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okay, well my mom does pot, and she tries to hide it and stuff, but come on im not stupid ive known for liek ever, anyway that makes me like fucking hate drugs for soem reason, im not saying i havent made mistaks and done it before but thats not the point, but that was only once. anyway, my bestfriend and boyfriend, well do pot every idk not even month or so, and lately just this past week its been like 3 times, and he knows how i feel about it and it hurts me, and i dont want to control him at all, but i dont know what to do, he says he wont do anything after 4.20 from now on...but i mean how cna i talk to him and stuff, or should i just let it go some how? please help.

you shouldnt be around people that do things that you uncomfortable. im actually currently going through the same thing. you may need to take a break from your boyfriend and friends that do it. try to be around people that dont do it. i still managed to be friends with the people that smoke weed but ive become closed to the friends that dont and its helped alot

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18/Female - Okay, i have a dilemma. I haven't had great luck with guys - i've been cheated on, lied and all that. I am currently dating someone right now. We've been dating for a little over a month. He has mentioned that i ask too many questions, and that i say too many stupid things. I don't think i ask too many questions, or say stupid things. Because of my bad luck with guys, i tend to ask questions like "would you cheat on me? do you even like me? where do you see us going?" I've had about six guys all say the same thing - that i'm annoying, and that i need to relax, and just go with the flow cause when i try to hard it ruins the relationship. My current boyfriend just lost his job, so i haven't exactly seen him in a while (few weeks), he gets mad when i mention seeing him, or when i try to help him out. Am i really that bad of a girlfriend? How do i just go with the flow, and not worry about stuff? How do i stop myself from asking too many questions and saying stupid things?

it sounds like your scared of getting hurt again and thats completely understandable. you need to remind yourself that just because the last guy hurt you doesnt mean this one will. this guy is probably getting annoyed with you cuz he thinks you dont trust him. you just have to forget about the old relationships and try to start fresh

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i have a short tongue, and whenever i hook up with a guy i feel like i'm not good at it because i can barely even get my tongue in his mouth. what can i do about this??

i've h/u with someone with a really short tongue before and it didnt make a difference. if anything itd be a bad thing to have a long tongue.

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ok i have two questions.. at what age do most girl lose their virginity and how far have most girls gone by age 14 or 15

i would love as many answers as possible thanks in advance!

im about to turn 15 and the farthest i've been is second. its the same with most of my friends although i do have friends that still havent kissed anyone yet. it all depends on the person.

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I'm Christian and when i masturbate i feel like I'm sinning from what I've seen on here (people on here say it is) Christians aren't allowed to. is that true. also I'm presbyterian not catholic so i don't have confessionals to confess if it is.. so if it is how can i un-sin lol.

personally i dont follow alot of the rules of my religion because some i dont agree with. if you're uncomfortable doing it then don't but if you decide that you want to then go ahead. i know several christians that are comfortable doing it and i know some that arent.

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Okay, so my friend and I are going to do a song for our school talent show. Though at the moment we are thinking of doing the song "Twist and Shout" though, I was wondering if their were any other songs that people would find entertaining that are made for two people. Because "Twist and Shout" isn't exactly a two person song.

Also If it matters, we are 14 and both girls. and not songs that are too terribly high pitched.

twist and shout might be kind of hard to sing just because how the song is. i agree i think you should sing yellow submarine. its still a fun song and everyone will like it

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Is it still weird that I play with Barbies? I'm 16 years old. But I just like to dress them and stuff...does any other girls my age still play with Barbies???? HELP!!

i dont think you're weird. and i dont think its necessarily wrong for you to ask you're friends to play with them with you. its kind of a girl thing, dressing them up and playing with their hair and stuff. theres nothing wrong with tht

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i love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me were doing really good. but i can tell my bf wants more he wants sex he has never forced me or anything. but he gets horny I can tell. I kinda want to do it too. But this would be my first time. Im just scarde because i think about the concequences. Like a baby.We always start kissing and when i know its too much i tell him to stop he doesnt get mad or anything he tells me he will wait until am ready.Im really happy he respects me. I love him and i want to make him happy what should i do.

he sounds really trustworthy so you're really lucky. there are a few things to consider before you make that decision though.
-how old are you first of all? they say when you're 16 or older you'll be emotionally ready for something like that
-do you completely without a doubt trust him
-have you guys been dating for a while
-do you know him really well

if you want to do it for you because you think you're ready, you're curious about it and you trust him then go ahead. dont do it to make him happy or because you think you owe him for not rushing you.

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Ok.. So this guy wants me to go to his house after school.. should i go or not!

is he is alot older then you, creepy, you dont trust him, you dont know him that well, or you feel uncomfortable around him then no dont go. if hes your friend, you know him well, you completely trust him, you're comfortable around him then go.

ps. try being a bit more specific and you'll get better advice =]

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Okay my guy friend wants to know what to get his girlfriend for her birthday ??
They have only been going out for 2 weeks but were good friends befor that.
So basicly whay should he get her ??
I know she likes soccer and is a pretty outgoing girl .
Thanks :]

he would need to figure something like this out for himself. it should be something thats meaningful. not just something that he bought when you can tell its not that personal. maybe something from an inside joke they have? or something from a band or movie they both like. if he cant think of anything he should ask her friends if theres anything she really wants

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16/f
ok so me and my boy friend are going to make out at the movies for the first time. he said he'll put his hands like a hug and then move them up to my face,
so my question is "where do i put my hands while we're making out?"
and what are some signs that i can do to give him the idea that we should start kissing?

you arms could be aroung his neck or you could be holding his hands or anything else that feels comfortable. to let him know you look him in the eyes and then just lean in. it all comes naturally when you're in the situation so dont worry about it too much

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Phewf. Okay. 15/f. (This is coming from a girl who has NEVER had sex...and won't for a long time)

Okay. I like guys. I like girls too, though. I would love to have a relationship with a guy. ANYTHING EXCEPT having ANYTHING to do with male genitalia....It just GROSSES me out COMPLETELY. Yet, I don't find myself a lesbian. I just CANNOT imagine being penetrated by a guy/oral sex, etc. I find it utterly disgusting (forgive me If this is offending). But....on the other hand, I would also LOVE to have a relationship with a girl..and the thing is - I DON'T MIND being sexual with a girl at all! It's like - BRING IT ON. (lol)...I find this very strange. But I get extremely aroused when I see a picture of a naked woman....or something. But, when I (if ever) get to see a naked man...I'm just grossed out. It's as if, with a guy....it's only everything ABOVE his pants, that I am "optimistic" about. AND HERE'S ANOTHER PROBLEM - I don't want sex with a guy, But I want a baby in the future! With a girl...it's flat out, straight - "BRING IT ON". Am I normal?

Help, please?

i dont think you're nessecarily a lesbian but you're definatly bi. theres nothing at all wrong with you. you probably like girls more then guys right now. im bi and i personally like guys more then girls. teenagers, having a whole lot of hormones, get turned on easier so as you get older you may feel differently

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Okay, I have long naturally straight hair and I really want to curl it but nothing seems to come out right
I've tried using curling tongs, plaiting it for waviness, scrunching it with mousse when it's wet .. but none of it really looks good.

The best one was the curling tongs but it takes so long, it's bad for my hair and at the end of it to be honest, my hair looks a bit messy.

Has anyone got any tips on how to curl it?

my friend was having the same problem you're having. she asked her hairdresser what to do and she said to not wash her hair the night before she wants it curly and to scrunch it and it will be wavier. give it a try

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Hey im a 14/f and i have these to guy friends that i have known since 3rd grade and we three are tight andi love them bolth to death!!! And they bolth know that i just broke up with my boyfriend braedon. And obvi. they bolth like me cuz they tolled me and they bolth asked me out. i dont know who to pick one is a skater boy who is like soo sweet and one is really cute and sweet and makes me stuff all da time. so can you help?? who should i pick ?
Love,
tangled in love !!

you never said if you like either of them in that way. that should influence your decision the most. who are you most attracted to? as for me, the guys i like are always funny and if theyre not i cant tolerate them. which one makes you laugh more? and also think about who you look forward to seeing the most. like when you wake up in the morning, do you think about either of them? think about everything before you decide

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i need to lose 15 pounds before july is that possible? and if it is ill do anyyyyyyything to get it, healthy or not..preferably healthy but ill do whattttever so any ideas?

you could probably manage it if you work hard enough at it. do lots of cardio. go to the gym if it helps. start playing a sport you like so you'll have fun working out. dont eat alot of junkfood when you get hungry after exercising. cut down on junk food in general. good luck =]

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I had this friend who I've known since I was 7. Now it feels like she doesnt care about me AT ALL and has moved on to bigger and better things. The thing is that she moved away when she was 8 and we still live far away from eachother. Last month we were still friends, but shes changing, hiding things from me, and not the girl she used to be. I try talking to her, and shes telling me that I'm the one trying to start a fight and stuff like that, and meanwhile, I'm trying to fix it! I dont know what to do!!!

its hard to be friends with someone who lives far away. it might be hard to do because you've known her for so long but you should just forget about her and make some new friends

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I have a boyfriend and hes 2 years older than me and i know he kissed people. The problem is i never kissed anyone and i dont wanna mess up and like make a fool of myself and i dont want to tell him i never kissed before so i need help !How do you kiss?.. =/
i rate 5's

you should kiss a close girlfriend to try it out and practice. its sort of hard to expain how kiss. if hooking up with a girl is too weird for you then just remember to use your tongue if u hook up with him

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is it weird when the girl is taller than the guy in a relationship?

guys supposedly dont care about that kind of thing but it bothers me sometimes. you should'nt break up with a guy or not go out with him just because they're shorter though.

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i make/embellish my own clothes.. and yes.. sometimes they look really cute!!! im afraid if i wear them people will make fun of me.. my quesion is should i wear them to school or not?
answer this question to get a 5!

yea u should totally wear them to skool, i do the same thing n its fun to wear that kind of stuff to school because you'll look a little different then everyone else

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I really am stumped on this one: Around 4 months ago, I met a really nice girl, *Maria*, through an out of school extracurricular activity. Then I met this really nice boy, *Alex* who I liked but I didn't talk to him much. Maria and Alex started going out and I was kinda disappointed but I didn't let it show because no one knew I had liked Alex. I started to become better friends with Maria and I started to become better friends with Alex. Now, they are broken up because Maria dumped Alex and I am in the same high school as them right now. I am still friends with Maria, but I really want to be friends with Alex (not like BF/GF). But all of my friends kinda make fun of him and they always always have because his teeth are kinda like a beaver's. And I don't want to make Maria mad. AND there is another problem: I am really really good friends with Alex's cousin *sarah* and she knows Maria too and I don't want to make anybody mad, but I want to be happy and flourish in high school. I am really sorry about the length but anybody's input would be great. Thanks.

if you just wanna be friends with alex it shouldnt be tht big of a deal. its different if u wante to go out with them because then you should talk to maria about that. and dont let your friends get in the way because they make fun of him.if hes a nice guy then it doesnt matter wht your friends think of him

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