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She lied
This girl and I have been casually dating for a little more than a month. She's only 14 and I'm 17 but I genuinly like her. I'm not using her just to get some, I don't even want to do any more than kiss her. At the beginning of the relationship she told me she had only held hands with a guy before. I was skeptical but went with it. Now, she just told me she's had sex, but it was when she was only 9 years old. I'm not upset that she's not a virgin, I don't want her for that. I'm upset that she lied to me from day one. I'm not even mad, just really disappointed and very hurt. I've told her everything I've done with every girl I've dated. I live by the basic rules: Don't lie and don't cheat. She wants to go out with me know and I don't know if I can. I've been hurt before, and recently, and if she's lied once there's no saying she won't do it again right? I know it might sound like I'm overreacting but I really don't think I can take being hurt again. Please let me know what you think I should do.
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well she probaply lied because she was embarrased or nervous or just didnt wantthat known. best thing would be to talk to ehr about it and she why she lied. then decied if you will go out
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well she probably lied about it from day one because she was nervous or she was to embarressed to tell you so now she tells you because she knows you better.
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Well, I can see why she would lie to you. If you knew that she had sex when she was 9 before you were dating her, that might've changed your opinion on her. Atleast she told you. You have to tell her she has to be completely honest with you! It's not like she just had sex and lied to you about it. If you really like her, things will work out.
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She was probably very very embarassed about it and did not feel comfortable telling you about it in the beginning. Now that you two are closer she feels like she can confide in you more. Having sex at age nine isn't something to be taken lightly. She probably didn't want you to think she was as slut and not want to be with you. Or perhaps she was raped and never told anyone about it until now. She's not a liar. Being uncomfortable about something and hiding it isn't lying. Technically it is, but it's not the same. She's being as honest with you as she can. Complete honesty isn't always completely healthy. There's no reason for you to not trust her. Listen to her and help her through any emotional strain she may be having because of what happened. That's something that she didn't have to tell you at all and she did. It's okay to be a little upset with her, but she is not a dishonest person so don't hold a grudge. She may need you right now to help her feel better about what happened. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck!
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well your right. but maybe shes ashamed that she had sex and didnt want you to know yet becuase well she didnt want you to reject her? maybe she didnt want you to think bad of her. well just think about that and the age thing shouldnt matter.... im 14 and my bf is 17.
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You right there is a chance she will lie and there is a chance that she wont. But are you willing to take that chance. there may be a reason why she kept it form you. I am a girl and the way i see it is that she kept it from you b/c she was afraid that if you knew you wouldnt go out with her. I know you might probably would still have but at that moment she was thinking that. I think that if you really like her you would forgive her but if you want to be with someone who doesnt lie to you and is a great person then you shouldnt be with unless you really want to. Think about what you want. If you figuare that out then you should be able to solve anything.
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did you perhaps consider that this girl was nine????? maybe it was not consentual? maybe she was to young to realise what was going on? maybe she is telling you now cause she trusts you and before she was unsure? perhaps if its to much you should find someone a little older?
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