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Pushing her is perhaps a bad idea, but it's definitely worth raising the issue with her and attempting to persuade her by talking to her about why you think it would benefit your younger brother. Don't pressurize her if she does disagree with you, as it sounds she might, but do go through all the arguments you've mentioned here, that lack of money does stop your brother doing things he wants, that your father could definitely contribute more and that he doesn't support him in other ways to compensate for the lack of financial support. This is different from pushing her. You shouldn't make her feel she has to do this if it's not something she actually wants, but explaining your views on the subject may help her come around to your way of seeing it and realise that she wants to approach your father about child support.

The issue of your father seeing your brother and paying him enough attention is different. I would raise this issue with your father. Sound positive rather than like you are attacking him, with comments like "I think (name of your brother) would really appreciate if you spent a bit more time together. He really enjoyed it when you last visited/sent that birthday gift" or similar, which is more like to get a response than nagging or making him feel guilty . You could also mention to your father rather than your mother that you think your brother would benefit from being given money so he could have piano lessons. If your mother has issues with 'sticking' your father for child support when he didn't do this to her, an informal system where your dad does help out a little financially with miscelaneous costs like piano lessons or after school activities could be ideal, as your mother is getting some help so your brother benefits, but neither your mother or father feel akward or resentful for having to get lawyes involved to demand money, which is always awkard and uncomfortable. All the best.

It ended in 1918. You could have found that out by entering 'World War I dates' into any search engine.

I'm not going to approve this because it's asking for homework help, not advice. But yes, the armistice was signed in 1918. November the 11th, 1918.

The right thing to do is to break up with him. It's just not fair on him to either you or your boyfriend to stay in a relationship with him if you don't have romantic feelings for him anymore. Although he will probably be upset when you break up and it's honourable of you to consider his feelings in this, in the long term he will appreciate that you were honest and didn't string him along, because otherwise he's only happy because he doesn't know the truth, and that isn't fair on him and isn't what he'd want.

That said however, it's probably a good idea to wait a while with his friend, even if you are both interested in each other. Don't tell your current boyfriend that you are breaking up with him for somebody else, just explain that you don't feel the same way about him as you used to and you feel you shouldn't be together any more. Only once you are free of that relationship can you fairly move on to somebody else and begin a new relationship. Good luck.

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People have been having sex since the dawn of time. It's not dirty or unnatural, it's what we are biologically programmed to do. Like it or not, human beings are sexual beings and sex is a fundamental part of nature. So if you are really asking where all the decency in the world went, the truth is, people have always had sexual urges.

It is, of course your personal decesion whether you have sex now, later or never. It's wonderful that you've chosen to stick to what you think is right and proper, and that you aren't going to let peer pressure make you behave differently then you feel you should. I admire you for that. However, I feel you shoudl realise that the choices you make, whilst admirable, are your choices only. Other people are allowed to make their own ethical choices about their own bodies just as you can make decesions about yours. You may think they've made bad choices, but you must learn to understand that those are their choices and their mistakes to make. If other people choose to have premarital sex, it's not actually any of your buisness. No, of course you don't have to have sex before you are married, and you certainly shouldn't if you don't want to, but I think you could certainly benefit from being more open minded and accepting that other people's choices are just as valid as yours.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If you want to kiss him, then go for it. If at the time you don't feel the moment is quite right, then don't. You don't have to decide now what you will do then - just see how you feel and act appropriately. Relax, see how you feel and go with what you are both comfortable with when the time comes. If that means making out, then that's okay and go for it, but if not, then that's absolutely fine too - it's up to you and what you are ready for.

Everyone develops differently. It's perfectly normal for a 14 year old not to have started their periods. Although it may feel like you're the only girl you know who hasn't started yet, there will be others that haven't either, so don't worry. It will come soon enough, and when it does you'll probably be glad you had a few hassle-free years longer than some of your friends - so seriously, don't worry about it.

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In a nusthell, you can't tell unless he comes out to you and tells you. Somebody being 'camp' or effeminate does not mean they are gay. Inviting only male friends to a party similarly does not mean he's gay - he might be, but it might just be the case that he just prefers to hang out with guys. That's not unusual, and isn't really a reason to question his sexuality.

Unless he tells you, you can't really find out if he is or he isn't. You should however respect his right to tell you or not tell you about his sexuality if and when he's ready to. Being quizzed on his sexuality if he's not yet entirely comfortable with it will only make things harder for him so, for his sake, leave him be and just be ready to listen if he ever does want to come out to you.

A person should be able to choose how they live their own life. If your friends choose to smoke and drink, then, although it might be a bad decesion, it is nonetheless their decesion to make. You can't stop them doing these things, even if you know that they are bad for them. As much as it hurts, sometimes you have to watch your friends and loved-ones make bad decesions - making choices, making mistakes and learning is what life is all about. So no, I don't think you should try to change them. It's perfectly okay to remind them what they are doing is potentionally dangerous and bad for them, but don't go overboard and "preach" to them, as at the end of the day it is their choice to make and if they don't want to listen to you, they are allowed to.

That said however, you do have every right to insist they do not smoke in your home. Your health and wellbeing should be your primary concern, and if they can't respect your need for them not to smoke at home, then they really aren't good friends. If they aren't willing to listen about what you need them to do in the house so that your asthma is not brought on, then be frank with them and explain that if they aren't going to listen and comprimise, then they can't live with you. It's worth trying to reach a comprimise so that they can smoke in the garden or similar, but not in the house, but don't let them walk over you and ignore your needs when it comes to your health. If they won't listen at all, then you really shouldn't consider living with them. Good luck.

Don't worry about your friend.
Masturbation is normal and healthy, and won't effect how her body develops. It's also perfectly normal for a girl not to have started her periods by the time she's 14. Some girls do not start until they are 16 or 18, so your friend definitely shouldn't be nervous that she's somehow damaged her body because she hasn't started yet.
A doctor can't tell if you masturbate, but honestly. they don't really care if you do or don't, they're just looking to make sure everything is healthy down there, not to find out if you are sexually active. All the best.

Well, you have two options. You can either not talk about Kyle in front of Andrew, or you can tell Andrew politely but firmly that you can't pretend Kyle doesn't exist and if his name comes up in conversation then he just has to deal with it without being childish and getting annoyed with you. You are likely to get the best results if you use a little of both tactics. Recognise that nobody really wants to hear excessive amounts about their current current dates old crushes or relationships, and so perhaps tone down your talk about Kyle a little bit, but, if your new boyfriend is just being silly and over the top every time Kyle is mentioned, don't hesitate to tell him that he's not behaving that maturely, and that though you did like Kyle, you don't any more so there isn't any reason for him to get annoyed when you mention him. If he still behaves badly even if you talk about Kyle less and talk to him about his behaviour, then perhaps he's not ready for a relationship with you.

I would speak to the woman before taking things further. Don't be accusitorial, just ask whether she was aware that she actually charged some personal items to the church account. It could have just been a mistake on her part, or she could have done that but then paid back the money by some means you aren't aware of. If there is a reasonable explanation, you can then leave it there without getting anyone else involved. If she admits she did charge the items but thought it wasn't important as they were inexpensive, then you can advise her that even inexpensive personal items shouldn't be charged to the church, because that money is for the children and taking even small amounts of it is technically theft. Make sure you go in open-minded and be prepared to hear her explanation before you assume that she is guilty though - only once you have a fuller explanation you can decide whether high authorities need to know what happened.

It's always better to break up with somebody in person. Arrange to see him, just the two of you and go somewhere that's neutral (not one of your houses) where you won't be disturbed. Then you just have to sit him down and, as nicely as you can, tell him you don't think the relationship is working and it would be better if you broke up. It's difficult, but in the end, you just have to come out and say it. Arrange to meet up and promise yourself that this time, you really will break up with him, and then just do it.

Don't let it drag out. Be gentle and as quick as possible. Of course, you don't want to say "I think we should see other people!" and bolt immediately, but you don't want to hang around for too long either because if he's upset you can't really help him out. Just say you think you should break up, give him a short hug and say you think you should leave, and if you think you should stay friends then tell him that you'd like that too. Good luck.

If you put on weight it may go to your breasts, but it depends on the type of body shape and build you naturally have - look at your mother and grandmother for an indication. If they are much bustier than you are, your current size may be just because you aren't eating enough so don't have much fatty tissue. It is likely however that you are just be naturally small framed and just not genetically destined to have large breasts, and if that's the case, you just have to learn to love your body as it is. However, 15 is still young and you are unlikely to be fully developed yet. Women's bodies do not stop growing until a woman reaches her early 20s. But you do not "need" boobs - if you remain an AA until you are 90 everything will still turn out okay. I know it's hard to be young and feel insecure about your figure, but if you are naturally small built, it's just something you are going to have to learn to love - and you really should love having smaller breasts, it gives you a lot more freedom when buying clothes or underwear, and you'll avoid the lower back pain that is the curse of the top-heavy woman. All the best.

As others have said, it's absolutely normal for your periods to be irregular in the first few years - it's just your body settling down to all the change. Most women take several years to settle into a really regular 28 day cycle and most find that even as adults sometimes they are erratic. You need to relax and not worry about it. It is highly likely that your periods will start to regulate themselves in due course. Talk to your mother about it. If she experienced similar when she went through puberty, that's an additional sign that what you're experiencing is normal. If you haven't had a period in six months time, I might consider mentioning it to a doctor, but at this stage there is no reason to be concerned.

For safety you should be on the Pill a month before you become sexually active to give your body a chance to get used to the changes. It is sensible to wait longer though because it can take a while to get used to remembering to take your pills reliably every day at the right time. Taking them just a few hours late effects the reliability of some brands. It takes some girls a while to get used to habitually taking them, and it's best not to be using them as contraceptives until you've really got in the habbit and know you won't just forget one, because this will really reduce the reliability.

I'm British so unfamiliar with exactly how expensive things are in the US, but I recommend a trip to Planned Parenthood. Things are done on a sliding scale, the people will be sympathetic to your problems and its absolutely confidential so your parents don't need to find out. The doctors need to ask you some background questions such as whether you smoke and check your blood pressure, but that's about it. Usually they should give you several months prescription so that you can find if the particular brand you've been prescribed is well suited to you, and then you can get more pills once you've settled on to them. It is definitely worth going to Planned Parenthood. The Pill might seem expensive, but the cost is worth it to avoid the emotional and finacial cost of an unwanted pregnancy, which is likely to happen at some point if you continue to just pull out.

Your first kiss is a big moment, and it's natural to be nervous because it's new and unchartered territory for you. Although nerves are natual, the best thing you can do is relax and enjoy things. Don't stress and attempt to guess what he will do, as this will just make you tense and will stop you enjoying the moment. If he does ask you to the dance, don't obsess over things and whether he will try and kiss you or not - just take things as they come, and make a decesion about what you want to do when or if the moment comes. If you don't want to kiss him, don't, but if you do the best thing is to just let the moment happen and relax in to it - you'll find it all comes naturally. All the best.

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