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This boy.
Last year i liked this boy. Let's say his name is..Francis. Francis liked me for the first part of the year and then he stopped a while after i told one of his friends i didn't like him more than a friend. So after a while I started to like him. It was just a little thing at first but then it started to become a big deal. Then i started liking him on and off. But then my other friend started to like him. And so a bit before she started liking him, i kinda got a SUPER big crush on him that lasted until the end of the year. ALL of my friends found out and so did he. It kinda got a bit weird but i got used to it. Well, i would talk about him a lot and he would tease me and so i would like flirt with him and he told me he liked me but i knew that he told me that just so i could be like," OH YAY! he likes me too." Well, now it's the next year and he still goes to the same school but he "transferred" one grade higher than me because of his age. Now when i see him i still get this sudden urge to crush on him again. And so we would occasionally see each other in the halls and i would kinda flirt in the i don't care for you but im gonna flirt with you anyway kinda thing. But i think i'm starting to like him again but i don't want to because when i did like him it was horrible and i don't know what to do.
This question is kinda pointless for some of you but it would help if you answered. Thanks in advance.
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I've been in a similar situation. Alot of times we like boys when they don't like us back. That's just the way it is. Once, a guy liked me but I didn't like him, so then when he got a girlfriend, I automatically got jealous and started to like him. He ended up breaking up with his girlfriend to go out with me, only to realize that once we were going out, I didn't actually like him like that.
Sorry if I just wasted your time, but the lesson of the story is that, girls in general, like challenges, and if a guy doesn't like you back, it just makes you like him even more.
It's usually hard to tell if you really like a guy or not. You don't want to play with his heart, because that's just plain mean. When this guy first started liking you, you may have just been flattered, but didn't like him back like that. So my advice to you, is just get to know him better. When you see him again, strike up a casual conversation and say, "Hey, it's been a while. Do you want to hang out sometime to catch up?" If he says yes or sure, then chances are, he's still interested in you. If he says no or makes a lame excuse, maybe he has gotten over you or he's just afraid to get hurt again. So try to hang out with him someday, and just talk. Try not to flirt with him too much, because it might send him the wrong message. Afterall, you're still not positive if you like him or not. So no flirting. Act normal, be yourself, and treat him just as a friend. The important thing here is to try to be friends with him first, and then maybe if you decide you DO like him, your friendship can escalate into something more.
Here's some questions to ask yourself to help you decide:
- Would you want to be his girlfriend?:
- Can you see yourself having a long and meaningful relationship with him?
- Do you like him for his personality, not just his looks?
- If he suddenly became unpopular, would you still date him?
- Do you want to have a serious relationship with him, not just flirting?
- If your friends hated him, would you still go out with him?
If you answered Yes to most of the questions, you might really like him. If you answered No to most of the questions, you may think you like him, but you probably don't. Whatever happens, try being friends with him first and see what happens from there.
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Well he is a grade higher than you now and you hardly see him right? Maybe he does like you. If you want him then find out how he feels. You have 2 choices, 1: to find out how he feels and if he does you might have a chance. 2: just try to forget about him and talk to other guys and get to know them and you might fall for one of them because of course there are more guys in the world right? I would just say leave it if you don't wanna like him. There are plenty more guys out there and maybe even one is crushing on you right now! But I hope everything goes well for you!
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