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ok, well my parents are divoreced and i live with my mom. i see my dad like every other weekend. well lately hes been pressuring me more then usual to move in with him. he even plays guilt trips on me like if i lived with him then he wouldn't have to pay child support(niether would my mom, my sis would stay there), anyway i dont want to live with him cause i know like 2 people there and i'd leave all of my friends(the best in the world, great listeners, mostly). i dont want to hurt my dads feelings but i dont want to live there with him, is there any way i could kind of let him off easy? i'll rate high for good answers.
sorry this is so long.
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well you need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel thats pretty much all you can do.
i no i didnt help a lot but thats all you can do.
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ive been in this situtation n so have my sisters. Dont givee in! You just need to be like " Dad i dont want to move in with you" n tell him its not fair to you to pressue you at all and it can actually be classified as emotional abuse if he makes u feel bad...i know that for a fact cuz the judge n a therapist told my sisters dad that because he did the same i hope i helped
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Your dad sounds like he really wants you to stay with him. But the only way to tell him you don't want to stay with him, is to say it. The next time he says something thats suppose to make you feel guilty, just say, calmly, "Dad, I know that you want me to move in with you, but I really don't want to. I don't want to be away from my friends." Thats pretty much it. Just explain why you don't want to.
-TheTeenGirl
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You need to really talk to him, and tell him exactly why you don't want to move in. Tell him you have friends there, and you are currently happy exactly where you are, and that's where you want to stay. Tell him that you'll always visit him. Don't feel guilty about anything. It's your life, and you need to do what makes you happy. If you need anything else, feel free to come and talk to me.
P.S. Wouldn't he still have to pay child support if your sister is still living with your mom anyway??
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you just need to tell him you don't want to move in. I went through this and it resulted in me not seeing my dad for 2 years because he finally got on my nerves and i just stopped calling him. You just need to tell him "no i don't want to move in. please stop". If he doesn't stop, tell your mom, ask her to talk to him. Be strong about this, don't let his guilt trips work on you.
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-jaz
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The only way to stop your father trying to convince you to move in with him is to let him know your mind is made up.
Realistically, you would hurt either your mother or father, no matter what decision you made. But at the end of the day, YOU are the child and both of your parents should be committed to doing what makes you happy.
If you let your dad know you love him dearly, but then explain you don't want to leave behind your friends and life, that can let him know that the decision wasn't just based on which parent you liked best.
Don't put up with guilt trips. It's understandable your father would want you to live with him - you sound considerate and caring - but ultimately he should respect your decision.
Best of luck.
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First off... How is it that he wouldn't have to pay child support if he would still have a daughter (i'm assuming your sister is also his child) living with your mother. He SHOULD have to pay child support for both of his children. And, if you moved in with him, even though your mother still has your sister, she should still have to pay child support for you.
You should not have to feel this kind of pressure from your dad. You need to explain to him why you don't want to live with him, and if he tries to guilt you into it more, then you might want to consider talking to your mother to get him to stop. It's just not right.
I know you love him and don't want to hurt his feelings, but it's not good for him to make you feel like it's your responsibility to help him out with his financial situations by changing your entire life.
Letting him off easy??? Just tell him the truth. Tell him that you have friends that you just can't leave. He was a teenager once, he should understand what it's like for a teenager to have to lose all your friends.
If he doesn't get the hint with that, then you should take a more drastic step to keep your happiness. Such as talking with your mother or another adult that you can trust.
My additude about this is : he is that parent, your the child... therefore it's his job to make you happy... not the other way around.
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hi. my dad was the same way. but all i did was talk about my mom like she was every thing to me. and he finaly found out i did not want to move. so try that.
p.s. my dad was so in to me moving in with him he was going to take it to court.
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Maybe you should say to your dad that you don't want to move in with him. Say that you'll be alright and you'll call him every time. Tell him that you won't be happy moving in with him, and if he wants you to be happy, he has to let you go. Try to talk to him, it will make you feel so much better!!
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This is a tricky thing to do, but you're going to have to tell him the truth. It's a little unfair that he's sending you on guilt trips for it, but parents tend to do that when they are seperated. They try and "win" over the children so they'll live with them, and not the other. They'll use the children as a way to get back at each other.
Anyway, tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you really love him and love spending time with him, but you're happy and settled where you are now, and have lots of friends. You could suggest spending more time with him, and doing more activities with him. I'm sure he'd like that.
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Well this is a difficult situation. You are just going to have to explain to your dad that although you love him and would really like to see him more that you also like where you live now and don't want to leave your mother and friends behind. He loves and you and will only want what's best for you, if you explain that you don't want to live somewhere new he will understand that it will be best if you stay where you are. Tell him that because you don't see each other everyday, it will make the times when you do see each other more special. Remember that it's up to you whether you move or not, if he starts getting nasty and pressurising you really badly then ask your mother or another reletive to talk to him for you.
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