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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

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OMG i invited 8 people to my birthday party. It's at Roseland Water Park...And only 3 people could come! the same thing happened last year. but out of 5 only 1 person came, so i invited her brother (he's also goof friends with me...)
WTFREAK is wrong with me? This always seems to happen...

IM me at WordsOfLove13 if you want to I guess...

Hey anonymous advice seeker! Theres nothing wrong with you. People are busy during the summer. Unfortunately, this week I am very busy and veryone wants to hang out with me. Your friends still love you and want you to have a happy birthday. Its nothing personal against you. It's just that people have things that they can't get out of. I know you feel bad, but your friends don't hate you! We love yah anna!

Happy B-day!

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Hey,
Im a 14/m and i babysit. Im NOT gay!!! i have a gf (were pretty steady) and everything. But babysitting is fun bc i like to b with lil kids and im getting payd 4 it. its easy money. Do the parnets whos kid im babysitting think im gay? bc ive gotten a lot of ppl who think im gay.

Its not bad to babysit. You're a sweet guy, who cares about people, unlike most guys. Just ignore the people who think you are gay. They are dumb ignorant hypocrites. And No! The parents of the kids you babysit don't think youre gay. This is the 21st century. Boys can babysit.

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does any one know some good classic rock songs?

Well there is my favorite band, Guns N Roses, I think they would be considered Classic Rock. My favorite song by Guns N roses is Sweet Child O mine & Sympathy for the devil. Then of course anything by Jimi Hendrix. Queen is a good one too, but don't just think of "We will rock you." They have Alot of good songs. Also try looking up Poison and Iron Maiden. Kind of more heavy metal though.

rock on,
--johanna

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OK...sometimes i just hate my family soo much....every single thing i do (even if its the right thing or im not doing anything) is bad....i ahte it i mean right now my sister is crying (she older than me) because i wouldn't let her be a character in a video game because i was already that character...i mean big whoop....i dont kno wut to do....plz help...i rate high unless you give me answers like "i dont kno" or "y would i care"...:-P

Sometimes I feel like my family can be annoying too, but I try not to be so harsh on them because I know they love me and I love them back. You have to remember, your parents brought you into this world, and your siblings were there along the way to help you through. Try not to be so harsh on your family or your sisters overly-sensitivity. When you think you are going to say soemthing you might regret to them, take a deep breath and remember how much they care about you. And as far as your sister goes, tell her that you enjoy being around her but you need your own space sometimes too. :) Hope I helped!!

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I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until im 14 or 15. is this fair? why?

I know exactly what you mean. I am much older than eleven, and I am not allowed to date until I am 15. I try to understand what my parents mean by this. They don't want me to fall into the wrong crowd or feel pushed into things I don't want to do. I always feel very left out from everyone else, and I don't think it is fair. But now ask yourself, is Life fair? No, not usually. I personally think its up to the person to decide when they are mature enough to date. But I think that kids who are 10 or 11, shouldn't get too seriously involved. They have their whole lives ahead of them.

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Saw a waitress (shes 21, im 25) at local pub, big crush, five months later I'm pretty sure she likes me, never talked to her but she stole glances (as did i) so I asked her out for coffee, she said yes. I phone her the next week, she is ill, phone again a couple of times to hear how she is doing. The next sunday I phone her again, no awnser, 5 minutes later she sms me back that she has a boyfriend "but we can still have coffee". I sms back that she should just give me some time, decide to get over it.

Next time I'm at the pub she comes and chats with me (sitting next to me), and the next time, and the next. The more we talk the more I love her. She even tells me when shes working (I didn't ask). Last Tuesday i'm there again, chat chat chat. One of my friends drips wax on her hand and it comes out that she doesn't have any feeling in her hands, looked at her hands, her left hand, her ringfinger has a ring on, ask if shes engaged, she replies yes, ask how long, she replies that since a month back (the weekend after I first called her). Promptly ask the her to fetch us some tequila and toasted on her good fortune, put on the "Nothings-wrong-Im-the
happiest-bastard-here" act, drink alot more, enough for me to lose self control (not falling over or slurring-speech) and I tell her that I have liked her since the first time I saw her (17 February, 19-21:00) shes still working so she
away from the table comes back and i notice her eyeshadows is a tad smudged.
I go home later weeping and cursing, the whole week im a total mess, can't sleep for more than 2-3 hours, I'm a bit better now, could actually sleep last night thanks to some pills.
I don't want to see her again, but if I close my eyes there she is staring back, and if I see her again I'm going to fall apart all over again.

I don't know what to do, do I move to a differant city, country? do i try to break up a relationship that has gone on this long for a chance of karma biting us on the ass?
i REALLY need some advice.

Well I'm sorry to hear that. The best thing i could tell you to do is try to get over it. Yes, people have probably told you that many many times, but its true. Perhaps by chatting and spending time with you, she meant to only give out friendly gestures toward you. Obviously, she already is engaged, so nothing you can do about that. But chances are, shes known him longer than you, and you really don't want to get involved in fear that you might mess up her relationship with her fiancee. So, perhaps you thought she was crushing on you, and indeed she might have been, but she doesn't need a boyfriend, she needs a friend. You don't have to move to a different city! Just be friends with her. A friend is alot less complicated than a girlfriend, don't you think? Otherwise, you should keep mingling and eventually you will find a girlfriend. Trust me on this one. The last thing you want is to be in a love triangle with this waitress.

Much love,
--Johanna

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ok...well im really upset right now...usually im the person giving advice but not this time..well me and my boyfriend lets call him...bob?...and this girl...up lets call her paris?...idk..well im reallyy upset right now..and im sorry if this is long..i was going thru my boyfriends myspace and i saw a comment that "paris" left saying awww i

Oh, i have been through All of that. My advice is to talk to your boyfriend about it first. Say, "Be honest.Do you have any feelings for Paris?" And if he says I don't know, or "kinda" or "just a little but I like you more." Then its time to break up with him. You don't desserve being treated like that and having to worry about him and her behind her back. To tell you the truth, he sounds a little fake to me and I would confront him about it before its too late and you're even more hurt. It's usual for guys to think other girls are pretty, but thats smething they shouldn't really say out loud if you know what I mean. Good Luck!

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well I have a girlfriend and I love her to death but idk if she knows that i love her as much as i do. how can i tell her how much i love her?

Awww....Just tell her. I have a similar problem too. But just tell her....and ask her if she still likes you. Compliment her and that should be good enough for her. :)

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My older brother is living with us now. Im the youngest one of the family so i still live at home. Any way. Me and my dad use to go places all the time together, like, he use to take me shopping at the mall take me golfing with him and do fun junk like that. Now all he wants to do is shove me off into a corner while he takes donnie golfing, and everything else he use to do with me and my brother treats me like crap!!!! I am getting sick of being left out!! How Should i deal with it?????

Well, your dad will never know that you are feeling like this, unless you tell him. Your dad might just be enjoying the time with your brother since he is home, and he is older. Your brother is old enough to live on his own. But you however, will be living with your dad for a while more. Your dad probably realizes that your brother might not be living with him much longer so thats why hes been spending so much time with him.

So just ask your dad if you can hang out sometime. Make a special day thats just for you two to hang out. Or try hanging out with your dad and your brother. Go out to dinner or go mini-golfing. If you still feel left out, just tell your dad. Say, "Dad, lately I've felt excluded from activities you and Donnie do." He will understand.

--Johanna

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my best friends name is cara and we`ve been friends since 7th grade we are in 10th now. my boyfriends name is scott. we all went to the mall when they met and she was flirtin with him and stuff. when my dad picked us up to drive her home and scott was coming back to my house, cara was putting her hand on the seat kinda near his hand and scott told me he thought she was trying to hold his hand. whenever im with her she always tells em how happy she is that im happy and with a ncie boy that loves me and i care about. she was tellin me to have scott to her house along with our other friends brittney, and tim. caras "crush" was supposed to go but he didnt end up coming. last night we were all sitting outback of her house and had a fire and when i got up from the picnic table i guess she tried to kiss scott?! and he thought it was me and he almost did then he was like what the hell are you doing? and she was like i had to tell u sumthin but now i forget.. the whole time we were sort of drinking but cara seriously did not drink alot, there is a big difference between a little buzz and being trashed. its so annoying and she flirts with him so much and i just hated how she hugged him when we were leaving.. what can i say??? thankss

Isn't it possible that Cara gets a little jealous of you and Scott? She may not even like him as more than a friend, she just may be jealous that you have a boyfriend and she doesn't. You know how best friends think they can share everything? Well, maybe she thinks this way about Scott. It sounds Corny, but it could be true. Also maybe Shes only curious what having a boyfriend is like.

I think that you should calmly say, "I've noticed you acting differently around Scott. Are you starting to have feelings for him?" Tell her she can be honest with you and that you won't get mad. Its normal for someone to have feelings for their friend's boyfriend. A good solution would be finding a guy Cara could date. You said she had a crush, so why not try to get him and her together? Once she has a boyfriend, she might stop doing this with Scott.

Hope I helped! Much love,
--Johanna

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There is this guy form my school and church that i've liked for 6 yrs and he knows it. He has walked me to class and to my buss b/4, but is he just being nice or flirty. i dunno .how do i approach him without makin myself look like a big idiot

*-*Pam*-*

You shouldn't be afraid to talk to him about it. I mean, you've known each other for 6 years, right? And I'm sure you've had some pretty good times with him. So don't worry about looking like an idiot! He's your friend (maybe soon to be more), and he will understand if you mess up.

So sometime you could ask him if he wants to go on a walk. And then during the walk, just casually say, "You know how weve known each other for 6 years? Well, I really like spending time with you. I was wondering if you wanted to go on an actual date sometime with me?" By saying that, he should figure out that he likes you. And for a date, it doesn't have to be too fancy. Just ask him to go to the movies (scary ones are good because then you can cuddle up) or ask him to go to a coffee/deli shop.

So go ahead and ask him out! I think he likes you, and you two are already really great friends. You Won't look like an idiot! Good Luck!

--Johanna

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I have a boyfriend but it is extremely hard to spend time with him since I am so busy in the summer, and have to spend time with family. I feel like we are growing apart from each other. Should I break up with him, or stay together?

I think you guys should stay together. Most people are busy with their families during the summer, and I'm sure he'll understand. If he really loves you, he will respect that. Besides, you don't have to be with him 24/7. Still keep in touch with him, and any free time you have, you can spend with him. I'm sure he also has things going on at home with his family too. Then when school starts back up, you will be seeing each other every day at school. So don't worry about it.

--Johanna

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I have to sing the solo "L'ho Perduta, Me Meschina!" from "Le Nozze Di Figaro" by Mozart and the trouble is, I've lost the sheet music! Does anyone here know where you can download sheet music for free? I have to go in a couple of hoooooursssss......

Lâ??ho perduta, me meschina!
Ah chi sa dove sarà?
Non la trovo. Lâ??ho perduta.
Meschinella! Ecc.
E mia cugina? E il padron,
cosa dirà?

is that what you looking for? If not, sorry, you can just google it. I don't think you can download the exact sheet music, you have to buy it. I hope I helped! Have fun at the concert!

--Johanna

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This is prolly gonna sound dumb but im not into all those sterotype things. So like what does prep/goth/punk/emo/posers and all those things mean. Add them if i forgot some. Those are the basics that i know.
Like if you were pink and say "omg" and "like" every 5th word...your a prep?


that doesnt make sense to me...

Signed-
Outdated-nonsterotypical-gurl

If you're saying you hate labels, why are you asking people what they mean? You missed the whole Concept of labels. Labels were obviously created by someone who couldn't Handle Diversity. Don't let anyone tell you what you are, because people tell me ALL the time that I am a goth because I wear black clothes, black eyeliner, and listen to Rock. Yet most people don't know, that the word "Goth" dates back to a group of warroirs called "the Goths." They dressed in black and had pale skin, so thats where the stereotype came from. Yeah, I don't get it either, but I refused to be labeled as something just because I'm different than everyone else at my school.

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I can never fall asleep, no matter what I do. I try to relax, but I just can't go to sleep, and I don't want to take sleeping pills. What should I do?

You have insomnia, like me. Insomnia just means you have trouble falling asleep. Here are some tips that might help:

1. Pick ONE bedtime and try to go to bed close to that time every night.
2. make up a bedtime ritual to let your body know its time to go to sleep. Take a shower or bath, read a book, watch tv, put on some relaxing lotion
3.Lay in your bed, try not to worry about anything. Just pretend you are "sinking" into your bed. Relax your body, and as you relax each part, say it in your head. "Arm is relaxed, Leg is relaxed, eyes are relaxed, and so on...)
4. Make sure there are no loud noises like really loud music or tvs. But some noises are good, like repetetive noises such as fans, help me to fall asleep.
5. make sure not to drink caffeine or exercise real hard before bed.

Heres some websites that might help you:

http://www.well.com/user/mick/insomnia/
http://www.stanford.edu/~dement/insomnia.html
http://www.bathandbodyworks.com

^Bath and Body Works have great aroma therapy lotions, so check it out.

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I swear I'm not trying to brag, I'm 13 and only like 70 pounds, I sit in front of my computer all day, I eat a bunch of crap food, I go to McDonalds all the time, but you can still see my spine through the front. How can I gain weight? I rate high usually, but smartass answers will just result in me asking "Why do you suck so much?" as one of those personal questions.

As long as you've never been anorexic or bulimic, then its fine. You just have a high metabolism and should talk to your doctor about it. However, you should try eating Real food, things that will fill you up. A healthy body needs food from every food group. Make sure you eat: grains (bread, cereal, etc, vegetables (spinach, carrots, potatoes, they are not hard to make just ask your mom.) fruits,dairy(milk &cheese) and proper servings of protein (meat) to fill you up. Also if you want to build muscles on your body, try lifting weights.

Heres are some websites that explain about a food pyramid.

http://kidshealth.org/kid/stay_healthy/food/pyramid.html

http://www.mypyramid.gov/

So make sure you eat right, like Not McDonalds. Just ask your mom to buy some frozen veggies or frozen dinners at Wegmans. They are really good and easy to prepare. Try Stofers or Lean Cusine because they usually come with a serving of grain, vegetables, and meat. Also make sure you are getting enough dairy, such as milk, yogurt and cheese.

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Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.

Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators?

Um, first of all, you can't Make her like you. I've had that problem alot. Like you can't push someone up against a locker, and say "Like me, okay?" Just talk to her, and get to know what shes interested in. Shes probably not going to want to go on an actual date with you since she only likes you as a friend. But just get to know her, and do you know of a club she is in? Then sign up for it too. Maybe ask her if she wants to study for a science test with you, or a group of your friends. Try to keep things mixed. Boys and girls hanging out as friends is fine and it shouldn't be discouraged!

As for the party thing, I would not invite her to a party with your guy friends. Believe me, she would get so bored with just guys and she might feel uncomfortable. Maybe have a bigger party with more girls.

Anyways, I hope I helped yah but how old are you anyways? I don't think co-ed should be discouraged at any age. Unless you are like 10.

--Johanna

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Hello. I don't really know how this works, but I am taking a crack at it. Lately, I have been reading many sites that teenage girls like me have been making about anorexia. Most often then not they are praising it, but I have found few who tell me to look away. I am about to be 15 years old in a month. Soon, I am going back to school. I weigh 204lbs. Everyone tells me I don't look overweight, but its not just the way I look. I feel heavy. I feel sick and digusted, but I when I read these websites I get inspired to lose weight. Though, never to such an extreme as to starving myself. Are there any diets or tips out there that can help me? I'm feeling really inadequate.

Losing weight takes time and effort and requires the proper balance of Excercise and Nutrition. For Nutrition, you should eat light, such as fruit, vegetables, crackers, fish, tofu, and deli (white) meats. Stay away from too much dairy or red meat though! And as far as exercise goes, try to find a personal work out plan that suits your body, depending on what muscles you want to tone up. For example: Obviously if you want to tone your abs, do situps every day. Below are some websites on nutrition and exercise.

For Diets:

http://dietsnutrition.allinfoabout.com/features/lowcal.html
http://www.weightlossforgood.co.uk/
http://www.bupa.co.uk/health_information/asp/healthy_living/lifestyle/diet/
http://www.seventeen.com/health/nutrition
http://www.blubberbuster.com/food_bar.html

For Excersize:

http://www.seventeen.com/health/train/spc/0,,625882_674772,00.html
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p2954.htm


I also sugguest reading Seventeen Magazine, they give great work outs.

P.S> never starve yourself! Ugh! Thats the most stupid thing you could possibly do, and it will only make you feel even more disgusting.

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whats the best coverup.. like the coverup to cover your pimples..?

I like Neutrogena. I use liquid cover up and then I use the powder too. It works pretty good and comes in many skin shades.

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I really want to ask this person out, but I'm not sure how to do it because I am afraid if I ask them, I will sound like an idiot.

Don't worry about it. The worse thing that could happen is that the person you like says "no." And lets think about this logically: Will you literally die if they say no? No, you won't. So take a chance. All you have to do is take a deep breath and ask that person if they would like to go somewhere with you. If you are really shy, you could go with some other friends. maybe go to the movies, a local coffee/deli shop, the library, etc.

Just get to know them. Start off by saying, "Hey I was wondering if you wanted to go to the movies with me and some friends. You can bring your friends too if you want." Then ask them about theirselves, what kind of music, movies, hobbies they like.

So go ahead and make the first move. Most people love strong, independent people who make the first moves. ;)

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