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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus DumbledoreHi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!
A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.
BU 2014 :)
wicked awesome conversations
^my forum, liven it up a little?
advice
i have a dance next week and my dress is kind of backless. the problem is, i have a little bit of acne on my upper back. that really won't look too good with my dress. how can i treat it quick? i mean, i shower every day and wash my back but it's not doing much. i have retin a micro for my face, should i try that? i solutions fast
Yeah, Retin-A can be used on other areas of your body. Also try using Neutrogena Body Clear Body Wash&Scrub. They both work well.
when teenage couples hug (guy/girl)
do the guys arms go around
then shoulders
or the waiste?
and same question 4
the girls? thanx
Whatever's more comfortable. Usually the girl puts her arms around the guy's waist, and he'll put his arms around her shoulders. Guys are often taller (I'm not trying to offend any tall girls or short guys here, it's just a biological fact..) and this arrangement works out nicely.
:)
so theres this guy, lets call him "k"
so k and i have been bffs since elementry/middle school. then we went to diff highschools, hes in brooklyn and i go to school uptown, but last year we kept intouch alot. so we were like "fwb's" last year, but then i decided i wanted more, and he decided he didnt, and we kinda lost touch.
so last night he IMs me out of NO where like "OMG ITS BEEN SO LONG I MISS U" and so we were talking and then hes liek "yo for memorial day weekend my parents are going out of town, u should come over...mad beer"
and i was like "YAY PARTY" and he was like "oh uh actually, i was thinking just me and u..."
and i dont know if i should go or not, cause i dont kno if i really want to hook up with him (obv waht he wants) and im like too fat right now and i dont want him to seeme! ugh please help me!
i dont want him to think its like ok for him to just contact me when he wants ass! but i also do want to hook up with him!
Don't do anything you're gonna regret later. If you think you'll hav sex with him (and you dont want to) don't get drunk enough for that to happen.
But if you want to... go ahead. It's your life, and you're gonna do what you want regardless of what we say.
If he likes you, he isn't gonna care if you're fat (which you probably aren't). Remember that. =]
When I tell my friend that im sad she cares and talks to me, and cheers me up and stuff and listen to me when needed. BUT when im not sad she doesnt really talk to me at all even though i start the conversation why is that?
She probably doesn't know what to say. She's great with solving people's problems, but no so great at small talk.
When you start the conversation, do so with something you KNOW she likes- her favorite band (see if they're touring and go together or bring it up at least) or go shopping and ask for her opinion. And try not to think about how awkward it is, because YOU may sound uncertain too!
:)
In the lyrics, does it say
"Hoping that he's MEANT for more than arguments and failed attempts to fly."
or
"Hoping that he's BENT for more than arguments and failed attempts to fly."
I've looked the lyrics up on numorous websites, and alot of them say "meant" as well as "bent"
The song itself sounds as if he's saying "bent" but that wouldn't make as much sense as "meant"
HELP! haha
It's "meant". It makes a lot more sense in the song, since he's "meant to live for so much more" than that!
:)
im grossed out
i hear them moaning
and like they have no respect cuz my grammas funeral is tomorrow and like
what do i do
im scared
and i feeel like
idk
i mean i know its natual but like
it sounds ugh
help
Just stop thinking about it. Really, it's a totally normal thing for a married couple to do. You're here, right? :)
Put on some music and tune them out. Don't give them a hard time about their timing- I wouldn't consider their behavior disrespectful to your grandmother.
I'm sorry for your loss, as well.
hey,
i've had a crush on my best guy friend ever since...around fourth grade we've been really tight ever since then, but ive always felt a little more for him, now for the past couple months he's been flirting a lot with me and calling me a whole lot more..his best friend asked me today would you rather be best friends or date him. his friend sent me a convo between them saying that he wanted to ask me out...i really want to say yes but would that destroy our friendship?
Yes and no. Your friendship will never be the same. Dating him would be great- you know everything about him, and you already know his family, who he is as a person, etc. If you break up, assuming it's not a bad breakup, you'll still be close, but it'll be awkward for awhile. Things WILL change, but they could very well be for the better!
I'm a firm believer in giving something like this a chance. If you don't, you may regret it. Go for it, but tell him upfront that if things don't work out between the two of you, you want to still be close like you were before.
Good luck, and let me know how everything works out!
:)
it goes "when the sun comes out for you"
i can't find it TT.TT
Are you talking about a song?
It might be "Let Her Cry" by Hootie and the Blowfish. haha, I'm not sure. You were a little too vague here.
=)
When a guy says a girl has a nice ass, what would this really be considered? like a big one or a small one or a toned one or not toned. please help me cause this kid keeps tell me my ass is really nice but i dont know exactly what hestalking about and hes constatnly touching it but i dont mind it. so dont say hes harrasing me cause i know that.
It means it's nice by his standards. Every guy is different. He either likes you or just really, really, likes your butt.
If you don't mind him doing it, it' NOT harrassment. But if you tell him to stop at any time and he continues, it IS. Remember that :)
how do you get rid of a double chin besides plastic surgery???? thanks in advance
You could always watch what you eat and exercise. That should help.
:)
hey. how do you apply eyeliner on your lowerlid? usually, i carefully line the pink part (right above my eyelashes) and that is usually what looks best, and that's what other people do. but this one girl, whose eyeliner always looks smudged & bad, said that you put it UNDER your lowerlashes cause if you put it on the pink part, it will cause eye diseases. is this true? if it is, how do you put eyeliner NEATLY under your lowerlashes without looking like you're wearing a whole lot of eyeliner? i only put it on the bottoms and not in my corners, and just continue a little bit at the top (if i don't wear mascara that day). is it okay to wear eyeliner in the corners? i feel like i look better with them, but i stopped for a while cause of my allergies. help?
You get eye diseases from sharing makeup with other people, or re-using mascara from when you had pinkeye or whatever.
You can keep eyeliner from smudging by using a waterproof formula. Also, putting a thin layer of eyeshadow on top of your eyeliner (in the same color) sometimes helps it stay in place and also makes the line look a little more smudged, without actually smudging if you get what I'm trying to say.
And yes, it's fine to wear eyeliner in the corners.
15/f
I've heard that the Perks of Being a Wallflower was a really good book, and I have yet to read it. Are there any other extremely good books that you recommend?
Anything by Sarah Dessen. Especially "Just Listen" and "This Lullaby". I'm working my way through 1984 (by George Orwell); seems good so far. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee is a personal favorite of mine. Twilight [by Stephanie Meyer] was fairly good too. Scott Westerfeld is a great writer- I can't classify his books into any one category; I'd have to say they're a sci-fi/romance/action-adventure hybrid. the "Uglies" trilogy is easy to read but has a good message- I think, haha. Kurt Vonnegut was-and always will be- one of the best writers. I've read a few of his so far as well.
If you're not sure you'll like any of these, borrow them from a library. That way, you won't be cursing my Advicenators column when you've just wasted $16.99 on a book that reduces you to tears.
:)
can ammonia on a rag when put on someones face make you pass out?
Yeah, probably. The fumes are pretty horrendous when it's far away from you... so yea.
I wouldn't recommend trying it though.
The chemical you're probably thinking of is chloroform.
how do people get pictures like this?
the color and then black and white?
http://a399.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/23/l_cfee3cedb7619d3ff490e7989293a4be.png
Photoshop filters, applied to only certain parts of the picture.
Like, you make certain parts of the picture grayscale, and color filters to others. It's kinda hard to explain, but really cool to play around with.
=]
what are some good products that i can use for my very oily face? under $10 please, thank youu.
I can personally recommend Clean and Clear Oil-Free Acne Wash. Get the cream one if you have dry areas as well (combination skin) otherwise get the one in the pump bottle. [about $5-6]
Also, Clean&Clear makes Oil-Absorbing Sheets- you just blot your face with them and they get rid of excess oil and shine, without adding more powder. These work espiecally well if you have sensitive skin or if your makeup gets cakey. [again, $5-6, depending on the store]
Lastly, any good pressed powder that blends well with your skin (get a "translucent" version if you're not sure) controls shine excellently. Yes, that is a word now. You can get good ones for as little as 2-4 dollars. I recommend CoverGirl Fresh look.
=]
me and my guy friend are rele tight so when my aunt was murdered i went to his house and cried literally on his shoulder. so any way emotions got really heavy and i ended up kisin him and i left embrassed and he has a gf so he told her because he is such a good person and she told every one eles they a re having problems now becuz of this and now im known as the "homewrecker" it sux cuz i just experienced a great loss
what should i do
You were acting irrationally. Under normal circumstances you would NOT have done something like that (hopefully) so just apologize to this girl and tell her what happened. She probably has no idea. Plus, your guy friend should have told her why you were over in the first place.
I'm sorry for you loss. I know how it feels. :(
Just don't let anyone get to you- and don't live up to your reputation.
Can anyone think of what to say for fuck off instead of using the word fuck off?
Somebody said fire truck..pretty lame!
Needs to start with an f and is one sylabol and goes with the word off =S
And can someone answer my question called Topical Sillicone Gel? It's a very important question but for two days it hasn't been on the BE THE FIRST ONE TO ANSWER or QUESTIONS THAT MIGHT NEED MORE ANSWERS.
Fudge.
F----AHHHHHHH. (if you hurt yourself)
15/f
My best friend since the beginning of High School is a really cool guy. He's sweet, he's cute but I do NOT like him like that. Now he's a really "touchy" person, like he likes to drape his arms around your shoulders or give you a hug. Well today out of nowhere his girlfriend and her little groupies told me off for letting him hug me. How do I get the girlfriend off my back and keep my best friend before I get clobbered? p.s- he's had this g/f for about 4 months.
-very ticked off
Talk to him. His girlfriend may not know that he's a touchy person around people besider her.
Have her tell his girlfriend that he likes to give other girls hugs, but it doesn't mean anything more than that they're friends.
If she still gets angry, she'll have to deal with it. Have him give HER a hug after he gives YOU a hug (make sure hers is longer and tigher, etc haha) Or, your friend could stop hugging you in front of her. Whatever you think would work best.
good luck! =]
Is there ANY way to get a grease stain out of clothes? I didn't notice it on my jeans until after I washed them and it's really noticeable. I believe it's from pizza. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
My mom says to use Dawn Dish Soap first, and then use OxyClean. And if you can find it, use Fels-Naptha. It's a laundry bar soap that gets EVERYTHING out.
My dad also just walked in and says that Fast Orange Pumice Hand Wash (you can get it in automotive sections of stores) also gets grease out.
good luck saving your jeans! =]
15/f
i used to weigh about 135, but then i started to watch what i ate and now i weigh around 126-127 and i havent gone above 130 in over a month. i still watch what i eat, but i think i freak out a little about it..i realize how hard it is just to burn 100 calories so i have no idea how to eat anymore. any help on what to watch? i know not to eat fatty foods and foods high in carbs and of course calories, but i need to know what to eat without freaking out about it. lacrosse season is ending, so i'm not going to really have that exercise after this week, but i can try to go on the treadmill. i love ab workouts so i do a lot of those. and they're pretty intense ab workouts, those 10 minute segments on on demand on tv. how many calories do you think those burn?
sorry it's so long, i had a few questions and i needed to ask them all!
Go here:
-http://www.fitwatch.com/qkcalc/bmr.html
It'll tell you how many calories your body burns just by functioning. You could sit there not eevn hitting the channel button on a remote and burn that much.
As for what to eat, use your common sense. Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full. Eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, go easy on the junkfood and soda (or cut it out entirely). Exercise moderately most days of the week.
That's pretty much it! =]