Am a bit of a wrinkly now (i was 24 on 4/9/05, but I had the best birthday I've ever had in my whole entire life!!!) but I know an awful of stuff about an awful lot of stuff!
I am COMPLETELY NON-JUDGEMENTAL and you can always inbox me with stuff you wouldn't ask anyone else @ MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Mel xxx
"Dance like no one is watching and love like you've never been hurt"
E-mail: MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Gender: Female
Location: Long story, born in Germany, Parents are Spanish but grew up in the UK!!!
Occupation: General Superstar and all around heroine!
Age: 24
Member Since: December 24, 2004
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when guys finger you or have sex with you do they hate it when your down there is hairy or do they not care? (link)
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Hi there,
Different guys like different things!
The best thing to do is ask, and if you aren't brave enough to ask then go for something sort of mid-way between the two extremes!
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Idk if this is in the right the topic thingy. but anywho...
My period is like normally 10-12 days long and some times like 14-16 days. It is horrible. I have asked my doctor and shes told me its because i am "new" to it. but i have had it for like 3-4 years. not extactly "new". but i have told her(my doctor) that i have passed out before because i am losing sooooo much blood. IDK what to do. no one will do anything about this.
(not even my mom who has the same problem and is on B.C. and won't let me use her B.C until the Doctor says its ok!)
WHAT DO I DO??????? (link)
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Hi there,
You don't say how old you are in your messsage.
If I were you I would ask your Mom to take you back to the doctors and discuss Birth Control pills WITH the doctor and explain how you are feeling and WHY you want to go onto birth control.
You also don't say where you live but here in Britain it is possible to go for free confidential advice about contracepetion from about the age of 13. Maybe you could do this.
There is not an awful lot else I can reccommend to be honest, the contracteptive pill is what made my periods regular when I first started, I only took them for 8 months but in that space of time my body had gotten itself into a routine and my periods have been fine pretty much ever since.
Hope you manage to get something worked out.
Mel
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I hate my ipod!!!! I have a black nano (the old one) and it is 2GB, and normally they're suppose to hold 500 songs, but mine changes the amount it can hold everytime I put new songs on. like it went from 479 to 432 and now it's at 395 and it's sooo annoying! Does anyone know why it does this, & how I can stop it? (link)
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My little brother I-Pod did the exact same thing!
He took it back to the shop he bought it in and they said that it wouldn't always be able to hold 500 songs because some files are bigger than others, so if the songs were short and sstandard quality then he would get more than 500 but if they were long tracks and of a really high quality then you will not be able to fit the full 500 on there, if you have any problems with it then just take it back to where you bought it and they will check it out for you but this is more than likely what's happened.
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hi, does anyone have any experience with using witch hazel to clear up acne? if so i have a few questions..:
-how much is it?
-do you just put it on your face and leave it or do you put it on your face and rinse it off?
-does it help oily skin be less oily?
-does it dry out your skin?
-has it worked for a long time?
any answers to these questions and anything you can tell me about witch hazel would be a great help! i've tried everything to clear up my acne and nothing has worked. so thank you so much!! (link)
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Hi there,
I had acne all through my teenage years and tried everything to get rid of it! Both prescribed medicines and over the counter stuff. Lotions, potions, pills, creams, cloths that promise you clear skin over night (Lol, the amount of times I was sucked in by advertising!)
There are lots of things that can help and there are things that don't do so much, you just have to see which treatment is best for you.
Also FYI a couple of common misconceptions about acne.
1) Only people who don't was get acne!
WRONG!! If you wash your face/affected area too much then it can actually make it worse because you are stimulating the sebaceous glands which will produce, yep you got it , more oil!
2) Only people who eat chocolate/fried food/have a bad diet get acne.
WRONG!! My dermatologist said that your diet doesn't really have anything to do with your acne.
The best thing you can do is arrange an appointment with a dermatologist.
They will be able to assess what type of acne you have and how best to treat it.
There are all sorts of things they can do and will continually monitor it so that if something is not working you can try something else until you find the right solution.
I eventually ended up going on Roaccutane (I believe it is called Accutane in the US) because mine was so bad and despite all of the horror stories you hear about people committing suicide the worst thing that happened to me was my lips going dry.
The only other bad thing about it was that it didn't do much for the scars I already have - but then it doesn't work miracles - so DON'T PICK!!!! I know har hard it is but don't do it, because you CAN get rid of Acne but you CANT get rid of deep scarring!
Hope everything get sorted and you have the lovely clear skin you want!
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My ex-boyfriend of more than 3 years really isn't sure he wants to be involved in our unborn daughters life [due nov. 4th]...i really wish he would be because i would hate for her to miss out on anything like this...i want her to have a father...even if he and i are not together...i really need advice on what to do and tell him to convince him that being involved in her life is the right thing to do and that we need to think of our daughter regarless or our situation...we've talked about this extensively but he is still unsure...i really want my daughter to have her father...please what can i do??? help.... (link)
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First of all, how can he be your ex-boyfriend of more than 3 years and still be the father of your unborn daughter?!
I think there is probably more to your story than you are letting on. I think that deep down you would like nothing more than for you to all live together happily ever after, I really hope it does.
The one thing that I have learnt from my own experience is that you CANNOT push anyone into doing anything that they don't want to do.
You say you have talked extensively, what about? Have you asked him why he doesn't want to be a part of her life? Maybe he is scared of being a failure as a father, when I told my partner that I was pregnant he went crazy! He said he wasn't ready and he didn't want anything to do with her and that I should get rid of her because we couldn't afford to raise a child. Then he went on saying that he didnt want any harm to come to me so I should have a termination.
It was all because he was scared, infact no, he was absolutely TERRIFIED!!
Being a father, or a mother is one of the most huge responsibilites a human can have. The thought that you are responsible for EVERYTHING that little bundle needs can be overwhelming, especially if your relationship is not the most stable anyway.
I think the best thing you can do for the moment (this is what I did) is back right off and let him come to you. (And he will, out of curiosity if nothing else)
When my partner saw Lola, our daughter, for the first time he just burst into tears and couldn't believe that had had helped make her, and despite saying all the stuff he said previously he is now absolutley besotted with her and completely dotes on her.
Just hang in there and I'm sure in time he will come round.
If you want to chat then send me a private message and I'll send you my e-Mail.
Take Care
Mel
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what is the BEST website to find horse tack?? Please HELP ME!!!! (link)
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I live in the UK and we only ever use Bates of Australia tack on our horses, it is expensive but lasts forever and is really comfy for you and your horse.
You can buy it in Weatherbeeta stores and I'm 100% positive that you can buy from Weatherbeeta in the US.
If you go to www.weatherbeeta.com then you will be able to find your nearest distributor.
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i was just wondering what you (a girl) would think or do if you found out i (a guy) was wearing a thong or what youre feelings would be? (link)
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When you say thong, you don't say whether its a thongs FOR guys or a girls thong.
If it was a thong for guys then I wouldn't be at all bothered, at the end of the day wear whatever you are comfortable in! It's down to personal choice!
If it was a girls thong then I guess I would be a little weirded out - especially if it belonged to me!
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13/f ( I NEED HELP, NOW!)
So recently my friends dyed their hair pink, they thought it was like a temp. 6-8 washes will get it out sort of thing. They found out it was permanent..and that they would have to grow it out, or cut it to get the pink out.
I really wanted to dye my hair pink..but now i'm deciding between Pink and Blue..i have a dirty blonde/brown hair color. My mom wants me to get highlights. Plz tell me your opionion..and if i should TEMP or PERMANENTLY dye my hair
THANKS SOOO MUCH! (link)
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Hya,
If I were you I would definitely go for the temporary option first.
Cos then if you don't like it then you don't have to wait too long for it to wash out whereas if it is permanent then like your friend you will have to wait for it to either grow out or cut it!
If your Mom wants you to get highlights then why don't you compromise and have PINK highlights!! Or if you can't make your mind up then you could have pink AND blue highlights.
My cousin has naturally dirty blond hair and she had it lightened a couple of shades and then had baby blue highlights put in and it looked really good!
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OK, so Im working with kids about ages 7 to 10, although there is 1 6yr old and one who's 4. I've so run out of stuff to do with them! I need some game Ideas. They love Simon says, any kind of tag, froggy murderer, lots of different stuff. Plus, how do I get them to focus while theyre hyper?! PLZ HELPPP! (link)
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One game that always used to calm down the hyper kids I used to look after was dead lions.
Basically the kids have to lay down on the floor/grass and stay as still as they can for as long as they can! As soon as you see them so much as twitch they are out! (Alhough if you want them laying down quietly they you may want to forgive the odd movement!)
It works better with kids over 5 because they actually get what they are supposed to be doing (i.e. laying still!)
Have fun
Mel
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16/f
My boyfriend and I had sex. His parents found out, how they found out is a long story that wouldn’t mean much to you. Anyways…to the point; I have never been so embarrassed in my life. Does anyone have a story, about their parents or this partners parents finding out, to share with me, so I don’t feel so dumb? Or any story at all that is. It’s silly I know, but I need something that helps me know... I’m not the only one whos parents have found out. Thanks :) (link)
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Oh my god!!
I still burn with shame when I think about it!
Me and my partner had been together about 7 months and we were looking into buying a house together but at the time he was living back with his parents and I was sharing with a work colleage, so we didn't really have much space to ourselves.
Anyway, his parents were going on holiday to Greece for 2 weeks and told us we could have full use of the house as they were worried about leaving it empty. So they told us that they would be leaving the house at 7 - We ASSUMED they meant 7am!!
Well we both got back from work at about half 5 and went straight upstairs where we stayed for the next hour doing the do!
We then just chucked on our underwear and went downstairs as we were both a bit thirsty by that point only to find his Mum, Dad and Great-Auntie sat around the kitchen table quietly sipping tea, obviously having heard everything that had just happened!
I can honestly say I have never been so embarrassed in my life!! You do get over it though!!
Mel
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i need a cute way to word i love you and think your the most amazing person ever to my boyfriend as if i were going to write him a letter..kinda like in a paragraph or so..im not really good at these things but i just really have to tell him..this is strange i know but whatever. im just stuck and lost for words!..thanks!:) (link)
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Lol!
My boyfriend nearly drove me mad by putting "831" at the end of each text message/SMS or sticking it to the milk carton in my fridge, or putting it on a post-it note in my shoe, or as a background to every e-Mail he wrote to me.
He wouldn't tell me what the 831 meant and I spent ages wracking my brains beofer he told me....
8 (8 little letters)
3 (3 little words)
1 (1 huge meaning)
Obviously it is I L-O-V-E Y-O-U
Except it took me ages to figure it out!!
Mel
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I'm a senior on the school's soccer team and every year the seniors throw a freshmen initiation party. In the past, they've done things like put on a fashion/NON-fashion show in front of the guy's team, rolled in syrup, honey, and feathers and stuff on the ground, etc. We're trying to think of something different to do, but can't come up with anything REALLY good. So does anyone have an experiences or ideas?
Of course, it can't be anything that physically hurts them or anything like that. And it will most likely be outdoors, weather-permitting. (link)
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How about making them dress up as cheerleaders and do a routine for everyone to watch! - make sure they wear LOTS of lycra (lol) and lots of make up, wigs, tights etc etc although draw the line at high heels - you don't want half of your team injured!!
Hope you have fun!!
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Ok, I've only had my period like 5 times and Im almost 17. My mom took me to a doctor who gave me some supplements but Ive only had a period once in the past three months... (I havent had one this month) What do I do? (link)
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Hi there,
It would be almost impossible to say why your periods are so irregular without being in a room with you - and being a qualified doctor.
Most girls I know started their periods between 13ish and 16ish. Although one I know started when she was 8 and some people don't start until they are 18 or older even.
The best thing that I can advise you to do is go back to your doctor and speak to them.
There are lots of reasons that your periods can stop and stress and worry is one of them, so if you are stressing yourself out over not having a period then you could be inadvertantly making it worse!
So stop worrying - get yourself to the doctor - if you aren't havppy with what your doctor says then ask him/her to refer you to a gynaeclogist who will (for a fee normally!) be able to do a full screen on you so that you can stop worrying and get on with your life!
Hope things go ok for you - and just think - it could be worse, you could be one of the poor girls that can't gt their period to STOP!
Lol
Mel x
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What is the fastest way possible to get rid of a hickey?! Please help! (link)
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Try using a litte witch hazel on it.
You can buy it over the counter and it's pretty cheap!
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Alright, so I've filled out a few different applications before, but I don't recall this question: "Please enter how many hours per week you are available to work"...So am I supposed to put 168 hours [every hour of the week], or ANY, or what? Sorry, but as you can see I've never had a job before and I just don't know what to put, and it's probably really simple haha, Thanks! (link)
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Hi there,
Normally when they put that on a job application form it is to find out if there are any specific hours you can or cannot work and whether you are looking for full or part time work.
So if you have no commitments and can work at anytime then put down 40 hours pw. (Or however many you want to work)
Good Luck!!
Mel
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how long does food stay in your stomach before passing to your small intestine? and how long does it stay in your small intestine before passing into your large intestine? and how long does it stay in your large instestine before you poop it out?
please only answer if you know!!
thanks :) (link)
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Hi there,
Try this link!
http://www.vivo.colostate.edu/hbooks/pathphys/digestion/basics/transit.html
Has got everything you need to know and probably a bit more!!
TC
Mel
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i have really fair skin. i was out for a few hours on saturday[its one in the morning, monday now]. anyway, i got some sunburn. it's really hard for me to tan without burning. so my mom said i should go out for about a half hour each day and tan gradually. [i've tried it before, but then the next day it'd be like 95 degress..too hot lol] so yeah, my question is, should i wait for my sunburn to heal before i try to go outside for a half hour each day, or would i be ok going out tomorrow [or i guess today]
hah thanks! any advice is appreciatedd :) (link)
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Hi there,
You should most definitely wait until your sunburn has healed before you go out in the sun again otherwise you run the risk of permanent damage to your skin!
Put on some lotion, I find that the best one to use is one that contains Aloe Vera as this really soothes the skin.
Also next time you decide that you want to go out in the sun make sure you are wearing at least factor 30 sun lotion (I have olive skin and even I wear it!!) Just because you have sun lotion on doesn't mean you won't tan, it just means that you won't burn as easily! (if you lay outside in the sun for too long you will burn!)
The other option is one of the lotions that gradually build up a natural looking tan.
I don't know whether you have it where you are but in the UK we have this wonderul stuff called Johnsons Holiday skin, and it works really well.
Good luck and I hope you get the tan you want without damaging your skin or getting burnt!!
TC
Mel
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I frequently refer people to Webjay.org for rare MP3s (like unreleased tracks and such). Searches in turn go to Blogdigger. Does anyone know any other GOOD sites like Webjay?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hiya,
I use WINMX, it's free and there has never been a song that I wanted that I couldn't download.
Mel
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Whats the name of the song that goes
She wore an itsy bitsy tiny weny yellow pokla dot bikini that she wore for the first time today
Also who sings it?? (link)
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Hiya,
Brian Hyland released the original.
It was also jazzed up and re-released in 1990 in the UK by Bombalurina with Timmy Mallett who was a kids TV presenter and a summer holidays programme called Wackaday!
Oh I remember it well!!
Mel!
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How can I inprove my vioce? for singing. Im not sure if I sing good. Im very self concience about my vioce, but I want to be a singger. I love to sing. No body has heard me sing like with all my effort. How can i improve it? (link)
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Hiya,
The answer given before pretty much says it all.
Practise makes perfect and singing in a choir or a group af people is a great way to strenghten your voice.
Also try checking ou this website - it gives you tips on how to get the best out of your voice.
Some of the things they tell you to do may sound a bit funny but they honestly work!
Good Luck!!
Mel xx
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