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Conservative older sister
I am 35 and my older sister is 37.
I am a creative, intellectual type and she is a practical, common sense type. She does not understand me or why I love to read so much. She considers my creative writing a waste of time. What I love, she has no value for. What can I do or say to help her understand me? We are so different. She is a great sister otherwise.
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Tell her the truth..
Just tell her that she doesnt have to like that same things as you, but she also doesnt have to put down the things you like..Writing and reading is your passion, she should understand that
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I'm the same type of person you are i love to read and write and my siblings are totally different. Let her read your writeing and tell her about a book you like. Everyone is different and have didfferent feelings about certain topics.
~Brina~
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Well maybe she just doesnt get why anybody would like to read. Sometimes i dont. I dont read for fun or write for fun. I think its boring. But see i might be just like your sister. But i can understand the fact that we are all different and we all have different interests just point that out to her. And pick something of hers that she does for fun and tell her you dont understand and just let her know its something you enjoy doing! Happy Holidays!! Trix
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From what you said in your e-Mail you obviously get on, so why don't you both donate a day to each other.
You do things that you like, visit places that you like and show her what it is like to be you.
In return she gets to do what you want for a day. Go places she likes, do things that she likes and she can show you what it is like to live in her world.
At the end of it all hopefully you will have a better insight to the things that make the other one tick - you never know you may just find a few things on the days that you both enjoy and find some sort of common ground.
Good Luck & Merry Christmas,
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well you can spend some time with her. maybe take her to an art museum or something. maybe you could take her to some artsy place maybe shell like it.i have the same problem im really deep and i feel like my sisters are shallow, but im 13 and your 35. i hope i helped
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i think that you should tell her how you feel about it and show her why creative writing means alot to u
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Do you have things she does that you don't understand? Compare those things for her. Let her know that it's all relative, maybe she doesn't understand that. Also, if that doesn't work, let her know that your time is your time. However you chose to spend it should be respected by her. It's not her choice to make on what's good and what's bad. If she's as great as you say, then she'll understand eventually. Maybe she's even just a tinge jealous of your creativity. She insults it because she doesn't have it? Just an idea. Well, good luck!
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Well I`m 13 so I dont know that much about adults but you can tell her that once you start writing you really get into the habbit and in your free time thats what you do.
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what she values and what you value will probably be allways different, just tell her that writing is what makes you happy, she should understand that...
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let her know that this is something you love and that she should support whatever you do no matter what! sit her down and tell her that she needs to understand this and that you find it disrespectful that she considers you creative writing a waste of time! happy holidays!
*BeSs*
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Tell her that writing and reading is part of the soul, that keeps it stonger. Not all value the ability to read and write, but i do since, i can do both fairly well. Writing express what can not be said. reading is not gathering information, it is living and breathing reality, weather or not it is fantasy. if your sister does not know the joy of loving the reading and writing talents, then she obviously can not understand it. tell her " we all have our loves, our dreams and we all have our OWN lives." it is rare that other understand each others life.
hope i helped. seasons greetings.
~some1 13/f
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I think you should aim more for a mutual respect than an understanding. She doesn't need to empathsize with your need to have creative outlets in order to be supportive or loving.
If she makes a comment which hurts your feelings, let her know in a non-confrontational way. 'I know you don't understand my creative writing, but it makes me feel really happy. I don't need you to understand, but I would appreciate if you could realize we're just different people and that's okay.'
You can be close with someone without needing to understand everything about them.
If you want to be proactive, why not start a conversation about how great it is that you two are so close even though you're so different? Everyone likes to hear they are loved, and it will definitely make it easier for you to get your point across if you are in the middle of a good conversation.
Good luck.
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