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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

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advice

how can you talk to guys with out getting all shy and embarresed. especailly if he is popular

The one thing that ALWAYS works, is confidence & attitude. If I'm about to talk to a guy, who is considered cool or popular, I always prepare things to say to him before hand. Do you know what he's like? Do you know about some of his hobbies? This is going to sound weird, but make sure you watch him for a while or snoop around, and find out what his hobbies are, what kind of music he likes, what sports he plays, etc. So if you find out, for example, that he likes hockey, you can walk up to him and say something like, "Hey. I'm _______. I just had to come over, because I heard that you liked hockey? I really like it too. How long have you been playing?" Something like that, except it doesn't neccessarily have to be with hockey. It can be about music or anything else that he likes. The point is that, people love to talk about themselves. So the best way to make friends and get a boyfriend, is if you ask him questions about himself. Give him compliments, etc. He will probably feel flattered.

Another thing you should do, is always end the conversation before he has a chance to end it. Talk for a few minutes, but then say, "Well, I'm gonna have to go. Some friends are waiting for me. Nice talking though. Later." and walk away. Don't let him end the conversation- you have to end it and let this guy know that YOU'RE the one in control.

Make sure you have tons of confidence & attitude. It sounds corny, but when I want to talk to someone really "popular", I pretend that I'm a celebrity/movie star, or someone really important. If you have a positive attitude about yourself, then you can talk to ANYONE. Say to yourself, before you talk to him, "I'm hot, and any loser that doesn't think so, doesn't desserve me." Playing a little hard to get is also not a bad idea either. Guys love a challenge, so make sure you're playing it cool. If he doesn't seem interested in you, give him a little laugh and walk away. And if he says something like, "I don't like you" or something rude like that, always have a comeback, such as, "Yeah, well you're a loser who just wasted 10 minutes of my time. There are tons of better boys that would DIE to go out with me." Classy, huh?

But this boy is probably a really nice boy once you get to know him, so just go for it!

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any good sites besides myspace to meet new people?

Xanga.com, VampireFreaks.com, deviantart.com(if you're an artist), blogger.com, livejournal.com.
I sugguest Vampire Freaks, the people are very nice on there, but if you don't like "gothic" people, then it may not be a good idea.

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well i was high the other day and noticed that my pupils got hella small..are they suppose to get small because i thought they were suppose to get big?

Your eyes can get bigger or smaller when you smoke pot. Sometimes they get big then small, or vice versa. Your eyes also might burn too, along with your throat.

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I will not say what I believe in for abortion because that may influence your answer..but someone brought this to my attention...
do you consider this an exception for abortion..if an 11 year old girl got pregnant(raped) and her hips couldn't support the baby. Do you believe that when a girl has her period she is ready to give child birth even though her age may not be? Any insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.

I only believe in abortion in cases of rape, incest, or if the mother's life is in danger. So yeah, I'd say it be alright if an 11 year old got an abortion if her health was in danger and especially if she was raped. It is one thing to choose to have sex, because then you must deal with the consequences of your actions. But when you are forced against your will, then I think abortion should be offered. I definitely don't think any girl is ready to have a baby just because she has her period. It is impossible to name an age that girls would feel ready, because it differs in every girl. Some girls feel ready at 20, and others at 40. Hope I helped!

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so the problem is that I AM A GIRL and i hate other girls. i can't stand them. i think their so weird and discusting. and i am a girl myself. and i only have guy friends. and i only like guys.
seriously i think guys are the only normal creatures in this world. and it makes me so angry hearing girls talking about girl stuff. it's just SO anoying. and when they scream cause they are so excited over something. it always makes me pissed. and seriously i am obsessed with guys. i dress like a guy , i act like a guy a lot , and i only have guy friends , and i am so crazy about guys haha
and i don't get myself.
is this behavior normal? or am i a weird person?

You're not weird at all- I have more guy friends than girl friends and frankly, most girls really annoy me too. Guy friends are great to have because they are more laid back and fun. They don't read into every tiny thing and they generally don't gossip as much or spread petty rumors behind your back. I am around your age too so I know that at this age, most girls are going through hormone changes, and they go through boy-crazy phases. If you said that you're in love with a guy, your hormones have probably definitely kicked in by now. To me, you just sound like a very cool, unique person that doesn't need to be part of any little social cliche to be happy. You're not neccessarily a tomboy. Maybe you just simply prefer guy friends to girls. It doesn't make you gay OR a tomboy. You can be romantically attracted to guys and attracted to guys just as friends. This could be because you connect with guys better than you connect with girls. But also, you never know, there are probably other girls out there who feel the same way you do, so maybe you'll meet up with one and become friends. But right now, stay the way you are, you are perfectly normal!!

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15/f

Since the day I met this boy, Alex, in September 2004 I have liked him. I'm sure he felt the same to me but things dragged on and never happened. I recently found out some things that allowed me to get over him.. mostly.

Despite RARELY talking, today he sent me a message with one of those poems about sex with "YOU'RE FUCKIN SEXY" at the end. Sure, he can think that of me but I also have a 4.0 GPA. Alex clearly isn't right for me.

I am wondering what I could say back to his message. I want this jerk to lust over me but think he has no chance. I am feeling quite bitter and would like a little revenge for all of the time I wasted thinking of him.

I was considering replying with a simple "oh" to him, so he would just be confused/defeated. I am not interested in sending the poem back or not replying.

Thanks, any suggestions or overall insight is greatly appreciated! =)

PS: For more info, just ask!

I know what you mean. I'm like that with guys to- you sort of like them, but you want them to think they don't have a chance. If it was me, I would reply back something like, "Yeah, I got that poem a thousand times today." If you think that sounds too mean, try adding an "Lol" at the end of it, to lighten it up a little. Basically anything can be lightnened up with the words "Lol" or "Haha." If you're into this whole, being mysterious thing, you could twrite back "mkay." or something like that. When you say "mkay," a guy gets mixed messages and he doesn't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing. If you really want to be mysterious, you can not reply at all. Or you can just wait a few days before you reply, and if he asks you about it, you can say, "Gosh, I've just been so busy lately. Sorry I didn't really have time to open your message a few days ago." Or if jealousy is more your style, a little, "Sorry it took me so long to reply, but I've been talking to alot of other guys." will always do the trick for you. Hope you find something that works for you!

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Does anyone know of a kids singing show? I'm 13 and I have been told by many I have a good voice, and I can't wait 3 years until I can go on American Idol.

Try looking in your phonebook or browsing google or yahoo, or an online directory to find places in your area. I don't know of many shows that offer opportunities for young people, but I do know one. Star Search.

Here is their website:

http://www.cbs.com/primetime/star_search/

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What do your call guys? Guys call girls sexy or hott or cute. But what can Girls call Guys?

You can call them cute, handsome, gorgeous, good looking, hot, studly/a stud. (lol.) There's nothing wrong with calling a guy any of that. I think you're okay as long as you don't call a guy "Pretty" or "Beautiful."

If a guy calls you hot or sexy, you can simply say, "Thanks." Or you can say thanks with confidence, by saying, "Thanks, I know." Or you can act like you don't know and say in a flirty voice, "I am?" And if you think the guy is cute, try saying, "Thanks, you're pretty cute yourself." =]

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whats the best think to get rid of and prevent body breakouts

Try buying a Loofah. It's a special type of sponge that you can probably buy in the shower & bath product section of your grocery store. A Loofah is basically a scratchy sponge that you can scrub your body with. It helps to take off dead skin and dirt and prevents pimples from forming. You can buy one with a long handle to reach your back also. Also buy a bodywash with salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide in it. You can also get nice body scrubs, too, like cocoa scented scrubs. Try to wear loose shirts because loose shirts allow your skin to breathe and prevent break outs. You may also want to buy an acne gel or cream to help treat pimples. I sugguest BenzaClin. It is amazing! You can ask about it at your doctor's because you will need a prescription. Most of the cost for it will be covered by your insurance if you have insurance.

Here's some sites/pictures of the items I mentioned:

Loofah:

http://www.naturalsponge.com/natural%20sponge/LOOFAH.htm

http://www.jilljordan.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=23&products_id=91

Scrubs:

http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=2078874&cp=2484525

Acne Treatments:

http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/category/index.jsp?categoryId=2512698&cp=2484526

http://www.benzaclin.com/Index.jsp

http://www.clearasil.com/

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i have a cold and tomorrow i have a debate tournament and im going to be speaking a lot, is there anything i can do to make sure i dont lose my voice in that time frame?

Take Medicine, such as pain killers for your throat and maybe a decongestant medicine so you're not stuffed up. Drink tons of fluids, and I mean TONS, it will also help you get better. Try to drink at least a gallon, it sounds like alot but it really isn't. Try drinking hot tea, also, with lemons and honey. Honey is very good for your voice, I know that many singers, particularly punk rock band singers who scream alot, eat honey before they perform. You can eat it plain (if you're brave enough, haha) drink it in tea, or eat it on a cookie or something. Using Vicks or some other metholated cream on your throat (rub it on throat & chest) may help. Don't talk alot now, and if you have to, talk quietly. Suck on cough drops, prefferably mentholated cough drops like Halls. Take more medicine tomorrow morning when you wake up. Eat a hot breakfast like Oatmeal, Cream of Wheat, Waffles, or Pancakes. Citrus fruit may help too, like lemons, limes and oranges. Another important thing is just to stay positive, if you think you are going to lose your voice, then you probably will. Stay positive and I hope you feel better soon! Good luck & Have Fun!

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Does anyone know of any good love songs??
Rock or Punk-rock songs only please.

Thanks xx

I was meant to answer this question. Haha. Let's see....

- This Celluloid Dream by AFI
- Slow Hands by Interpol
- Only One by Yellowcard
- Cemetary Drive by My Chemical Romance
- To The End by My Chemical Romance
- You Could Be Mine by Guns N Roses
- Sweet Child O' Mine by Guns N Roses
- Patience my Guns N Roses
- Shake Me by Cinderella
- Love Like Winter by AFI
- Lips Like Sugar - Echo & The BunnyMen
- Somebody Told Me- The Killers
-Change Your Mind - The Killers
- When You Were Young - The Killers
- The Despair Factor - AFI
- Take On Me - Adam Ant
- She Said, Endlessly - AFI
- Dark of The Matinee - Franz Ferdinand
- Take Me Out - Franz Ferdinand
- Lips of An Angel - Hinder (I hate that song, but its okay.)
-Possum Kingdom - Toadies
- Wonderwall by Oasis (FAVORITE)
- Love My Way by The Psychedelic Furs
- I Melt With You by Modern English
- Oh Oh I Love Her So by The Ramones
- Love Song - The Damned
- Sugar, Sugar - The Germs
- Friday I'm In Love - The Cure (FAVORITE)
- End Of The World - The Cure
- Tell Me Baby - Red Hot Chili Peppers


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This guy i like, he knows i like him, we go to the same school and we speak on msn etc. The thing is on msn he kinda acts like he likes me, like i once done this favour for him and (on msn) he kept saying 'oh, your the best, your so great' for about an hour!!! But then, the next day he didn't mention it at all, he didn't even just say 'thanks'.
He won't have a proper convosation with me in public but on msn he won't stop talking to me. Like, he would talk to me in public like just messing around, but in class (he's in nearly all mine) all he would do is just give me a little smile but not say hi or anything. We sometimes hang out at lunch, but in a big group so we don't speak that much. But, when we mess around he like takes things from my pocket and that.

Is he doing this on purpose?? And what does he mean by it???

Please help xxx

He sounds like a typical teenage boy. He's probably shy. Yes! Believe it or not, boys get shy too. Sometimes they have alot to say on Instant Messenger, but then when you try to talk to them in real life, they freeze up and don't know the right words to say. I have a guy friend like this. We could talk for hours and hours on the computer, but then in real life, all he ever says is "Hey" or "What's Up?" around me.

I think he DEFINTELY is interested in you. Maybe he just isn't sure how to handle his feelings right now. Have you tried talking to him in person? Maybe that is what he wants you to do. Don't wait for him to make the first move- make it yourself. Definitely try to talk to him more at school. Maybe the next time you're on MSN, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. (outside of school.) Ask him to go someplace casual like, a pizza place, a deli, or a grocery store. Nothing fancy, just say, "Want to grab a bite at ____ sometime?"

Sometimes boys just act differently when they're at school or around their friends. So maybe if you can hang out with him OUTSIDE of school, he'll act a little less weird around you. Keep the conversation light, just talk about normal things, even gossip if you want to. Try to hang out with him a few times and definitely say Hi to him more often at school. If you guys hang out sometime, maybe the next day at school, you could say to him, "Hey remember yesterday when ___________?" That will start a good conversation.

Get to know him in person a little better before you ask him any serious questions. DON'T ask him if he likes you the first time you guys hang out. If he ask him too many "Do you like me?" questions, you might scare him away. So after a few times hanging out, or just TALKING in person, say to him, "We talk alot on MSN. Would you ever consider us as more than friends?" or something like that. Good Luck & remember, boys can be big babies, even when they're like, 16. Haha.

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ok so me and this guy have been dating for almost three months. ever since we have dated i have had random blocked phone numbers call me saying i am a dick and not to hurt him... and how much they hate me... so i told my boy and he took care of that.. and latly the people have been spreading rumors that i am cheating on him and saying shit behind his back... and he is starting to double think our relationship... and he says he loves me to much to let me go but i am really scared that he is and i want to keep him cause this is the first boy i have really like this much... so what should i do to have them stop saying stuff to me and make my boy not believe it?? please help thanks

You gotta stand up for yourself! Don't let these people control your life. it's none of their business. If they keep bothering you, stand up to them and say, "Look, just shut up because it's getting old. Its none of your business anyways, but since you're making such a huge deal out of it, I think maybe YOU like my boyfriend. Back off." Be assertive and stick up for yourself. Your boyfriend should understand. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will understand that you need to stand up for yourself, and that ignoring these girls is NOT an option. If it was me, I'd tell those girls to Back off before I punched them in the face, but that's just me.

Also try talking to your boyfriend. Sit him down and tell him IN PERSON, "Look, these girls are really bothering me. They're spreading rumors that I'm cheating on you. Right now, I need you to trust me. If you really like me, you will believe me and not these other girls. I want us to be totally honest with each other. Those girl's opinions don't matter anyways, and we shouldn't let them be affecting our relationship."

So tell him that, and he should understand. If he still isn't sure about you after that, then you might have to break up with him. Not permanently, but maybe until he realizes that he was wrong about you. And anyways, you desserve a guy who trusts you.

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I'm really active, but I weigh 113[5''2]. How can i weight this much when I'm so active?


And, I want to tone my stomach & I do a lot of crunches, but they dont seem to work best for me..any ideas?

Sounds to me like you have a healthy weight. But the first thing every active person should know, is that you CAN'T rely on your weight to determine if you're healthy or not. Instead of weighing yourself all the time, step off the scale and take a look in the mirror! How do you think you look overall? Try not to look at just certain "bad" parts of your body, look at your body as a WHOLE. Then let yourself decide if you're happy with how you look, DON'T let the scale decide. Also your weight has a lot to do with your height and body frame. Some people are just born with larger body frames, (often called big boned) But it's most definitely NOT a bad thing. Your internal bone structure is not something you can control no matter how much you work out. Your body structure also has a lot to do with how your parents look too, so it can't really be controlled. As for your height, you're not very tall, so you will generally weigh LESS than someone taller than you. 113 is GREAT for your height.

Ab exercises are hard- but try this one: lay on your back and stick your legs straight up in the air. Extend your arms, then sit halfway up, trying to touch your toes. You can also lean your legs against something, like a chair or a couch, and then do this exercise. Also, get some ideas from Seventeen Magazine on ab exercises. Watch this video to learn some: http://www.seventeen.com/health/train/spc/0,,625882_678516,00.html

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so i might be starting a job in a few months and its my first job ever haha but im scared i might fall asleep on the job. see i have this thing and everytime i get home from school i feel like just passing out which is weird because i get plenty of sleep during the night. is there anything i can do besides drink energy drinks,sodas,or coffee to keep me up throughout the day and not make me sleepy? thanks in advance

Coffee, soda, candy, and energy drinks are bad! They make you feel energized and good for a while, but later, they make you feel sluggish and tired again. They kind of work like a cocaine crash.

Instead, just try getting a good amount of sleep (7-8 hours.) and eating a snack when you feel hungry. Try a granola bar, or something with fiber & protein. Like, nuts, granola bars, bread, peanut butter, bagels, stuff like that. Also hold off on sugary snacks.

Also, you should try getting a bit of exercise. You may feel tired, but sometimes all you need is a little exercise to wake you up! Try jogging in place for 5 minutes, or running up some stairs. It should make you feel alert and energized.

Of course, the best thing you can do is learn to manage your time in a way that is best for YOU. Don't take on too many assignments or responsibilities. Only accept the ones that you think you can handle. Try to take out at least 10 minutes of your day for some "Me Time." Relax & Breathe. Breathing techniques also can help when you feel tired and overwhelmed. Close your eyes and take deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth, imagine yourself standing in the sun and "awakening" to life. Sounds corny, but it helps.

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Last year i liked this boy. Let's say his name is..Francis. Francis liked me for the first part of the year and then he stopped a while after i told one of his friends i didn't like him more than a friend. So after a while I started to like him. It was just a little thing at first but then it started to become a big deal. Then i started liking him on and off. But then my other friend started to like him. And so a bit before she started liking him, i kinda got a SUPER big crush on him that lasted until the end of the year. ALL of my friends found out and so did he. It kinda got a bit weird but i got used to it. Well, i would talk about him a lot and he would tease me and so i would like flirt with him and he told me he liked me but i knew that he told me that just so i could be like," OH YAY! he likes me too." Well, now it's the next year and he still goes to the same school but he "transferred" one grade higher than me because of his age. Now when i see him i still get this sudden urge to crush on him again. And so we would occasionally see each other in the halls and i would kinda flirt in the i don't care for you but im gonna flirt with you anyway kinda thing. But i think i'm starting to like him again but i don't want to because when i did like him it was horrible and i don't know what to do.

This question is kinda pointless for some of you but it would help if you answered. Thanks in advance.

I've been in a similar situation. Alot of times we like boys when they don't like us back. That's just the way it is. Once, a guy liked me but I didn't like him, so then when he got a girlfriend, I automatically got jealous and started to like him. He ended up breaking up with his girlfriend to go out with me, only to realize that once we were going out, I didn't actually like him like that.

Sorry if I just wasted your time, but the lesson of the story is that, girls in general, like challenges, and if a guy doesn't like you back, it just makes you like him even more.

It's usually hard to tell if you really like a guy or not. You don't want to play with his heart, because that's just plain mean. When this guy first started liking you, you may have just been flattered, but didn't like him back like that. So my advice to you, is just get to know him better. When you see him again, strike up a casual conversation and say, "Hey, it's been a while. Do you want to hang out sometime to catch up?" If he says yes or sure, then chances are, he's still interested in you. If he says no or makes a lame excuse, maybe he has gotten over you or he's just afraid to get hurt again. So try to hang out with him someday, and just talk. Try not to flirt with him too much, because it might send him the wrong message. Afterall, you're still not positive if you like him or not. So no flirting. Act normal, be yourself, and treat him just as a friend. The important thing here is to try to be friends with him first, and then maybe if you decide you DO like him, your friendship can escalate into something more.

Here's some questions to ask yourself to help you decide:

- Would you want to be his girlfriend?:
- Can you see yourself having a long and meaningful relationship with him?
- Do you like him for his personality, not just his looks?
- If he suddenly became unpopular, would you still date him?
- Do you want to have a serious relationship with him, not just flirting?
- If your friends hated him, would you still go out with him?

If you answered Yes to most of the questions, you might really like him. If you answered No to most of the questions, you may think you like him, but you probably don't. Whatever happens, try being friends with him first and see what happens from there.

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someone posted "you fail at life" as a youtube comment to a video of my funny math teacher dancing. its really dumb of them because it really was funny and hes a cool teacher.. most people dont think negatively of him, really.. well kids for that matter, lol. how can i respond to this? should i say "no you fail" or "you know what? your mom" or anything else that will tell this kid off? lol thanks

Hmm, how about, "Cool. Well at least he's a teacher and doing something with his life, unlike you who in 10 years, will probably be working at McDonald's. How tough do you think you are now, McTuff Tuff?"

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I've had a question like this before but I have more questions though. I am a christian so is my mom but my dad dosn't believe in God. I want to go to a christian college when I get older and he dosn't want me to because he thinks I'm gonna be a pastors wife and my husband would hate him because he drinks and all thats stuff because its a sin. I can't believe he would think that they would hate him because of that.

#2 I have been trying real hard to do my work and stuff like that but my dad just keeps putting me and down and not supporting me on what my choices are for my life. He is focusing on what I'm doing wrong and not what I'm actually trying to do.
He is putting me down on my work and my religion. And it feels as though my mom is the only one there who understands my life. I've tried talking to him it dosn't help at all he is very strict. I remember when he was so fun and there were no problems at all between us. Please help!

Your dad may be going through some hard times. (Possibly a mid life crisis, if he's around the 40's.) Maybe you should pay attention to him for a while, and see if you can figure out what's bothering him so much. Chances are, that it has NOTHING to do with you. Alot of men, especially dads, are like that. They get angry at something, or someone, and then they take their anger out on other people, even their own child. My dad is like that too. Perhaps he's scared of losing you- maybe he'll feel like he's going to be all alone once you go to college. (especially if your parents are divorced, and he's not married.)

I know what you mean when you say that talking to him may not work. It doesn't really work with my dad either. Talking works pretty well with moms, but dads are so much different. My best advice for your situation is just to stay calm, and let your dad be angry for a while. When my dad gets mad, I usually ignore him for a while until he cools down. Once he cools down, I try to act nice to him.

You talked about remembering having fun with your dad, I remember having fun with my dad too. It's very sad when relationships drift apart like that, but here's why: Dads want their daughters to be their little girls forever. So it may be hard for your dad to accept all of this change that's going on in your life right now. Instead of talking to him about it, try planning a fun activity for you and your dad. Think back to when you were younger. What did you and your dad like to do? What brings back good memories? Sugguest that you two do something that you used to love to do- like going to the movies or going out for ice cream. When you're there, you can talk about all the good times. (Example: "Dad, remember when we used to go to the movies when I was little and I always got sick from eating so much candy?") Try to remind him of the good times. This might help strengthen your relationship with your father, so that later in life, it may be easier to talk to him, and he may be a little less harsh on you.

Remember, that your life is YOUR life. You should make the choices about college, not your dad. If he brings up the subject of college again, just say, "It's my choice dad, and it's not up for negotiation."

If all else fails, breaking out into a tantrum and screaming "Why don't you love me dad?! You're a bad father!" might bring him to the realization of how mean he is being. But remember, this is the last thing you do, if nothing else is working. Hope I helped!

P.S. - Do not try talking to your dad when he's drinking or drunk. Try to avoid him when he is. If he hurts you in any physical way, tell your Mom, because that's abuse and he may need serious help immediately.

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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
please help me!

I was in a smiliar situation. I actually threatened the guy who was bugging me so much, that he eventually gave up. But in your situation, this guy sounds dangerous.

First step is to ignore it. Anything you say, can and will be used against you. It's as simple as that. This guy is trying to get a rise out of you and whatever you say, he will overanalyze it and think up new ways to bug you.

Ignore it for a while, but if it has already been a long time that he has been bothering you, threaten him. Say, "Listen, you need to leave me alone. If you don't stop I will call the police." That way, he has a fair warning. Don't argue with him about it, simply tell him that and end the conversation.

And if it continues, first tell a parent or an adult you trust. Maybe a counselor at school can help you, or you can talk to any adult that you trust. If you feel it is neccessary, call the police and report harassment. This guy sounds dangerous and psychopathic so it's best to let adults or the police handle the situation.

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Im planning to get a great beach body before well.. summer. also for school, so i can wear skirts around spring/summertime. How can i get more in shape? i've gained like 10-20 pounds in 1 year i think, which sucks. Im not that fat, and i do basketball (the season is almost over) and i'm about to do soccer, but it may not be enough. (Im also on the dance troupe for my school play, and may join a rock climbling club). anyways how can i lose weight without all those things you gotta buy? i want to lose those 10-20 pounds and possibly a little more, but I dont want it to be dramatic. I usually eat healthy things (with some junk food from time to time), but sometimes i overeat the healthy.. making me gain more weight. Ugh I dont wanna be obese, or overweight.. and I'm 5'4 and 155. I have muscle too, which is I guess why it doesnt appear that I weigh that much, because its not "in fat". and my friends can lift me. but i just wanna get more toned and lose some of the butt fat! lol i have a big butt which i got from being african, but i dont want it too big, or thighs too big either! and my stomach comes out a little.. I NEED A WORKOUT ROUTINE!! and how can i stop overeating? THANKS!

Hey! I'm trying to work out and eat right too! it's very important to eat healthy AND work out. If you don't eat, it is hard for your body to work out. So make sure you're eating well!

Working out in moderation is good. If you want to lose weight AND keep the weight OFF, then you have to basically work out for the rest of your life. So it's important that you start slow for right now. Try to work out the same amount of time each day, and work out every day. Start out by fast-walking, riding a bike, running on a slow treadmill, or dancing for 30 minutes every day. This is the most effective way to lose weight.

Remember to try to work out every day, whether you have school or not that day. You can probably find at least 30 minutes in your schedule at night or in the late afternoon that you can work out. Work out 30 minutes a day for about a month, or longer if you need it. Then, once you build up some strength, try to work your way up to 45 - 60 minutes exercise a day. Try to find a phsyical activity that you like to do. Like to dance? Crank up the music and just dance! It burns calories, and when you're having fun working out, you'll want to work out more. Also, you can try weight training too. Basically stretching, side bends, leg lifts, and situps are all good exercises to use weights with. Start out with 2 to 3 pound weights.

Of course eating right plays a huge part in losing weight. Starving yourself is bad, because it actually makes you gain MORE weight eventually and by starving yourself, you won't be able to work out. (By the way, working out is the most effective way to lose weight. Exercise is even better than dieting. You lose more weight from exercise than from cutting calories.)

So basically just try to eat healthy. Here's the best way to eat healthy: Don't eat a lot of cookies, chips, candy, etc. But don't cut junk food out of your diet completely! Allow yourself to have maybe 2 cookies a day and 2 pieces of candy. You need to eat SOME junk food each day, because if you don't, you will eventually give in and eat alot of it. So its better just to eat a smaller amount of junk food. The next thing you should do is, instead of just 3 basic meals, try having small snacks between meals. Eating snacks between meals can help boost your metabolism, and prevent you from overeating later. Also, you NEED to eat food to be able to work out. When I am hungry, and I'm working out, its impossible for me to work out. Thats why you should eat a meal or a snack, then wait 30 minutes, then work out. Some great snacks to try are: Apples, Bananas, Pretzels, Animal Crackers, Yogurt, or Quakers Rice Snacks.

As for the overeating part, I kind of explained it above. Instead of just eating 3 meals a day, eat snacks in between meals. It actually boosts your metabolism and helps you burn more calories. Eating snacks between meals should tide you over until the next meal. If you feel completely hungry and NEED to eat, but you've already had a snack, try drinking a glass of milk or juice. These will help to fill you up. Also, get busy! Watch a movie, take a walk, exercise, do homework, read, draw, or basically anything that will take your mind off eating.

Here is an AMAZING tip I reccently found out. Eat a snack, but when you finished your snack or a meal, and you feel like you're going to overeat- rinse your mouth with a minty mouth wash. It will make you less hungry! Try it, it actually works and makes you forget about food for a while.

Keep up the good work & remember: You're beautiful!

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