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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!
Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help
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just talk to bob and rob about how you feel and everything. Tell bob excatly how you feell but in person and do the same to rob.. I really hoped i helped you.
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Talk to them friendship grows stronger by talking. And if they were your friends they'd listen and work things out. Ps/ nest time can u use names like bert and ernie i was so confused! haha good luck.
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ahh im sorry this is happening to you i would talk to "bob" alone and tell her whats going on you and "bob" should hang out a whole day alone so you r both honest...try not to be angry try to get her to c that she's not being fair to you! if this fails stay freind with "bob" and "rob" but meet a few other people that dont make you feel uncomfortable about yourself.
best of luck!!!!
x3 dweebie
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I think your comment about how "its not like you guys exercise or try to loose weight" Probably hurt their feelings. I know you say you straightened it out but sometimes hurtful words are hard to forget. If they aren't comfortable with how they look they probably got closer as friends after that. I think you can still be friends with them but at the moment they may feel they have more in common with each other. Give it a little time and try to be understanding of their feelings. :)
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It sounds to me like they are not comfortable with themselves. They have a self-image problem, obviously, or they wouldn't care what size you were.
Perhaps they think you make them look bad (or fatter) by comparison. It's a very sad thing that they can't just be happy with themselves, and not judge other people by their looks... They are actually doing the very thing they are afraid other people will do to them.
If I were you, I would tell Bob how this is making you feel. Let her know that it hurts your feelings that it seems as if they are excluding you because of your size, and try to ask her how she would feel in the opposite situation. What if you had a skinny friend who was talking you into going places without Bob because Bob wasn't as skinny as you guys were.
If she won't open her eyes and see what's going on here, then you may just have to let her go, as sad as that is. One of these days maybe she'll realize what a dumb and mean thing she's doing, and that this whole big/small issue is all in her own head.
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Well, you shouldn't let your friend bring you down like that. Tell this "Bob" chick how you feel and what you think about her. Tell her that she hurts your feelings. Maybe you should make new friends so that you won't have to be with JUST "Rob and Bob" all the time. You should be happy that you are skinny and can fit into clothes. Its not your fault what they think. Tell them what you feel. Don't let them act bigger just because they are jealous.
Hope I helped <33
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Thats sad that they are going to waste a friendship on something so stupid. try hanging out with other friends and when your gone i'm sure they'll see how much they miss you. if they dont' like being fat they should stop complaining about u being skinny and do something about it. you could also explain to them that it doesn't matter that you guys have different weights. as for being like each other it probably gives them each a little comfort since that are having some trouble with how they feel about themselves.
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Well, thats kind of sad. It's not like your doing something wrong, and its not like they really are. They are jealous of you and probably feel even more self contious when you are around. This is kind of a tough situation to deal with. This whole Rob & Bob thing kind of confused me, but i get it. Being called a twig is almost as bad as being called fat, so i understand why that would hurt your feelings. You really need to talk to them. They probably feel uncomfertable around you because you have what they dont. You should understand that. There isnt much you can do but tell them that their weight doesnt bug you and you wish your size wouldnt bother them. And if it still does and that doesnt work. You should talk to bob, and ask why she isnt your best friend anymore & why she acts exactly like rob. Other than that, i'd just find some new friends that arent like that, i guess. Because if they dont want to be with you because your skinny, there is really nothing you can do.
♥ nicole
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omg same with me!! im under weight but its in my genes. Everyones like "why are you so skinny?" I can deffinatly relate! Well just be like "hey wanna go shopping? and invite rob and bob. talk to bob about it and say that you feel left out.Yeah i know its harder to say it but it will help!
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Your friends probably feel they aren't doing anything wrong, cause in thier minds, the skinny people get everything! They are more popular, more attractive, and happier. It's not true. But it is an image we get feed alot.
It's time to tell them, that the same way you wouldn't tease them, or say nasty things about them about having blue eyes or black hair, they shouldn't tease you about being skinny. It isn't right for them to take out thier anger on you for something out of your control if they are your friends.
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To me it seems just like you and your friends are slowly moving apart. People can get annoying with comments like that so try to ignore them but make sure to confront your friends tell them that you arent comforatable with them talking about your weight and that if they are dieng to be so thin to work out themselves, try to encourage them not ridicule. And as for the two of them moving apart from you, if worse comes to worse i think that you should trying to start hanging out with more people that arent like punky and have some of the same interests. People that are like you are always fun. Well I hope this problem resolves and you get your friends back "kiss" PrettyLady16
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you really dont need friends like that they really should be considering how you feel...its not like you brag about how skinny you are and its not like you make fun of them for being larger so they shouldnt give you a hard time about being skinny...you should tell them exactly what you are feeling right now and tell them that its not going to work out if they dont start including you...i know its just easy for me to say "you should drop them you dont need friends like them" but im sure its much harder then that for you but you really dont need them...hope i could help a little
danni <3
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well you really need to talk to them and tell them that it is not your falt and they should not just sit there and be jelous of skinny people they need to work for it if they wanna be skinny well hope i helped but just mainly just talk to them and tell them how you fell
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