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My boyfriend and I have been going out for half a year and I gave my virginity to him. He said that he was a virgin also. I feel that he was lying to me about being a virgin. I don't know what I should do to confront him with my thoughts. He seems to know too much about Sex to be a virgin.. I think he lied to me so I would sleep with him. How can I ask him about it without hurting his feelings?
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guys talk. just because he knows alot about it doesnt mean he lied to you if you still arent sure and you want to make sure then confront him, he shouldnt get mad at you for just wanting to know the truth, you have been with him for half a year now, you got to trust him.
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I think it's important to understand that he may be either well-read and/or paid attention in sex ed. I was very knowledgable about sex before I ever got any.
Be sure to approach your boyfriend in a non-accusing manner. Say something along the lines that you feel weird that he knows more about the subject and to please honestly tell you how he learned the stuff he does. The hard part will be having to accept the answer (no amount of crying or yelling will change the past if he did originally lie). And if he did lie, you'll have to weigh if the lie is worth breaking up or something that can be forgiven.
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Well alot of people didnt believe i was virgin, because they thought i was a slut. And a cock tease. It was because i didnt give em nothing, also because i knew alot about it too. Maybe, he has friends who have had sex and like he just seems like he just knows alot. If i were id be like "Hey hun, I have a question please tell me honestly and after this i wont bug you again... Were you really a virging before you had sex with me?" if he says no or yes you got your answer. But if he says "yes, i was" then be like "then how do you know so much as if your not a virgin" and then he will explain. In relationships its all about COMMUNICATING. You cant hate someone for asking a question, or trying to communicate.
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just because your a virgin doesnt mean you dont know a lot about sex. he could have picked up from older brothers or friends.
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alot of guys just know alot about it. from their friends and what not. my bf is the same way... he knows everything but has never done it. talk to him about it and i guess you just have to trust him.
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The guy I'm currently dating was a virgin too, and he seems to know a lot, but I know for a fact he was a virgin. Some guys just have a lot of knowledge about it or catch on reaaally quickly. I don't know your situation though.. so just say exactly what you said to us. "You seem to know about sex that it makes me wonder if you really were a virgin..." Don't worry about hurting his feelings. If he seems really hurt, he's either trying to cover up a lie or slightly oversensitive. It's completely natural to wonder things like that.
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well this is one way you could know most guy take their whole virginity thingy as seriously as girls do but if he's stays with you for a long period of time after the whole ordeal then it means he was a virgin but if he dumps you right afterwards then he wasn't he just wanted to get in your pants........hope i helped
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Ask him in a really calm voice, "Have you lost your virginity to someobody else?" He will proably deny it... say, "I trust you so I know you would tell me the truth"
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He may be telling the truth.
Ask him how does he know so much about sex. If he gives a reasonable answer then he probably isn't lying. If he gives an answer that sounds like bull then let him know how you feel.
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hmmm the very 1st time you two had sex, how long did he last? less than 5 mins he prolly was a virgin. he may know alot about it from pornoghraphy. if your really having doubts you should ask him about it, it may seem harsh but if you want a good relationship honesty is key. plus if you really feel like he lied about something that big, if you never know for sure youll always have problems trusting him. i think its best to just calmly ask him, if he had any prior experience, try asking how far have you gone before we got together. maybe hes experienced in other aspects, without penetration. dont be afraid to ask, you have a right to know, if hes mature enough for sex he should be able to talk about it with you. hopefully your fears will amount to nothing, but you shouldent have to wonder about something like that, if he asks why you dont believe him, just tell him the truth, that he just seems to know alot about it.
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Okay, first maybe consider the possibility that he is, in fact, a virgin. Guys watch porn sometimes lol, so maybe he got some ideas from that. Also, some friends could have told him about it.
Just consider this before confronting him about it!
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Well, most guys learn a lot going through puberty because that's all that's on their minds and they want to learn as much as they can. Does he just seem to have a lot of knowledge about it or did he seem to know his way around the bed a little too well?
I think you should just ask him upfront about it if he seemed experienced while you were having sex, but if he just seems to have a lot of knowledge but not moves, I think it's just something that comes with being a guy.
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