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best friends or more?
hey,
i've had a crush on my best guy friend ever since...around fourth grade we've been really tight ever since then, but ive always felt a little more for him, now for the past couple months he's been flirting a lot with me and calling me a whole lot more..his best friend asked me today would you rather be best friends or date him. his friend sent me a convo between them saying that he wanted to ask me out...i really want to say yes but would that destroy our friendship?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
If you like this guy (you don't even have to like him romantically yet) and you wouldn't mind spending time with him- then i'd say yes- go out with him. The best couples always start out as friends. :)
I don't think it would destroy your friendship at all- if anything it would make it stronger and more meaningful.
The worst thing that can happen is that you two will not get along anymore and you'll break up- but you can still be friends probably. Or even if you don't stay friends- it won't matter to you at that time because you'll be ready to discontinue your relationship with him.
Think of it this way- if he asks you out and you say no, do you think he'd still want to be your friend? He'd feel really bad.
I think that saying no would do more bad than good.
So go for it girl!
hope i helped.
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I tend to stay away from dating advice but here's what I think.
There's a chance it could actually destroy your friendship when a good guy friend likes you and you refuse him. It just makes things awkward. However, if you guys are both really mature and cool with each other, it shouldn't damage your friendship.
But if he likes you, and since you feel the same way about him, then dating him might actually be a very fun thing to try out.
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Ha, I hate being in that kinda situation. It could go either way. I would say if he asks you out, say yes. You will always regret it if you stay friends. It will only possibly destroy the friendship if you guys go through a hard breakup (say you cheat on him or vice versa). But i have had feelings for my best girl friend, and I regret not acting on them because she is taken now :(. But both of you will be happier as a couple.
Anymore questions feel free to ask me
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No one can say forsure if it will mess up your friendship. If he's a true friend, and loyal then I don't see why it would effect the relationship. You have to go with your knowlage of your guy friend. Is he the kind of guy that would act different if he knew you liked him ?
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His friend sent you the convo saying he wanted to go out. Unless that friend is full of bull, I think you should tell him yes. You want to and according to his friend, so does he. It seems like he might have a crush on you, from what you discribed, but the fact that I don't know him or you, I couldn't be wrong =/. If you loose his friendship because of something like this, then (no offense) he wasn't a very true friend. I say take the risk.. it could be worth it in the end =]
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Good luck.
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Yes and no. Your friendship will never be the same. Dating him would be great- you know everything about him, and you already know his family, who he is as a person, etc. If you break up, assuming it's not a bad breakup, you'll still be close, but it'll be awkward for awhile. Things WILL change, but they could very well be for the better!
I'm a firm believer in giving something like this a chance. If you don't, you may regret it. Go for it, but tell him upfront that if things don't work out between the two of you, you want to still be close like you were before.
Good luck, and let me know how everything works out!
:)
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