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i like one but the other is better ???
i love a guy im still young but i cant get him out of my head its like a brocken old record player keeps playing the same peice of my life and i cant get over it .he was a great guy the man of my life but he cheeted on me ive already asked a question about it and all the people said i should dump him and i did but i dont know why but i know why my dad told me that if someone hit me in a relashionship if he hurt me hed kill him and i loved my dad for that but the guy did hurt me and i havent told my dad cause i know my dad will kick the crap put of him and i dont want that to happen because i do love him but thats not the problem i cant get over him the 1 i know yeah i dumped him but yes for a good reson i think im a slut ok a slut i still love jacob but im am now liking josh his best friend i brock up with jacob because i dumped him buthe said that he dumped me but the girl didnt know about use because we never told anyone causes hes popular and im not we would make out in the boiler room and that would be the end well jacob called that a relationship im not so sure but josh jacobs best friend is so diffrent hes quite and thinks for other people and himself last but if i still like one how can i like the other im a slut .i also go to a shrink because i have lo self asteem and my doctor says im getting better and i am when i was in the forth grade if anyone started at me i would cry and josh was always there to rub my shoulder but the first mistake was kissing jacob like a knife going through me but it was a drug i kept going down to the boiler room and i mostly did it cause i thought i would get popular but then i got to know jacob and well all he told me was lies it was a mistake i know that but i know jacob never liked me just wanted to do something to do wil'l skipping class and i was his toy but then i know that josh would never go out with me cause he walked into me and jacob one time cause he heard something i guess i dont know what to do i got ried of one guy which was the best thing i ever did but im having second thoughts and i like his friends how do i get over him and you know what thats not it jacob said i came on to him and that was a total lie he came on to me he said that i was the cheeter and he and the other one is still going out and jacob still looks at me like hey i remember you i went to the boiler room with you wanna come back and i look at him like what do you want but he gives me theese eyes of love and behind them i see josh so maybe im over jacob but to everyone im school im a slut cause i (this didnt happen but this is from jacobs point a veiw)
im a slut because i came one to a guy that is happily in a realationship forced him down do the boiler room and made out for a hour without him getting loose ha yeah i know i lil far feched ??!!! and to me im the trap but he doesnt get in troble if you think about like i have he cheated too but no one sees that !how do i show josh the other side of me the good side it under the pain of homileation ?
please help me im drowning in the water and have jacob and josh standing on my head .
i will rate you 5s !just give me some point of advice and yeah its like a misture of degrassi and the twilight zone so please pull josh and jacob off me please
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wow that was a long one...first of all i dont think you are a slut at all, i know people that have done sooo much worse. and if you wanna show josh the good side of you you should just explain to josh how yours and jacobs relationship was exactly. tell him how you feel and tell him that there is a different side to you then every1 sees.try to stand up for yourself your not a slut...hope i helped
danni <3
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Your thoughts and behavior seem to be out of control. To be honest, the problems you're having are much too serious for an advice column; you clearly feel very badly about yourself, and seem to be having obsessive thoughts. I'm not a psychiatrist, but it's pretty clear that you need professional help.
Because right now you're hurting WAY too much, and you're WAY too down on yourself. You also seem to be getting into some pretty risky behavior. You shouldn't have to live that way.
You *don't* have to live that way.
I assume you've talked about all this to your therapist. If he's not helping enough, tell him so. It's important for him to know that. Ask him what more can be done to help you, because it's clear that you're feeling desperate.
If he can't help you, talk to your parents or primary care physician - or to your therapist himself - about finding a new doctor.
I'm reluctant to tell you that, because I'm just a guy writing advice on the internet, and I don't know anything about your relationship with your doctor. For example, I don't know if he's a psychiatrist, psychologist, or social worker. But in my own experience, not every doctor works for every patient. If you're not getting the help you need, you have to keep looking - because there ARE doctors who can help.
My advice (if you decide to change doctors) is to look for a psychiatrist, preferably in a relatively rich town or city area. It's sad but true that doctors in poor towns and areas tend to give worse care - that's not ALWAYS the case, but it often is. All too often "treat and street" is the standard of care for poorer patients throughout the US.
I recommend a psychiatrist because in addition to more advanced training, they're licensed to prescribe medication. Now, I don't KNOW that you need medication, but it IS a possibility from what you've said, and a psychiatrist will have that option.
Some other things I'd suggest:
Anyone who hits you or is emotionally abusive to you is someone who absolutely DOES NOT deserve to be with you. Period. Stay away from him - he's poison, as far as you're concerned.
That's easy for me to say. And I know that it will be much harder for you to do. But you need to try hard. And if you fail, you need to forgive yourself and try again.
It sounds to me as if you really need to take a break. You need to make your life *quieter*, less stressful. If you can, it would probably be good to take a break from dating, making out, sex, the whole thing. I think all that activity is stressing you out, and right now it's pretty clear that you're having a hard time coping.
I could also guess that all the making out etc. is your way of feeling better about yourself - your way of telling yourself that if boys want to be with you, you must be pretty special. The thing is, you've already found out that some boys will make out with you, and then respect you LESS. And they'll hurt you, to boot. You need to learn to appreciate yourself not just for your looks, but for who you are. That can take a lot of time and effort, but you really need to do it.
Of course, that's just a guess. I'm speculating beyond my expertise, since I don't know anything more about you and I'm not a therapist. So take that for what it's worth.
Another thing: try to be kinder to yourself. You keep saying "I'm a slut". I think you've been TOLD that, over and over, until it has been burned into your head. There's a little voice (maybe not so little) inside your head that keeps running you down to yourself. You need to listen for that voice, and when it tells you that you're a slut, shout "NO, I'M NOT!" in your head. Keep doing that, day after day, until it becomes a habit.
Perhaps I should explain that I don't really mean you actually hear a voice; that's schizophrenia, and nothing you wrote seems to indicate that you actually hear voices. I'm talking about your own thoughts, instead - you have a habit of thinking badly about yourself, and that's a habit you need to break.
And you really can do it. You don't have to suffer, the way that you are. But please make sure to get all the help that you can.
I wish you the best of luck.
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ok this waz verry long and what not cofusing so are you trying to say you want to be with josh? and that you want him to see the real you? cuz if so why dont you go talk to him tell him that how you acted was not really you that you dont know what you were doing just ask him if hell give you another chance and you promis that yull be your normal self
well hope i helped and if you have ne more questions just drop em in my inbox
~kelly
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