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ok, stupid question.
do you think 14 is too young to get your upper ear peirced? my parents say i'm too young for a peircing like that...i don't know why... but i was just wondering if you think so?
i don't know. just wondering.
I think "too young" is a short version of what they meant. I suggest asking them to explain why. Even if their reasons seem silly to you, try to understand where they're standing.
Aside from the basic lower ear, most piercings have the reputation as being part of rebellion and drug use. While there honestly isn't such a strong connection, that reputation could be the root of what your parents feel.
Legally, in many places, you are indeed too young to get a piercing without parental consent. If you are sure that you want this piercing, then you will have to prove to them that you have the maturity to handle it (that means no whining fits) and that things will be done safely.
Whatever happens, don't try to pierce yourself or let a friend do it. There are real dangers for getting pierced, especially if the place and needle are unsanitary.
13/f
ok well theres this guy and he used to like me a lot but at the time i was goin out with this other guy. The problem was was that i really liked both of them and i didnt want to hurt my current boyfriends feelings soo i just stayed with him. but still really liked the other guy. Since i stayed with aaron and didnt go out with brandon he got aggervated and well kinda moved on and is now going out with this girl that is like 3 years older than him. im still goin out with aaron but i still like seriously really like brandon but then i still like aaron, brndon has told my friends that he doesnt like me nymore and is not breakin up with mogan. im am really hurt and letting myself feel really stupid and dont kno wat to doo about it i cant get over him no matter wat i do..im soo lost and dont kno wat to do>?!?!?!!?
I NEED SERIOUS HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!
Forget both guys. Sure, be friends, but continuing the way you are will only cause more hurt in the long-run. You're being dishonest to your boyfriend by favoring someone else and not ending an already hurt relationship. You're hurting yourself by continuing to moon over someone who has moved on.
Things will probably continue to be rocky and uncomfortable for a while, but try to take some time to be single. Getting over both guys definitely won't be easy. However, backing off of dating will help you regain perspective.
After the mess has cooled off and you've spent quality FRIEND time, you might decide you're ready for another try with your boyfriend. Go ahead if he's still available, but guys who are already with others are off-limits, no matter how much you like them or they might like you.
Hopefully, this experience will have taught you a valuable lesson for future relationships.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for half a year and I gave my virginity to him. He said that he was a virgin also. I feel that he was lying to me about being a virgin. I don't know what I should do to confront him with my thoughts. He seems to know too much about Sex to be a virgin.. I think he lied to me so I would sleep with him. How can I ask him about it without hurting his feelings?
I think it's important to understand that he may be either well-read and/or paid attention in sex ed. I was very knowledgable about sex before I ever got any.
Be sure to approach your boyfriend in a non-accusing manner. Say something along the lines that you feel weird that he knows more about the subject and to please honestly tell you how he learned the stuff he does. The hard part will be having to accept the answer (no amount of crying or yelling will change the past if he did originally lie). And if he did lie, you'll have to weigh if the lie is worth breaking up or something that can be forgiven.
would it be safe for a kid to go on the low carb diet?
No. Unless a doctor says otherwise for a person, low-carb diets are not good. Carbs are not bad. The fad of low-carb is a mark of laziness.
I was wondering the pregnancy percentage for people who use the pulling out method. I know it is unsafe and likely to get you pregnant but does anyone know the percentage?
I don't think it is possible to give an accurate percentage without adding on conditions. Guys can release sperm before ejaculating or pull out too late and the girl might miscarry before even knowing she was pregnant or just plain not be ovulating during usage of pulling out. Sorry if you need it for a health class or something like that.
I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)
I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think?
It's the combination of young age and lack of maturity that is concerning.
I was an early starter, but I'm going on six years in a solid relationship (and about to have my first child). Age wasn't an issue because both my partner and I knew the dangers and were rather well equipped to deal with the emotional parts. However, that's unusual.
I am often surprised how ignorant my younger peers are, even with sex ed. It's not so much that peers give out bad information (even though it does happen), it's that sex is either made glamorous by entertainment or being hushed up by parents stuck on keeping kids as kids (doesn't work). It's difficult to get information untainted by someone's agenda, especially when everybody thinks you're too young to be getting any. Even while trying to protect a younger generation, we do need to remember that teens can be sexual beings too.
Since I was the previous poster where you said and I quote.
"While I disagree with the previous response for using you as a target of personal issues"
You are targeting me...as a previous poster, so thank you very much.
Now here's the question, so you do agree that a 13 year old should have sex, let alone anal sex? Nevermind that you told her how to make it more comfortable.
The purpose of this website is to answer questions people may have, not to bash their choices (whether for good or bad). Refraining from giving an honest answer is not going to stop someone from having sex, in fact it's more likely to set up the person to discover the bad side of sexuality, the hard way.
As to the poster, they do meet the rules of this community. They are of minimum age and did place the question in the "Sex" category. No, I may not care for the age, but that's not the point. The question wasn't if they were doing something appropriate and I'd rather they know the truth than the fluffy answer of "you shouldn't be having sex".
Do those free giveaways on the net really work, like, you answer 1 little survey and they give you a free iPod? Has anyone done this? What do you actually have to do after you give them your shipping information- promote adds or try out products? Is this bad to do? Do people actually do it?
Yes and no. The most popular ones have the super-fine print that you must sign up for other offers for companies who have lenient policies on privacy. If you have the patience for the spam and waiting, you have a decent chance to actually get the prize item, but it isn't worth it.
However, there are a small number of survey companies that are worth having patience for. I highly recommend HarrisPoll ( http://www.harrispollonline.com ). You have to do a lot of surveys to earn the stuff, but every survey is a chance to earn a decent handful of cash (which you could use to help buy the products the bad companies are luring you in with). Plus HP means it when they say they respect your privacy.
Ok. My art teacher is little too nice to me. He makes weird comments to me like "your hair looks hott today" or "you friend kayla is cute". And he moved me up to an honors art class because he thought i was "ready" for it. Soo i moved up thinking i was a really good artist..but ever since..he just flirts with me. Also everytime i ask him a question after to class about hw assignments hes like "come to my office'. Its just weird...and he also hugs me..i dunno maybe hes just a nice person. I feel uncomfortable..wat should i do?
PS hes a new teacher..first year..and hes 24
If you feel even more uncomfortable telling him the full truth about how you feel, just limit what you say to that you're worried that it looks like he's favoring you over the other students and you don't want to give the wrong impression (teacher's pet) - so please give more space.
If he's still persitant about getting too close, then talk to a counsellor. I wouldn't suggest going first to the counsellor just for the fact he might honestly not realize how friendly he's getting, but once you've spoken to him, he does need to back off.
does diet soda really stunt your growth? i drink it a lot and people have told me it stunts your growth. is this really true?
Provided you have a healthy diet otherwise, diet soda will not hurt you in any way (unless you're allergic to something in it). It is potentially a problem if you're drinking a caffeinated kind and not getting even the minimum amount of calcium recommended for someone your age.
What is the chance of a condom breaking while your using it?
Provided the condom was stored properly and used before expiration (yes they do expire), there is very little chance. However, rough (or anal) sex increases the chance of breaking.
Last night my boy friend and i were havin dry sex and he got some cum on his boxers, but we were both wearing underwear, and some of it might have gotten on my underwear too..is it possible that i could be pregnant?
That depends on how much and how close it got. Provided nothing was actually in the crouch of your underwear, the chance is less than 1%. However, underwear is as good as no protection if some semen got in the crouch area. That is surprising for some people, but consider that sperm is very small and cotton "breathes" (and air isn't an insta-kill of sperm.
What is a good snack but is healthy at the same time? Recipes please!
~TurrrrrrtleMolly
I love to mix slices of vegetables with some olive oil and spice, then bake them til crispy. (got it from a magazine and it's super easy).
I also discovered while working as sort of a library assistant during high school that many parenting magazines offer really easy snack ideas that are healthy. It may seem a little weird looking in one, but it's amazing what you'll find.
1.)heey. im 13, my name is aubrey. well i have horrible period cramps, is there any way to get rid of them?
2.)what are some tips to help me stop bitting my nails?
3.)does anal sex hert, my bf wants to have it with me (16) and idk if it herts or not...
13, not a virgen... please dont call me a slut or tell me anything about his k thx!
♥`AUbREY`* ViNtAGExBARbiE_
For the cramps, you can try eating healthier and drink more water, less caffeine in advance of each period and then take some extra strength or menstrual pain relievers if the pain is still rough. Also, hormone-based birth control can make cramps less severe once you've gone through a few cycles with them (most people, there is exceptions). Your doctor probably can give you the best advice seeing as they know more about you.
Depending on the severity of the nail biting habit, you might need to just keep your nails trimmed and/or put on lotion or nail polish that'll taste disgusting.
Finally, yes anal sex could hurt. However, more lubrication, taking things slowly, and relaxing will help. Most importantly, you need to be mentally comfortable with the act and not only doing it because your boyfriend wants to try it.
While I disagree with the previous response for using you as a target of personal issues, I do agree that it'd be best to separate future questions. That way each question can get the full attention of those who can answer it.
Ok I just had surgery wednesday the 22nd of march, well my grandmother came to my town to "take care of me." When I got out of the hosiptal my husband was upset because my grandmother had been telling him what he needed to do with my little girl, basically telling him how he needed to raise her. Well in order to keep peace with my family he let me know how he felt about her getting into our business and telling him how to raise our daughter. Do you think that you could give me advice on how to let her know NICELY to back off and that he can raise her the way he wants too?
You can try to tell her that you appreciate her coming to visit and trying to help, but you also trust your husband to take care of your daughter while you're away. However, if she is intent on sticking to her being right, she may be offended to matter how nice or considerate you are. In which case, you'll pretty much have to make it clear her position in the house is a guest. It may be stressful and frustrating, but the more you stick to your words, the better she'll understand you mean it.
when my boyfriend fingered me after it really hurt everytm i leant forward n i was bleedin alot? is it normal?
He probably was too rough. If the bleeding lasts a long time and you know for sure a period didn't come at an interesting moment, you might want to go to a doctor. Otherwise, you might want to use a water-based lubricant and have your boyfriend go slower or be more gentle in the future. It might also help to have him trim his nails so there isn't rough edges.
My mother and I have jsut started talking about a year ago. She was with a man I did not like and she choose him over me after he crossed a few lines that should have never been crossed. Well everytime I have something important come up like surgery or graduating from something she does not show up. She makes these big excuses and blames everyone else for her not showing up. Now I understand that she lives 12 hours away from me, but when she is offered a free trip up here with someone else I think she should take it. Ever since my little girl was born my mother has only seen her 4 times. I feel like I'm the one that has done something wrong. Should I feel this way? How can I tell her that she is hurting me and don't even act like it bothers her? I'm very confussed and feel like I"m the one to blame for her acting this way. Could you please help!!!!!!!
Your mom probably has some serious issues in which you can't do anything about. I know that may be cold, she is your mom after all, but that's something you need to understand before you can start kicking away the unnecessary guilt.
Your mom has decided to not be involved, to not act like a mom, and to plain be irresponsible. You're not her conscience.
Other than the plain fact of she's your mom, why do you want her to be involved with your life or your child's? Even if she does finally visit, it may be a repeat of the past or worse.
While our situations are far from the same, there are some things that I do identify with, so I'm not just some ignorant stranger. However, hard as it may be, sometimes you just have to accept that someone who should be close to you, is not.
I have a bad habbit of slouching at my desk at work. I go home and my neck and back are killing me.
I don't even realize I am doing it while I am focused on doing my work. How can I teach myself not to slouch?
The easiest way is to push the chair as close as you can get to the desk without squeezing yourself. In order to comfortably do things such as writing or typing, you'll have to sit up right. You could also get a small pillow to use as support for your lower back.
It's spring break & I'm supposed to be having fun, but I'm not. My friends told me that we would hang out this week, but I haven't heard a word from them or seen them. It's like they forgot I exsisted or something. I've been sitting at home every day, bored out of my mind. So, I have two questions. What can I do to not be so bored? and when I see my friends at school on Monday, what should I say to them about leaving me hanging like that? or should I say anything at all? Thanks!
I doubt they planned on ignoring you, in fact, they might want to hang out but either something keeps coming up or they just don't know what to do either. Or they just want to take the chance to just relax.
You could try calling them and offering ideas for things to do together, but don't be disappointed if they're not in the mood to go out or just can't.
To take care of boredom, there's TV, computer, games, books, or just plain getting fresh air. I'm definitely not a health nut but I enjoy getting out of the house and walking to stores to see what deals are available or just watch people do less than brilliant things. ;)
my dog just died today. she got hit by a car. my dad was really close to her. everyone is so upset. i cried, i also felt really bad because when i would get mad at brittany (dog) i would yell at her and tell her i hope she died. but it seems that everyone is more upset then me. is there any way that i can get them to calm down?i know this is tragic but we cant all go crazy. everyone has a time when they died.
love kayla
The best thing to do is the be open to hugging and listening. It may be tiring when you've gotten over the loss sooner than everyone else, but pushing others to closure when they're not ready tends to make things worse and prolonged.
I don't suggest removing all artifacts of the dog without warning. Yes, they probably will end up thrown or given away, but while your family is grieving, the dog's toys and treats are tributes to the affect the dog's life has had.
You could try suggesting a night out for dinner or something that highlights your family or being together. Even if the death still hangs onto the others while you're out, the fresh air and chance to appreciate life will help the healing.