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should i make out with him!!!!
so theres this guy, lets call him "k"
so k and i have been bffs since elementry/middle school. then we went to diff highschools, hes in brooklyn and i go to school uptown, but last year we kept intouch alot. so we were like "fwb's" last year, but then i decided i wanted more, and he decided he didnt, and we kinda lost touch.
so last night he IMs me out of NO where like "OMG ITS BEEN SO LONG I MISS U" and so we were talking and then hes liek "yo for memorial day weekend my parents are going out of town, u should come over...mad beer"
and i was like "YAY PARTY" and he was like "oh uh actually, i was thinking just me and u..."
and i dont know if i should go or not, cause i dont kno if i really want to hook up with him (obv waht he wants) and im like too fat right now and i dont want him to seeme! ugh please help me!
i dont want him to think its like ok for him to just contact me when he wants ass! but i also do want to hook up with him!
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Well, as you say, he wants to and you want to, you've got some history, and the time is ripe. It sounds to me like he's interested in getting something going again and is extending an invitation.
The only fly in the ointment is that you have gone through this before, and it didn't work out. Before you get too deeply into beer and making out, I suggest you find out what exactly is on his mind. Is he looking for more of what you had before, or is he ready to give you the relationship you wanted back then? You could be setting yourself up for heartbreak if you hook up with him and it turns out he's still not ready to commit on the level you want him to. In other words, talk before you make out, and find out if this is about rekindling a relationship or just getting some action.
As far as you feeling too fat, don't stress about it too much. With the relationship you and K have had already, he should be able to look past something so unimportant.
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you like this guy yeah?
so i say hook up with him
if it gets beyond kissing or such
tell him if it makes you uncomfortable
if hes the ONE he will listen and respect that fact
yet if he ignores this warning,
try to stay m8s
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Hmm..
Well you could just say hey, i can't this weekend i'm bust but next time you wanna get together call me cause as of now i'm free all next weekend. and if he calls you back then either a) he really wants to see you or b) he wants so major ass. but I don't think B is the correct answer. And then as for the hookin up part if you do go over there. Let him make the first move, cause maybe since the two of you havn't talked in awhile he realized what he's missing out on and wants you back. and realizes that he has more than friend feelings for you. Well, good luck!
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Deciding whether you're interested in fooling around with him is entirely up to you, and you should let him know what kind of interaction or relationship you're interested in before accepting the invitation. Make sure he knows where things stand regardless of alcohol consumption, and most importantly, arm yourself with the capability to enforce those standards.
In particular, I'd be concerned about safety: he may be the most trustworthy, considerate boy in the world, but with privacy, lust, expectation, and most of all, alcohol consumption, it's easy for things to go wrong.
If you do choose to hook up, make sure to let a few friends know where you'll be. Bring a cell-phone, and give those people the number as well as the address you'll be at. Make sure at least one has access to a vehicle and willingness to come get you at the drop of a hat. Keep tabs on your own alcohol consumption, and even if you trust him with your life, finish each drink before leaving it, or just abandon it all-together.
Finally, if you think sex might happen, bring your own protection. I highly recommend female condoms for a number of reasons: they're 95% effective when used correctly, you have full control of it and it has very little effect on the guy's enjoyment, the outer ring rubs against the clitoris which can actually increase your pleasure, and it's made of polyurethane so it doesn't set off latex allergies. ( Check it out: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) )
Now, the main dilemma is deciding where your own boundaries lie and seeing how that works for him. Once you've talked it over with him, you can make a much more personal decision about it, but I really encourage you to set your boundaries and make sure they'll be respected.
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Don't do anything you're gonna regret later. If you think you'll hav sex with him (and you dont want to) don't get drunk enough for that to happen.
But if you want to... go ahead. It's your life, and you're gonna do what you want regardless of what we say.
If he likes you, he isn't gonna care if you're fat (which you probably aren't). Remember that. =]
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Go hang out with, but make it clear if he wants a relationship with you then it's not just going to be when he wants a one night stand. Let him know it's not okay with you.
If you do want to hook up with, then hook up with him, but he's going to think it's okay from here on out. So I wouldn't suggest it.
::Jasmine::
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HELPPP!!!!help!
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