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drinking exboyfriend
well here's my situation. I dated this guy for a year and a half and we broke up 8 or 9 months ago. But we have remained fairly good friends since then.
Well when we first started dating, he told me all the time that he hadn't drank in 2 years and he was always so proud of that. even one time he was at a bar with some of his friends (not drinking) and someone saw him there and told people that he was drinking even though he wasn't. well he got reaaallly mad about it.
So after all that and after we broke up, he got into drinking again. He would call my friends up and tell them to come drink with him and stuff. I always heard him talk about it but I had never actually seen him do it. Well last week, i went to the movies with him and one of his friends and they went in a restaurant to have a drink before the movie. It made me so nauseaus to see him drinking when I know how much he hated i before.
So my question is, what is something I can say to him to remind him of how he used to be without being to condescending? I am 20 and he is 22.
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I'm really at a loss for answering this one. But one thing I can tell for certain is that you still care about him very much. True, he's an adult (and of legal drinking age) so he can do whatever he wants. Let him know that you still care- he may not realize it, or realize what he's doing to himself.
Beyond that, there's not much you can do. You can always get him help if he starts binge drinking all the time, is never sober, etc. But a drink now and then with friends isn't a problem. It's also possible he stopped drinking altogether because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to stop if he started again.
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I'm sure he knows how he used to be, but I'm thinking he figured "Oh, well she hates drinking, and I love her, so I'll stop for her." so he stopped drinking & put up a front that he hated it. Now that he's single & has no one to stop him or get mad at him for it, he's free to do as he pleases. Let him become an alcoholic & ruin his life. You can't stop him from drinking. He's an adult & he'll do what he wants.
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