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hey meags. im a junior at benet and i got your advice thingy from a friend. what should i do if all my friends are mad at me for something i never did. supposedly i stole my friends bf but he just likes me more. what should i do? he wants to go out with me but i don't wanna make her even more mad you know?
Rachel
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First try and see everything from and outsider's view. Are you SURE you didn't flirt with him while they were going out? You're positive you didn't give any hint that you liked him, or any reason to dump your friend, or any looks saying 'go out with me'? Be honest with yourself. Any yes's to those questions and you owe your friend an apology. OK. Now, if you're sure you are totally innocent then: If you are good friends with her and she will get upset if you go out with him, then don't. Buds should always be before studs. Even if you didn't mean to "steal him" you may have done so unintentionally, and it would be a bad idea to date him and add to the drama over some guy. Meanwhile, I would try to explain to your friend the situation without sounding too cocky. Instead of, "He likes me better. I'm innocent. It's not my fault he wanted me and dumped you. Deal with it," try saying something like, "Look, I'm sorry about your breakup. I honestly didn't mean for it to happen, and I would never want to hurt you. If you really think I 'stole' him, then I won't go out with him and prove my trustworthiness." Or if you really like him and can't resist passing up the chance to date him, you could add, "But I know you are mature enough to see he just wasn't feeling the chemistry, and you won't get upset or jealous if I do hang out with him, right?" It's up to you whether you want to risk your relationship, but if you want all your friends back then stay clear of him. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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