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what's worse... be honest
breaking up with your boyfriend for his best friend...?
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still going out with him because he's a really good guy and you're afraid to break his heart...?
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what should I do, because my boyfriend is the most amazing guy ever, and he'd cry and be depressed for months if anything happened. But I just don't have feelings for him anymore, and his friend and I like eachother... help!
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Wel maybe you should tell him calmly if that maybe you should see other people and then well go out with his friend im very sorry if this does not work!!!!!!!!!
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That is exactly what happened to me. Only in the very end he ended up breaking up with me for his ex. But the feelings were mutual. Me and his bf were bf 's too. So basically stick with the guy, just so that you don't regret it. Wondering about what could have happened is the worst ever. Or if you feel like he's loosing interest also, then just break up with him b4 he breaks up with you and makes you feel like shit.
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You are hurting him more if you are pretending to have feelings for him. He would be mroe upset if he found out the hard way (without you telling him) about you and his friend, so you have to call it off. Try to break it to him easy, but remember that no breakup ever turns out good right away, so give him some time to get over it, especially before going out with his friend. But make sure you are positive you have feelings for his friend and it isn't just a little crush that could end in a few days, because then you will be sorry for what you lost (your current boyfriend). Everything will probably turn out good in the end :-) Hope I helped!
~Meags
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well its not your fault if hes depressed because you don't have feeling for him anymore. if you have feeling for his best friend then try going out with his friend if you find out you still like your boyfriend then maybe he will take you back.
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breaking up for him bestfriend <-- worse!
explain it to him, be nice, caring, genitle,and say that you'll always be there for him!
but it is sounds like you are really sweet and that you really care about him because you are staying with him because you dont want to hurt him!
Hope I helped--
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*Kels*
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Hey hey hey, thats not a good idea to just go date his friend, that would hurt him so bad. Its ok to break up with him, because you don't want to keep leading him on, but please try not going for his friend, he'll be torn, and its wrong. That is the worst thing, honestly. You should just break up with him. And you may need time, because if he cries, you probably will feel bad and need a few days to heal for doing what you've done. Not a punishment, don't punish yourself, just take some time for yourself, don't go dating his best friend. What if hes angry with you and can't turn to his best friend to channel his anger because his best friend happens to be dating the girl hes angry with? You don't wanna get tangled up in this situation. He will need someone to talk to after the break up, so let him have that person, please. You will be doing the right thing.
-TheTeenGirl
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I have been in this situation before. Do you really want your boyfriends best mate, or are you just looking for a way out of your relationship.
You have already said that he will be really depressed if you tell him, but if he finds out later, will it not hurt him more?
Honesty in this situation is always the way to go if you want to stand any chance of being friends after. Initially he will be hurt but he will respect you for your honesty in the long run.
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i think that you should go out with his friend...cause why should u still go out with him if you dont like him anymore? ya'll two can still be friends but you should deffinatly go out with the guy u like. i think that it would hurt him more if you kept going out with him and didnt like him anymore and he found out then if you just dumped him. hope i've helped! :) please rate!
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sounds all bad to me.. i eman not having feelings for him anymore isnt good and you have a good guy how could you not have feelings as something..*friends atleast*.. i mean if you have feeling like that then tell him thats all you want..but i really woukdnt get with his best friend..cause that would be mean and hurt his feelings..and if you dont wanna hurt his feelings or break his heart you wouldnt do that.. much luv dez
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still going out with him because he's a really good guy and you're afraid to break his heart...?
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Its worse to stay with him. When he finds out you stayed with him just to not hurt him..it will make thins worse. Slowly break it to him and make saure you stay friends. I wouldnt go for his best friend quite yet if ur bf is the type of guy who would be really upset about your breakup..wait it out for a few weeks.
hope i helped
-melissa
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Don't go out with him for pitty! That's the worst feeling. But I wouldn't go out with his friend either since that would hurt him even more.
♥ Always,
Maria
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Cheat on him then deny it when he finds out.
Have fun.
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The right thing to do is to break up with him. It's just not fair on him to either you or your boyfriend to stay in a relationship with him if you don't have romantic feelings for him anymore. Although he will probably be upset when you break up and it's honourable of you to consider his feelings in this, in the long term he will appreciate that you were honest and didn't string him along, because otherwise he's only happy because he doesn't know the truth, and that isn't fair on him and isn't what he'd want.
That said however, it's probably a good idea to wait a while with his friend, even if you are both interested in each other. Don't tell your current boyfriend that you are breaking up with him for somebody else, just explain that you don't feel the same way about him as you used to and you feel you shouldn't be together any more. Only once you are free of that relationship can you fairly move on to somebody else and begin a new relationship. Good luck.
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Break up with the boyfriend. Tell him you just aren't having the same feelings for him anymore. It seems he's more of a friend than a boyfriend.
As for the friend, it would be so wrong of you to date his best friend. If you think breaking up with him would crush him, try being with his best friend and causing rivalry between them. And THAT would really break his heart.
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Why stay with someone you dont like? Hmm, sounds stupid to me.
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i think it would be wrong to break up with him....but if u dont hav feelings for him just tell him u would rather be friends none of that break up stuff just that u'd rather be friends.
hope i helped!
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Maybe you could dump your boyfriend, but not be "going out" with this other guy, because your boyfriend would get a feeling that you only dumped him for his best friend. So just like eachother until your b/f is over the breakup, and then hook up=)
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if you have no feelings for your b/f then you should dump him and go out with his friend but don't go out with him right after you dump your b/f b/c that will just look bad. hope it helps
~megan
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I think that still going out with him even though you don't like him anymore is worse. It won't b real anymore and he'll probably notice. Just be honest with him and let him know what's going on! Good luck
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It would be horribly unfair to him to carry on with him just because you don't want to hurt him. It will hurt him more when he finds out that you've been stringing him along. Break up with him and be completely and totally honest with him about your reasons for doing it. I have been crying and depressed for months because my boyfriend broke up with me and started messing me around, saying he liked me again and stuff. He is allowed to be hurt, he will cry for a while but he will get over it. Everything in life mends, even broken hearts. Play it cool with his best friend for a while, I don't suggest running straight to him once you have broken up with your boyfriend. I have done that and it's not something I'm proud of. Leave it for a week or so then take things slowly, remember to be completely honest with him.
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i think u should dump your bf but if your that worried about his feelings then dont go out with his best friend rite away. its one thing being dumped but its another thing when your ex goes out with your best friend. just explain to his friend that you wanna wait a little while before you guys go out. hope i helped.
~jj~
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You need to be honest if you don't like this guy anymore and you have any respect for him you will tell him so that he can move on in life.
remember sometimes you have to be nasty to be nice
i hope my advice has helped you and plz rate me thanks
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its your life not his and the best choice is probably to dump him. its not your fault you dont like him anymore. even tho he'll feel horrible since you like his friend i still think its the best choice. you need to live your life in a way that will make you happy.
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I think it would be worse to go out with a guy just because he likes you. That would just make a dishonest relationship. Just tell him, "Okay, you have no idea how bad I feel about this. I sort of lyke someone else and I don't want to break your heart but.. don't you think it would be worse if I acted like I was still 100% in love with you if I really wasn't.. So, I don't want to lie to you and deffinitly don't want to hurt you but I think we should split up." There's no easy way to do it but that's whats got to be done and after that, don't go out with his best firend imeddiatly. Just give it some time fo him to mend.
Hope this is helpful, x0x Jordy|♥
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If you dont have any feelings for this guy anymore then you need to tell him. Its not fair to keep him from the truth. Now if you like his friend and he finds out before you tell him then things will get a whole lot worse and he will be even more depressed. You might feel bad about telling him at first but trust me you and him WILL get over it.
HOPE I HELPED!
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