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My older brother is living with us now. Im the youngest one of the family so i still live at home. Any way. Me and my dad use to go places all the time together, like, he use to take me shopping at the mall take me golfing with him and do fun junk like that. Now all he wants to do is shove me off into a corner while he takes donnie golfing, and everything else he use to do with me and my brother treats me like crap!!!! I am getting sick of being left out!! How Should i deal with it?????
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Heck no you shouldn't deal with it! I can understand a LITTLE bit why your dad would prefer to take your older brother out instead of you (dad's have a thing with their sons doing stuff with their oldest, trust me my dad is kinda the same way *I'm the oldest in my family by 3 years to my sister*). But that is NO reason for him to just brush you aside to do things with your older brother. Try and reason with your dad, tell him about all the fun times you used to have and tell him how you would just love to go with him again. Also whenever you know he is going someplace, always ask to go. If he is gonna just refuse you going like everytime (maybe saying "Well me and Donnie were gonna go..." or "Sorry but this is something me and Donnie were gonna do..") then you know what, he doesn't deserve your company. If he is going to be that way then let him know how much it is killing you not being able to go and being brushed aside. Let him know that and if he still doesn't want to let you go. Then just forget it, you can find alot better of a time on your own than with a dad who could care less if you went or not.
Now about your brother...Either ignore him (which may or may not work), find ways to ignore him, let him know your really hurting from it, or try and get some kind of parental help (if your dad won't step into help you on this one, then he is just a inconsiderate father who doesn't really deserve to be called your father).
Also try and hang out more with your friends, that will give you something to do and you won't be left out (maybe not in the same way being left out with your dad, but you won't be left out with your friends). Try and find things to occupy your time.
Hey I hope I helped and that things get alot better for you!
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-Ryan
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Aw, well I doubt he's "shoving you into a corner" it just probably feels like it. Well just so you know, your dad probably wants to spend more time with your brother because he probably hasnt seen him in awhile. Theres no harm in that, just try to share your Dad with your brother. In the meantime, you can talk to your dad and tell him how you feel and ask him if there is any way you guys could have a time in the day reserved to just you guys. Also, you can even try to hang out with your brother and your dad because you havent seen your brother either!
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i know it might sound childish, but one day while your dad is watching tv so siting by himself, go up to him and snuggle in his lap...tell him that you miss hanging out with him and that since your bother came,, you've been feeling left out...tell him that you understand that he hasnt seen him in a long time, but that you feel like hes completly leaving you out...suggest that you 3 go golfing together or tell him that you want to go shopping with him or that you've seen something new at the mall you like and that you want him to come and see it too...just to tell you, dads love their daughters more then anything else so its probably not that he doesnt want to be with you, its that he misses his son...talking to him will make you feel alot better and hopefully he'll realize that he shouldnt leave you out...
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Your dad has been hanging out with you for quite some time and now that your brother is back I guess he wants some quality male time you know a boys only type of thing. It's ok to be jealous but I suggest you tell your dad how you feel andmaybe the 3 of you could do something. Brothers are mean I should I have 2. Just treat like an adult would ignore it or set him down with a talk. But your dad could handle it if you tell him that too but don't tadlle-tale ok good luck.
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Well, your dad will never know that you are feeling like this, unless you tell him. Your dad might just be enjoying the time with your brother since he is home, and he is older. Your brother is old enough to live on his own. But you however, will be living with your dad for a while more. Your dad probably realizes that your brother might not be living with him much longer so thats why hes been spending so much time with him.
So just ask your dad if you can hang out sometime. Make a special day thats just for you two to hang out. Or try hanging out with your dad and your brother. Go out to dinner or go mini-golfing. If you still feel left out, just tell your dad. Say, "Dad, lately I've felt excluded from activities you and Donnie do." He will understand.
--Johanna
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