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My Dog just died
my dog just died today. she got hit by a car. my dad was really close to her. everyone is so upset. i cried, i also felt really bad because when i would get mad at brittany (dog) i would yell at her and tell her i hope she died. but it seems that everyone is more upset then me. is there any way that i can get them to calm down?i know this is tragic but we cant all go crazy. everyone has a time when they died.
love kayla
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Try to find another dog that was like Brittany and see how your family reacts. I'm not saying get a new dog to compare the dog to Brittany, just get your family a new four-legged- friend;) I'm truely sorry about what happend.
-YOLIV
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Thats sad to hear. You have to know that it takes time to get over a tragic. It's not going to go down over 2 days. It might take 2 months. People have different emotions. So hang in there. It's a part in life like you said. It might be up to you to remind them that it is part of life. It's not the last time your going to see him if you know what I mean.
Hope I helped
----Ryan----
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My dog recently died on February 2nd, so I can relate. It was the same thing that I did to my dog, yell at her when she begged for food under the table, or was just annoying. I felt really bad and my mom was very close to her. You can cry with your family and tell them that everyone has a time when they die. I also suggest getting a new dog. My family is getting a new dog in the summer. And, remember, this would not be replacing your old dog. It's just a way of helping the family feel like they have Brittany again and being happy =)
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The best thing to do is the be open to hugging and listening. It may be tiring when you've gotten over the loss sooner than everyone else, but pushing others to closure when they're not ready tends to make things worse and prolonged.
I don't suggest removing all artifacts of the dog without warning. Yes, they probably will end up thrown or given away, but while your family is grieving, the dog's toys and treats are tributes to the affect the dog's life has had.
You could try suggesting a night out for dinner or something that highlights your family or being together. Even if the death still hangs onto the others while you're out, the fresh air and chance to appreciate life will help the healing.
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You can't really get them to calm down at all. Honestly, the only cure for a tragic accident like that is time, and lots of it. Just be supportive and caring. After a few weeks (at least) suggest getting a new puppy or something.
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Ouch. the exact same thing happened to me about 2 years ago.I was soo sad because that dog was like a siater to me. But hey, you're looking at the problem the right way.Maybe you should suggest that you go on a small vacation or at least do something fun to get your mind off of it, even if it'sa only for a couple of mins. It'll cheer you and your family up for a little while. You're exactly right about the "everybody has there own time" and everything like that. Good luck. ; )
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i think that they just need time. if my dog died, i know my family would be very upset, also. maybe you should just not say anything about the dog. hide anything that might remind them of her, and just go about your life as usual.
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Your poor family are in mourning. Pets are a part of the family and you've all just lost a loved member of it without any warning, it's a shock. People grieve in different ways and they just need time to come to terms with the loss. Just try to be supportive and not do anything to upset them at the moment. You shouting at Brittany in the past is something most people do if they're angry. It's not that you wanted her to die, it was just emotions coming out, so don't worry about it, it's quite normal. They will start to accept the loss in time and it can do you all good to let the grief out. If strong emotions are bottled up it can have a negative on the health. In time they may want to get another dog. This won't be a replacement, but giving a home to another animal can help, as it would give your family something else to focus on and love. Hope this helps and good luck.
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Time is really the only thing that helps with death. There's no way to cheer people up when they've lost someone or a pet that's precious to them. It's a good idea to be supportive, of course; when people are sad, they tend to react more to things that normally wouldn't annoy them much, like loud music.
Remember that even though some people might not understand it, your father and the rest of your family are going through a mourning period.
Generally, if you're not sure what to say, the best idea is to say nothing.
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