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Age difference
Is it possible to fall in love with someone if you're not attracted to them pysically?
I have feelings for an older man (he's 45 and I'm 26). He isn't very good looking, he is overweight and has grey hair.
He is really nice to me though and we get along and have a lot in common.
Most younger guys that are cute don't make me feel the way he does.
Should I go for him or just stay with guys that are closer to my age?
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I don't think it really matters if theres an age difference. I mean some people happen to come across someone they really like ( possibly love ) and they're happy with, so who cares if they're ___ years older? If they make you happy and you want to be with them, then I say be with him. He probably has the maturity and knowledge that some people your age might lack. I think it's great that you've found someone =] And it is possible to be in love with someone if you're not attracted to them pyshically. Whenever someone's attracted to someone physichally, that's not really love. That's basically lust. But whenever you love being with them and they make you happy and they're just amazing then that's love. I mean of course you need psyhical love too, but I think emotional rules over. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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While the point that you love him is perfectly fine, I doubt it's a boyfriend-girlfriend love. He probably makes you feel better than guys your age because he's had time to mature and learn something about how to treat a woman. However, if you're sure you want a closer (even if nonsexual) relationship, then go ahead. But beware of how you go, if things don't work out like that it's more likely to be uncomfortable later.
I suggest taking a good look at how he treats you. Yes, he's nice but in what sort of way? I can't give hard rules on what means what, but as previously said, he could think of you as a daughter. Or maybe a younger sister.
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stay with the guys who are closer to your age, the older guy may love you, but probaly like a 'daughter' kind of love, but i doubt love-love.
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I think it is possible to fall in love with someone because of something other than physical attraction. However, like younggrandma said, for the physical aspect of a relationship, there does have to be some sort of physical attraction.
Is there nothing that you find attractive in him? Sometimes we overlook the little attractive things in favor of a cute face or a nice body. Eyes, smile, these are all things that can make someone attractive. Also, like someone said earlier, looks tend to fade, but personality is great.
While the age difference is something you may want to consider, I wouldn't make it the only determining factor of your relationship. My husband is 19 years older than me and we have a perfect (at least to us) relationship. I won't lie to you and say it's easy, but if you love each other, it works out. You just get immune to the looks and remarks.
If he makes you happy, I would stay with him to see if it goes somewhere. Nowhere is it written that our Mr. Right is drop-dead gorgeous and the same age as us.
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It would make you happier later if you go for the older guy. Cuteness is ok, but personality matters much more. And yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone if your not attractive to them physicly. Hope I helped♥
--caden--
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Go for this guy you like.. Age is just a number.. And Yes its very possible to fall in love with somebody you aren`t very attracted to.. ♥ Dez
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If there is an attraction their you should try it out and see how it is .. my friends dad's girlfriends about your age and they're madly in love .. hes a little older .. and the older they are the more mature they are .. i say you try it out and see how things go with him .. g0od luckk !! -- ashley
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Of course it's possiblt to fall in love with someone who you don't find physically attractive. I've only ever had one boyfriend I would describe as physically attractive and they only lasted a few days.
There is a large age gap between you but you're both adults so it's up to you. Bear in mind that you may have very different ideas about what you want to do in your free time, generally. You're younger and you'll probably want to go out on Friday nights whereas he might want to have a quiet evening in.
At the end of the day you have to do what you think is right. No one can make the decision for you.
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go for a guy your age.
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YES it's definitely possible and it's actually a really good thing. However, a little physical attraction is healthy in a relationship and such a large age difference has other problems involved with it. I think you should keep seeing this guy, things could potentially work out with him. Think about the effects his age will have on your social life, your children's lives if you decide to have them, and your own relationship with him. My advice to you is to keep your options open. Someone that you feel the same way about, that you are more physically attracted to, and is closer to your age could come along. I hope I was able to help and good luck!
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I think you can love someone you have a lot of common interests with. I think if you are talking long term physical relationship though, there has to be some physical attraction. If not then it just won't work out. It is a very big part of a relationship even though it shouldn't be the sole reason for one.
Close to 20 years age difference is quite a gap. At your age it is really up to you. I'm pretty sure if you saw him 24/7 some major differences in how you think about things would be a problem.
That is a personal opinion though.
Good luck. :)
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