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Why do you have this page? Do you actually think you can help someone? That's somewhat egotistical, don't you think? No offense, but I don't think any teen should have an advice column, because they are probably just as confused as anyone. What is the point of this page? (link)
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I agree that I am probably not much help to anyone, and I definitely don't think I am all smart and know the answers to everything. I pretty much have this site because it's something to do when I'm bored... and I don't think people who ask me questions will automatically listen to me or anything like that. I try to give them a new way to see the situation or offer another viewpoint. Besides, there is no harm done in having a webpage- no one has to ask me anything, nor do they have to listen. Feel free to keep posting questions of complaints :-)
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if you have a problem with megan, you have a problem with me too. because as her best friend, i will not let her be talked to this way. UM A THREAT? how low can you GO? pretty low...you should be treated like dirt. and you are REALLY insecure with yourself. so just get over yourself. either be a big person and tell who you are, or shut your yapper. cause nobody gives a shit. and if you "punch her face in" you better be ready to get punched yourself. :-)
if you have a problem with any of what i just said, you can im me: oopsadaisy313 (link)
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Thanks, Whiskers. LOVE the input. Got that, Anonymous? I have not only a boyfriend but also other friends. I wouldn't mind taking you myself, but having more than one back-up just makes you look even dumber. I could walk away, leaving you to pick on somebody else, but I don't want to hurt another innocent bystander. You have a few options: Tell me who you are. Stop sending me these dumb "questions". Punch me in the face and get caught. Keep having me make you look stupid and immature. Have me bring in other people... You choose. This is a game, and it's your turn. Thanks again Whiskers! Hope I helped!
~Meags
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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother (link)
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Please don't use the word "love" because that's way overused. What made you start thinking of her as more than a sister? Are you sure that's a good reason, not something like "She got hot."? Also, if she is too young, then I would wait a few years and see if you still like her. If you are going to ask her out now, you better be almost positive she will say yes. You don't want to hurt your and your friend's relationship over a rejection. If you still are going to take action, first talk to your friend. I know guys don't really talk, but translate this into guy language and see how it works: "I kind of like your sister, and I'm thinking of asking her out and getting to know her better. I hope that's alright with you, which it should be because you know I wouldn't treat her badly or hurt her in any way. Even if it's weird at first, you will get used to it. Don't worry." If he says he doesn't want you to, just ask his reasons and come up with comebacks. Ex. "It's just too weird." "But it doesn't have to be. Just don't make it that way. It's not like all 3 of us will have to hang out together." Then as for asking her out, do it however you want. If she thinks it's weird, explain that you've been trying to hide your feelings for her but couldn't any longer, or say something you like about her, or whatever else you can think of. If you do all that, and the relationships are still ruined between you and him, and him and her, then try to forget about her. Break up and save your friendship and their family bond, because both of those are more important than you and her going out. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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hey meags. im a junior at benet and i got your advice thingy from a friend. what should i do if all my friends are mad at me for something i never did. supposedly i stole my friends bf but he just likes me more. what should i do? he wants to go out with me but i don't wanna make her even more mad you know?
Rachel (link)
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First try and see everything from and outsider's view. Are you SURE you didn't flirt with him while they were going out? You're positive you didn't give any hint that you liked him, or any reason to dump your friend, or any looks saying 'go out with me'? Be honest with yourself. Any yes's to those questions and you owe your friend an apology. OK. Now, if you're sure you are totally innocent then: If you are good friends with her and she will get upset if you go out with him, then don't. Buds should always be before studs. Even if you didn't mean to "steal him" you may have done so unintentionally, and it would be a bad idea to date him and add to the drama over some guy. Meanwhile, I would try to explain to your friend the situation without sounding too cocky. Instead of, "He likes me better. I'm innocent. It's not my fault he wanted me and dumped you. Deal with it," try saying something like, "Look, I'm sorry about your breakup. I honestly didn't mean for it to happen, and I would never want to hurt you. If you really think I 'stole' him, then I won't go out with him and prove my trustworthiness." Or if you really like him and can't resist passing up the chance to date him, you could add, "But I know you are mature enough to see he just wasn't feeling the chemistry, and you won't get upset or jealous if I do hang out with him, right?" It's up to you whether you want to risk your relationship, but if you want all your friends back then stay clear of him. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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Well, I noticed you weren't getting very many questions. Let me add a "henceforth" to this stopper.
Why do you think 'kindness' doesn't cut it?
Why do you think 'seriousness' doesn't cut it?
Why do you think 'caring' doesn't cut it?
This really has nothing to do with anything personal, I've just noticed it with others that have come to me with the same questions. I suppose they were reffering to love or friendship or some sort. (link)
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Kindness, seriousness, and caring are all wonderful characteristics, but people are greedy. It's human nature to want someone to be PERFECT, even if there isn't such a thing. Kind is good, but always having something sweet to say and never hurting anyone is better. Serious is good, but being able to joke around and knowing the right times to do either one is better. Caring is good, but loving is better. There's always more, but I suppose we just have to get as close as possible to perfect. So whoever says those things don't cut it, they don't mean they are bad or anything. Maybe someday a kind, serious, and caring person will be loved just for those traits, and that day will be "perfect." Hope I helped!
~Meags
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if ur sick why do u feel the sickiest and ickyies in the morning? (link)
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Some people feel the worst at night while trying to get to sleep and noticing they can't, but it's also common to feel sickest in the morning. This is because while sleeping you forgot about your problems and pain and how bad you felt. Then you wake up and remember it all and it's sort of like the feelings rush at you suddenly again all at once. Also, you realize you have to go through another full day of feeling sick and miserable, starting with the moment you try to summon the energy to get out of bed. I'm sorry you feel sick, but try to forget about it if you can because it's a lot easier to deal with then. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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what do you think metahexaphosphate does for us in our community? and why (link)
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Well, when you say "metahexaphosphate" I assume you are talking about sodium metahexaphosphate, otherwise known as sodium hexametaphosphate, or sometimes referred to as a Calgon compound. Either way, it is a fairly common chemical that can be written as (NaPO3)6.
It is important in our community and very helpful, because it is used in water treatment, pulp/paper/textiles treatments, mining/ore processing, refractories and in other industrial and technical applications. But most importantly, it can be found in great-tasting lemonade! Hope I helped!
~Meags
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hi, i wanna know what u think i should be. single or taken? and if you could please give me reasons to be single and NOT to be single (link)
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I think you should be single unless there's a person you like that likes you back. Pros of being taken:
~Gives security; shows someone likes you (as more than a friend)
~Intimacy
~Usually get compliments more
~Can go on double-dates; not be third wheel
~Not lonely
Pros of being single:
~Can hang out with multiple guys (or girls); no jealousy issues
~Less stress usually; no fights
~Can have fun with all the gals (or pals)
~"Freedom"
There are more, and I'm sure you can think of them. Don't worry so much about a girlfriend/boyfriend. Neither is better than the other. I mean, maybe when you're 50 and have never had one, but you're not that old (I don't think) so live life, enjoy, and the right guy/girl will come soon enough. In the mean time paaaartay! (But party safely- no drugs or alcohol, please.) Hope I helped!
~Meags
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Please Please Pleeease, give me a list of all the songs you find to be the most awsomest! The ones -you've- been listenin' to
Thanks! (link)
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Me? Well, I have very random taste in music, but here are 25 (in no particular order):
Lasting Impressions -Starting Line
Bevery Hills -Weezer
Second Place Victory -This Day and Age
Shades of Love -Empty Trash
A Little Less 16 Candles, and Little more Touch me -Fall Out Boy
Scars -Papa Roach
I Played Chicken With the Train -Cowboy Troy
Pieces -Sum 41
Angel to You, Devil to Me -The Click Five
Helena -My Chemical Romance
Pimpin' All Over the World -Ludacris
Dirty Little Secret -All American Rejects
Hey Mama -Kanye West
Collide -Howie Day
Time to Waste -Alkaline Trio
Ghetto Gospel -Tupac ft. Elton John
Swing Life Away -Rise Against
I Feel So -Boxcar Racer
Sweet Home Alabama -Lynyrd Skynyrd
Don't Worry 'Bout a Thing -SheDaisy
You and Me -Lifehouse
Untitle -Simple Plan
Mr. Wilmington -Lucky Boys Confusion
Take Me Away -Plain White T's
She Says -Unwritten Law
There are so many more that I love, but the list might go on forever... I don't know why you want to know but if you want more just ask! Hope I helped!
~Meags
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what would you count as hooking up? (link)
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There are a lot of definitions for different people... Some say it's when two people start going out. Like the boy wouldn't go do something with another girl besides the one is he is dating. Some say it as a casual term, meaning just hanging out. Some say hooking up is when a boy or girl does "stuff" with the opposite sex. The least amount of stuff varies, though. It could be a kiss, or making out, or you could do more and still not count it as hooking up because it wasn't enough. It depends on the situation and circumstances, but I suppose my definition of hooking up is when they make out or more. Mine isn't right or wrong- more of an opinion, though. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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How do you get a girl to like you? (link)
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Be extra nice to her. Flirt. Talk to her a lot, but not so much that you get annoying. Pay attention to her specifically, and not to ten other girls at the same time. Don't be too clingy or desperate, though. Buy her stuff if she is materialistic. Write a song/poem for her if she likes sensitive guys. Possibly tell her you like her. Listen to her. Be witty and charming. Tell a few jokes. Show her you would be a good guy to date (ex. Be honest, caring, silly, serious, etc.). Show her your talents without showing off too much. As you can see, there are hundreds of ways to get her to like you. Be creative. Find out the type of guys she usually likes and be that guy. Try not to change too much though. It's important to be yourself. If she doesn't right away, try becoming friends and then maybe it will become more. Watch the movie Hitch for more tips. It's fairly accurate. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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i have this friend that i don't usually talk to. but we definetly don't hate each other. and recently she asked me if i liked this guy, and i said yes. and i even asked her back if she liked him too. but she replyed no. and i thought maybe this would get her off of him for a while, knowing that i liked him. but she's stil ALL OVER him, and it bugs me SO much. i don't know why she's doing this and it makes me SO mad!! (link)
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I'm sorry about your problem. Until you begin to fix it, you have to know the cause, but unfortunately there are so many reasons she could be doing this: She may like him and didn't want to tell you. Or she is jealous. Or just very flirtatious. Or wants to get back at you for something you don't know about. Or thinks he likes her. Or it's a security problem and she feels better with a guy attached to her. Or she isn't all over him and it just seems like that to you because you have feelings for him. Or other reasons. There's more than one option for you, though: Talk to her and simply ask why she's acting that way (say it nicely though, not accusingly). Ask her if she lied to you before about liking him, if you did anything wrong, if she notices what she is doing, etc. Give her a "look" when you catch her acting that way, so she realizes it. Talk to the guy and asks what he thinks of her acting that way (or who he likes, or make it clear you like him, or whatever). Talk to her friends and see if they noticed it, too. Try being all over him first, especially in front of her, to show her what you want (this is just an option you have; I wouldn't do it if I were you). Be reasonable and see if you are over-exaggerating. Other than these, there isn't much you can do because you have no power over your friend's actions, although I bet you wish you did. Maybe start going out with the guy so you can claim him as yours and yours only. If your friend is making you that upset, though, then refuse to hang out with both of them at the same time. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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what do you is when you and your gf/bf should stop getting back together. like if they keep breaking up and getting back together..when do you think it should stop, or the relationship obviously isn't gonna last or work out? (link)
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The answer to the question "i was wondering what are some signs/signals/hints (whatever) that you and your gf/bf should break up, or go on a break?" may help you, so see below. Also, by like the 10th 'break' (or sooner) it may be pointless to go out again, because chances are you're just going to have another break. This could either be for security reasons or forcing oneself to think a different way or fear of being alone or many other possibilities. Overall, if it's obvious that the relationship is failing, end it sooner rather than later. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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there is this person who we already went out but it was for a day. We both like eatchother a lot but this person said if things clear up we will go out again. i asked wat that meant and this person said there was this story behind everything and wont tell me.i think i should be the first to kno. wat should i do? (link)
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You went out for a day? Is that even considered going out? Anyway, that is very strange and mysterious that the person won't tell you the story. I think they should tell you, but it might not be any of your business. They probably have good reasons to keep it a secret, and are trying to sort things out before getting involved with something else (you). Try to ask this person how long they think it will take to clear things up, because you shouldn't just sit around and wait for them. You can't make them tell you what's going on, but you can offer to help anyway you can. Other than that, try not to think about this person too much, and go on with your life. If he/she wants to go out with you again, and you still like him/her, then go ahead and be happy. But if you find someone else or lose your feelings for this person, then don't feel bad. They chose not to include you in their life and instead make you wait. Waiting for one door to open could make you blind to all the other open ones. ;-)
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i was wondering what are some signs/signals/hints (whatever) that you and your gf/bf should break up, or go on a break? (link)
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Here are some of the ones I can think of: You fight more with each other, and don't get along as well. One of you cheats on the other, or does something they know the other would not approve of. One of you breaks their promise(s), especially more than once. You aren't attracted to him/her anymore, or at least not enough to want to be with them. You spend less and less time together and talks less.
If you want more signs/signals/hints, then ask couples who are on a break or who have broken up. They will have their reasons, and if they don't then that is sad.
I think that you will honestly know (with or without the help of these signs) if you should take a break or break up. Something will be nagging you in the back of your mind (or "heart") and even if you try to convince yourself that you should stay together, it will stay there and not go away. That is the best way I can explain it. And I can also say that you probably shouldn't ask your friends. If you do want to talk to them, then don't only go by what they say. Listen to yourself. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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i really like this guy, he's perfect. or he seems like it, compared to the other guys ive met. he sweet,nice, funny, good-looking and acts like a gentlemen. and he's single, and so am i. and i want to know how i could get him to like me. i mean he notcies me, but i want him to like me as more than a friend. please help me (link)
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How to get a guy to like a girl. Hmmm. Of course this can't be too specific of an answer, seeing as how all guys are different. Some like the bad girls, some go for just looks, some go for those they know they can't have, etc. So I think it is in your best interest to find out what kind of girls he is usually into. Ex, If he likes really sweet girls, then don't let him see you yelling at some random person. But obviously too much of a good thing isn't good, so don't go overboard. And if you aren't at all like one of them, then don't change. Maybe try finding out what kind of things he likes to do, and work with that. According to Olivia (who is very into boys and should know what she is talking about), most guys don't like desperate girls, so don't show that you absolutely adore him or anything, but be flirtatious around him, just not TOO much. Smiling is also key. Do it whenever you see him. Maybe watch romance movies and see what THEY do and if it works or not. Sometimes movies can be realistic. These tips should help, but if he already made up his mind about you it might be a little hard to change. If he does like you as a friend, it may turn into more, so be patient. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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my bf doesn't like pda, which is really weird, cuz i thought all guys did. and i don't know why. is it because he doesn't really like me? or he doesn't want to show that we're going out? i have no idea. and i don't know how to fix it either. cuz i know he knows i have no problem with it.(that last sentence was kind of confusing) help me megan!!!!! (link)
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Not all guys are the same, and although many may like public displays of affection, it's perfectly normal to be a guy and not like it. It has nothing to do with how much he likes you or if he is embarrassed or not. It all just depends on his personality. He may feel that it offends others around, or that it's inappropriate/rude, or he's just shy, or it's just less personal. There are a number of reasons. It probably has nothing to do with you. That's just the way he is, and maybe after going out longer it will change, but you shouldn't pressure him to do something he isn't comfortable with. Accept the way he is, unless it REALLY bothers you, which it shouldn't anyway but it might. Then ask him WHY he is uncomfortable with it. He has his reasons, and will hopefully tell you them and even if you don't agree then still respect them. Like I said, you may get used to his "unusual" ways, or he may get used to pda, so try not to make it a big issue. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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What does this mean: At this exact point in time, within my body and soul, located in the crevices of my very heart, dwell massive feelings of deep negativity which are directed towards your whole self, concentrating more specifically on the rash choices and abrupt words flowing from your inner vibe, and this displeases the usual glee and joyfulness pumping vigorously through my veins, and I am full of frustration and confusion to whether or not you will attempt to mend this problematic situation, however, please have no emotions of fear as these sound waves hit your ear drum and your brain processes them through its complicated mechanism, because to put it simpler and more precise, you may not have the ability to comprehend my speech of brilliant yet vastly intelligent vocabulary, and if this vivacious sentence of tempestuous words has taken up too many minutes of your precious time in this life, then I forever am sorry that the main cause of all this ruckus was you. ? (link)
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I believe it means "I'm mad at you." Hope I helped!
~Meags
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ok i am stuck between 2 boys, and i don't know which one i should pick. i kno each one likes me but im not sure how much. please help me i know that's not a lot of information but i don't really know what else to say (link)
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Go with the first guy. I bet he is better because you thought of him first... No, not really. All I can say is pick the guy you like more. I mean, I know that is obvious, but just think about the future. (Not like a year from now, but shorter like weeks). Which one will treat you better? Which one would be easier to hang out with (ex. if you have the same friends it might be better)? Which one would be more upset if you went out with the other guy? Etc. Sorry I can't help a lot, but try to really listen to your heart. And not to rush you, but try to make your decision fairly soon because if you wait too long they could both leave. Don't be afraid of making the "wrong" choice though, and don't stress. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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I wanna change
Im so sick of "me", I've had boyfriends but nothing worth mentioning. I wanna stand out, be worth lookin at, and I wanna be happy with myself.
1.I have deep blonde hair *almost a light brown* with some lighter highlites.
2.Im 5'2" I weigh 108
3. My hair is shoulder length, framed in front
4. I have a zit problem, my forhead is covered, and my nose has a few blackheads
I'll rate high on any good comments on how to become " The New Me" (link)
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I think you should happy with who you are, and don't try to be someone else. But I doubt I can change your mind just like that. are you SURE you want to have a totally new look? Here are some ideas:
If you want to change to show the "true you" then you can express yourself by doing whatever you want. Are you crazy and outgoing? Maybe some bright pink highlights. Want to look intelligent? Get some glasses. Sporty? Where your hair up and track jackets.
If you just want to look different, then dye your hair a new color like light blonde or dark brown. Also get it cut or permed. If you want your body to look better, exercise and eat more nutritiously. As for your face, experiment with different ways of doing makeup. For the acne try Clearasil, Neutrogena, Proactive, or if you really want to improve then go to a dermatologist.
For more ways on how to change your look, change your usual outfits. Consult makeup and fashion magazines. But most of all, change your ATTITUDE. This is the most important. You can always find ways to be different on the outside, but to truly be changed for the better have a new attitude. Be happier, optimistic, kinder, and more confident. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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