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hey, my name is danni...im 16 years old and i love to give my friends adivce even when sometimes they dont exactly want it. i love to dance and i play softball. i have a late birthday so im always younger then everyone else which i dont enjoy...so basically ill try and give you the best advice that i possibly can!!

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Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.

who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.

who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that?

i hear you girl!!...i hate to break it to you but there are no guys out there that are like that...we all wish every was that way but they just arnt...your just going to have to settle for less and mabey you will find a guy that can fit into some of those qualities!!

danni

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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!

Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help

you really dont need friends like that they really should be considering how you feel...its not like you brag about how skinny you are and its not like you make fun of them for being larger so they shouldnt give you a hard time about being skinny...you should tell them exactly what you are feeling right now and tell them that its not going to work out if they dont start including you...i know its just easy for me to say "you should drop them you dont need friends like them" but im sure its much harder then that for you but you really dont need them...hope i could help a little

danni

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I have this problem..My bestfriend was going out with this boy..Then this boy broke up with her..She was shock (i guess)..But okay, that's not the major problem..Now,I'm going out with that boy..and no one knows that except my sister..I've been going out with that boy for 2 weeks or so..now I have this illfeel..I feel that I'm so wrong by going out with my bestfriend's ex boyfriend..I don't know what to do..Should I break up with that boy and give him back to my bestfriend, or keep going??

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well its not really right to go out with your bestfriends ex...ive been in this situation before and my friend eventually got over it because she is my bestfriend.dont let a guy get inbetween a good friend ship, its just totally not worth it later on. i would just tell your bestfriend whats really going down and see what she says...hope i could help a little .

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i rate really high i used to go out with this guy but he broke up with me cause i am going to another skool. i new him since i was 1 and i love him so much. he was the only bf that i actually felt comfortable with. i cant ask my mom if i can go to his house. i am only 13 and want to no how to get him back plz help!!

well you could talk to him and have him like meet you places a few times every week like the movies or mall...tell him how you feel about him and that you need him.hope i helped a little

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I belong to an apartment complex pool,where there are like no kids my age, they are mostly around 9. I'm 13 so there arent many hotties with bodies laying around. But there is this one guy, he looks about a year or two older than me (which is fine cuz i dont usually date guys my age). Its kinda hard to explain a stare i guess lol. But he always looks and me and smiles when i look back at him. I'm kinda of shy and i think he is shy too. There was about a million chances to talk to each other, but no one took them. I'm pretty sure i like him, you know that "he is all i think about and i cant wait to see him"bit.I've been trying to strike up the nerve to talk to him, but i just cant do it. It seems weird going up to a complete stranger and talking to them. What would i say?And..*sigh* i just got back together with my on and off again boyfriend who is crazy for me. I broke his heart twice already, if i do really like this guy too, i dont know if i could stand breaking his heart again. We've been really good friends while we havent been together, i cant stand to loose him.
I need help, guys or girls point of view, do you think he likes me? should i go for it?Im not an amature in the dating department, im more mature all the kids my age, i just need help getting started.

Thanks, i rate 5's.

i say go up to this guy asking his name and everything, i mean it cant hurt to try, whats the worts that could happen...and if confronting this guy dosent turn out for the better youll still have your boyfriend your with now...but to me this guy seems interested.

danni

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well...i am not gonna put down all the details....but...my best friend sarah and me were like in a fight wit our otha friend and so then sarahs sisters got involed (big mistake) and so then it became this big "thing" and so it went on for a month..and then they tried to put me in the middle!! and me and the otha friend have been friends like foreva!!! me and sarah have only been friends for just one year.....so then i go well i don't kno kaliegh (sarahs sister) i don't want to choose!! so now her daily duty is to make me feel miserable!!!! i don't get it!!
SO neways...now i think sarah is lyin to me to be all cool infront of her sisters and i am loosing everyone!!! anyways!!!! i feel now i should be like "sarah..maybii we should...just stop being friends...i feel like soon your sisters are gonna make u hate me/..." thats just how i feel. WHAT DO I DO?

signed,
hated for a lil repsone

if you really care about sarah as a friend then you may be able to work something out, like telling the sisters to lay off cause its none of their buisness...but by the way it sounds it seems as if you are able to just drop this friendship and move on with your life, nobody needs friends like that...hope i helped a little

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Is 13 old enough to have a boyfriend...not like pair off and go out on an actual date or anything...but to really like a boy and have a first kiss or sumthin...it's not like I want to, but when I see kids in my grade kissing and holding hands and stuff and I'm just curious to whether it's right or if it's silly or if it's age-appropriate...?

absolutely!!! from 13 on through highschool should be your beat years with guys and having boyfriends...as long as you just keep it at holding hands and kissing its perfectly fine.

danni

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Over the summer I really splurged on sugars and sweets. Im average weight but I can see my summer splurging is coming back in my stomach and my thighs. I'm goin to stop drinking soda and eating sugars and hopefully find time to exercise. But I always think "Oh this wont hurt" or "Ill start tomorow" What can I do to remind myself to stay away from soda's and sugars and excersise everyday ? I'll rate high!!

manyy people have that problem...i definitly do...i just started a diet that ive been putting off for 2 months now *lol*. what i try and do is keep myself busy because when i get bored i tend to eat (sugary things especially). also good foods can taste good to, so try and find a healty snack that you really enjoy and eat that whenever you get hungry or are tempted instead of the sugary stuff...just think of how good you will look if you exercise regularly!!! hope i helped a little

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theres this guy. and i think i like him but im not sure.. i mean i think about him all the time and i cant wait to see him. do i like him? i dont think i do.. but i dont know.. do you think i like him?

well only you can know if you like someone...usually when i cant stop thinking about a guy and cant wait to see him i definitly like him...it sounds to me like you like him, so i say go for it hun!!!

danni

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my boyfriends goin away for baseball tomorrow.. hes sleepin at his teammates house tonite.. and his teammates sister likes him alot n wants to get with him.. she wants him to go swimming with her tonight at their house.. theyre staying at the same hotel [ w/ a pool ] im gettin really jealous and worries.. he says hed never cheat and i believe him but temptation is hard to say no to for guys.. and he thinks shes 'hott'. should i be upset or get over it?

you have every reason to be upset...if i were you i would be too.i wouldnt want my boyfriend going to a house with some girl who he thinks is hott. if he really does love you then he wouldnt do anything to dissapoint you. you should ask his friend to keep an eye out for them, if you talk to your boyfriends friend, thats what i would do. best of luck to you

danni

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sorry this is going to be long... but i really need help!! me and this guy (we'll call him chris) have been "together" i guess you could say for about 3 months.... well last night i found out my best friend broke a truce we made a while ago... we both said we'd never smoke weed, and she did all bc she got a new bf...well i told chris about it and he ended up talkin to her online... she told him i took 6 sleeping pills earlier... (which i told her, bc i wanted her to know how i felt) (i really only took 1 tho bc i havnt slept in 4 days... im an insomniac) well chris got really upset and yelled at me about how stupid it was... (he asked about the pills and i told him 6 bc i didnt want him to tell her otherwise) so he screamed at me for bein so stupid.. and he hung up, then he told his mom about it. so now i dont think his momll let us see each otehr again... but also i dont think he wants to talk to me... i told him the truth about me only taking one pill...and he was upset hes like well why didnt you tell me before... and i was like bc i knew you would tell her and i want her to understand the way i feel... ive already apoligized to him about makin him freak out over nothing... and now he wont talk to me, so i need help, likeon what to do... what to tell him.. please help.

you have definitly been betrayed by you friend bu if i were chris i would feel like i had also been betrayed and lied to and i would probably feel stupid that i was sooo worried for nothing...he obviously must have really cared about you if he freaked like that and he probably still does...you need to appoligize like 500 times to him and tell him EXACTLY why you lied to him, if he really ever loved you then he will forgive you over time...hope i helped

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Ok well ive been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We really love each other and we live with each other. Hes been telling me latley that i dont act like i care about him. I really do and i tried telling him this and he says i dont act it and i dont show him that i care and love him..What do i do to show him that i really do wanna be in a relationship an i do love and care about him..ive tried talkin to him..an it doesnt seem to work..is there certain stuff that needs to be said? what i dont wanna loose him an i wanna be with him..but i need to know he knows i love him

i rate 5's

you first need to tell him that you love him and you want to be with him...then you need to do something special for him to actually show him that you love him like mabey taking him to his favortie place or just spending a romantic night with him...hope i helped

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I just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me...I don't feel the same about him,but I have no idea how to tell him other than "i dont like you" and thats kinda mean *lol* I'm also afraid it will be awkward around him, any ideas how to make sure it's not?

ive actually had that happen to me like a year ago and i just told him that us dating may ruin our great friendship that we have right now and i dont want that to ever happen because i like the way everything is now and i dont want our friendship to end...he understood and once in a while he tells me that he still has feelings for me now but we are just as good as we were b4 he told me and to me it dosent seem awkward...hope i helped

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Me and my boyfriend (Greg)have been going out for almost 6 months.
Before I had no friends, and at the beginning of this year I started to hang out and become friends with his friends.
Then we started dating.
We are together almost all day every day,
because when I hang out with my friends, he is there too because they are his friends also.
I'm not saying I'm tired of this, I love being able to see my boyfriend all of the time. and I love him more than anything.
I can't help it if we have the same friends.
Is seeing my boyfriend every day unhealthy for the relationship?

the only problem with seeing him every day is that you might get sick of him, you need your own time without him. but if u cant help that and you really love him then its probably okay, at least your not like me who barley gets to see her boyfriend, so consider yourself lucky. but try and take time for yourself and try and do things without him every once in a while...hope i helped

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ok this might be long but i really need advice
ok this summer i went to an over night camp for about 5 weeks and i hooked up with a guy that is 3 years older then me. we kissed and held hands and sometimes he would touch my breasts and my ass and put his hand down my pants But one night it went a little to far and we had sex then the next day he broke up with me then he left to go back to his home and i was still @ camp Then all the guys at camp were asking me outa nd stuff and it made me feel special but then this one guy asked me out lets call him bob. I really like bob alot so i went out with him and stuff then one thing led to another and stuff and we had sex and it was so good but that was my last week at camp so i went home me and all my friends always hung out @ this ark down the street from me and stuff And then ppl started asking me if i wanted to come over to their house for the night and this kid that hangs out with us letrs call him dan started to grab my but and my breasts then they all come over to my hosue and everyone left exept dan and he came one to me and started to un zip my pants and shit and i ened up giving a blowjob...then 2 nights ago i slept over my friends house because my parents were gone for a night and they didn't trust me so i was in the guestroom and i guess it was about 2am and her older brother came into my room only in his boxers and i was just in my see thru thong with no shirt on and he started dto kiss me and touch me and said take off my thong and i did *because her brother is hott) and then we had sex it was the best! and then the next morning he came into the shower with me and we had sex agian and then he told everyone and now im called a Slut but im not really Am I? and boys touch my ass and breast and try to put there hands down my pants but i don't know...if i am a slut pllz give me ways that i can not become a slut. Thanx

to be realistic i can see why some people may get the impression that you are and if you were some1 that i knew i may think you were but people i know have done so much worse. and i dont think there is anyway to get rid of that reputation, if you stop doing that kind of stuff mabe the name will drop eventually, even though that might be hard

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i love a guy im still young but i cant get him out of my head its like a brocken old record player keeps playing the same peice of my life and i cant get over it .he was a great guy the man of my life but he cheeted on me ive already asked a question about it and all the people said i should dump him and i did but i dont know why but i know why my dad told me that if someone hit me in a relashionship if he hurt me hed kill him and i loved my dad for that but the guy did hurt me and i havent told my dad cause i know my dad will kick the crap put of him and i dont want that to happen because i do love him but thats not the problem i cant get over him the 1 i know yeah i dumped him but yes for a good reson i think im a slut ok a slut i still love jacob but im am now liking josh his best friend i brock up with jacob because i dumped him buthe said that he dumped me but the girl didnt know about use because we never told anyone causes hes popular and im not we would make out in the boiler room and that would be the end well jacob called that a relationship im not so sure but josh jacobs best friend is so diffrent hes quite and thinks for other people and himself last but if i still like one how can i like the other im a slut .i also go to a shrink because i have lo self asteem and my doctor says im getting better and i am when i was in the forth grade if anyone started at me i would cry and josh was always there to rub my shoulder but the first mistake was kissing jacob like a knife going through me but it was a drug i kept going down to the boiler room and i mostly did it cause i thought i would get popular but then i got to know jacob and well all he told me was lies it was a mistake i know that but i know jacob never liked me just wanted to do something to do wil'l skipping class and i was his toy but then i know that josh would never go out with me cause he walked into me and jacob one time cause he heard something i guess i dont know what to do i got ried of one guy which was the best thing i ever did but im having second thoughts and i like his friends how do i get over him and you know what thats not it jacob said i came on to him and that was a total lie he came on to me he said that i was the cheeter and he and the other one is still going out and jacob still looks at me like hey i remember you i went to the boiler room with you wanna come back and i look at him like what do you want but he gives me theese eyes of love and behind them i see josh so maybe im over jacob but to everyone im school im a slut cause i (this didnt happen but this is from jacobs point a veiw)
im a slut because i came one to a guy that is happily in a realationship forced him down do the boiler room and made out for a hour without him getting loose ha yeah i know i lil far feched ??!!! and to me im the trap but he doesnt get in troble if you think about like i have he cheated too but no one sees that !how do i show josh the other side of me the good side it under the pain of homileation ?
please help me im drowning in the water and have jacob and josh standing on my head .
i will rate you 5s !just give me some point of advice and yeah its like a misture of degrassi and the twilight zone so please pull josh and jacob off me please

wow that was a long one...first of all i dont think you are a slut at all, i know people that have done sooo much worse. and if you wanna show josh the good side of you you should just explain to josh how yours and jacobs relationship was exactly. tell him how you feel and tell him that there is a different side to you then every1 sees.try to stand up for yourself your not a slut...hope i helped

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sorry if this is long but i could so use some advice. ok well i went out with this one guy about a year ago who well call joe and i really really liked him and then i had to go away for a week. when i came back we seemed fine and we went and hung out like we always did and then one night apparently he was talking to my best friend who well call sue. well i guess he told her he only wanted us to be friends and he had her break up with me the next day. well obviously it really hurt and everything and i didnt understand. it took us a while to get over the whole thing but now were best friends again and its been this way for about 10 months. i trust him with my life and tell him everything and there are times when he really trusts me too. my friends and i think that he flirts with me sometimes and in return i apparently do it back. we both know people think we like each other and he really hates what people think about him. so then he starts to be really mean to me and says im annoying and all this other crap we both know isnt true. i dont do anything back because it will always turn into a fight and we just have to many of those i dont want to add to it. well now i think that i have a crush on him again but im really afraid what hes going to do if he finds out. i dont know whether i should just try really hard not to like him or whether i should just let him know. he thinks i do like him but whenever he asks who i like i always say no one. also, if you think i should stop liking him is there anyway thats really easy to take my mind off him cause we hang out so much its not like i can stop going near him. thanks so much and ill rate high if its good advice!!

~Leah, 14~

well...since you guys are such good friends there is probably no possible way that you can just drop him and stop liking him, so you should tell him that you have some feelings for him but you dont want that to effect your friendship in anyway...hope i helped

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Ok, I'm trying to lose weight but I get bored often and I've found that I eat when I get bored, even if I'm not hungry at all. What are some things to do when I get bored?? I mean, I live in a place where you have to drive 15 minutes to the nearest mall or movie place so shopping isnt an option. And I'm only 13 so I can't drive...What are some fun, random things to do around the house?

wow that happens to me all the time, when i dont feel like going out an im bored at home im usually on the computer which keeps me somewhat busy...or i paint my nails and toe nails which also keeps me busy. i sometimes go outside and listen to music or read (even though i dont really like reading) which keeps me away from any food...hope i helped

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theres this guy whos one of my best friends. i think he might be gay but im not really sure and he says he isnt but he reallly acts it. hes only had one girlfriend and another friend of his likes him (a girl) but he doesnt like her. he doesnt know i like him and i dont know if i should tell him cause i dont think he likes me. hes DEFINATELY not looking for a girlfriend right now. i just dont know what to do! please help! should i tell him?

well mabe he is gay and doesnt want anyone to find out, or he could just not want a girlfriend right now...but either way you should still tell him how you feel about him, whats the worst that could happen? him telling you that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now, its not going to be the end of the world...he could like you back you never know until you tell him...hope i helped

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