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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

advice

i have had sex with one guy.
and i think its incrediable!
is it bad that i like it so much?

Not at all.
Just don't go around having sex with everything that moves.

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If i cut out pop and junk and was doing 200 sit ups a night how much weight do you think i could loose in 25 days ??

You can't get an exact number. It's different for every person depending on metabolism, overall diet, and other factors. Cutting back on junk food and soda is a great idea regardless of wanting to lose weight.


These changes should be a permanent lifestyle change. You don't have to eliminate junk entirely. Moderation is key- I don't know how many times I've told people that. If you deprive yourself completely, you're eventually going to snap. You'll find the nearest bag of family size Doritos and eat the whole thing- not good. Eat a small handful on occasion, as a treat. And don't kick yourself afterwards, k? Like I said, its okay to eat junk sometimes. Just don't live on a diet of Twinkies, Coke, and Snickers, you know?


As for a workout, try adding some running or walking to your daily routine. You'll see a significant improvement in how you look AND feel about yourself.


Lastly, don't be a slave to the scale, like I was. Your weight may not change right away, but your size will. Use a tape measure (I use my mom's sewing one, since it's super bendy) and measure your waist and hips about once a week or so. Don't weigh yourself sixteen times a day either. A couple times a week is sufficent.


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whats a valedictorian and how/when do you become one?
thanks.

YG is absolutely correct.


You become one when your class graduates highschool. The person with the highest GPA. Salutorian is second in the class, by the way.


Many grading systems (if yours is computerized) calculates class ranking after each marking period (like after report cards) and you can have an administrator check your rank. My school uses iPass, so if your school has that, chances are they also have the class rank feature.


:)

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sorry if this is the wrong category. anyway, to the question.

Im 13 and a girl(tell by the name?) and I've really liked this guy for maybe...seven months now. I talk to him alot at school, and he's grown to be a really good friend. He teases me and flirts-if you can call it that?-(example-knudges me when im on the edge of a seat so I almost fall off, then smiles and laughs, and helps me back up...)and I really, really like him. A few days before vacation, which was last week, he started to sit next to me in the classes where we can choose where we sit, and made sure he could stand next to me in the lunch line, and talked to me alot more. We talked on line for about an hour the day vacation started, and we laughed and teased each other, you know, stuff like that. I was going to tell him I like him, but I chickened out. I got frustrated, because I had a few chances. Today, the day after vacation, he didn't talk to me at all, except for once at the very end of the day. What I'm asking is do you think, maybe, he likes me? I don't want to say anything to him if he dosen't like me, because I get embarrased really easily, and I don't want anything to change our friendship. So, I sort've have two questions : Is there a chance he likes me, and what should I do? I can't get him out of my head. Please help. Thanks :)

I really and truly think this guy likes you. Often, the male race of our species is cryptic and confusing. It's in their DNA; it's the Y-chromosome talking.


Usually, their teasing ends with them laughing at you. When he helped you up, I think he wanted an excuse to hold your hand. It was also a very nice gesture. A guy flirting on this level is usually a telltale sign that they at least somewhat like you.


You're going to have to talk to him and tell him straight up. Be direct. Don't get him running in circles; they get dizzy and confused. You know, more confused than they ALREADY are. They don't need it. :)


Say something like, "You know, Cody [or whatever his name is ;) ], we've been friends a long time. I'm really starting to like you. I always feel like myself around you and you're a great guy to be around. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I'm willing to take this chance because I realllly like you."
[wait for response]
-Depending on what Cody says here, use one of two replies.
1. "Great! So I'll have my mom pick you up for the movies at six-thirty on Friday!" (or something like that, if you decide to go on a date and see how it goes)
2. "I don't want anything to change between us. I just didn't want to regret not telling you how I felt later on" (If he wants to be just friends)


I've already hinted at it- if you don't tell a guy how you feel about him, the "what ifs" will haunt you for a loooooong time. Don't be like that "I wish I could tell him but I don't know how" story. Tell him tell him tell him!!!


I certainly hope I helped you. Sorry for such a long response, but I was in a good mood today and felt like helping out people in the relationship department.

:)

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i have soooo much trouble putting eyeliner on the top.
can someone give my tips?

thanks in advance

Usually I find liquid eyeliner too messy. But I think it works very well for the top lashes.


I pull my eyelid up with one hand (by pulling on the skin above it, similar to how you pull the bottom down) and carefully draw a thin line close to the lashes. Avoid blinking like a maniac until it dries. You can add more than one line/layer, just wait for the layers to dry before you do so.


I like drawing the line all the way across, because it frames my eyes & makes me look Chinese... haha. Where you start and stop the line depends on the shape of your eyes and the look you're going for. Try out different methods and see what works for you!


Like others have already said, practice makes perfect! So don't get discouraged.
:)

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I am a freshman in highschool and i received papers from my school and the superintendant Stating that i could have the option of graduating a year early. which would mean i would be in the class of '09 instead of 2010. I already have my career planned out and what i want to do with my life and so i should accept it and graduate early right?? Well im not so sure that i want to. i mean, i dont want to leave my friends, and i know you guys will probably say " Put your life infront of your friends ". But im not to sure on what i want to do. Any suggestions?

If you're not sure, you don't HAVE to do it. Talk to your teachers, counselors, parents, and the superintendent about what they think is best.


Since you're not sure, think about both sides. If you graduate in 2010, you'll be with your friends all four years of highschool. Prom, MCAS (or whatever standardized tests you take) results at the same time, graduation. Another year of socializing with peers could be very beneficial. Also, you won't feel like you missed out on anything. I'm sure you could work something out with your teachers, and your senior year of classes could be all AP courses that actually give you college credit (many people do this anyways, so it wouldn't be much of an issue)


If you graduate a year early, you'll get a head start on your future. You'll still spend three years with your friends, and get the highschool experience. You'd be the voice of experience for your college-bound friends the year after they graduate themselves. It'd be a great experience for you. Since you already know what you want to do in life (and still have a few years to decide, too) you wouldn't be completely lost along the way.


I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.
:]

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are their different kinds of layered hair? cause i was wondering i'm getting my hair layered tomorrow and i didnt know if you can pick a certain one. thanks for your help.

Sort of. You can have the longest layers on the very bottom of your hair, in the middle, or all mixed up. Usually though, I think stylists make the shortest layers nearer the top. The exact shapes/lengths used vary from person to person, since everyone's hair/face shape/preference is different.


A good stylist will do a good job on your hair. To get exactly what you want, it helps a lot to bring in a picture of what you want your hair to look like. Also, watch them as they're cutting your hair. If you see them about to lop off a huge section you wanted to keep long, speak up! You're paying them, so you should get exactly what you want.


:)

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ok i want to throw a party, but i can't find a hall to hire. I've looked online and that i got a couple of places but i can't find out any other information for them. I need a hall in hillingdon/uxbridge.
Does anyone know where i can get information??

Thanks xx

I don't know if you mean Uxbridge, England- or Uxbridge, MA. But either way, I find this question cool because I'm from there (the MA one) haha.


Here's a site form tripod with a bunch of clubs & groups in the Hillingdon, England area.
-http://hillingdon.tripod.com/sections/sportsandleisure.htm


Call one of them up and see if they have a ballroom for rent when you need one!


If you meant Uxbridge, MA ask either myself or MissMegLOL for more places. We know our town pretty well.

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well here's my situation. I dated this guy for a year and a half and we broke up 8 or 9 months ago. But we have remained fairly good friends since then.
Well when we first started dating, he told me all the time that he hadn't drank in 2 years and he was always so proud of that. even one time he was at a bar with some of his friends (not drinking) and someone saw him there and told people that he was drinking even though he wasn't. well he got reaaallly mad about it.
So after all that and after we broke up, he got into drinking again. He would call my friends up and tell them to come drink with him and stuff. I always heard him talk about it but I had never actually seen him do it. Well last week, i went to the movies with him and one of his friends and they went in a restaurant to have a drink before the movie. It made me so nauseaus to see him drinking when I know how much he hated i before.
So my question is, what is something I can say to him to remind him of how he used to be without being to condescending? I am 20 and he is 22.

I'm really at a loss for answering this one. But one thing I can tell for certain is that you still care about him very much. True, he's an adult (and of legal drinking age) so he can do whatever he wants. Let him know that you still care- he may not realize it, or realize what he's doing to himself.


Beyond that, there's not much you can do. You can always get him help if he starts binge drinking all the time, is never sober, etc. But a drink now and then with friends isn't a problem. It's also possible he stopped drinking altogether because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to stop if he started again.

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i have the strangest feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me is there anyway i can spy on him?
I really want to get his text messages sent to my phone too?Is that possible or is there something else i could try? Some one help please!

You could also try asking him directly, without going behind his back, invading his privacy, and destroying his trust.


Because there's always the chance he's not cheating on you and you'll be the bad guy, not him.


Ways you could approach the subject would be something like "hey can I see your phone? I need to text someone" and if he objects strongly, ask why.

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I have no idea how to wear my hair for prom! I was thinking about wearing it half up and curly or in a loose updo. My hair is a few inches passed me shoulders, dark, dark brown with white blonde under my bangs and underneath my hair. My dress is black, strapless, and on the skirt of it is covered in black and white feathers. So how should I wear my hair???

Thanks!!! :D

Strapless dresses look best with your hair down (or mostly down, since updos are fun!).


It balances out the look and doesn't leave your shoulders overexposed.


Try doing something simple that will last through a night of dancing. Curls, half straight half curly, or straight with a small section pulled back would all be cute. Accent it with something like a pearl bead on a bobby pin... my hair dresser did that for my formal last year. It's really elegant, but simple.


Whatever you decide, hold it in place with lotssss of hairspray.

:)


EDIT: Imperialistic is absolutely right. It's a matter of opinion. I usually suggest that because my shoulders look terrible but I love strapless dresses =)

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This is mostly about my boyfriend, 21. I'm 18.


He says he's there whenever I need him and whenever I need to talk about things or vent but I'm not so sure.


See, my father passed Wed. night/Thurs morning and when he first found out about it he was so supposrtive and flew here to just be here and help with everything (he was at a confrence or something).


Well last night we were talking and I started thinking about my dad and everything in the middle of a happy conversation with him. I said, "I can't believe my dads not going to be there at prom or graduation or when I get married" He didn't say anything for a sec then was like, "I really wish you didn't just say that"


I know we were having a good, happy convo but shouldn't he be able to listen to me when I need to talk about it?


I apologized for bringing him down and he responded with, "Its okay...I guess"

I think he realized how much this is affecting both of your lives. A lot of guys don't know how to handle the situation when a girl is sad, especially when they're very close to them. He doesn't want to see you upset. Since you were just having a happy conversation, he was probably relieved that you were both in a better mood.


I think he's just doing the best anybody could, under the circumstances.


I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I can imagine it's a difficuly and stressful time for everyone. :(

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OKAY. my hair is already wavy.. but i dont like the way it is. i want my hair to be like:
http://static.flickr.com/14/18569002_fd91786c8d_m.jpg

http://images.oprah.com/images/health/beauty/h_hair/hhair_yearlong_120x140.jpg

like i dont know i want it like flat kinda and wavy. but falt becasue when its really big waves it makes my hair look a whole lot shorter and poofyer.
i want it like i came from the beach!

help!

dont say anything about braids or scrunching because it doesnt work!! anyadvice

Have you tried two braids, with dry hair and a nice glob of mousse or scrunching gel? I know you didn't want that, but maybe a different technique would help.


Try blowdrying individual sections with a diffuser, and sectioning with some shine serum.


Also, try using a wide-barrel curling iron on relatively large chunks of hair and combing through gently with your fingers. This would work espeically well to make your hair look similar to the second picture.

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hey im not sure what song i want on my myspace, but i want some old school hip hop and i cant find any if i search on myspace so how can i get an oldschool song on my myspace in those lil music player boxes?

projectplaylist.com has pretty much every song under the sun.


It's almost impossible to upload a song to myspace yourself these days, because there's crazy amounts of copyright protection now. Plus it's just annoying to begin with.

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how do you get them smaller?

Exercising in general. You can't lose weight in just one area.


Try running four or five times a week. Or walking; it's easier on your joints. Make sure you do plenty of stretching beforehand and when you're done, or you'll get sore like you wouldn't believe.


Pilates also helps "tone up". Plus it just feels good.

:)

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tuesday last week, i dressed up.
im usually the girl that wears hoodies and jeans and im fine.
so i thought it would be cute to dress up..
so i did..
my boyfriend LOVED it..
he said i looked really cute..
now hes the kind that calls me beautiful everyday..
and he said no matter what i wear i look cute..
but just the way he looked at me, i knew he liked the dress up samantha better..
so i was wondering, what are some ways to be more girly looking, without wearing high heels..
like a website or something, that has pictures, but more word advice then anything..

also about make-up..
i wear cover-up(i have acne)
& eyeliner..

maybe another website that gives it step by step to having more natural make up..
thanks a ton!!!

Makeup looks most natural when people don't think WOW LOOK AT HER MAKEUP! so basically, wear colors that don't "pop" by themselves, but compliment your eyes. Green eyes, for example, are complimented by shades of green and gold. A couple coats of lengthening mascara accent your eyes without looking gaudy and fake. Black or dark brown is most natural looking.


A nude lip, whether it be from just chapstick or a pale pink gloss, is best. It won't wear off like lipstick, and doesn't look fake. Plus you can reapply it without a mirror.


If you need more specific directions, ask me to my inbox or check www.wikihow.com.


:)

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13/f 5'5''~sorry for it so long~im not extreamly fat but still pretty fat~im not active at all~i love chocolate~i always sit on my ass all day i play video games tv and computer~but ive never noticed my weight until lately because of presidental test in gym~so ive been only eating breakfast lunch and dinner and kiwis and mountain dew~im not stoppin mountain dew i only drink 1 a day and water~ive been tryin to exercise mainly my arms and stomach~i try like only 5min but like 6 times a day so around 30 min~but i try different things like my versin of stuff im pretty good at it but i cant do push ups at all or pull ups i cant do arms~im not playin as much video games and tv anymore~i love goin to the mall so theres walkin but also i get soda and greasy food~but we do eat out alot atleast daily anyway wich i can stop that
~are too many kiwis bad~wats the limit a day
~what are some exercises for at home inside no equiptment needed and mainly stomach and arms
~how much exercise should i do a day
~what should my weight be 13/f 5'5''
~what are good exercises for arms and stomach
~please help me~

Try switching up regular Mountain Dew with the diet version. I don't think eating a couple kiwis a day is bad. They're fruit.. and as long as they're not giving you digestive issues I think you're okay there. May I also suggest passionfruit, guava, and startfruit, for variety?


Eating fruit is good, so keep that up! When you eat your meals, make sure to control portions. Meat= 3oz, about the size of a cassette tape. Pasta= 1/2 cup (size of a tennis ball). It's okay to have more than one serving, just keep track of what you're eating.
-Go here: http://www.fitwatch.com/qkcalc/tdcn.html

It'll tel you your daily calorie needs. Don't get obsessive and start counting every calorie down to breathmints, just have a general idea of what you're eating everyday. It'll help a lot, trust me.


Drink plenty of lowfat/skim milk. 3 or 4 glasses a day, ideally. Unless you're lactose intolerant. Then there's Lactaid. But really, drink your milk. Your body needs the calcium. You'll be glad you did later in life when everyone's bones are breaking except for yours!


Exercise (even without equipment) is easy! Just go for a walk everyday. It's more fun if you're not alone, so bring a friend/family member/dog/stuffed animal. You'll have someone to talk to that way (but the last two may get you some strange looks).


Whenever you eat out, get something besides soda. Iced tea, perhaps? I'm starting to think you're addicted to caffeine since you seem adamant about not giving up daily sodas. Try to wean yourself off them a little.


Get something besides greasy food once in a while- your body will thank you. Or, balance it out- have some fried chicken, but eat a salad, too!


Small changes add up. They make a BIG difference in how you look AND feel. If you need more ideas/advice/support, whatever, don't be afraid to IM me or ask me to my inbox. I've lost 35lbs.. and if I can lose weight, anyone can. :)

good luck!
x3

Oh yeah.. and stop using so many ~~~. They get annoying.

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i can NOT get my comment box on my page to work. i put in my friends id. and i logged into my friends page to comment me to see if it worked but it keeps saying [Invalid Friend ID.
This user has either cancelled their membership, or their acccount has been deleted]

please help meeeeee

Working comment boxes are hard to come by, since the exact URL to comment someone got changed awhile back. Here's one that works. Change the values as needed, and be certain that you're not deleting quotes. You need them for the comment box to work:






You can change virtually everything about this code. Input value "hello" is for the submit button; "goodbye" for reset. YOu can change the size/width of all elements. Font-family can be changed to any font you like, as can color codes/names/font sizes/etc. You get the idea.

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whats the worst thing a girl can do to make a guy stop liking her??? or what can she do to make him keep liking her???

You can't make someone like you. It comes naturally. Buuut...

To "make a guy like you" -which I already said is impossible, but you can always get his attention, right? :)- , just be yourself.


It's the only way the'll genuinely like the person YOU are. Otherwise, they're falling for the girl you're pretending to be.

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heyy odes anyone know how to send the same comment to everyone on your friends list on myspace at once?. i cant figure it out =[
thanks

No, there isn't a way to do that.
But you can copy/paste the comment to everyone. It'd be quicker than typing it out everytime.


You could always post a bulletin...?

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