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betray her or him???
my friend alyssa was seeing this guy ryan but they broke up bc she cheated on him. shes in love with this new guy tai they went out brok eup but shes still hooked on him. alyssa doesnt liek ryan any more and says she doesnt care if her friends like him but i feel likeid be betraying her if i did.. me and ryan have been talkin for a few weeks now. just online and on the phone and were making plans to hang out & stuff.. hes such a great guy and has the best personality. do you think its wrong that ryan & i are hanging out and talking??? me and alyssa have been friends for 4 years but she says its ok..i think shes too wrapped up with tai right now but.. i dont want to ruin our friendship at all... what do you advise..??
-kristi
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Well if she's in love with this guy named Tai then i wouldnt be to worried about it. I would worry if she wasn't in a relationship. At least you arent hiding it from her. Thats always a good thing. I would just talk to her about even if you already have just to really make sure that she wont be mad over this and that she wont let this come between your guys' friendship. 'd say if alyssa is truly okay with it, then don't worry about it, just don't constantly talk about bein with him and that stuff around alyssa.. and make sure she's truly okay with you being with him Happy holidays kristi- (please rate) trixx
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Well it's never good to go out with your friends ex. But if she said she's ok with it I say go for it. If your friend starts acting funny about it, just talk to her. Explain the situation. If she's a true friend, she'll understand. Hope I helped! Happy Holidays!
~Emily
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Well, if it was just to hang with him then that would be fine. If you two were to get in a serious relationship maybe you should talk more about it with her. Drill it into her head that you want a serious relationship with him. If you don't have a talk with her and you just suddenly go out with him, things could get ugly. Well, good luck!!
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well you can go out with him no matter what alyssa says but if you wanna be her great friend again you could ask her over and over to tell what the truth about what she thinks. if she says yea than go for him.but you shouldnt go wth him if she still really likes him. glad to help!please rate
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If you want to go out with him, i say go for it! Just not imediatly because it makes you look desperate. I think maybe a week after you get back to school from christmas break would be a good time to go out with him. As far as hanging out with him, i see no problem. If you still feel like you're betraying her, ask her to come along with her current boyfriend along with a few friends to clear your conscience. That way it really isn't like a date and you can decide from the way your friend acts if she's really ok with it. I hope i've been as helpful as possible! Happy Holidays and good luck!
Always,
Carly
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I think you should go for it. If she cheated on him she must not like him like that. And she said it was ok so i think you should.
sry its so short!
good luck!!
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i say " GO for it." he doesn't like him b/c she cheated on him and it seems like he likes you. She said it was ok so just do it.
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I wouldnt call it betrayel...but maybe your friend is so caught up in this guy and shes trying to get over him too fast. Maybe thats why she keeps saying "its ok its ok." One day seriously talk to her and tell her that you like this guy and you wanna hang out more etc..ask her how she feels. Tell her to be completely honest and if she doesnt feel comfortable you`ll back off. But if she says "its ok" when you have this serious talk with her..then my opinion is that you should keep getting to know him. I mean, its not like you didnt care and hooked up with him right? So i think iif you talk with her and shes alright..then go for it.
-melissa
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hey their is nouthing wrong with you liking her ex just follow your hart and if you think it is with ryan then be with him if not then dont its what you think and dont worrie if u truely care about him then thats all that matters
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i think you should hang out with the guy i mean he sounds like a great guy and if your friend really likes tai she really care. but you should talk to your friend and her what she thinks,hope this helps- tish
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Well just to make sure, ask Alyssa one more time if it's really ok if you do that. If she still gives you a yes, go ahead. She's busy with Tai right now so it looks like she's not worried about Ryan right now. Eveything should be fine, unless Alyssa gets upset when you hang out with Ryan. Then that would be the time to talk it over with her and Ryan. You would need to settle everything so everyone is happy with what's going on. It sounds like Alyssa doesn't mind though, so give Ryan a chance. Your being a good friend for not trying to hurt her, and I think that's really nice of you. =)
♥ lAuRa
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