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what do guys look for in a girl?

The one thing you must understand, as obvious as it clearly is so (thus overseen), everyone is different and have different tastes.

Some guys, actually most guys go only by the appearance of girls. They don't realize that *dating* is actually what people originally do in preperation for marraige (seeing if this person is the one you are to give your life to). They don't care about you, just the image they see from a distance. If you are rather pathetic and have the looks, I'd say this is the easy road to a guy.

For other guys, ones who care only for characteristics and personality, they will most likely go for the innocents. One who is kind, trustworthy, tolerant, and hasn't been around the block as often. They want to know this girl hasn't been dumped a lot so that they know this girl probably has fewer problems to worry about. If you have been around the block but are still innocent or have changed your "ways", it'd probably be best if you make this stand out. Don't dress like a skank, for one thing.

And the rest either will take any girl or want both character and looks in a girl.

I prefer to say that characteristics count, looks are nice.





~SimpleSoup

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I need ideas of what to do! Alright, so I know you are writing a novel (which, by the way, hasn't been updated in quite some time) so that must mean you are creative. Right? Well then maybe you can help. My friends and I can never think of activities to do. Can you think of ideas that needed to be planned in advance (like going to 6 Flags or going to a Cubs game) and can you think of ideas that can be done fairly spontaneously (besides shopping, movies, bowling, minigolf, park, pool, going to get food, and hanging at someone's house)???

lol ^_^ The question that hinders into the minds of every teenager that was stumped by the thought of summer :: excitement :: non-stop freedom to do whatever you want. Well, being that I'm one of the teenagers, I guess *in a way* we both can ponder on that together.

Yes, I like to write, so first I'd recommend something based on the lines of writing. A play along book.

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so i feel like i don't have any friends. I mean ur probably thinking to urself, cmon he's/she's gotta have some friends...i seriously don't. and if that's what they're considered, than they're fake. i hate it, i sit at home nite after nite cuz no one invites me to anything, and i cry about it, i mean it's honestly probably nothing to cry about but it pisses me off and it makes me wanna hurt myself sometimes. but then i think, there's nothing worse than how i feel now

Well.. I don't have too many "good" friends myself. I'm friends with just about anyone i meet, most of the time, but i dont have good friends enough to actually think of others and plan things out with me. So i guess we're in the same loop. x_X

I'd just tell them how ya feel, if you're a girl.
If you're a guy... I wouldn't aproach it that way.

Maybe start calling them alot and they'll be more motivated to call you back sometime because they had alot of fun.

If you have further problems, you can always email me -soupa.de.silence@gmail.com-



~SimpleSoup

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ok so me and my bf recently broke up and ive been noticing i now am starting to flirt with another guy, and im not sure if im doing this just to get back @ my bf or if i really do like him or if im just doing this as like a "rebound"

Boy, oh boy ~_~ Its moments like these that create such a conflict. If you and your boyfriend broke up and you're having these *specific* thoughts, you may first want to consider the thought of you still liking him. Now, you can't quite ask me if you still hold this boy dear to you, for... I'm not you, but you may want to also consider *time*. If you are stumped as to whether you like this boy, maybe you should stay open, keep *time* running. Think deeply because once your off you may never come back. I don't really like the idea of toying with the emotions others feel so i'm not going to tell you whether or not you're trying to get back at him or if you found another guy that may be that one you *truely* hold dear to you. I'd go with *time*. Time always solves everything. Flirting may, though, be your oinment to a sudden aftershock of what you dreaded, if you know what I mean. There are many possabilities.

For now.. *Time*

~SimpleSoup

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What exactly IS castle of sky and heart about? I only know it is a work in progress...

One html ^_^ embark.to/castleofskyandheart




~SimpleSoup

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ok so me and my bf have been talking and we're not sure like things in are relationship are iffy

Sorry about the delay in response, I had a Spanish test to study for. Anywho, like most of my responses on love (considering I don't want to mess it up) I'm going to give you a logical -somewhat- of a guess.

I'd say if you two love and enjoy eachother, than what the heck would you need a break for. If you decide you two need a break, then break it off because if you have to really sit down and think whether or not you're getting tired of the other then how long is this going to last before you two really start getting bored...or eventually start slugging at eachother. I think you two should really think it over and decide fast because if you can't decide whether or not you like the person then wouldn't that kinda mean you two really don't have that strong of a relationship. If I were dating and came across this situation, and i liked the girl, I'd be all like "No way babe, we were meant to be!"

I just think if you had feelings for eachother you wouldn't really have to think about your question. Just a thought. But if you two are in love and the problem is minor, then I say, "heck yeah, get yourselves back together!"

~SimpleSoup

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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave and we are right next to each other in the seat but my friend is between us and he got up and kept looking back at me and then he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?

Well, I can tell you this: When -any- guy is with a gorgeous girl, which I can only hint at the possabilities, he was probably nervous. Maybe he just got frightened and somehow goes into a paralyzed phase, normal, in which he inturn meant that asking for a number or speaking, as a matter of fact, might have shot his nerves dead and eventually a coma and so on and so forth. Take it as a compliment...if this is the case.

At least, this is how I take it. Just get in touch with him. Hope for the best. ^.^

~SimpleSoup

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hey jeff, i was wondering what's the best way to get over a guy? thanks!

To get over a guy... Considering the circumstances, I can only give you a logical guess and try considering this situation as if -I- were trying to get over a girl. So if I were trying to get over someone... This is a tough question because you could try completely erasing him from every sentiment that pops in your head and replace it with something quick and brilliant (but that would be cruel and heartless) or you could endure the seperation and try to stay at the "friendship" standards. Hang out with him and show him that he and you are just friends. Show him that no matter how much you are around him, you have no connections from the heart between you two. And hopefully,do to the way your mind works, the more you try doing this the more you'll convince yourself that that is how you see it all. It's pretty much fooling the brain into believing that this guy of which you had some sort of linkage with, you're only his friend. "Let the past run aside the sun that is stealing yesterday."

Trust me, eventually that which you want to get over you will accomplish. You really shouldn't get over him, but moreso demote him from more than friend to more of a friend.

It's hard to forget something you held as a significant priority. It will take time.

~SimpleSoup

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Hey, Jeff. How do you know if you're in love or not? When is the right time to say it to your boyfriend? What exactly IS love? Please answer all these questions. Thanks!

When I had an earlier girlfriend, I started reading passages from the bible relating love (I'm religious and all) and I just so happen to always keep in my head this little saying:

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or bragging or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is nor irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

So basically love is a feeling in your heart where you know it endures long lasting [trust] [kindness] and [hope] If you can read these words and understand them and you hold them to your relationships, then you must be in love!

Everyone sees their own meaning for this and that is more likely mine.

~SimpleSoup

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How in the world does one make a perfect grilled cheese sandwich more than one time?!

Well.. I just so happened to browse Ebay on a search for perfect grilled cheese sandwiches. They didn't have any. But i did find a cloning machine. You could clone one that you've made so perfectly. *Just a thought* But in terms of making another perfect one, it just takes time.

~SimpleSoup

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