/ alot of people are doing drugs and everything already and when she sees someone she tries to kill them or atleast punch them to the ground. she is normal other than depression and being paranoid of drugs and stuff. how do i get her to leave others alone SHE SHOULDNT TRY TO KILL PEOPLE. how do i stop her how do i help her a therepist didnt work. i fell soo bad for her ill do anything for her. she cant get over it i know itll be hard. i need help to help her. HOW!
That's a horrible thing she had to go through. No human being should be allowed to go through all that shit. What I'll tell you now is that drugs are very addictive alone with smoking and alcohol.
I have a friend that is trying to get sober from drugs and alcohol and smoking. She was sexually abused by her dad as a child and she was raped by her neighbor once when she was eight. All I can tell you to do for her is to let her know that you're there for her and that you'll always be there to help her and listen to her in confidentiality. Let her know that you'll never judge her and that you always be grateful that she's your friend. Let her know that she's an important person to you and that it hurts you to see her like this. Tell her that you may not know shit about what she's going through but you know that you want her to be happy and safe. Make her a bracelet and tell her that whenever she has the urge to do something unhealthy, she should hold onto the bracelet and think of you and not harm herself.--if not for her, for you.
Although she may hate you for doing this, you should go to her guardian and talk to them about this. You can't handle this by yourself and you need an adult involved. Ask them to help her get a new therapist and what not. In the long run, I'm sure you'd rather have her alive than dead. It's better to lose a friendship than a friend.
If you want more help, go to this site: http://www.safeyouth.org/scripts/index.asp
Good luck and best wishes for your friend and you.
I just wanted to know if you had sex for 5mins and your cherry wasnt popped can you get pregant and does that still make you a virgin sine it wasnt popped
You need to know this: The guy does NOT have to come inside of you to get you pregnant. Just a little bit of his pre ejeculation can get you pregnant. It doesn't matter how short the sex was or if he came in you--you're going to be pregnant unless you used a contraceptive [protection like condoms, birth controls, patches, etc].
And your "cherry" is your hymen. Some girls have it, some don't. It can be broken from sports like horseback riding, swmming, etc. It doesn't matter if it's broken or not. If you have sex, you're no longer a virgin.
So when I was 13 in the summer at a wedding reception, I ended up chugging about 2 glasses of red wine (and some champagne) and well after a little while I remember feeling severely depressed (I have depression, but it was unlike anything else) and I was running into the bathroom every 2 seconds because i was about to cry.
That night after it I couldn't stop crying from midnight-3 am, and i was shaking and breathing really fast and i really was so suicidal i was honestly about to do it right then and there. It was so weird.
Was this just the effects of the red wine that i was feeling? Because it seems like that wasn't enough alcohol to actually feel the effects of it.
Also- I used to drink about 3 sips of red wine a day for about a week- and I would always get hangovers every morning so I'd have to go and drink some then... But why was i getting hangovers from just 3 sips?
Alcohol has different effects on everyone.
Some factors include how much they drink, how fast they drink, how much they weight, what their gender is, if they have eaten before, if the use of other drugs is involved, how they feel, how old they are, etc.
Alcohol is basically a drug in beverages and red wine has alcohol in it. Alcohol acts as a depressant and it also distorts and slows your reaction and thinking.
Since you're not that old and you're a girl and you have depression, the effects of alcohol will be much more strong on you than it would be on a grown adult. And if it's in your genes for you to not be able to handle alcohol well, that could be why. I know that my mom can't drink alcohol at all or she'll get a nasty hangover and be sick for at least a week.
You should stay away from alcohol since you're underaged, you have depression, and alcohol overall is very bad for you.
I have a friend who's a guy. We've been friends since 3rd grade and I care about him very much. Although lately these feelings have escalated into love. I really want to be with him but I know he doesn't want to be with me. He might go out with me just to make me happy, but I know in my heart that he wouldn't be happy. I don't know what to do.
Ha, same situation except bump the 3rd grade to 6th grade. Anywhos, I know how you feel. It's like you want to go out with him but you don't want to ruint he friendship/have him go out with you just to make you happy.
Well, you can definitely just straight out tell him something along the lines of:
"I hate keeping things from you so here goes: I really like you and care about you but I know you don't feel the same way. But I don't want to ruin the friendship or have you go out with me just to make me happy" blah blah blah.
Try to hang out with different guys and see that there are a whole lot more guys to choose from than just him. I'm sure you'll find pretty awesome guys out there.
Don't tell him and just move on...although this is a pretty bad option.
Anyways, my contact info is on my page so if you want more advice, I'm here to help =) Good luck!
soo i really like to get sexualy active so i love to make out..but i just got braces.. does this change anything? and 2nd.. what is a dry hump and how do you do it. thank you soo much xxxooo
Braces will probably get in the way but you'll get used to it. But it will be uncomfortable and awkward.
Dry humping is basically when you and your partner rub against each other with clothes on. It's like sex with the clothes =P
I would like to loose 15 pounds before my graduation, if i only drink water and don't eat anything will it make me loose wait or just make me gain it?
That is called fasting, dear. Fasting is not a good thing to do...your body needs fuel and energy just sleep--it can't run on water.
Eventually, you'll lost some weight but it will stop and you'll gain it all back because
1)Your body will start storing fat because it wants to prepare itself because it's not getting any food.
2)You'll end up eating large amounts of food soon.
Don't cut yourself off from food and starve yourself. You'll get nonstop headaches, dizziness, nausea, and you'll pass out.
Eat healthy foods and exercise. That is the best way to lose weight.