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i have this friend that i don't usually talk to. but we definetly don't hate each other. and recently she asked me if i liked this guy, and i said yes. and i even asked her back if she liked him too. but she replyed no. and i thought maybe this would get her off of him for a while, knowing that i liked him. but she's stil ALL OVER him, and it bugs me SO much. i don't know why she's doing this and it makes me SO mad!!
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I'm sorry about your problem. Until you begin to fix it, you have to know the cause, but unfortunately there are so many reasons she could be doing this: She may like him and didn't want to tell you. Or she is jealous. Or just very flirtatious. Or wants to get back at you for something you don't know about. Or thinks he likes her. Or it's a security problem and she feels better with a guy attached to her. Or she isn't all over him and it just seems like that to you because you have feelings for him. Or other reasons. There's more than one option for you, though: Talk to her and simply ask why she's acting that way (say it nicely though, not accusingly). Ask her if she lied to you before about liking him, if you did anything wrong, if she notices what she is doing, etc. Give her a "look" when you catch her acting that way, so she realizes it. Talk to the guy and asks what he thinks of her acting that way (or who he likes, or make it clear you like him, or whatever). Talk to her friends and see if they noticed it, too. Try being all over him first, especially in front of her, to show her what you want (this is just an option you have; I wouldn't do it if I were you). Be reasonable and see if you are over-exaggerating. Other than these, there isn't much you can do because you have no power over your friend's actions, although I bet you wish you did. Maybe start going out with the guy so you can claim him as yours and yours only. If your friend is making you that upset, though, then refuse to hang out with both of them at the same time. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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