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Ok long story semi-short. Im 18, shes 17. Dating this girl for 8 months. Around new years she started talking to her X of 3 months (her first "love") and i found out a few days after that she still loved him and she admited it to me. a few days after that she realized she made a mistake and told me she was crazy, that people were just getting in her head. i told her ok, i just need some time to think. that we needed a break so i could forget about it. i told her i would probably go out on a few dates with some1 just to vent out and get it outa my system. and she was fine with that, i mean she told me she loved some1 else... and also durin the break was her time to PROVE to me that there is NOONE else out there for her. no1 she wants. We talked every day on the break and i told her every day that i loved her, that this wouldnt take long, and it would be me and her again soon. So we get back together. get on her myspace 2 nights ago and find out she was fucking a 20 year old "friend" while we were on our break. i confronted her. she said shes been suicial about it, shes regreated it, shes disgusted with herself... non stop crying.
k the problem is
im in love with this girl
if i wasnt i wouldnt of lasted past the first thing. and now i still cant walk away from her. but i cant even look at her. and all i think about is him and her in the bed that me and her sleep in. help what do i do
top score for any advice
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All you can do is be there for her as a friend first. When someone is feeling suicidal and regretful, you have to put their feelings first. Talk to her about it, and tell her that you're in a neutral position so that she has no pressure on her. Once things can work out, you can decide if it's going to stay romantic or not.
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First off, rate advice what it deserves. Don't rate high just because some one answered your question. I'm not here for a rating, and neither should anyone else. Don't like what I have to say? Good. Say so. You won't hurt my feelings because I know my answer is honest and I'm trying to help.
In reality, if you expected her to not see other people on this break, you should have given her the same respect. It's not fair to ask her to prove devotion to you when you aren't doing the same.
You are going to have to either get over it and stay with her, or not get over it and move on. There is no way to have a healthy relationship with her if you are not going to be able to drop it. It isn't fair to either one of you.
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you have to get that she probably isn't emotionally ready for the relationship you want. the fact that she does other guys and tells you that she loves other guys shoud tell you this. but if you still don't get it then maybe you should ask her about it. or just keep on dating other girls, eventually you'll get over her, or she'll see what she's missing out on now... just give it time and it'll work itself out
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