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I just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me...I don't feel the same about him,but I have no idea how to tell him other than "i dont like you" and thats kinda mean *lol* I'm also afraid it will be awkward around him, any ideas how to make sure it's not?
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I know you're thinking, "What the crap? I asked this two months ago, why the hell are people still answering this?" I guess you've already solved this problem, but just for future reference, I think I can help. I told one of my best friends that I liked her, and she was in the same exact situation as you.
Aight. First of all, "I don't like you" is definitely mean. Don't say that, as I'm sure you've already guessed =D But don't overdo it either. The reply e-mail (I was too shy to ask her out in person) was just every other word: sorry. I scroll down to the P.S., and it was just "sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry" for like fifteen lines. I know it gets the point better. And yes, it did make it seem less harsh. But then it was just kind of... I don't know. In retrospect, I really don't see why you shouldn't overdo it. Go ahead! =P
And yes, it is awkward. Now whenever I see her, instead of being playfully hit over the head with a notebook ("It's all your fault!" she would say. On a daily basis. "We're through!"). No more of that. Instead, it's just "Hi." And then we just proceed with our classes, and we pretty much ignore each other... and it's really weird. Try starting a conversation, whenever we can get a conversation going well, we can talk, but in the halls and etc. we just... I don't know, really. I'm at a loss for words. OK sorry, I'm ignoringyou and wasting your time. In closing, try to say "Look, *name*, I know what it's like to have a heartbreaking rejection and all, but I just don't you like that. You're one of the coolest guys I've ever met, and I hope we can just stay friends." That's pretty much the message I got, most of it word-for-word. Hope I helped, good luck!
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I think that you should try to act the same around him like you did before you found this out and if he brings up the fact that he likes you, you should tell him that you think you guys should just stay friends because if something happened between you guys in a relationship then it could ruin the great friendship that you already have. That way you're setting him straight without being mean about it. I hope everything works out!
x33 ;; Always,
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ive actually had that happen to me like a year ago and i just told him that us dating may ruin our great friendship that we have right now and i dont want that to ever happen because i like the way everything is now and i dont want our friendship to end...he understood and once in a while he tells me that he still has feelings for me now but we are just as good as we were b4 he told me and to me it dosent seem awkward...hope i helped
danni <3
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Instead of saying 'I don't like you', say something more sensitive like 'You're great but I don't see you as more than a friend', or 'I think we're better as just friends.'
As for it being awkward around him, as long as you act normal it wont be. My best friend told me he liked me and the next day I just acted as if nothing had happened and it was fine. As long as you act normal, he will feel comfortable and it wont be awkward.
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Just simply tell him, i don't want to date you, and i'd just like it if we're friends as we are now. It can't hurt a bit, but if you leave the part out of being friends, then yes..that would be sad.
♥ Alli*
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Maybe you could tell him you don't want to ruin your friendship. That he's one of your best guy friends & you don't want to mess that up by dating.
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