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Annoying "friend".

Question Posted Sunday May 13 2007, 12:18 pm

14/f. Sorry if this is a bit long. I have a group of 5 friends; we sit together at lunch, hang out on weekends, blah blah. Now, theres this girl, 'Jill', who thinks she is the 6th member of our group. We'd be happy to be friends with her, but shes so freaking annoying. She's immature, always copies us, invites herself places.. One time she just showed up at the mall when she heard about it, even though we didn't invite her at all.

The 5 of us try to ignore her, hoping she'll get the message, yet she still sits with us, walks with us, etc. The only problem is, I feel really bad. I think she knows that she is always being excluded in our plans, and she's obviously really upset. She has no other friends besides us.

The question is, should we keep being friends with her? I don't think it's fair to let Jill think her friends are us, when really all we do is talk about her meanly behind her back with eachother. Or should we just be nice and let her sit with us and stuff? She's SO annoying.

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Lorrena answered Sunday May 13 2007, 3:45 pm:
HI, DO NOT BE FREINDS WITH HER. Jill is a tag along to you and your 5 mates. Why should you and you mates be nice to her, when all she does is annoy you, JIll needs to get some new freinds, because clearly you and your mates are not proper mates to her. Jill does see you lot being mean to her, but she chooses to ignore it, as she hasn't got any more freinds. But when she does make new freinds she will leave you and your freinds behind, all she is doing is using you, until she makes some proper mates! My advice to you to is to DITCH HER!!!!
hope i helped xx

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halloweenhusky answered Sunday May 13 2007, 1:34 pm:
I had a problem like that a few months ago at school. I just ignored the person, and she eventually found other friends.

Jill wil find other friends. If you dont like her, dont hang out with her.

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Teza answered Sunday May 13 2007, 1:10 pm:
If you guys don't want to be friends with Jill, tell her the truth. It's not fair for you or her. Tell her that she's annoying and that you guys don't want to be friends with her. Yeah that's rude but you need to be honest with her instead of saying all of those things behind her back. Ignoring her won't make her get the message. Do you want to be friends with her and be fake? You guys don't seem to like her so why be friends with her just because she has no other friends. So, like I said.. talk to her and tell her the truth. Maybe she doesn't notice that she's being annoying.

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ammo answered Sunday May 13 2007, 1:05 pm:
Maybe you should talk to her? If she follows you all around and does what you all do and everything then obviously she seems to maybe look up to you all? As you said you lot are probably the only friends she has as far as friends go, at least for her.

I'm guessing since you're all in the group together maybe if you suggested the rest atleast try and get along with her it might all work out. No harm in trying? :] If there's something that she does which annoys you all then by all means tell her but make sure she knows that what she's doing is something people may find annoying.

I dunno, it really is up to you all what you want to do I just don't see it as a nice thing to do to dump her onto someone else. Sure she's annoying and such but since she doesn't have any friends I guess all she's trying to do is fit in with you 5, she's probably just trying a little too hard to fit in. When she can actually be herself and not this annoying person that's trying to fit in she may not be all that bad a person at all.

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ductape_n_roses answered Sunday May 13 2007, 12:54 pm:
Hmmm, well I suggest you introduce her to a new group of friends and dump her on them...

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