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Q: i wrote earlier in the week about "army boy" (look back to refresh your memory) i was thinking of writing him a letter, tell me what you think...

Dear "James",
I am writing you this letter because I know if I try to say this out loud, it will just come out a jumbled mess. I don’t know what is going on between us right now, I am so confused and it’s not fair for either of us. You know that I love you and that I would do anything to be with you. I have been practically begging you to come back to me. I am not trying to make this into some poetic tragedy; I just want to know how you feel. Can you honestly tell me that you feel nothing when you kiss me; you feel nothing when we make love? I don’t understand how you can be so casual about this whole thing. I’m not mad at you and I am not upset, I am just simply asking you to tell me how you feel. Is there a chance for us at all, because my heart is on the verge of breaking. I know you are probably going away for a while but I am willing to be there when you come home. I want to be with you James, and if you don’t feel the same, then I would expect you have the decency to tell me so; after all we have been through together I deserve at least that.

THat is so... OMG.. perfect it almost made me cry.

Q: hey well im really depressed all teh time. and i want to quit school. and im just so sick of everything! im just stressed. can somebdy give me advice on what to do?

I think you should just calm down.. I amways feel like that too. What i did was find a bf and it made be feel better like someone cared.. Just relax.. and try to make yourself happy.. try and laugh everyday just for the heck for it.. it will make you feel better. Hope i helped... please rate

Q: 13/f
Well i met my boyfriend on AIM. My best friend goes to a diff. school than me and she knew him... so we were both single, she tried to hook us up, at first when we talked i wasnt shy. then he said he loved me after i showed him a picture of me...his mom said we couldnt go out until she meets me which could be awhile. But its really weird now becuase i feel shy talking to him through e-mail or AIM, is that normal?

Yes i think its normal for you to be shy because now you know he likes you for sure.. So its ok.. Hoped I Helped--Please Rate.

Q: theres tis girl who is totally obbsessed with me, shes attractive looking but i dont really think that it would work, and besides i already have a girlfriend. i wanna tell her that i dont like her but she cried cuz i wouldnt tell her if i liked her so i dont want to totally crush her heart so is there a way that i can tell her i dont like her without her getting crushed into amillion tiny peices

Just say lets be friends only. I have a girlfriend and i'm already taken.. Hope I Helped. Is your name Joey by any chance?? just wondering..

Q: this year I want to dress more preppy. What are some styles that look preppy? I rate very high!

Just wear like skirts and say "like" all the time and just try too do you hair everyday and just wear tight jeans and stuff. Hope I Helped.

Q: school starts september 7th so i definitely need to dye my hair, get my nails done, get a haircut, etc. lately, i've heard of people asking to get their hair 'thinned' when getting a haircut. i've seen the the results and the hair looks different. like the texture. so my question is: what is hair thinning? how do they do it? what does it do to your hair?.. do you think it looks good?

thanks in a advance! i rate 5's.

They just take liitle of you hair and cut it. I had it done but if you have curly hair DO NOT DO IT it give you little hairs on you head like fly aways and its very annoying. it looks really good. Hope I Helped--Please Rate

Q: well I have a girlfriend and I love her to death but idk if she knows that i love her as much as i do. how can i tell her how much i love her?

Tell her in a teddy bear. Send her a note in a teddy bell that says" I lvoe you more then the world" or something like that. Hope I Helped- Please Rate

Q: OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me.

I think this guy is just a player and hope thats everyone likes him. I really don't think he likes you (sorry) i think he just plays around and will cheat and cheat and cheat on every girl. Well i hope you understand... Hope I Helped..Please Rate

Q: WELL...Im like IN LOVE with this guy name brandon...and i have been fer a LONGGGG time....and like last nite...i was with him at a festival..and like we held hands and we held each other..and omg i felt like the luckiest girl alive....bc like everybody likes him and hes the hottest guy i think ive ever seen and hes the nicest guy and everything about him..i like..and today my friend asked him who he liked and he said me and another girl..im so sad i just want him so bad..i dont kno what to do..ive been like crying and everything..and im pretty sure he knows i like him..because i tell like everybody...sometimes when hes not talking to me when were online..bc sometimes he'll like ignore me..or stop talking to me..ill put i like somebody in my profile and ill put the name..and make him jealous..BC thats just how crazy in love i am with him..and it hurts to not have him..what should i do? PLease help me=\

thanks, Ashlee.

It seems that he doesn't know what he wants. He probley likes you and this other girl. He also is probly not mature enought to understand that you like him and he likes you. Just give it time.-- Hoped i help- please rate

Q: 13/f i am a cheerleader and i am the worst on the team. i was wondering if there was anyone who wanted ot be my friend and teach me a little bit more about cheer. if you want to help give me your email address and we can be email friends. xoxo

sure i will help you. i was a cheerleader last year. my e-mail is acara1967@yahoo.com

Q: Okay, I've been suffering by myself with the effects of what I belive to be depression, or some pretty dang extreme teenage hormones. Tonite, I decided that I wanted to get help, because I'm scared of what might happen if I didn't. I told my best friend about it, and I was just met with blank stares and awkward silences. So I walked back home, with barely a word exchanged between us, and a few minutes later she called me. All she said was please calm down, and then another empty blank silence before I finally said that I'd talk to her tomorrow. I'm unsure of where to go next, and I'm beginning to think its a mistake I ever said anything. Should I be angry at my friend for not really saying anything, and looking at me like I was some sort of freak?

I don't think you should be mad at here because she is you friend so she probley is just suprised.

Q: Ok I have this friend who is always calling me names like stupid and if I say something to her like o thats real smart(jokeing) shell hit me.I know she is kidding but everytime I tell her to stop she never does.How can I get her to stop calling me names and hitting me?

tell her to shut you and leave you alone. I had a friend like that once and she made me feel stupid all the time and like she was right and you know what i'm not friends with her anymore. YOu don't need a friend like that.

Q: I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!

Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help

just talk to bob and rob about how you feel and everything. Tell bob excatly how you feell but in person and do the same to rob.. I really hoped i helped you.

Q: Well there is this kid we met this year and we went out together at one point but then we broke up and we were still friends. But now he hates me and won't talk to me and I have no idea why. What should I do I'll rate high! I'm female/13

I think you should ask him whats up but in person so he can't just leave. He might not hate you he just still likes you and if he talks to you he will like you even more.. I hoped i helped..

Q: I will be freshman this year. And I'm so scared and nervous. My curent friends are like family, but I can't really be myserlf around them. They are too much into guys. But I've been through alot with them in middle school. And I don't really have any other close friends. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, or stick with the ones I got?

You should try to make some new friends. I am a gonna be a freshman this year and i am gonna do the same. You and make now friends and keep your own too.

Q: I'm korean and im going to High School next year. Well im kinda a slut so I was wondering if people will make fun of me ..and what do i need to know for becomeing a freshman

Just try not too be a slut. Don't sleep with everyone you se. Be nice and kind to everyone and just be yourself but less sluter. Hope i helped

Q: I want to create my own webpage or homepage or website (jeez im so bad at this I don't even know what its call) I have no idea about all the code, and design, and the problem is even if I registered to some free hosted website. And when I have to kind of decorate my page right i dont know how to do it basically. (cause take a look at my column for example i can't even figure out how to change the background)So if any of you have experienced or good at this be nice if you could help. And if you are willing to help it also be great if you would explain it in a easy-language. like step 1 and step 2 and so on that kinda thing.
P.S. The thing is I kind of want my own domain name.
Thanks
-Patty-

ok i have made many websites so i can help you if you want to. you can message me on here or e-mail me at acara1967@yahoo.com and i will help you with the website you are trying to make because i know alot about the internet and stuff..

Q: well i have this friend who i really really like..well we've dated before..and everytime i try to open up to him it seems like he pushes me away..i always tell him i want to tell the guy i like that i like him..yet he know that i'm really talking about him..and everytime he always says go for it and tell him how you feel what do you have to lose..i always say well he hates me and he'll always say "who could hate you?"..yet i still think he does..and i want to know if he feels the same way about me as i feel about him..what can i do? i really need help on this one..it's very hard. please help!

i rate high!

I say... just ask him stright up...not on the phone face-to-face...ask if he likes you or not.

-Manders *Hope I Helped*
-if you need more help tell me

Q: Ok so ive known this guy for 2 years and he is my best friend and i love him to death . we joke around and say stuff like he is my lil bro because thats how close we are. but recently i noticed that he gets me i mean he understands me completely and cares about me he gets mad if other guys stare at me or say somethin like flirting with me. i really really like him. so i told him that i liked him and it was like awkwardness for 2 weeks,and he didnt tell me that he liked me which i thought he would. so now its back to a brother sister relationship and he is stil my best friend,but i really like him alot and i dont kno what to do ....somebody help me

Wow...I think he only like you as a friend not a like like type..or maybe he is just scared of what he feels...
-Manders *Hope I Helped*

Q: ok well i told this kid knows i like him but he wont tlak to me about it and hes leaving tomorrow until friday until the 30th..and i honestly am in love with him hes going to florida and i know what he does when hes on vacation...and that makes me wanna cry he gets with all these girls and im hurting so bad

what do u guys think i shouold do??

I think he is just a player that like to get girls.. I don't think he would want a real relationship anyways..I know you like him but i think you should get over him..
-Manders *Hope I Helped*

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