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Hey Caden, I think i've fallen in loev wif dis hunk on the internet and i dun kno wut 2 do. plx hlep meh! thanks!

Well, first I would reccomend learning how to type so people can understand what you're trying to say. And also, please, give more information. Also, check the FAQ.

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My boyfriend said I was irresponsible and lazy just because I'm not going to school today. One. day. And he refuses to let me kiss him, when I next see him and now he's ignoring my calls&IMs. I don't know.

You have a right to be angry. Well, see if you could talk with him in person and see whats going on.

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13/f
ok well, here we go. ive been going out with my bf for almost a year now, and i LOVE him so much. but the thing is i SERIOUSLY think he deserves ALOT more than me. and today i got braces on for the second time and i look REALLY bad. i dont want him to freak out on me and i dont want to be a bad gf AND an ugly one!!! should i break up with him or just keep it goin?!?1 im so confused and i give out 5's

Well, I would suggest staying together with him. If you break up with him just because of what you just said, it would reeeaaallly break his heart. If he breaks yours, then, im sorry to say this, but just move on, its ok to cry. If he calls you ugly, he obviously isnt the best bf.

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Is breaking up over the phone okay? Or should I make an effort to do it in person?

Its best to do it in person, because it shows people you have courage. I uunderstand that breking up in person is hard though

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hey theres this one guy i like
and he liked me
but we've only met once.
and theres this other REALLY annoying guy
and he keeps telling the other guy were going out.
PLEASE HELP.

thanks so much!!

hmmm.. this is tricky.
I would ask the annoying person to quit, if he doesnt, look up the guy that you like's number and tell him that what the annoying guy says is false. If you cant look him up, ask the anoying guy to give you the email adress of the guy you like, and make up a reason that would make him want to give it to you. One thing you could say is that you want to email him to tell him how happy you are to be with the annoying guy. When you email him, you should tell him that what the annoying guy says is fake. Another thing you could do is to act like your dumping the annoying guy, when the guy you like is around.
Try asking some of your friends if they know the guy you like, if any of them do, I would write a note to the person telling him that the the annoying guy is giving false info and that you want to talk about it with him after school/work.
When you get to talk to him, just be yourself, be polite and nice.
Hope I helped♥
--caden--

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im really upset. i really like this guy, theres 2 problems. he smokes and my parents found out and we got in a big fight bout it, and its just not the same between me and my parents, bcuz im just so mad at them and it just sucks and on wednesday, my friend asked him if me and him were ever goin to go out and he said no bcuz hes so busy wokin on his band, and that makes me so upset, i really like him, in a way i love him, he treats me great and makes me feel so good, hes always putting his hands around me and alwys just doing stuff that makes me like him morea nd more each day, but now im just so upset about him saying me and him wont go out, i just start crying wen i start to think about it, i just like him so much, nad it hurt so badly i dont no wat to do to make me feel better, i dont if i should still like him or is i still try to get hooked up with him, im so confused and hurt.

ok. what you should do is become a friend to him, maybe you could help him with homework, or with his band. Just be there for him when he is troubled. Maybe when he is done working on his band, he'll ask you out. Also, this is what I would tell everyone, just be yourself. You dont need to change to get a guy's attention.
--caden--

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I'm 14/f. There's this guy that I really like. We're pretty good friends. I told him that I liked him a while ago, and I think he thinks I've moved on because I never show that I like him. My friend said that I should show it. I sort of want to, but I don't know how to do it without looking like a sap. How do you show that you like a guy besides telling him and/or flirting?

You should be the guys friend, be good and caring to him. Flirting is when you complement a person, and making the person feel good about themself by telling him about how sexy his___is/are.

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I got a g/f! Thanx 4 all ur support everyone! :D
But, 2 more questions, how do I keep her? How can I make her happy?

You should
-Just be yourself
-Be honest
-Dont cheat
-Never force a girl
-Never ignor her
-Never cheat
-Be romantic, but not all the time
-Be willing to make sacrifices
-Dont do anything to make her angry
-Dont pressure her {to do drugs, to have sex, ect}
-Dont cheat
-Comfort her when she is in her darkest times.

Thats all I can think of. I have this great book called "The Teenage Guys Survival Guide" by Jeremy Daldry. It may help you.
--Caden--

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Alright im a 14/f/al, and i like this guy named Andy, but he has a girlfriend. And he is always acting like he likes me, and he even told me one time that if he wasnt with his girlfriend he would be with me. i dont think yall understand how much i like him. he is the most perfect thing i have ever seen. i cry at night thinking about him, if i hear a love song i cry thinking about him...i dont know what to do. what SHOULD i do?

I feel the same way about a girl. Its not fun. What you should do is, be yourself, hang out together and do stuff. Try flirting a little, but you need to be sneaky about it. Its gonna be harder, and more competative since he has a girlfriend, but here is a secret, if you are optimistic and positive, it will bring better luck. I believe you'll be succesful.
Best of luck♥
--caden--

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okay this friday i'm going to hangout with this boy, lets call him charlie. I want to become FWBs(friends with beninfits) but i dont know how to make the 1st move or get him to make one. any suggestions? ill be in a hot tub and walking around with some other people (i rate high)

Just be yourself and trust your heart. Flirt with him and talk to him. Asked open ended questions to him, because if you do, he will think your interseted in him. Like lets say, you talk to this shy kid and ask an open ended question, he wont be as shy around you.

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Ok their is this guy that goes to my school he is a grade ahead of me but he always sits by me one the bus and he said i was hot and he always flirts w/ me and stuff like that so i totally thought he liked me but when my friend asked him if he liked me he said he didnt wanta go out??? whats going on>?

He wants to be with you, but he is too nervouse to be honest and ask you out, ect.

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I have a small note I want to send to my boyfriend, and I only know the basics of Italian and French, so I can't really translate the whole thing. I know Spanish, but of course that's not too romantic. Anyways, this is for our 3 month anniversary note, please translate it in Italian, if you can't do Italian, French pleaseee?! I need it to be special. Thanks!

Here's the note:

Wow, I can't believe it's been three months already. It seems like we've been together for so much longer! I can't imagine if you and I weren't together; you're definitely the most important person in my life. I love you, always and forever.

Thanks! I'll rate if you actually translate it for me! Thank youuuu.

Italian

Il Wow, non posso credere che sia stato tre mesi già. Sembra come siamo stati insieme per cosí molto più lungo! Non posso immaginare se non eravamo insieme; lei è definitivamente la persona più importante della mia vita. L'amo, sempre e per sempre.

French

Hou là, je ne peux pas croire c'est été trois mois déjà. Il semble comme nous avons été ensemble pour si beaucoup plus long ! Je ne peux pas m'imaginer si vous et je n'étais pas ensemble ; vous êtes sans aucun doute la personne la plus importante dans ma vie. Je vous aime, toujours et à jamais.

Hope I helped♥

If you need anything else translated, I got this translated at www.freetranslation.com

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Is it possible to fall in love with someone if you're not attracted to them pysically?
I have feelings for an older man (he's 45 and I'm 26). He isn't very good looking, he is overweight and has grey hair.
He is really nice to me though and we get along and have a lot in common.
Most younger guys that are cute don't make me feel the way he does.
Should I go for him or just stay with guys that are closer to my age?

It would make you happier later if you go for the older guy. Cuteness is ok, but personality matters much more. And yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone if your not attractive to them physicly. Hope I helped♥
--caden--

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How much do you guys think look really matter? i think I have to be attracted to the person I'm dating so it's always been about 40% for me. BUT, sometimes if the person isn't the hottest but has a killer personality, it kind of pushes their hottness up, you know? So what do you guys think?

I agree with you. but i like girls that are shorter than meor equal hight and that are thin.
looks arent too important for me.

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Male 13

This is kind of long so if you dont have time to read it it is okay

For the past 6 months i have been asking questions about my best friend and how i like her and what not.

Now a little backround info i have known HER for five years we are best friends. Now for the first three years i knew her i just couldnt be around her enough i had a major crush. Then i finally started letting go or hideing my feelings from myself. What ever it was it worked i really thought i was over her. But then about 6 months to a year ago i started liking her again.

i think this happend because she almost got a boy friend. so i have gotten through all the Drama over her so far her almost having a boy friend, her moving her being pushy ext...

But the thing with her her has always been she would say she didnt need a boyfriend and she would talk to me about all of this.

All of asudden she wants a boyfriend (which of course made me upset) But on top of that instead of talking to me about it she talks to this other girl she barley knows. i mean i could understand if she wanted to talk to a girl not a guy but shes never had trouble talking to me before.

the question is what should i do ( i know thats a pretty general question but i am having trouble finding the right words for my question)
I mean she tells me i can talk to her about anything but i have trouble talking to her about her.

SO bassically i just need advice for the whole situation

I know why she is talking to the other girl instead of you. It's a girl problem and she needs advice from girls. If you talk to her about it {AIM, phone, ect} and give her some advice, and flirt a little. In time, she'll be with you. I hope I helped.
--caden--

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Hi, Caden! Last night, my middle school (I'm 13) had a dance. I finally got the courage to ask (let's call him "Will") Will, this guy I've really liked since April of last semester, to slow-dance. Well, the song was really short, and we're fairly good friends (we usually talk most of the time on AIM) so he said to me "Hey, Penelope, can I tell you a secret? I have a huge crush on Catherine." Isn't that awful? I feel terrible.

Thanks a lot.

Penelope.

It is heartbraking to hear that someone you love has a crush on another girl. No one can help fall in love. It just comes naturaly. All you need to do is just be friends with him and your doing great with that. Be kind to him and help him when he's feeling his lowest. Someday, he will develope some love for you. Try flirting with him a little, but be sneaky about it. Help him with homework. Hope I helped♥
--caden--

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i have a crush on my friends brother and he used to like me. but last year i messed it up, and now i really miss him. he and i didnt go out but we flirted alot, and now i wish i was going out with him. he acted like i was the most icky thing on earth for like a year, but lately he has been acting a little nicer to me. what should i do????? i still really like him and i dont know what to do. please help.
i will rate

Ok. When a guy gets rejected, unnoticed, ect. They may feel angry or disgusted at the end but they get over it as time comes by. One time I liked this girl and she totaly ignored and avoided me. I felt a little disgusted and angry for about a year and now I feel like I could forgive her if I had to. He may be willing to be friends again. I would start as friends and get to know him better.

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(15/f)Well my life is really hectic right now. Some things have happened recently that are really stressful for me...well i just havent been myself lately && my boyfriend has noticed it. Things arent the same like they used to be. Dont get me wrong i love him a lot but idk if i can handle a relationship anymore. All we do is fight now, and im just always moody now and he deserves way better than me. With everything going i just cant handle the whole bg/gf stress. Yes ive tried talking about it to him but he doesnt get it... I told him we were over last night (that was deff. the hardest thing ive ever done)...its just horrible that i had to do that because its like now all i feel is like sh**.. First i was just like "I have to do this" and now i feel like I need him more than anything. Weve been dating for 7 months, and its like i just blew it. He told me that if i did this that he was never gonna take me back && i did it, so i lost him :(. Idk what to do im so confused. And i cant take a break because those things never work out and besides he said he wont take me back anyway. Hes online right now and he nor I have imed each other. he was really hurt when i told him and he was seriously about to cry :(. Now all i can do it cry because i feel like such a low-life loser. I do love him but its just difficult, really really difficult...If anyone can help me out with this i would really appreciate it..xox

You dont need to feel guilty. It was your decision that he wasnt perfect for you. I can tell you still care for him, because you feel guilty and you dont want to see him stressed out like this, and thats a good thing, even though you broke up, it does'nt mean you have to stop loving eachother {as long as nothing gets romantic}. If you two remain friends, there will be a lesser chance for his word to stick. I hope I helped♥
--Caden--

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Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering...should age matter in a relationship? What's your point of view on this one, like does it matter if both are close in age or far apart...by far I mean less than 5 years or so. Thanks in advance, will rate.

Hell no! Some parents can be paranoid but if you two love eachother it shouldnt matter. Although if you are coupled with an older girl, I would still be cautious.

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sry its long but ill rate 5's unless its mean

okay well on thursyday of last week i asked this guys ian out and he said no because he doesnt like me in that way. well i tried and it took me like 2 days but i got over it. well wednesday we had study hall instead of band and ian took my seat so i sat beside him and me and him talked the whole time and then his friend matt who was on the other side of him told me that ian liked me and then i saw ian yell at matt for something and then today in math class eric (( ians best friend and my cousin)) told me something and i think it was about ian and then ian yelled at him and i think he told him to shut up! whats going on here!?

I think he just wants to get to know you and maybe he does like you but he doesent want to tell you bc he is worried of what your reaction will be. He probably wants to get to be friends with you and move on froom there. If you are wandering how I know this, I am trying to do the same thing with a girl I like.

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