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Getting back together with an ex

Question Posted Monday January 10 2005, 4:38 pm

I went out with my ex for a month, but then we broke up. We didn't spend that much time together when we're actually going out, and it just got kind of boring. The problem is, now that I don't have him, I want him back. Things were a bit quiet for a while, but now we've started talking as friends again we're spending much more time together, and things seem to get flirty whenever we're together. It's like we can't help reverting to our old roles. I'm tempted to ask him if he wants to give it another go, as I think things would be better this time round, but I'm afraid I'm just going to make the same mistakes again. Help!

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hailebop answered Monday January 10 2005, 4:49 pm:
Generally speaking, if you broke up, you broke up for a reason. Are there good reasons for imagining things will be different this time around, or is this wishful thinking on your part?

I think most of us would admit to having been tempted by exes at least once, and it honestly can work well as a break up can make you realise how much you really want to be with a person, and what your mistakes were in your previous attempt. Only you can really know if this is how your relationship will work, or whether you'll just fall into the same bad habbits.

Be honest with yourself. Do you think getting to know him a bit better as a friend since you've broken up has really changed things? Would you actually behave differently? Would he? Be absolutely honest with yourself. If you think you just hadn't realised how good things were when you were together, and now that your closer and understand each other better then things would be different, then go for it. But if when you reflect back you think that you'd revert to your old roles and end up not seeing each other very much and feeling bored, then it's best to let things lie. Good luck with making the decesion.

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