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Q: dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-arielle-

I know this sounds dumb but i heard that if u stuff your boobs grow faster. thats just my theory.all my friends boobs are bigger than mine too but im just glad that i at least have some.im a size 38a i think....

Q: ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:

your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers

sounds bad enough, right?

well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.

she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her

thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas

helllp me

hmmmmm tough.well you could try to stay with your dad no matter what never leave his side then he wont have any alone time with her. and you can leave an anonymous note in his car or his bed room saying like "i know what you're doing with this woman, thats why i hate her" but type it, then he wont know your hand writing.hope i helped!

Q: me and my boyfriend want to have sex.. but we want to have it somewhere where there wont be any parents. we aren't old enough to rent a hotel room.. have our own car.. etc. any ideas?

ok well if you are 17 or older then you should go to a private place like.......you can tell your mom your going to a party then drive really far with him and hump til you drop. but i wouldnt recomend that you have sex cuz what if he leaves you and your left broken hearted. and you virginity will be wasted.

Q: I am 35 and my older sister is 37.
I am a creative, intellectual type and she is a practical, common sense type. She does not understand me or why I love to read so much. She considers my creative writing a waste of time. What I love, she has no value for. What can I do or say to help her understand me? We are so different. She is a great sister otherwise.

well you can spend some time with her. maybe take her to an art museum or something. maybe you could take her to some artsy place maybe shell like it.i have the same problem im really deep and i feel like my sisters are shallow, but im 13 and your 35. i hope i helped

Q: What are some GOOD MUSIC CODE SITES? please help! i rate high! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

uh theres one that i forget the site. well...........ill get back to you when i find out.

Q: my friend alyssa was seeing this guy ryan but they broke up bc she cheated on him. shes in love with this new guy tai they went out brok eup but shes still hooked on him. alyssa doesnt liek ryan any more and says she doesnt care if her friends like him but i feel likeid be betraying her if i did.. me and ryan have been talkin for a few weeks now. just online and on the phone and were making plans to hang out & stuff.. hes such a great guy and has the best personality. do you think its wrong that ryan & i are hanging out and talking??? me and alyssa have been friends for 4 years but she says its ok..i think shes too wrapped up with tai right now but.. i dont want to ruin our friendship at all... what do you advise..??

-kristi

well you can go out with him no matter what alyssa says but if you wanna be her great friend again you could ask her over and over to tell what the truth about what she thinks. if she says yea than go for him.but you shouldnt go wth him if she still really likes him. glad to help!please rate

Q: Ok, here's what's going on... My boyfriend, we'll call him bob, has been living with me secretly for about 2 weeks now. My dad, just found out that he was here yesterday morning, and my dad was very mad. Then last night, my dad found out about it and made him leave, bob left and came back, and now my stepmom just saw him leave. So I'm really really really grounded right now. I don't know what to do or tell my parents, I can't kick Bob out because he has nowhere to go, literally. He has a pretty bad story though. Should I tell my parents his story and risk being able to be with him? Or should I lie to my parents more?

Well if you really love your boy friend then you should live with him.ok if you are over 16 then you should ask your mom or dad if you can buy a place if you make enough money. but if you are younger than that why do you want him to live with you if he has a house of his own? well if you are younger than 16 then just visit him every day at his house. glad to help! please rate

Q: How do you know your in love?I've know a boy for a year in a half and me and him are close and today i told him i never want to talk to him but righ after i went to my room and bagan crying.I dont know why cried i didt think it would hurt me but it does.How do you know when your in love?

you know your in love when you cant stop staring at that one special person.you know your in love when you cant say goodbye.you know your in love when you feel like you will die.....if you dont have that one person with you every minute. you think about him every day, every night.thats how you know your in love.

Q: well i went out with this one guy and my friend broke up with me for him when i wasn't sure i wanted to yet.. so yeah i was upset about that but i just thought whats done is done and if it was meant to be it will happen on its own and well i really like him again and he still likes me and i don't know if i should like tell him or not... like if i do tell him i'm afraid people might make fun of me or him... and plus the reason i thought of breaking up with him the first place was b/c he never talked to me in person and well i think he is beginning to do that... so should i let him know or not..? and plus one of my other friends like him but i don't think that she would get mad at me if i went back out with him.. so yeah please help me!

well if you really like him you won't care what other people think.If you and this guy are truly ment to be then you will go out with him no matter what. If thats the case, go for it!But if you dont want to go out with him thats all right too. and to make sure your friend knows you want her to be happy you can hook them up. But if you do go out with him you can either try to keep it a secret from her or you can promise to give hm to er when your done with him.Glad to help! Please rate me and if you have any more questions just drop them in my inbox!

Q: What can you do with a 7 yr old boy when your babysitting him? Thanx in advance!

If hes bored play a game with him like candy land or sumtin.if hes afraid of monsters u can fill up a spray bottle with water and write monster go away spray on itthen spray it around the room and he probably wont be as scared.please rate me!

Q: okay well i have been talking to this guy online and on the phone almost every night for about a year and 1/2 and even though i have never actually physically met him i think i have fallen in love with his personality. we only live about an hour away and i am friends with his cousin who lives near me, so its very possible that we could meet whenever we wanted to. well i do want to meet him to maybe try to start a relationship, but the problem is that i sent him a fake picture of me. not just one fake picture, but i have sent him websites..TONS of fake picures saying that they were me. so now he has this image of a beautiful girl in his mind. its not that im afraid he will think im ugly at this point, but i am afraid to admit that i sent him alllll those pictures. its extremely embarassing.. and i didnt do it just once, ive done it ALOT!!! i dont know what to do..if i never meet him then it will break my heart and i think i will be missing out on something really great...what should i do? i know this is pathetic..please dont be rude i just need help!!

make your self look like this picture. as much as u possibly can. or u can just meet him and maybe hell be just as ugly as you!rate me five!

Q: I have this friend who can get on my nerves so much because she just tries to control everyone! well many people i know complain about her and it is so annoying. she is always in my face like am i your best friend and i made you a picture but im not gonne give it to you and do u hate me, and AHHH ITS IS SO ANNOYING!!! i like want to scream my head off when im around her and answer all her questions "truthfully" and AHHH!!!!!! but i cant because she like gets my friends mad at me and why do i care? AHHH WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

well tell her shes annoying and maybe that will hurt her feelings and shell try to act the way u want her to. then she wont be annoying that might work.rate me 5.

Q: Okay my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over 3 months. I really love him. The problem is that his parents are having marital problems. So they might move to Texas. I only know of one way to possibly keep them here but it is probably impossible and that is to get married. I just have no clue how even if it would work. Any other ideas or ideas on how that would work. Any ideas on how I tell him my idea about getting married to possibly keep them from moving.

u could um......... have a long distance relationship but they dont allways work out maybe u can ask his parents if u could live together. that worked on boy meets world!corry and topanga forever!

Q: How do I change my password on advicentators? I'm a computer retard and I can't find it on the help stuff! thanks in advance!

well what do u think i am a computer nerd!?i m a computer retard too thats why i have my own website!er der

Q: I like this guy name him bob he is sweet and nice he smile at me every times i see him. we high five pass by in the hall he kinda hold my hand for a second.. anyway I dont want show to much actten. like i want show him i want be really good friends but i dont want him put in his mind that i like like him u know. i have very close guy firentd say name tommy well thing is we not dating becoues i going away collage next year and he still be in hs.. i do want go out other guys i want date becouse tommy was like frist bf i ever had like i know tv but like tonpda and cory.. anyway bob dont have gf and i hopeing maybe i show him i want get know him and stuff. he really sweet..

Amanda plue tommy want me go out other guys and stuff..
i like a tomboy to tommy becouse we been friend we littel i am around other guys i want be not a tomboy. i am more girlie around him...

no clue i dont care, GET A LIFE. ill answer this later, call me when hell freezes over!

Q: My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this.

i can hardley read this its so boring make it shorter jk!shell forgive u if u dont talk to her 4 a while. that allways works on parents

Q: hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?

please just stop grabbing him thats disturbing.who cares if he wont touch u thats gross. just...i dunno deal with it maybe hell make a move

Q: i just started liking this guy. lets just call him bob. and about a year ago we were good friends and randomly i started liking him the other day. it was really weird. but i just found out that he has a gf n i know nothing about her or how long theyve bin goin out. im really upset but what should i do? i cant just win him over because i NEVER see him except for in the halls but i dont have time to talk to him then! ill rate u a 5 if u answer!

well just ask him out maybe hell like u better than his gf.hey are u julie?just wndering

Q: I finally came up with an idea on a gift for my boyfriend on Christmas. I was going to get him a custom sweatshirt that had the following on it: Proud Member of JT1 and on the back it say Your Friendly Movie Viewer: TIM. JT1 is a group of my boyfriend and all of his friends that goes to the movies EVERY Friday. My only delema is I don't know where I can go to get it custom made. I went to this site: http://www.customink.com and the site kept shutting down and messing up my computer. I do not want to use the iron on letters because knowing me, I'll mess it up. Does anyone know of any companies that can make one custom sweatshirt without you having to buy in bulk? Thank you so much if you can help!

uh what do u think i am a door to door salesman?i have no clue!

Q: Hey MiSSc here,
I'm kinda bored with my hair. It's layered, brown, thick, and maybe 2 inches off my shoulder. What can I do to make it more like a celebrities hair but something fast and easy but looks good? Lately I've been wearing pulled up because I don't know what to do with it. I want it beautiful, full, but fast and easy to do. Any advice?

theres actually a shampoo that makes hair look fuller and thicker if u use that it might look better. you should also blow dry every time you get out of the shower. glad to help please rate me!

bio

hey im maria and i wanna tell all you teens out there that im here to help.i have blonde hair and blue eyes.i love helping people thats why i have a column. if you have a question just drop it in my inbox! chances are im going throught the same thing! glad to help!