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NOTHING is going right anymore
Male 13
This is kind of long so if you dont have time to read it it is okay
For the past 6 months i have been asking questions about my best friend and how i like her and what not.
Now a little backround info i have known HER for five years we are best friends. Now for the first three years i knew her i just couldnt be around her enough i had a major crush. Then i finally started letting go or hideing my feelings from myself. What ever it was it worked i really thought i was over her. But then about 6 months to a year ago i started liking her again.
i think this happend because she almost got a boy friend. so i have gotten through all the Drama over her so far her almost having a boy friend, her moving her being pushy ext...
But the thing with her her has always been she would say she didnt need a boyfriend and she would talk to me about all of this.
All of asudden she wants a boyfriend (which of course made me upset) But on top of that instead of talking to me about it she talks to this other girl she barley knows. i mean i could understand if she wanted to talk to a girl not a guy but shes never had trouble talking to me before.
the question is what should i do ( i know thats a pretty general question but i am having trouble finding the right words for my question)
I mean she tells me i can talk to her about anything but i have trouble talking to her about her.
SO bassically i just need advice for the whole situation
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well, first off all, dont feel sad that she was talking to girs and not you first. Girls tend to do that, and they trust anyone. i think you should go somewhere with her and hangout for a while, thenn tell her that you like her and you heard she wants a bf. ask her out. she might not talk to you about it because she likes you and is afraid if she asks that you will say no. if you are a little nervous (i say you shouldnt be but...) then maybe you should hint to her...bring up the situation about her wanting a BF and go from there.
Hope i helped
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She may now have feelings for you. I had a friend who i could talk to about anything and then suddenly i started liking him without relizing i thought in my mind if i talk to him he would figuare out that i liked him. So i started talking to my friends that were girls b/c i didnt have to worry about it. I think she feels the same way you do she is afraid that if she says something she will lose the friendship that you already have. The best thing is to talk to her b/c if you dont she will end up with someone else and you wont be able to get it if you wait to long.
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Well if she can come to you for help, she prob thinks of you as a brother or something
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If you've been asking questions about this girl for the past 6 months, then I think that you should at least gather all your courage and do what I'm sure other advice columnists have told you to do. That is to of course, ask this girl out. Some girls at points and times in their lives feel independent and don't want and need a guy, or a boyfriend around, so that's probably why she didn't want one around in the past. But that all is going to change now because she wants a boyfriend because she needs that special affection . Lets just leave it at a need of her's that needs to be met. And she's talking to the girl because she is a girl and you're not a girl and she probably feel that it's easier for her to relate to herself. When it's like this , it's easier to talk to people. Even people that you hardly know, so just try and get her. Also, ask her out. You'll save yourself a lot of time and just get it over. No need wasting time over it if you're not going to go for it. And you've wasted 5 years dude. So go for it. If she's that important to you, fear should be thrown aside. There's a risk and there's the truth. Are you afraid? If you want to wait another year, or 5 years, then don't ask. But if you don't, you know what to do. Don't waste your time if you're not going to go through it. And don't have any regrets. And don't think about what could've and should've been. If you just ask her, you'll know the answer to these things. Don't wait till it's too late. Ask her.
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I know why she is talking to the other girl instead of you. It's a girl problem and she needs advice from girls. If you talk to her about it {AIM, phone, ect} and give her some advice, and flirt a little. In time, she'll be with you. I hope I helped.
--caden--
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Hi!
Firstly, everyone has different personalities especially during the puberty stage which I suppose that u are now in. Some girls, during this stage, prefer opening up to someone of their gender instead of a friend, regardless of sex or duration of friendship.
Personally, if I were to be in your situation, I would prefer to keep the friendship instead of confessing and risk losing it. Furthermore, even if you do become successful in winning her heart, it is highly unlikely that the relationship would last for very much of a long time. Getting into a relationship now would also put u to unhealthy exposures such as that of permarital sex and abortions.
I hope that this info would be of help to u. Cheers!
tEr
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